How do you manage to think through your brain before you speak?

First of all, you have to know what kind of way you think, and secondly, you should dare to let yourself think again in your head before you say it. Slowly you will find that, in fact, if you turn around again before you speak, you will find that you are actually okay. Change a lot of things.

So it's just a matter of a few more turns.

Speaking through the brain is just an adjective. It means sifting through what you say in your mind before you say it again. It's a long process.

In the process. You may also find many reasons and excuses to disprove the argument. But remember.

If one day you can really do it. When you look back, you will find the benefits.

Before speaking, I think that after you read the question, or after you hear others speak, you should already have a general idea in your mind, and a mind map has been formed, you know which sentence you should say first and then which sentence should be said which sentence should be said which sentence should not be said, the main thing is to be responsive.

Because many people say that they are straightforward, but when they speak, because they do not think through the brain, they often say some things that will offend people, at this time you should avoid this kind of straightforward situation before speaking, you can pause for a few seconds, let yourself say what you say, after a brain thinking, feel that it is inappropriate to say these words at this time or the words are just inappropriate.

Because I used to be a more reckless person, whether I spoke or did things, I didn't think through my brain, and I often made some mistakes because of my recklessness, so now because of those lessons before, I will calm down for a second or two before speaking, let myself go through what I said in my head, and see if the current situation is suitable for speaking.

In fact, I think that it is too unreliable to think about it through the brain, if you have to think carefully about what you want to say to others, how you will say it in your next sentence, what words are more appropriate to say, what kind of expression to use with what kind of tone is too tired. I am just heartless in the eyes of others, and I never blurt out words without thinking about my brain. Because I don't care what others think of me, what they think of me, I live happily, happily, and with a clear conscience.

You must not be too anxious when you speak, and you must control the problems you blurt out. Know how to pause for a few seconds before speaking, and then choose to empathize. If you stand in the perspective of others, how should you say this sentence to appear more sincere.

In fact, first of all, you are just three seconds slower than you normally, say a sentence, you find that this is particularly efficient, not only that, you have to know that the sentence you want to say in your head, you have passed a run of three seconds to four seconds, and you have found out whether this sentence is suitable or not, now say it, and slowly you will develop this habit.

After thinking before speaking, this is something we must consider before speaking, you think about it for three seconds before you say a word, you see if this sentence will make everyone happy, will it affect others, should you say this sentence or not? It's all up to you, and it only takes three seconds for you to make that decision.

Before you talk or ask someone a question, go through it in your own brain and think about it, wouldn't it be unreasonable for someone to ask you that question? Do you feel like you're not bored? How can I modify it so that it doesn't seem obtrusive to ask this question?

Read more good books.

When you find that you always speak without thinking about it, read more good books. Calm your heart, books are your best teachers, in the book will teach you to know the world, will teach you the way to do things, read more good books, there is a sense of poetry in the belly, will let your will continue to hone, so that your soul gradually towards full maturity.

Slow down the pace of your speech.

When you speak without thinking about your brain, you can slowly lower the speed of your speech every time you speak, don't pour it all out, pay attention to leaving room for yourself when you speak, leave some space for yourself, and some words will not be taken back once they are spoken. Slowing down your speech will allow you to speak less so that you will have a chance to think during the process.

Talk less and listen more. When you always speak without thinking about your brain, you can try to silence yourself for a few days, and when chatting with others, try to control your speech, listen more, and understand what others are saying before speaking. Sometimes when others chat with you, they don't want to listen to you express your opinions, on the contrary, sometimes, he is just a kind of confiding, a kind of catharsis, all you need is to make some know, En pronunciation is enough.

Think moreSince you know that you always think without thinking when you speak, you should think more before you speak, whether I should say these words or not, and what will be the reaction of others after speaking, will you laugh? Or will it jump? If it is the latter, then don't say these things, why say things that are harmful to others and yourself?

So everyone is not happy.

Speak with facts.

When you find that you always speak without thinking about it, don't easily express some opinions that are not based on facts. When expressing my opinions, I should pay attention to whether I have encountered this matter, and if I have not encountered it, I should not talk about it, let alone some very personal subjective opinions, let alone lies and lies. A lie needs countless lies to come true, and you will find yourself speechless.

