I always feel that I am emotionally indifferent and don t love anyone, what should I do?

I think it's your insecurity.

The most direct manifestation is to tell myself from the heart that I am an emotionally indifferent person who does not love anyone, so to solve this problem, we have to obtain a sense of security, and the best solution is to gain a sense of security and enrich my heart.

First of all, the sense of security can be a person, it can be a thing, it can be work, it can be life, it can be anything that makes you feel that you can let down your guard, let go of your guard, let go of all your worries to accept, to enjoy.

For example, you can make more good friends, go to some activities with them, and make more like-minded people with the same ideas and values. In this you will have some collisions and share your ups and downs. And when a person has the courage to open up to others, he will feel that he is not alone, and this sense of security will be given to him from external things.

Secondly, it doesn't mean that you have to be emotional, you will feel secure and love anyone. First of all, we have to have a premise for loving someone, not everyone is worth your time to love her. Anything worthy of love is something that takes your time and energy to meet.

You may feel emotionally apathetic during this process, but trust me, it's just a process, just because you haven't met the person you really love.

When Cupid's arrow.

Before it shoots at you, you can fill your heart from friends and relatives, or from a certain book or movie, and make yourself a rich person.

Believe me, everyone has such a stage, and it's normal, and when this normal stage passes, you're a brand new you.

In modern society, people have a lot of work pressure, their ability to resist frustration is relatively weak, and their emotional ability is naturally weaker. Some people find themselves to be typical of incompetence in love, apathy, and lack of love for anyone or anything. Even if you meet someone you like, but you can't do anything about it, you can't let go of it, these are all emotional problems that modern people have.

First of all, you have to understand that although the relationship between men and women is more complicated, there will also be a simpler side. Affection is a delicate thing, and the most basic point is to make both parties very happy. In this relationship, if both parties are unhappy, it is not a normal relationship.

If you feel emotionally apathetic and don't love anyone.

You have to try to find this feeling of being happy and happy with the opposite sex. Even if it's a very small thing, like your female colleague bringing you a cup of coffee, or your male colleague seeing that you don't have an umbrella with him, he lends you his. These are all relatively warm and touching moments.

While you receive help from others or provide you with convenience, you should also look at the matter with a moving heart. Now that we are all adults in society, it is really a thing to be happy to have someone do these things for you. It's normal for others to ignore you; But if someone is genuinely good to you, it is a very happy and happy thing.

Try to regulate your emotions and not be defeated by some depressed or disturbing emotions. Try to discover these touching moments in life, remember how good the opposite sex is to you, and slowly cultivate to discover the happiness that this feeling brings you. In this way, you will not feel that your emotions are very indifferent, and you will slowly learn to love others, the kind of love that does not ask for anything in return.

When I was seventeen or eighteen years old, I felt as much about myself as you do.

I think I'm born alone and no one can understand me, so I look at the world from the perspective of a spectator, and I always feel that the world is in a hurry, and there is always an insurmountable gap between me and me. I am emotionally indifferent, in fact, I think more of a self-conscious person, the world is like this, emotions are dispensable. I always feel that at the end of my life, I can't escape a pinch of loess, and this intermittent everything, if there is nothing, is not necessary to have.

My mother said I was cold.

My friend said the same.

But I'm noncommittal.

Later, when I was twenty years old, I became lost in the constant encounters and departures, and I easily recalled my middle school days, when I had good friends and a bowl of hot rice back home. Gradually, I finally realized that the seventeen-year-old who was fearless of emotions would always pass. As human beings, we cannot escape the prison of the human world, and we cannot escape the influence of emotions.

I met my lover, I loved him so much that I couldn't control myself, I never did, I thought I couldn't love someone.

I contacted my friends more and more and found opportunities to meet them for drinks, and I looked back on the years I had left and regretted it. In the first half of my life, they accompanied me for the first half of the journey, but I interrupted this companionship, and now I continue, I always feel that something is missing.

