What should I do if I value friendship too much? What to do with heavy feelings?

How could anyone have such doubts? Don't think it's a bad thing to take friendship too seriously, it's one of your shining points. Although you may meet friends who don't take friendship seriously, I'm sure you can see it, otherwise you wouldn't have such doubts.

It doesn't matter, you know that he doesn't take your friendship seriously, then you have to learn to stay away slightly. You can meet friends who cherish you as much as you cherish him. Friendship is meant to be important, but many people can't do it.

No matter how dangerous it is, the friend who pulls people is really super man. Valuing feelings is not a disadvantage, as long as you can tell whether that person also cherishes this friendship.

It's okay in moderation, but if you take friendship too seriously and put too much emphasis on feelings, it is a sign of your lack of self-love. First of all, you have to learn to love yourself, take pride in not hurting others, and use 80% of it to think about your own gains and losses and feelings. 20% is used to consider the feelings of others.

Love yourself with all your might, be good to yourself, be good to your family, and use your spare energy to manage friendships.

If you put too much emphasis on feelings, it's easy to think too much. An extraordinarily sensitive and delicate heart is easily trapped and hurt by love. So, if you're getting too emotional, keep these three things in mind:

1.Feelings are not a one-man show, good feelings are mutual, don't guard a tree that won't bloom, don't spoil those who have to make inches. Love, to be reserved for those who deserve it, who understand your thoughts, understand your kindness, and thank you for your efforts.

Socialize more with people who also value feelings, and cherishing each other will make the relationship stable and long-lasting. 2.Everything has a degree, and so does feelings.

Being too passionate and persistent in feelings will invisibly bring psychological pressure and burden to the person you love, and you will be very tired. Looking at problems rationally, facing reality with a positive attitude, treating the sad past as a special experience, and learning from it is also a good life insight. 3.

If you are too emotional, what you need most is to see yourself as important and look down on the other party. Refuse unreasonable requests, have the ability to be kind to yourself, and have the spare strength to love others. I appreciate such a pure feeling:

If one day I get married, it is not because I am old, not because of material conditions, not because of my parents' orders, but because there is only one reason: we both love each other deeply. This is the value of people who value feelings.

It's a good thing to value feelings, and I think it also depends on the situation, and there are several types of friendships, and what kind of friends are very important. It's very good to have two or three confidants in life, and I treat this kind of friend with all my heart. Most of the contact with friends, see.

It's okay to have the good side of other people, you can eat together, you can have fun together, but when you need help, you often don't look for these people. Pay attention to everything, friends will also have two sides and three knives, you must know how to distinguish, as the saying goes: there may be many friends who are icing on the cake, and friends who send charcoal in the snow are true friends, and it is worth investing in heavy feelings.

What should I do if I value friendship too much? What to do with heavy feelings?

It doesn't matter if you have a heavy feeling, this is a good thing, but you have to choose the right person, your heavy feelings are only for people who are good to you or know your good, many people can't go to the end in the end, your blind pay will only lead to you being bruised all over your body, please stop the loss in time, and a few friends in many places know that it is the one who understands you best. I had a very good friend in high school and we talked almost nothing. The things between her and her boyfriend have only been told to me alone, and then we had a conflict because of personality, I took the initiative to find her to reconcile, but she has always been lukewarm, and rarely contacted after graduation, even if I took the initiative to find her, she never shared her story with me again, and then I found out that the friendship without the desire to share was irretrievable, so I let go of her and went to find those good friends who were good to me, or knew me, and the number of friends could not match the quality of friends, let go when you should put it down, don't make meaningless redemptions, there are always people in the world who understand your good.

It doesn't matter if you have a heavy feeling, this is a good thing, but you have to choose the right person, your heavy feelings are only for people who are good to you or know your good, many people can't go to the end in the end, your blind pay will only lead to you being bruised all over your body, please stop the loss in time, and a few friends in many places know that it is the one who understands you best. I had a very good friend in high school and we talked almost nothing. The things between her and her boyfriend have only been told to me alone, and then we had a conflict because of personality, I took the initiative to find her to reconcile, but she has always been lukewarm, and rarely contacted after graduation, even if I took the initiative to find her, she never shared her story with me again, and then I found out that the friendship without the desire to share was irretrievable, so I let go of her and went to find those good friends who were good to me, or knew me, and the number of friends could not match the quality of friends, let go when you should put it down, don't make meaningless redemptions, there are always people in the world who understand your good.

It makes you feel better to feel less about what you need, just like a parent who doesn't ask for anything from your children. Friendship is too important, but it will increase the burden on both parties, at this moment of friendship, cherish is that both parties attach great importance to it, do not pursue too much from what to gain from here. Maybe ten years later, the friendship is still there.

If there is a need to obtain, the friendship is unsustainable.

Everything is done in moderation.

1.The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment.

Take friendship too seriously, and once a friend betrays you, you can't stand it. You give a lot to your friends, and you will also want the other party to pay the same as you, but people are selfish, there are no friends in front of interests, and only a few people will have true friendship with you. And if you pay too much attention to friendship, you will become more and more unhappy in the days to come.

2.Your parents are the ones who will never abandon you for the rest of your life.

At least that's the case for the vast majority of households. Although your parents may not have friends who know you and there is a generation gap, the family affection between you cannot be replaced by friends.

3.Think about why you take friendship too seriously.

It's impossible to be nice to someone for no reason, what do you want from friendship? Close your eyes and think about it, maybe you won't pay too much attention to friendship when you know the answer.

I hope you can understand one thing: your affection for your friends is only dependence, and it is not a real friendship. You just need someone you know to give you a sense of security and help you get rid of your loneliness.

