Why don t the elderly in rural areas like to live in the county with their children?

Because it is not suitable for the living environment of the county. In fact, there are still differences between rural life and county life, rural life may be calm and slow-paced, while county life may be prosperous and fast-paced.

Don't talk about other people, just say that my grandfather now lives with us in his hometown, sometimes my uncle deliberately comes home from Shenzhen and wants to take my grandfather to live outside, but my grandfather is unwilling. Grandpa said: It's noisy outside, there is no clean moment, and there is nowhere to go if you want to go out, so it's better to stay in your hometown, be free, and do whatever you want.

Obviously, there is a difference between the city and the countryside in many aspects, take interpersonal communication as an example, in the city, many neighbors do not greet each other, usually the door is closed, there is no contact, and in the countryside, most of them are still more enthusiastic, nothing to do with each other, plus generally the same village, so the relationship is still good. Although this kind of life is simple, it is also more in line with the requirements of the elderly, and it is normal for them to be reluctant to leave.

It is said that children in the countryside are free-range, and children in the city are in captivity. The same applies to the elderly in rural areas.

With the acceleration of urbanization in China, more and more young people go to the city to live and work, whether it is because the young people's children need to be taken care of by their own elderly, or because the elderly need to provide for the elderly, the elderly at home are facing a problem: leaving the yard and village where they have lived for most of their lives, going to an unfamiliar urban environment, community, and lattice house to live. But the vast majority of the elderly do not like life in the city for the following reasons:

Fear and discomfort in an unfamiliar environment:Human nature likes what we know and can control. After entering the city, the old man faces a noisy crowd and unfamiliar buildings, and the people and things here are not familiar, and the old man's natural curiosity and exploration are relatively weak, and he can't help but be afraid in this situation.

This fear can drive them to have a desire to flee.

Constraints everywhere: Living in the city, you have to follow the traffic rules when walking, pay attention to the rules of hygiene, pay attention to the rules of civilization when speaking, although you live with your own children, but you have to take care of their living rules, hygiene habits, eating preferences, etc., which are not as easy as your own life. It is talked about in the plots of many TV series:

Life in the city has caused constant conflicts between rural mothers-in-law and urban daughters-in-law.

Attachment to the place where I grew up and lived:We can often hear such a joke that an old man has to return to his hometown where he grew up when he is old. The old man grew up in the countryside, and there has long been integrated, people can change the environment, the environment also acts on people in turn, the genes of the countryside are rooted in the body of the elderly, that is a kind of love, inseparable from the continuous cutting.

I come from the countryside and want to belong to the countryside.

Lifestyles are different! The elderly like to be lively, and are used to finding some people of the same age, chatting about family life, chatting about the news, and like to go for a walk in a group of people after dinner. However, after entering the city, even if you have contact with your neighbors, you can only simply nod and smile when you go out, and you don't even know what your neighbors do or what your neighbors look like when you go door to door!

It's a bit embarrassing.

Eating tastes different! The elderly generally eat salty food, they like to drink soup, some of them will add a lot of oil when cooking, and when their children are not at home, they will eat some leftovers casually, and make do with it. Young people like to eat light and spicy food.

Eating with the elderly, I feel that the food should not be too salty, too oily, while the elderly feel that the young people eat too little, eat too spicy, and are unhealthy!

Dress differently! The elderly like to wear warm clothes, even if the style is backward, it doesn't matter, as long as the clothes are not torn, as long as they are warm, they can wear a piece of clothing for a long time. However, young people are pursuing graduation and fashion, and the elderly are afraid that their children will be cold, so they will nag their children to wear more clothes, and children think that their parents are too lenient!

Look at hygiene differently! The elderly look at hygiene, as long as the ground is not messy and the table is not messy, it is clean! In the eyes of children, the most basic thing is to change clothes and shoes, change clothes frequently, wash clothes frequently, and clean frequently, but in the eyes of parents, there is no need for this!

Sometimes children do not ask their parents to live with themselves, not because they are not filial, but because they want to give each other more space, if two generations live together, some fragments in life will accumulate more and more, so that in the end the conflict will become bigger!

This pattern of life has been followed for many years, but in recent years, due to the increase in population mobility, the number of people moving from rural areas to urban areas has increased, and it has basically become a common phenomenon and a real problem. From the perspective of "people who have come over", most of them still have to go back to the countryside to provide for the elderly, and the number of people who stay in the city for the elderly is not large. Not much reason:

First, the elderly are reluctant to live with their children, the elderly are uncomfortable, and at the same time, they are prone to conflicts with their children, and they do not return to the countryside to live comfortably. Second, some children want to let the elderly stay in the city, but the heart is more than enough but not enough, the biggest problem is the housing problem, can not afford it, and the rent is not suitable, in order to reduce the burden of children, most of the old people choose to go back to the countryside to provide for the elderly.

The basic way to go back to the countryside for the elderly: first, there is housing, land, there is no problem with these two basic lives, if the age is not too old to take care of themselves, life is still good. If they practice it, some of them still work small odd jobs in the old industry, and they all have income from the land.

Second, the elderly in rural areas over the age of 60 have basic social security pensions, and with rural medical insurance, basic consumption and medical treatment are still guaranteed, and there is no problem.

The third is that some of the children celebrate the New Year's Festival, plus they usually give some pocket money, buy some clothes, and don't have to worry about food and clothing.

Fourth, the way of providing for the elderly is also changing, some are really old and can not take care of themselves, and some children are also trying their best to let the elderly enjoy their old age: one is the idea of living with the children in the city, the other is to send to the pension institutions, the children pay, and the other is that the children pay for the elderly to hire nannies.