The same goes for my family. I spend more time with them doing chores, buying groceries, cooking, chatting and drinking tea, which I would not have done before. But I finally realized that I should be, or rather, I must.

What should I do if I feel emotionally indifferent and can't love others?

Just wait, one day, emotions will come back, and you will also know how to love.

Love yourself first, naturally someone will love you, no matter how much you love each other, you have to leave three points to love yourself, but also to reserve a dignity and freedom for yourself.

Since I was a child, I have a sensitive personality and there are many people who praise me, not only because I am obedient and sensible and good at studying, but also because I have a prominent family background and few people provoke me.

I found that I had developed a habit of being aloof, suspicious, and extremely distrustful of others. I am most afraid of people approaching me, for what purpose do I have, whether I love me or my family's money.

When I was in high school, I actually had two male playmates. One is Brother Long Fei, and the other is Li Weijun (the two of us are the same age, so we can't call brother).

Brother Long Fei has a shy personality and is also a little arrogant, I like to bully him when I have nothing to do. What about this Li Weijun, although he is young, but he is mature and steady, and he is more experienced in thinking about problems, but he is more obedient to me, and his family conditions are not very good, once I didn't want to go home and let him go home to help me pay for my tuition, and when I came back, I found that he seemed weird.

In fact, why do you play with two male classmates? Mainly we have a car at home, and then every time I go home, my brother always drives the three of us away and they can take advantage of the car together. In addition, I was in another class with Brother Long Fei, so the three of us were together every time we went home and played.

I'm an emotionally indifferent person, so I don't have any friends, and sometimes I jokingly call myself a friend who lacks a return to the king and shouts that his eyes are as light as water.

If you are not good at talking, you are not good at communicating, and you despise those who act on the spot, the boss is not small, and the character of the angry young man has not changed at all.

There was once a small leader who said to me bitterly that your character may suffer in the future.

I snorted inwardly, I was sneering, what are you afraid of, am I the one who is afraid of suffering?

Isn't there another sentence? Suffering is a blessing.

This may be because of my personality, although sometimes my heart is full of excitement and there are a thousand words, but let me go on stage, or face an unfamiliar person, I may not be able to say a word.

Is it the cowardice of the heart?

After calming down and thinking about it, I think it's good for me to be like this, why do I want so many friends? I don't like the glitz and glamour, and my only hobby is to have a few glasses of wine with family and friends during the Chinese New Year.

In the beginning of the school season, I have suddenly thought a lot recently, the national education has been reforming, but the family's investment in education has increased unabated, and there has been a big reform this year, I don't know what the effect will be? Wait and see!

When a teacher learns to communicate and learns to put his eyes on the money bag, can he still teach his children with peace of mind, and the world is full of peach and plums?

Sometimes unsociable might still be a plus?

If there are too many peacemakers, there will also be problems.

It's a non-caring attitude to life. There is nothing wrong with everyone's preferences. It's good that everything has meaning. If you have a hobby, your life will be colorful.

Doing more meaningful activities that you enjoy is good for your mood. For example: reading, writing, drawing, listening, fishing, traveling, etc.

People have a little hobbies, so life, study and work will not be monotonous and boring. It's not a bad thing to be obsessed with something.

This incident made me, who had a very strong self-esteem, feel painful in my heart. For a long time, because of this incident, I was in a bad mood. Later, I thought of a solution, that is, not to think about the painful feelings in my heart, to be indifferent to any emotions, joys, sorrows, etc.

For example, when watching a TV series, if I am amused by the characters in the TV series, after a while, the shame caused by the medical examination will sweep over and it will be painful, so I can watch the TV series without any emotional nerves. It's the same with my friends, they bring me happy experiences and emotional pain at the same time, so I ignore my emotions and mingle with my friends. At that time, I felt that every thing I did, as long as it brought me joy, it must be accompanied by pain.

So I try to do things without emotion.