The reason why this is the case is that you need to explore whether you have a strong inferiority complex at the bottom of your personality? This kind of low self-esteem is likely to make you afraid to give your heart when interacting with people, afraid of being abandoned, and unable to find your value to your friends, which leads to you not having a heart-to-heart relationship with your friends, but only currying favor with your friends through constant concessions and sacrifices as bribes. But there is a limit to what you can give, and you are worried that at any time a competitor who is more expensive than you will take away your friends.

This fear of losing dependence at any time can in turn prevent you from trusting your friends and making it difficult to be honest with them.

In response to this uneasiness, you may even want your friend to be under your surveillance at all times, and you will be tempted to know what the other person has done without you, so that you can check for signs of betraying you.

This behavior can make your friends feel that you are too glued and that your personal space is being violated, and thus begin to alienate you.

If you're aware of your problem, why don't you try to trust your friends from now on? At the same time, in order to strengthen friendship with friends, you need to stop emotional bribery and improve yourself to become a person who can help your friends.

It's up to you to experience it for yourself.

Look at it with your heart. Single, sometimes not necessarily noble. Being single may be more liberating, but freedom also has a synonym for loneliness. For man does not always like to be alone; Sometimes good things need to be shared, and sometimes sad things need to be comforted. The reason for the emergence of single aristocrats is because.

Independence financially, personally, and emotionally. What is independence?

Independence is to need and not depend, and an independent person needs the opposite sex and does not depend on the opposite sex.

Before being a lover, she should be a friend first. After she becomes your friend and appears in your life, it is possible to know you, understand you, and know your strengths.

And to have a good impression of you, further develop the relationship, and become a lover, an object. The world's colors are not only white and black, there is still a long gray area between black and white. As long as you get along more, you can discover the advantages of the other party and have a good feeling, which is the natural process of developing a relationship. Feelings at first sight and from the beginning are unrealistic, and what we need is not such unrealistic and illusory feelings. Some people describe going with a strange ***, like picking up stones on the beach, and everyone will pick up the one they like. Once you pick up your favorite stone, take it home and treat it well, because that's the only stone you have.

Personally, I feel that friendship also needs to be maintained and given to each other. It is good to value feelings, and the feelings in the world are beautiful. But it's not good to hurt yourself because of heavy feelings. Have your own bottom line and boundaries if you can't be unconditionally emotional.

You're going to be hurt.

Human nature is the most inscrutable. The most untested.

It's better to put money in the first place, it will return you money, and feelings will not.

It's not a good thing to value feelings, but what to look at, to weigh the pros and cons before making a decision, if this friendship brings you a burden, you can try to let it go a little, will it make you a little easier, or can let you see clearly.

It's not a bad thing to value friendship, but the main thing is that your friend deserves to be your friend. If you don't feel that your friends also regard you as a good friend, I advise you to quickly get out of this friendship, a person's life is not only a friend of the pot, but also family and lovers.

Valuing friendship requires finding good people who are worthy of being called friends, and it is a good thing to value feelings, but you can't be swayed by feelings, you also need to be rational and a little realistic vigilance.

Then redeem yourself, know how to give up, see clearly whether the people around you are worthy of your feelings, and if not, you must learn to let go.

Friendship can show that you are a person of temperament, but it depends on who you fancy and whether you are worthy of being good to him.

Hello dear, you should understand that you value this friendship and appreciate what kind of shining points in each other's lives. Figure out what warmth you want from him. And whether he deserves your attention to him so much, and finally summarize his advantages, don't be influenced by her, and strengthen his three views.

Let's improve ourselves first, improve yourself well, and friendship will naturally arise.

It's good to value feelings, and if you take feelings too seriously, you may be more tired of living, but if you do anything, you should be worthy of your conscience.

Change slowly, and when something happens. It doesn't feel worth it. The heart will slowly let go.

Then you ask yourself if this friendship is worth your attention, and if not, then get out of it as soon as possible.

Whether it is friendship or love, pay attention to "two-way running", it happens that you meet a two-way friendship, there is nothing wrong with that heavy feeling, because she is worth it, but if it is only you unilaterally, then you should think about whether this friendship is still necessary?

You don't have to do what to do, the last two times when you suffered two losses will naturally be solved.

I used to think that I was an emotional person, but later I found out that I had lost my feelings and I was a very heavy person.

There's nothing wrong with being emotional, but you have to understand that you don't have many friends who can accompany you all the time.

Friends, you need to manage with your heart, and you need to have a certain degree of artistry. It's not preaching, it's about personal experience. For a friend, regardless of boyfriend or girlfriend, you can't pay too much attention to it, otherwise the other party will feel a lot of pressure and will be overwhelmed by your attention, but you can't be too negligent, too negligent, and you may not be in contact.

Some friends, if you attach too much importance to him, it will make him feel very tired to make you a friend, just because you attach too much importance to him, let him feel pressure, and will make his life very hard. Whether it is between friends or lovers, the emotions for each other must not be equal. There will always be the one who pays more, and often the one who pays more is vulnerable.

Therefore, many times now, when I get along with my friends, I will warn myself to control my own efforts, so that neither I nor my friends will be harmed. So I'm not going to force people now, and I'm trying not to put pressure on others.

Not all people in life can be friends. Everyone has their own attitude towards life, way of life, hobbies and personality characteristics, and there are also their own criteria and conditions for choosing friends. My principle of making friends is to pursue heart-to-heart communication.

I often think that people living in the world are inseparable from friendship, mutual assistance, care, and support. When a friend encounters difficulties and setbacks, if you lend a helping hand to help the other person overcome the difficulties, it is much more useful and reliable than giving expensive gifts. Being friends means that we have the obligation to solve problems and share joy with each other.

Only in this way can friendships last.