Why do the elderly in rural areas reject their children from taking turns to serve?Is it fair for ch

Updated on Three rural 2024-06-24
39 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Existence is justified. In fact, this is also a helpless move by children in the economy and society.

    Supporting the elderly is the responsibility and obligation of every child, and it is also a traditional virtue. However, with the development of the economy and society, the various burdens and pressures of children have also increased dramatically, so there is a phenomenon of taking turns to serve the elderly, which seems fair and reasonable for children. Actually, there is no way.

    The old man worked hard all his life and dedicated his life to his children. It is every child's duty to serve their loved ones. From the point of view of human nature, it seems reasonable to take turns to serve, but from a rational point of view, it also has its flaws, which are reflected in the fact that there is a balance in turns, but it does not achieve that kind of dedication.

    The old man used to raise his children. In all dynasties, the ancestral lineage of our surname has been like this. Giving birth to children to prevent old age means that when you are old, let your children serve you.

    Children take turns to serve, which can effectively reduce the burden of serving. If you are an only child, the burden of serving the elderly is heavier than that of two children. Therefore, it is more reasonable for children to take turns serving the elderly.

    Behind this phenomenon of taking turns to serve the elderly, who has considered the psychological feelings of the elderly?The old man worked hard all his life to raise his children, but when he was old, he fell behind and lived in this home. Although it was his own child, the old man always felt uncomfortable.

    It is certainly reasonable for children to take turns to care for the elderly, but it definitely has an impact on the physical and mental health of the elderly. It gives the elderly a feeling that they have become extra balls. When the elderly reach a certain age, they will have problems with their bodies.

    The simplest example is insomnia when changing places. Poor rest is a big problem, and the pros and cons can be imagined. Several sons take turns, a month or a few months, half a year or a year, and the brothers consult.

    In rural areas, people cannot go to nursing homes because of economic conditions, so they can only take turns to serve the elderly. Daughters are not included because it is customary in our case that daughters do not inherit the estate. Instead, they should be involved, and daughters should also take turns serving and caring for the elderly with their older and younger brothers.

    Supporting the elderly is both a virtue and a tradition, not to mention that everyone has an old age. Therefore, every child should do their best to accompany the elderly for the rest of their lives.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Because children take turns to serve the elderly, they feel undignified and feel like they are disliked. It is not fair to the children to take turns in their old age.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Many elderly people feel that such behavior is a kind of disrespect for themselves, and it is also a kind of disrespect for themselves. I think it's fairer, and in this way, you can take better care of the elderly, and you can free up more energy to take care of the elderly.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I think it's fair for children, but it's a toss for the elderly, so it's very repulsive.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    The best way to support the elderly is to take turns with their children, which can also reduce the pressure on the children, who have to work every day.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I think it's also a good way to take turns to support the elderly and their children, so it doesn't mean that you may not be impatient to let one person take care of them. It may be relatively better to take turns, and the elderly may also find it fresh.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Of course, this is the best way, if the children can take turns, they can also be relaxed, and the elderly can also enjoy the family fun with the children.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    If the conditions for supporting the elderly allow, the children can pool money to hire a nanny to serve, and the children will accompany the elderly when they are free, so that there will be no conflicts between the children and children, and they will have time to do their own things.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    For the children of shabu lamb legs, take turns to serve, I don't think it's necessarily the best way, because well, in this case, the old people will continue to be in the children's home, so the old people are not very happy, the old people should be allowed to settle down, for example, live in a certain child's house, and then other children may regularly give the old man some alimony, so that those who have no job can take care of the old man seriously, and other brothers will make up for it.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    You can also take care of the housekeeping to help serve the elderly, and now you have to go to work every day, and the children take turns to serve, and you can take care of others if you are too busy.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Is it the best way to take turns in supporting the elderly? This netizen. It's okay too. See who the old man is willing to live with. Other alimony payments are also acceptable.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    There is no legal basis for supporting the elderly, that is, it is enough to let the elderly enjoy their old age in peace, and your brothers and sisters can discuss maintenance matters on their own, whether to live with a child for a long time, or take turns to serve.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    The best way is to divide labor, that is, the family that is most qualified to take care of the elderly will contribute more, and others will contribute more, and on this basis, a fair and acceptable plan will be discussed.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Is it the best way to take turns in supporting the elderly? I think it's okay for children to take turns to serve, and it's also good, compared to going to a nursing home.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If the elderly are easy to move and the elderly are willing, they can take turns to serve, but if the elderly are unable to move, they should not take turns to serve. Depending on the situation, this is not the best approach.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    A: At present, it is best to have siblings take turns to serve their parents.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If you support the elderly, it is not the best way for children to take turns, and it is better to have a nanny for the elderly, or send them to a nursing home, which will be more conscientious.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    You think it's good, everybody does it, you think it's good, everybody contributes a little bit.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    If you feel that it is unfair, you can go to the elderly to discuss it, and if you really feel very unfair and feel that you have been bullied, then you can sue directly.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    In fact, I think that if there is such a problem, it is completely necessary for the family to sit down and negotiate to solve it, if you blindly refuse to pass the buck, then as a daughter, it is obvious that you will be infamous for unfilial piety, and there is no benefit to your reputation.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    We can discuss with our parents, or we can take turns to raise them, and their parents have taken special care of us and have taken appropriate responsibilities for our children.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    I think it's fair for my children that there is a phenomenon of rotational service in the elderly。But I think that the rotation of pension is a kind of irony for children, and the rotation of pension can not show the true filial piety of children, and it is not so sincere. I don't think it should be a rotational pension, it should be who is free and who goes, and they should all have free time to accompany and take care of their parents.