I didn't think there was a problem at the time, but 8 years later, I was 25 years old. I just felt that something big had happened to me, I was not happy, but I was not in pain either. He will not be wary of others, nor will he be kind.

I don't have affection for my parents and brothers, but with experience, I know that I have to be filial to my parents and care about my brothers (I care about my brothers in consciousness, but not emotionally), and it's not interesting to sing karaoke with my friends, and it's not fun to play cards or games. Watching TV, watching **, there will be no emotional ups and downs. I feel like I'm not interested in everything.

Even when my grandfather died, I didn't feel anything like a stranger had died, but I had to pretend to be sad with my experience (I didn't feel funny when I was with my friends, and I didn't feel funny, but I laughed too. I look like a normal person on the surface).

I saw a doctor, and the doctor said it was depression, but I didn't feel depressed, and I didn't feel sad, and I took medicine for a year, but it didn't work, so I stopped it.

ps I dream a lot, and I remember the situation in my dreams very clearly. In the second year after my grandfather's death, I dreamed of his death, and in my dream I cried bitterly, like my nerves were burned by fire, and my heart ached together. Then I woke up, and the feelings in the dream were still there, but after two or three seconds, they were gone.

7 still dreamed of a boy he had a crush on when he was 15 years old in his dream, and it felt so sweet and warm. Will be jealous, will be coquettish, will be proud. But in real life it doesn't feel at all.

When you dream of your mother, you have a strong sense of intimacy, protection, and security. In real life, there is no way to have such emotions with your mother.

In short, I woke up and found myself different, like a living dead, lifeless.

Once, watching TV, I saw a family gathered around for a Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, and I was suddenly moved, but the pain came with emotion, and then I was reflexively pinched off by my head. From being touched to being painful, to the process of extinguishing feelings, the time has not experienced such a short time.

Spend more time with friends, parents, watch more TV series, and other suggestions are not necessary, this is what I do every day, and it doesn't work.

I can only say that you are absolutely not confident, because you don't even believe in yourself, and you will never trust others, always thinking that others don't understand you, thinking that others will understand you, that's stupidity. You are both stubborn and inferior, I met someone who is more indifferent to the world than you, but he later realized that in fact, sadness and pain are also a kind of enjoyment, because that makes him feel alive, he feels that life is like this, joys and sorrows are like scattered notes, how to compose a beautiful life depends on his own mood, troubles are self-inflicted, just like you said, you use other people's words, to hurt yourself.

1. Try to love others more.

I feel very indifferent to feelings, and the river may have something to do with the environment in which you grew up, or your family atmosphere. In fact, if you want to change this kind of thing, the biggest problem is still yourself, you have to persuade yourself to tell yourself, you have to try to love others more, love your parents, love your own people, love your friends. Say your love, don't hold it to the bottom of your heart, so that over time, your love will become very passionate.

2. Watch more inspirational programs.

You should watch more inspirational emotional programs, don't watch that kind of particularly sad programs every day, it is easy for you not to want to love, and you don't want to believe that there is love in the world, but if you often watch those emotional inspirational and positive programs, you will be full of hope for life, and have a longing for the true feelings of the world, and you feel that there are really feelings in this world. Gradually, you will become emotionally warm.

3. Make friends with happy people.

Pay attention to the people around you who are very happy, try to get close to them, see what characteristics and advantages they have, and learn more. A person's happiness is not only his luck, I think the most important thing is related to a person's character, he encounters happiness and can grasp happiness, which is a rare ability. You have to learn from him this ability to love life and dare to love.

Fourth, see a psychiatrist.

If a variety of methods are not suitable for you, you can try to talk to a psychiatrist, you can let him understand your situation, tell him about the distress in your heart, the psychiatrist has seen more people, he understands the feelings of different people, you talk to him, he may give you particularly reasonable, special scientific advice. It can help you to recover to a normal emotional life in a healthy and fast way.