Why do you feel that you didn t play well in the quarrel just now?

I often feel like this, after the quarrel calms down, I will think back to the process of the quarrel, what the two people said and the expressions at the time will be carefully thought about, after thinking about it, I feel that my performance is too inferior, and then I regret it very much: If I just said something, I will definitely abuse him into scum! Hahaha, almost every time.

I think this happens because our brains don't react fast enough when we fight. When you quarrel with others, you are in a hurry, you and I are in a hurry, and it is better to think carefully about what you say, basically just remember what to say, because you are so excited, sometimes you don't know what you are talking about. In retrospect, we have calmed down and thought more clearly, and of course we can come up with better conversations to win.

There is also a quarrel that I hope to absolutely overwhelm the other party, even if we win the quarrel, then think about it will feel that I can speak more imposingly and powerful, people are greedy, no matter what they do, they hope to do their best, and they naturally hope that the other party who quarrels can't answer. I rarely quarrel with others, because I feel that quarrels can't solve things, but it's really easy to quarrel when it comes to falling in love, and I want to quarrel and get angry when I don't agree at all, and I win every time, but after the quarrel, I still feel that it's not enjoyable enough to think about it, although I know in my heart that the other party is letting me, but I still think it's better to be more domineering.

In addition, the reason why I didn't feel good afterwards is because I don't think too much when I quarrel, and when I quarrel, I want to make a loud noise and get angry, and my heart is full of anger, and I can't realize it when I talk nonsense, and I am more emotional, and I will naturally feel like that when I think too much after a quarrel.

But after all, quarrels hurt feelings, and when you quarrel, you can say whatever you say when you are very angry, so try to avoid quarrels, and use more appropriate methods and gentler language to solve the problem, and there will be no such thing as not playing well afterwards.

Quarrels are common, there is always friction in life, there will always be disagreements between people, and then they quarrel without saying a word, anyway, there is no fight, it will not be too intense, if it is too intense, it will be the same anyway, I will feel that there is no quarrel after the fact, I always like to think after the fact, many things are not prepared in advance, especially the quarrel, sometimes the words are really sad, and sometimes I don't say anything, let others scold myself, and I don't know what to say, It's possible that your own eloquence is not good enough.

People always like to think about problems afterwards, when the brain may be hot, want to vent the anger in the heart, so they quarrel without saying a word, no matter what the quarrel is, but after the fact, they will continue to reflect and see if they are not doing it right, not doing well enough, and what to do next time. The most important thing is what to do next time, people always have to defend, when they encounter this situation, especially next time, they must be well prepared, otherwise they will let others bully themselves, which will not be good. <>

I remember last year, I often quarreled with a junior, although I didn't fight, but I quickly reconciled, but every time I quarreled, I always think positively, see if I don't do well, next time I must win, I want to overwhelm him in momentum, and highlight myself is right, this is to show off that I am very powerful, and I want to be more powerful than others, so I must keep thinking about it, and I can do better, so that I can conquer others, which is the most desired.

It's better for me to quarrel less, and only quarrel with others when I have to, so that others know that they are not easy to provoke, otherwise, I should let others try their anger, let him bear the consequences, and look at his own ** side, he will not dare to do it next time.

It is better to get along with people in harmony, you can have one less enemy, one more friend, this is the most important thing, one more enemy is too bad, if sometimes something falls into his hands, then he will be miserable. If you have friends, you can help yourself in life, and there is no benefit in quarreling, it is better to reconcile, think about how well you get along with other people, this is my own principle of life, I have been trying to do it.

In this world, there are no two people who have thoughts, appearances, and are exactly the same. Therefore, there will inevitably be many contradictions in getting along with each other, but some people can control their emotions well, while some people are the kind of people who are unwilling to let themselves suffer any grievances, or they are angry to a certain extent and can only be solved through quarrels.

However, although we quarreled very badly, we brought out everything we should say and wanted to say in our hearts to scold each other. However, after we have a fight, we usually think about our previous behavior, think about everything we have said, and then we will feel that we did not play well in the quarrel at that time, and some things were not clearly explained at all, and if we put it another way, the effect would be better.

I'm sure many people feel this way, because I've been in this situation many times. Every time I am particularly excited, I will shout, reason, and quarrel with my boyfriend or roommate. But later, I will feel that what I said at that time was not perfect enough, I didn't play well, and I even had the urge to find someone else's theory again.

Through this phenomenon, as well as my own experience, I have pondered the reasons for this. The main reason why people quarrel is because their emotions have reached a point where they can't bear it, and they want to explode every minute. At the same time, our brains are affected to think everything to the extreme, and then say extreme things in the middle of an argument.

Usually these extreme words often have a lot of incompleteness and flaws.

Then, when we calm down and think about the problem later, we will be much more rational than we were when we were arguing, and we will be more complete in trying to refute what others have said. Therefore, there are still obvious differences between the calm self now and the impulsive self before. So afterwards we will have this feeling, before the quarrel did not play well.

Because there is more time, when I think of what I didn't refute just now, I feel that I can win the other party by analyzing the problem from another angle.

After realizing it, he was angry, and his thinking was slow.

Because my mind was blank at the moment of anger, I didn't think of some words, so I felt that some words were not said after I calmed down later, and I felt sorry for it.

Husband and wife are too jealous and too serious, which is not conducive to the longevity of the marriage. Every time you have a fight, the next day your partner is like no one else, and you are reconciled as before, which shows that your partner is smart, wise, cheerful, not serious, and cares about the relationship between you. The author has never seen a husband and wife who do not quarrel, if the quarrel is over, if the two people hold grudges, how many days do not speak, engage in a cold war, it is not conducive to the maintenance of the relationship between the two, it can only be that the colder the rock war, the thinner the feelings.

Since your partner has ignored the previous suspicion of the quarrel and took the initiative to show you goodwill, you will no longer be in the arms for the hurtful words that you said in the quarrel the day before, and each other's words will hurt each other when they quarrel, so since he wants to reconcile with you as before, you don't have to be angry, after all, there is no major problem of principle, so you should be like no one, the past is over, you meet a boyfriend with such a character, you can steal the fun!