    If a parent is sick, be more concerned.

    Now there will be a situation in rural or urban areas where they don't want to provide for the elderly, they all think that their parents are old, they can't earn money, and they are sick, which adds to the financial burden on the family. But let's think about it carefully, when we were young, we were often sick and crying, and our parents were able to take good care of us, never dislike us for being redundant, and left us with all the delicious food. So when our parents are old, why can't we be the same as our parents?

    There are always children who dislike their parents for being useless, disgusted with them for causing trouble, getting sick, and adding financial pressure to the family.

    I think we should all do our best to honor our parents and make them feel warm, not our alienation and sarcasm. We not only show our filial piety to our parents in terms of material wealth, but also need to care more about the health of our parents in life, understand more, pay more attention to them, understand their feelings more, communicate with them more, let them feel our love for them as children, and let them spend their old age comfortably. Instead of us giving them more disgust and making them feel uncomfortable inside.

    Therefore, as children, we should be filial to our parents, instead of taking turns to serve them, so that our parents feel pressure in our hearts, and we should care more about them and make them feel happy and happy.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Is it fair for children to take turns to serve in rural areas?

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    What fair, what sarcasm! If the children have filial piety, they will scramble to wait, and some of the children are not filial, so don't they take turns? It's okay to be like my mother-in-law, who lives in her daughter's house for a long time, sons, hehehe!

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    After all, the elderly are not in good health, when they are seventy or eighty, their children are also old, and they are fifty or sixty years old, so they can only be taken care of by a family, which is really physically unbearable, even if the two families rotate can rest and rest, so that the body and mind can relax and relieve it.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    It's not fair in theory, but it's actually the most reasonable approach.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    It's not fair, because the traditional marriage model of marrying in and marrying out is prevalent in the countryside, and there is a face to find a daughter in this model.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Then when the family property is divided, the son has something to say, and the daughter's are all married out, and they cannot be divided.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Everybody has to live, don't take turns you try alone. Do you think that rural people also have pensions?

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    This in itself is fair, in fact, on our side too.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    As far as I know, it's not new, it's the same with the older generation. When the elderly were still in good health, everyone gave food and money, and when they were not in good health and could not take care of themselves, they took turns to take care of them. Now that I take it out, it doesn't make any sense.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    There is no such situation in our village, the old man and the old man live by themselves, have money and rice for them to eat, and they really can't do anything to live with their son, and the son takes care of them.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    My father has three brothers, and the three brothers always have good conditions and bad conditions! Everyone took turns to serve my grandfather for four months, and ate from the east to the west, but there was always a guy who couldn't eat well, why? The economic conditions are limited, the old man just ate good food in the west family four months ago, and suddenly went to the east family's poor economic conditions to eat poor food, and the master began to count down the east family as good as the west family, alas!

    It's hard to be human! In this society, having money is "filial piety", and no money is "falling", and it is difficult to achieve both.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    There is nothing fair or unfair, and providing for parents is something that everyone should do.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    Does the old man have eccentricity? Don't give good things to your son, but don't give things to your daughter. I am here, my father-in-law is a retired teacher, my son's family has something to do, I give it to 10,000 yuan, my daughter's family has something to do, I give it symbolically, and when I am sick, my children will take more money out and take care of them more. Why is that.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    It can be regarded as nominal fairness, our hometown has it, and even in the cold winter, we carry the old people into the door alternately to care for the elderly, pure tossing.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    I really don't understand why you want to raise children, you work hard to give them the best, and then wait to see if any of them shirk and don't want to raise you, your heart is cold.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Fairness depends on where it is, it is fair for two sons or two daughters, and it is unfair to say that there are sons and daughters in the family, because when dividing the family property, the old one will always say that the daughter who marries out will spill the water, the daughter is a person with a foreign surname, and the family property cannot be divided, and when the pension cannot be moved, it will be said that it is equal, and the sons and daughters are the same, and the inequality of the daughters will be said.

  39. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    I can't understand what kind of mentality people don't even want to raise parents, we should all do our best to make the elderly live well, when the parents are gone, you won't feel guilty when you think of your parents, you will not feel sad, you think that your parents will leave one day and feel sad, while they are alive, you should do your best to make them happy.

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