My parents divorced in junior high school, and my mother didn t contact me for ten years, and sudden

If you really want your mother to talk together, talk about your heart, mother-son love is a family relationship that can never be parted, I have a friend, when his eldest daughter was 8 years old and his youngest daughter was 7 years old, he eloped with the man in the village, and there has been no news, and on the sixth day of the first month of this year, he suddenly called ** to her eldest daughter, saying that she wanted to meet and take her younger daughter, so she went to the zoo to play for a day, and the two daughters did not say a word to their parents, and in the end the stepmother also knew about it and was very angry.

Then again, since the mother left, the father got married again, after the marriage the stepmother is very good to the two children, the eldest daughter is married, often come to see the stepmother and father, the younger daughter also followed the stepmother for her to go to college, the children are also older, there is no contradiction, since the two daughters have seen their mother after breaking the family's peaceful life, after the mother and the mother have met a few times, at this time the stepmother spoke, since you also recognize each other, there are many years of not fulfilling the obligations of the mother, today let's talk about it, You pay your daughter's tuition for a year, my mother has not paid tuition for a year, and my mother will pay it as soon as she hears it, but when it comes to paying the tuition, the mother is gone, this is what a mother does, do you listen to this mother's competence?

Why do people say that mother's love is great, no matter why you can put down the meat that falls off your body and leave, no matter how difficult it is, the child is not lonely, you come to find a child when the child is older, and even some women are married, and they have no ability to work to find children to care for the elderly, and men die, or men are sick and lose their ability to work, women will also leave quietly, these women are too ruthless, do you want to be disabled fathers and children? This is also a good mother, and there are fathers too.

I feel as if these parents have no humanity, but even if they are a little bit of a mother, a father will not let their lovers and children suffer.

There may be many people who don't like to hear what I say, as soon as I hear such a thing, my heart will be angry, I wish the abandoned mother and daughter, or father and son, a good life, and live a life for these people to see! Come on.

It is estimated that there are two reasons, one is that I can't live anymore and wants to ask you for help, and the other is that I am sick and want to have a child to take care of by my side.

It may be that my mother is old and longs for family affection, so I think I think of you again, but I think this is also an incompetent mother, even if she is divorced, she can't ignore her children for 10 years.

It means that the parents have changed their minds, and they have found out in their conscience that they want to be able to care more about their children, so they will suddenly contact you.

This is because your mother owes you a lot of money, and she wants to contact you in this way, and she also wants to make amends to you.

I think it may be that your mother has recently discovered her conscience, so let's take a look at your child, whom I haven't seen in years.

Because I'm grown up, he doesn't need to do anything to me if he contacts me, and now that he's old, I hope he can get good help from me.

Like you, my parents divorced in the first year of junior high school and haven't contacted me for ten years.

Dear child, through the words, I feel your worries about the current family and the concern of your parents. I don't know how old you are now, first praise your sensibility. Let's analyze these problems together:

1.I see all your emotions.

1) Recognition of stepfathers.

I can feel that you and your dad must get along very well, otherwise you would not be willing to call "dad", and at the same time you also talked very well, saw your intimacy, and from dad you got the emotional needs of the "parent-child relationship" to be satisfied.

2) Distress for my mother.

I learned from my mother, combined with some of the "clues" you saw, that you judged that your parents might break up, which made you full of worries, because you felt sorry for your mother, especially thinking that you were a "drag oil bottle Changzhou", and even felt guilty about your mother.

3) The desire for a complete family.

Whether it is the recognition of your father or the distress of your mother, it actually expresses your desire to have a "complete" home. At home, there is a father who can protect you, and a mother who loves you, and you are a happy family of three.

2.Distinguish between three things and be yourself.

Dear children, many times parents will say, "You are still a child, you will understand when you grow up", in fact, you feel that you know everything, and you also want to be able to do something for this family and for them. Because you want this family to be happier and happier so much.

Don't count whether her mother is divorced, or she is starting a family again, or the development of her relationship with her stepfather in the future, these are all their things - "other people's business", these are not under your control.

However, "your own business" can be controlled, such as studying hard, taking care of yourself, and maintaining your independence, such as being a caring little padded jacket (leather jacket) for your parents, being a messenger for your parents, and expressing love and filial piety to them.

Another thing is "God's business", which means that not all of us are in control, such as this epidemic. In your family, everyone does what they have to do, and everything will work out for the better.

Dear child, let go of your worries, many people will experience worry and anxiety when they encounter things that they cannot solve and control. It's normal, no matter what the relationship between mom and dad is, they are **, you deserve to be loved, and you deserve better. A potato will be fine if you punch and cut it.

Hope the above helps you, the world and I love you. ❤️

Time is a good painkiller, 1. You have to tell your father clearly that you are divorced and it is impossible to remarry, don't think about looking back, and accept the reality.

2. Under this premise, everyone can care more, you can ask your mother to come back and go to the house more, 3. You will take care of him no matter what, no matter what, you are his daughter.

4. You must insist on reading, come back, without your development, you will want to be filial piety in the future, and you will not have this ability.

Anyway, it's already gone, you often call your dad**, care about him, comfort and comfort him, let him feel that you haven't left him, and over time, it will slowly get better, as the saying goes, time is the best medicine.

Find a time to go home with your mother and talk to your father, find a place with a lot of people, so that there will be no accidents, I think my father is also because of the loss of your mother, he is afraid of losing you again, don't be too afraid, I believe that parents all over the world love their children.

There is a divorce certificate or a court ruling and a rough judgment document is the law of Heshan Town.

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