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I think it really takes a lot of patience and a lot of cultivation. A little temper like mine has been cultivated for many years before I can turn a blind eye to my mother-in-law's words. In fact, many things are forced out in this way.
There's really no way, I can only turn a blind eye.
Speaking of so many years, from the beginning of listening to my mother-in-law's words, to listening to my mother-in-law's words in the future, I went straight back, and then occasionally quarreled, and now I turn a blind eye. It's been a decade. In the past ten years, my heart has changed from the beginning of the grievance to the complaint against my mother-in-law, and finally to the current cold heart, turning a blind eye to all the words of my mother-in-law.
This process has really made me grow a lot. In fact, as a daughter-in-law, we turn a blind eye to my mother-in-law's words, and I feel that it is also a very helpless solution. Like now, I feel like I'm running out of tricks.
I don't want to be an angry little daughter-in-law to wronged myself. I had no choice but to turn a blind eye. I don't like you, I can't see what you do, I can't hear what you say.
Your eyes are air.
Some people may feel that those of us who are daughters-in-law turn a blind eye to the words of our mother-in-law, which is disrespectful to our mother-in-law and a great unfilial piety. However, in my concept, I only respect the elders who deserve my respect, and I only honor the parents who are good to me, who gave birth to me and raised me. Although my mother-in-law did not give birth to me and raised me, if she is good to me and makes me call you "Mom" willingly, I will naturally be filial to you.
But if you can't, I'm sorry, I can't either.
Therefore, to be able to turn a blind eye to my mother-in-law's words, it really takes a while to cultivate. After all, this is not an easy thing to do.
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It mainly depends on the individual's mental opinion, I think this is not difficult to do, get used to it, after a long time, you will naturally get used to it, you don't care about that, you don't have to emphasize what you should do, you can do it. On the other hand, the occurrence of an event, as well as your opinion on the event and your emotions that can be affected, what you can't change is the event itself, and what ultimately determines your emotions is your perception and opinion of the event.
We have a lot of people in our big family, because my dad and his sisters have eight, my dad and brothers have three, and my grandpa and grandma have three daughters-in-law. My grandmother is recognized by all of us as unreasonable, and when she is old, she has some bad brains, poor memory, confusion and so on. As sons, taking care of the elderly is naturally their business and that of their daughters-in-law.
Recently, my grandfather was sick and hospitalized, my grandmother was at home, but my body has been maintained by taking medicine, and my grandmother was left alone at home, after their discussion, my aunt went to my grandmother's house to accompany my grandmother, cook for my grandmother, and my father and they were responsible for taking turns to take care of my grandfather in the hospital. As for our children and grandchildren, every week when we go back from vacation, we will go to see my grandfather and grandmother, and every time I go to my grandmother's house, I hear some strange things.
My grandmother, an old man who lived in the war years, is naturally thrifty and frugal in everything, she. There are also some troubles, for example, my aunt cooks, she has to see how my aunt does it, and she also has to show me how to do it, my aunt can not feel annoyed, my aunt and they all know my grandma's people, so every time something like this happens, my aunt and they don't have to listen to know what the situation is, and then they say don't pay attention to my grandma, she said her, you just go in one ear and one ear out. Then, after a long time, my aunt understood, and she didn't care what she said, so it could be said that she turned a blind eye.
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How do you turn a blind eye to your mother-in-law's words? The issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a major problem since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, and there are few mother-in-law and daughters-in-law who get along harmoniously. But no matter how difficult it is, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have to get along. Then you can start with the following points.
First of all, treat your mother-in-law as a guest and be polite and respectful. No matter what your mother-in-law says or does, don't be busy and angry first, and treat her as a guest who comes to your house to play, then you won't bother with the guests. This avoids getting angry.
Secondly, some mothers-in-law may be more nagging, saying a sentence over and over again many times, so that their ears are calloused, and it is difficult not to get angry. So, can't I afford to mess with and hide? I walked out the door and didn't stay with her, and I couldn't hear what she was saying.
Out of sight is out of sight.
Third, to look at the problem dialectically, the mother-in-law is not useless, she also has many advantages, and she has helped us a lot. She may have some small shortcomings, as long as it is not a matter of principle, with a small nose and small eyes, it is harmless, and it will be over. Life opens up the grid game a little, life is simpler, and it is easier to achieve happiness.
