Ask the psychological emperor to help me, and ask a psychologist to help me take a look

Since it's good, when we first came together, it was either because you complemented him, or because you were close to him.

If it's complementary, he hasn't changed, and these things about him are exactly what you appreciated at the beginning, so look at the good side and ignore the shortcomings.

If it's close, then you have to think about the same place between the two of you, whether others will hate you, so that you can improve yourself, and from this point of view, he has also fulfilled his duty to improve each other as friends, so you continue to pay attention to him, why not?

If you don't want to, why leave!

Of course, as a friend, you can persuade him to correct these problems.

However, since you already want to be estranged, what are you afraid of hindering your feelings, just ignore him, and you don't need to explain it.

If you are sure that you want to leave this friend, there are still many ways. He doesn't need to say it explicitly, he will understand if he changes the details of the past. For example, find an excuse not to answer **, not to reply to text messages, make excuses not to go to a date, not to go to a dinner with him, no longer pay attention to any of his dynamics, etc., and use actions to alienate him.

Don't get along with yourself, don't be upset about it, this person exists objectively, just put him in his rightful place in your heart.

Friend: Sometimes it's better to keep a little distance!

The reason why you are thinking is because you broke the light bulb in the first place, and you are worried that if the lampshade falls off in the future, not only will it hurt people, but you will be the culprit. Since you know it's going to be okay, but you still have to think about it, I think the easiest way is to find a solution at the root. It's about finding a way to get that lampshade off, and that saves you from worrying.

Find a way to remove the lights or change your workplace!

Analysis: You can't laugh because you think the handsome guys in your class are ugly.

Advice: But when you find yourself looking in the mirror, your smile is also difficult to accept, so you don't dare to laugh. This is a manifestation of your own disagreement, and the more you disagree with yourself, the less you dare to laugh, and as a result, it leads to a smile in yourself, and you remind yourself in your heart that you can't laugh, and it doesn't look good when you smile, and eventually the smile becomes embarrassing.

At this time, what you need is to accept yourself, you can hold the mirror, practice laughing in the mirror, find the most handsome state of your laughter, and gradually you can laugh. 、

First, it's not that it won't, it's caused by unconscious habits, because it started with its own deliberate prohibition, and it slowly became a habit.

Second, the root of the problem, one is the initial cause, which is the experience of sixteen or seventeen years old; There is also the question of the attitude and method of coping with it in the future.

Three, sixteen or seventeen years old, is too unexpectedly at the age, found that ugly, since it is given the meaning of "ugly", I will avoid this "ugly", which forms a pressure or influence, so when I laugh, I am mixed with miscellaneous thoughts, of course, I feel awkward.

Fourth, I didn't analyze the cause of the problem, but I was just following this habit and rejecting this feeling, so the problem was accumulated.

To solve the problem, we need to untie the knot and change the unreasonable cognition and coping methods. The specific content should be analyzed through one-to-one real-time communication.

You can feel that you very much want to have a good image of yourself. That once handsome guy laughed so ugly, then you have even less confidence in your own smile. You said that it started in sixteen or seventeen, which also happens to be the stage of our adolescence, and this time we will be very concerned about our self-image, which is why the feelings of that time have influenced you until now:

You've formed a basic notion that laughs = ugly. So every time I just wanted to laugh, I began to worry that my expression was ugly, so the strong man didn't laugh himself, but the muscles on his face were twisted, and it really became ugly. There's an easy way for you to try to ask the people around you, if you relax and laugh, is it really ugly?

Trying to test whether your beliefs are true is one way to change your beliefs.

I don't know if you've heard of such a story, a salesman to apply, because he can't smile, so no company wants him, so he decided to learn to smile, since then he looks in the mirror every day to practice smiling, sticking mirrors all over the house, even in the toilet is also practicing, just like that, it took a year, he finally conquered everyone with a smile, became the most charismatic salesman at that time, this is a true story. In fact, the real beauty lies in self-confidence, you just don't have enough confidence in yourself, you always feel that you laugh ugly, others may not think so, when you laugh out loud, others see more confidence, so try to laugh confidently, laugh your own style. Come on, I believe you can also conquer others with a smile.

If you do not refuse to take medicine, it is recommended that you can take medicine and psychological ** at the same time, first take a little medicine that can improve your current state, and then through psychological counseling can be recovered, because your current situation and your own psychological suggestion is too heavy, and the effect will not be very ideal if you rely on psychological counseling alone. If you can, you can go to the local mental health center to take a good **, don't have too much psychological burden, now a situation like yours is very common, don't feel ashamed or embarrassed to go to the doctor, you are still so young, you must face this problem positively. The process of your situation will be relatively long, but you must be confident that your situation will definitely get better.