To give you an example:

1.For example, if you have a party with a friend, on this day your friends gather, a friend brings a new object of his, whose parents are orthodox rural people, and you are still at the dinner table.

2.I've watched an entertainment show where husband and wife guess what's on the screen with a stroke. The female gestures, the male guesses, and there is a steamed bun on the screen.

The woman said, "It's white and soft, and you ate it last night." ”。

The man said that he didn't have a brain: "! He's still saying the same colloquialism, I don't know how to type those two words).

As a result, the audience burst into laughter. The embarrassment of the woman died.

3.I remember when "New Three Kingdoms" was on the air, many TV stations were looking for some people to talk about the Three Kingdoms after the show, I watched one, and that issue invited the actors of Cao Pi and Cao Zhi, just these two characters, I can't help but talk about another sensitive character, that is, Zhen Ji, Zhen Ji is Cao Pi's wife, Cao Zhi's sister-in-law, I won't talk about the specifics, when it comes to happy places, an NC guest, I don't know, I opened my mouth and said: "Yes, as the saying goes, it's not as delicious as dumplings, it's fun...

Knowing what he was going to say, he also realized that something was wrong at this time, and he couldn't go on, but fortunately the host took it smartly: "It's not as good-looking as sister-in-law." "This is pure talk, this is a TV show, say everything?

4.And then there is Ma Nuo in "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", typical of speaking without brain, sometimes what he says is not out of his own intention, but you should pay attention to speaking in public, especially the more people listen to you, the more you must pay attention, because your point of view will be infinitely amplified, as a result, he said everything, and was scolded as a dog by everyone, as for those later, in my opinion, it is purely Dong Shi Xiaofeng, seeing that Ma Nuo is so popular, he also wants to learn the jumping clown, too lazy to mention them, they are purely deliberate, Ma Ruo, I think he speaks without brain, not intentionally hype, you go to watch his episodes, you can see what to say, what not to say, what to say after saying what should not be said, what are the consequences after saying what should not be said.

5.The last prompt is the central idea, and the first 4 are examples, that is, to consider the position of others, and your own position before speaking. The position of others, that is, do not hurt others when speaking, refer to example 1 for details, and understand it yourself.

My own is to consider the consequences of expressing my opinion, that is, the so-called "think before acting", think before speaking, don't say it with your mouth, regret it after speaking, refer to example 3 for specific examples, and understand it yourself.

It's over, I see that you seem to be in a hurry, it seems that you have a problem in this regard, I said that I mainly rely on your own usual attention, slowly develop a habit, I hope it will help you o( o.

When other people's business fails, and everyone has a dinner, you brag in front of everyone that you make a lot of money in business. This kind of speech means that you don't think through your brain, and you don't know how to look at the occasion to speak.

There are many scenarios for this:

1。Something simple, yes.

Natural reflections, like conditioned reflexes, really don't go through.

The brain is often short-circuited for a while.

2。Some, due to limited time, are just processed by the brain, and what they say is very straightforward and logical.

Sex is not strong or anything.

3。Some are well thought out, weighed and fully processed by the brain.

Therefore, at different times, different people, when they say different things, the degree of brain processing is different, which is the same as cooking vegetables, some people.

Pick up the cucumber and wipe it with your hands and eat it, some people wash it and eat it, and some people want to turn on the fire and slowly make a cucumber scrambled egg, each with its own taste, so it can't be generalized.

This depends on the person, some people speak and do things directly, that is, they often say that they are quick to talk, and some people are good at thinking, and this kind of person is more stable.

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Hello, I'm glad you asked, the function of human speech, is governed by the brain, so we speak in the subconscious of the brain has been thought, but some words are not reasonable, sometimes blurted out, in fact, there will be more misunderstandings, so before speaking, we should reflect on whether this sentence is right, and don't say it if it's not right.

Everything you say and say is something that you will do and say after your brain, just to see if you have thought deeply about it, right?

Yes, everything we say and think about goes through the brain, but because we don't think deeply, our thoughts are often superficial and incomplete, so what we say is not correct.

Question: Okay, thank you.

Some are just casual words.