Fifth, we must believe that since the children are in the city, they are all decent and sunny, and they are very filial and filial to those who do not leave their parents in the countryside and do not ask, which is not bad. Compared with some old people, it is still very good, to be honest, some elderly people in rural areas are really a problem, very pitiful. Some are in their 80s, and they still have to cook their own meals and live a life that is worse than death.

Overall, no matter which part of the people, what form, rural pension is still a big problem, but also the biggest problem, compared with the urban pension concept, pension institutions, pension methods, etc. However, with the start of a new journey of socialist modernization in an all-round way, this problem will certainly be well resolved.

These elderly people will generally be sent to nursing homes or nursing homes for fitness and elderly care when they are old, and of course, there are children to take care of them.

They can only rely on their own children to provide for the elderly, because they do not have much salary, and it is estimated that they do not even have social security, so it is difficult to have a stable old age.

I think these elderly people should save some money and pay social security on time for themselves, so that they can receive pensions when they are old.

They'll find a job in the city. It's probably a job like a janitor and a security guard. It's still quite difficult to retire in retirement.

It must be that you can only rely on your own children to provide for the elderly, which is also a matter of no choice.

They will put all the pressure on their children and need them to support them and provide them with a living life in their old age**.

After getting old, the state will have a certain amount of subsidies, and the children will also give money to the elderly for the elderly.

They may need social support later on, and they may also need to find a job.

I don't think there's anything wrong with the old man doing this, because the old man may have no psychological sustenance in the countryside, and his wife may have passed away, and he will be more lonely alone.

Maybe in his heart, at this moment, only his son is her only support, and the only support of her soul, so I don't think there is anything wrong with him doing this.

After all, if he is with you and with you, he will also help you do what he can, of course, it can also reduce the burden on you, if you have children, it can help pick up and drop off children, and you can also cook for the family, which can reduce you a lot. I think that's all right.

Because many elderly people in society are reluctant to show their daughters-in-law to pick up and drop off their children, and they are not even willing to cook such things, so I think it is really commendable to have such an old man who is willing to stay by his son's side, do something for them, and help them out, I hope my answer can help.

The old man is reluctant to go back to the countryside and has to live in the city with his son, I don't think that's good? I don't know what kind of mentality you have, you yourself know that the living conditions in the countryside are not as good as in the city, so I feel that you want to send the old people back to the countryside, right?

In fact, there is no big sense in the countryside, and if your parents are very old, can you bear to let them go back to the countryside? Who will take care of them when they go back?

Do you now feel that your parents are a bit of a drag on you now, and have you ever thought that when you were very young, your parents still had to earn money while raising you?

I think you, as a son, don't actually go to the old man, the old man thinks that you are his hope, you take the old man with you, if you are too busy, you can ask a nurse to take care of it.

My two elder brothers work hard in Beijing, the eldest brother lives in the Third Ring Road, and the second brother lives in Chaoyang, but my parents don't want to live in Beijing, feeling that they are all gray and unaccustomed to it. Although my home is ten miles away from the nearest market, flowers bloom all year round. The family's house was also newly built.

My parents here are not willing to come, although the air here in Shenzhen is ***, but my parents feel that the food in the city is not good, even if it is a round-trip plane ticket, they are not willing to come. Now they are growing vegetables or something in their hometown, raising chickens and pigs. Every year we give a few thousand for living expenses.

If you don't lack money in the countryside, it's much more comfortable than in the city. So not all the old people want to come to live in the city. ‍‍

We all know that the living infrastructure in the countryside is not perfect, the city has a perfect infrastructure compared to the countryside, and the life is also rich and colorful, and the conditions permit, the elderly should be left in the city to take care of them, the elderly are not in good health, and it is far more convenient and better to see a doctor in the city than in the countryside. In addition, the elderly want to spend their old age with their families and children, whether in the city or in the countryside, they want to be with their children. ‍‍

As parents, if they are old and frail and can not continue to live in the countryside, then their only son is their dependence on life, if there are grandchildren, the grandsons they think about every day can also help them relieve boredom and amusement, they are in the city is the time to enjoy the joy of family, why go back to the countryside, two lonely old people go back to the countryside to stare at home! Many rural parents are actually reluctant to live in the city, on the one hand, they say that they are used to living in the countryside, and those who live in the city are anxious, but on the other hand, they are afraid of disturbing the lives of their children. ‍‍

I think the child does not come home for a long time, and the old man misses the child. Who doesn't want to miss their children! ‍‍

In the rural areas, the older generation, the traditional idea is to have more children and more blessings, raising children to prevent old age, no matter how harsh their conditions are, usually have to raise more than three children, with hard work to pull them up, just to have children to take care of when they are old. As the saying goes, "you raise me to grow up, I will accompany you to grow old", as children, they have the obligation to support the elderly. ‍‍

In fact, I don't think I am superior in the city, especially my parents. As for whether the parents come to cook or not, whether they work or not, they are all communicating with each other. I believe that there will still be six or seven families in 10 families that can communicate, and it won't be the kind of unreasonable, otherwise how did you grow up yourself, dare you say, you weren't raised by your own parents?

Parents are actually very willing to live in their hometown, where they have lived for decades, how can they have no feelings, but they are still willing to endure the pain of homesickness rather than being with their children, after all, in the hearts of the elderly, children are their everything. ‍‍

I think it's because the elderly are getting older, and getting sick is a common thing. That time, my grandmother was in shock at home, but thanks to being found in time, my life was saved. Call 120 in the countryside, sometimes it's too late!

If you are in the city, if there is an accident, it is good to find it in time, and it is good to find it in time. ‍‍