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The pattern should be big, the mentality should be relaxed, if she really treats you as an outsider, then just treat her as if she doesn't exist.
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Personally, I think that no matter what you do, you can't turn a blind eye, after all, it is a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, and there are still a lot of days to get along with.
Turning a blind eye is a bit of a feeling of covering your ears and stealing the bell, you can hide for a while, and you can't hide for a lifetime. If in daily life, some of the mother-in-law's practices make us feel uncomfortable or unhappy, there is really no need to go-for-tat with the mother-in-law, you can communicate with the mother-in-law to resolve the problem through some tactful methods, and turn a blind eye to the problem, just like a small hole in the clothes, ignore it at first, as invisible, then in the end it is possible that the hole in the clothes will get bigger and bigger.
Treat what your mother-in-law does with a peaceful attitude, no matter what she does, don't be angry, be tactful, in fact, your mother-in-law also depends on coaxing.
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Living separately, out of sight will not be upset.
Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if you have to live together, it is best not to interfere with each other.
The mother-in-law doesn't care about her daughter-in-law's affairs, and the daughter-in-law doesn't find fault with her mother-in-law's actions.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are all women in the house who revolve around the stove, and there are always things that they are not used to seeing each other, so the mother-in-law should not be too careful, and she must turn a blind eye, and it is best to be a "blind eye". The mother-in-law should not be too shrewd in front of her daughter-in-law, be confused, be dull, don't be too clear about everything, and should seek common ground in everything while reserving differences.
The mother-in-law never thinks about how much her daughter-in-law can do to herself, but when she sees that she is happy with her son, she will have spiritual comfort, so in the process of getting along with her mother-in-law, she must first do her son's work well, so that it can be smoother.
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As the saying goes, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always a difficult scripture, if you want to turn a blind eye to your mother-in-law, I do this, usually stay away from your mother-in-law, the children are brought by yourself, and you don't ask for your mother-in-law, only the distance can produce beauty, so that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be eased, and you can also turn a blind eye to your mother-in-law's behavior.
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With a grateful heart, I go to my mother-in-law, she is my husband's mother, and she has worked hard to raise him and cultivate such an excellent husband for me, which is really a great credit.
I can't repay the grievances with virtue, as long as she doesn't touch the bottom line, she can do it casually! I can bear it!
What's more, she is getting older and older, and she can still have a few years to live, I am younger than her, and I live longer than her, and when my mother-in-law is gone, my world will come!
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It's harder to turn a blind eye, after all, that's my husband's mother! If you really do that, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife, so try to maintain it as well as possible! Although from a familiar environment to a strange environment, people will have the psychology of rejection, but it is difficult to treat the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family, but as long as you do a little bit, that is, treat your husband's mother as your own mother, I believe it will get better.
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I think it's very easy to do things to your mother-in-law and not see it, as long as you don't take him in your eyes, you don't care about what he does, and treat him politely like a stranger, because we know that it is easy to have conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and if you are indifferent to your mother-in-law, or don't care, it will reduce the occurrence of these contradictions.
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The complexity of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a long history, if you want to turn a blind eye to what they do, it is best to separate, you live in your house, I live in my house, the distance produces beauty, and it also isolates to avoid contradictions.
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If you want to turn a blind eye to what your mother-in-law does, then you must stick to your beliefs, don't be bullied by your mother-in-law, and feel very wronged, so tell your husband that if it takes a long time, your husband will also be annoyed, so you can do a normal way to look at your mother-in-law, just think she is also an old man, and be willful.
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As the saying goes, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, there is really nothing wrong with it, sometimes it is really difficult to get along with your mother-in-law in peace, but you can't care about everything, it is yourself who suffers from it, you will feel very tired of living, I live under the same roof with my mother-in-law, every day I really look down and don't look up, so stumbling in life is inevitable, but sometimes I feel nothing when I enlarge my heart, after all, you are living with her son, not with her.
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Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been more difficult to get along with, if you want to live a smooth life, you can only turn a blind eye, then you must first overcome the rejection of some of your mother-in-law's behavior psychologically, and then it is best to communicate calmly with your mother-in-law, so that the contradiction can be reduced to a minimum.
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