What are the characteristics of pre Qin marriage etiquette?

Each place is different, and the following customs and etiquette are common.

1.and other traditional preparations. This includes bridal gifts, bride prices, and bridal greetings.

2.Wedding ceremony: Under normal circumstances, the groom and the bride go through a simple ceremony in their respective homes, and the groom will lead the groomsmen, the convoy and other people to the bride's house to greet the bride.

3.Wedding ceremonies: Wedding ceremonies usually include the exchange of rings, salutes, wedding cakes, etc., and there may be differences in wedding customs in different regions.

4.Toasting ceremony: At the wedding banquet, the couple needs to toast to the elders of both parties, and the order and method are sometimes exquisite.

Scattered Flowers Fireworks - Some regions like to celebrate by scattering flowers or setting off fireworks when the couple enters the wedding room.

Regarding the age of marriage - contrary to most people's impressions, the legal age of marriage was a little later than in modern times, according to the "Zhou Li, Diguan Situ 2nd Shi Shi Matchmaker", it is recorded that men marry at 30 and women marry at 20. Thirty years old, even in contemporary times, it can be regarded as late marriage and late childbearing, but late marriage has the advantage of late marriage, that is, "Zhou Duo has a long life" year old Acacia.

I remember that the book "The Selfish Gene" also said that a simple and crude way to increase human life expectancy is to raise the legal age of marriage by 1 to 2 years every ten years, so as to conduct targeted screening of longevity genes.

Regarding the age difference between men and women - some people may say that according to the above record, a woman can marry at the age of twenty, but she can only marry a man who is more than ten years older, isn't there a generation gap? This was not a problem at all in the eyes of the ancients. We can take a look at the hexagram representing marriage in "Zhou Yi", that is, the hexagram of returning to the sister.

Returning to my sister, the righteousness of heaven and earth. Heaven and earth do not intersect, Ze and all things are not prosperous", "Ze has thunder, return to the sister", return to the sister hexagram, the inner hexagram is the Ze hexagram, the bureau chain represents the girl, and the outer hexagram is the thunder hexagram, representing the eldest man. Therefore, the uncle and Lori are originally the proper meaning of marriage.

On the other hand, is it okay for a female junior to hold gold bricks? The eldest daughter is the wind hexagram, the young man is the mountain hexagram, and together it is the Gu hexagram, "Gu person, confused". In "Zuo Biography", it is said that "women confuse men, and the wind falls", which shows that people in the pre-Qin period were not optimistic about such a marriage (which is not as enlightened as modern people).

Regarding polyandry and concubines - although this was normal in the pre-Qin period, the ancients did not recognize the so-called "blessing of Qi people". The hexagram in "Zhou Yi" has the saying that "two daughters live together, and their ambitions do not match". When two women marry a husband, it is impossible for their minds to go in one direction, and in the end it will only cause conflicts and quarrels every day.

About the bride price - "Zhou Li, Di Guan Situ No. 2, Shi Shi Matchmaker" records that "where a son marries a wife, the currency is pure silk no more than five taels", and a bride price is stipulated here, that is, five taels of silk. Although the productivity was low in the pre-Qin period, five taels of silk should not be very valuable, indicating that the bride price attaches importance to the gift itself, rather than wealth. In addition, it is not very acceptable to pay too much attention to money.

Zhou Yi's "Menghea" said, "Don't use to take women, see Jin Fu, don't bow." There is no profit" (do not marry such a woman, she will be abducted when she sees a rich man, and there is no benefit in marrying such a person).

It seems that there is still a big gap between the concept of marriage and love in the pre-Qin period and modern people!

Marriage customs. It's the etiquette of marriage. In ancient China, there were "six rites."

It is said that there is also this custom in some areas today, and the six rites are Nacai, asking the name, and Najib.

Recruitment, please date, welcome. In fact, the traditional wedding customs of various regions are not completely limited by these six ceremonies, and it simplifies the process of blind date and engagement, for example, the date of marriage (agreeing on the date of marriage) and the najib (gift-giving engagement). More attention has been paid to ceremonial processes such as the marriage of the bride and groom (the bride and groom drinking a glass of wine), the haunted room and the "return to the door" after marriage.

In the past, marriage was the concept of time, and the word was faint.

The marriage of the ancients summed up in eight words, "the life of the parents, the words of the matchmaker", regardless of the pre-Qin, it was basically the same. As the saying goes, "no matchmaker, no marriage" marriage must be matched by a matchmaker, and the parents are in charge. Even if your parents let you marry a fool, you have to marry it.

"The order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker" is a procedure of marriage etiquette in the pre-Qin period, this kind of thinking knows that the late Qing Dynasty was influenced by the Western trend of thought before slowly eliminated, in fact, many places still retain such a tradition, that is, marriage must be a matchmaker.

Some people may ask, when I get married, I don't need the consent of my parents, I don't need a matchmaker, can't I love freely? According to the record of "Mencius Tengwen Gongxia": "If you don't wait for your parents' orders, the words of the matchmaker, you can peep through the holes, and follow each other over the wall, then your parents and people are cheap." ”

Marriage must be initiated by parents and introduced by a matchmaker. If you don't listen, the orders of your parents, the words of the matchmaker, secretly have a private meeting, and climb over the wall together, then your parents will be scolded by the people of the country and will be looked down upon by others.

In fact, the marriage of the ancients was also divided into three, six, nine and so on, roughly divided into three types, commoners (without any background), rich (literati, local tyrants, squires, scholars, etc.), and nobles (princes and nobles), but these three kinds of people must abide by "the orders of their parents, the words of matchmakers".

In the pre-Qin period, the daughters of princes and nobles were all tools of political marriage, and parents generally married their daughters to the king's son or the princes and nobles under him, which was the so-called political marriage.

The marriage of the scholar clan pays attention to the right family, and basically refers to the belly for marriage, which is the so-called "baby parent". Among the wealthy, finger marriage is very popular, it is described in "Romance of the Sui and Tang Dynasties", and it can also be seen in costume TV series.

And ordinary people, if they want to get married, then they all rely on matchmakers, only civilians can really do it, no matchmaker and no marriage. It can be said that in ancient times, there was almost no free love, and women rarely showed their heads from birth. Especially after the Tang Dynasty, women's foot binding was prevalent, and women basically stayed in their boudoirs, called "girls", and wanted to talk about a free love, which was almost unthinkable.

First of all, the dynasties are different, and the costumes and wedding customs are also different.

The same is the etiquette of the week.