What are some of the hard but thankless things in life?

Honestly, there are so many of these things in life! However, as time goes by, the feeling of thankless work will become less intense, so I still hope to continue to work hard and not give up my enthusiasm for life and the people around me! Let's talk a little bit about my experience!

For example, my mother cooks and washes every day, and my father is the kind of shopkeeper who never asks about housework or anything, but he just likes to pick thorns, and the food is not done well, the clothes are not clean, etc., my mother will feel thankless.

For example, I bought breakfast for a colleague who worked overtime, and as a result, I bought something that my colleague didn't like to eat, and one of my colleagues was so characterful, and I saw that he finally threw it away, and I would also feel thankless, after all, breakfast was bought with obligation, and I didn't ask them for money, and finally I figured it out, I was voluntary, so no matter what the result, there should be no complaints about voluntary things, which was also taught to me by an aunt who came to Beijing.

For example, if I can't get up in the morning, my landlord will buy me breakfast and hot water from time to time, but there are a few times when he buys breakfast and he doesn't have time to drink it when he goes to work in a hurry, and he doesn't buy it for me after a few days, I believe he must be a little aggrieved, I don't eat it, when he knows that I don't like sweet in the morning, he starts to buy me salty tofu brain, and I eat it very happily! I think that no matter what I buy in the future, I will eat it!

I don't think there are many thankless things in life, it depends on who you help and what you help. Some people always take other people's help for granted, so this kind of person is a typical thankless task, and there are things that others don't need you to interfere in, and if you do it yourself, it will seem self-inflicted.

I am a person who likes to help others, probably because I was influenced by my family, and I subtly felt that it was really a joy to be helpful when I was a child. But as time goes by, as I get older, the people and things I meet become more complicated. Helping others is getting a little thankless.

When I was in high school, I was an officer in the class, in fact, it was just a small officer, and I usually didn't have anything to do, once the school notified the class to hold a New Year's Day party, and the matter of going out to purchase items was handed over to the class leader, at that time I thought that the class leader might not be busy alone, so I went to help him purchase, and we brought all the things back.

But when it came to the New Year's Day party, everyone played their own games, and they also disliked the bad materials, and the food was not delicious enough, in fact, I was really wronged, it was obviously everyone's business, and I did it with the squad leader in the end but it was like this, I felt very uncomfortable, and it was estimated that the squad leader was also very uncomfortable. I was thinking, am I really doing something wrong?

In the blink of an eye, I went to college, everyone has their own small space, only people who live in a dormitory will chat, classmates are basically well water does not violate the river water, but there is such a roommate, always think that others help him as a matter of course, and treat others as slaves, so I understand that helping people is not like me, you have to help them in a good way.

In fact, in our lives, when a person's ability is greater, the greater his responsibility, and his power is greater, then everything he does will be paid attention to and supervised by many people, so at this time. What he does can become a bit thankless.

When we are doing anything, first of all, as long as this one thing does not harm others, it is worthy of ourselves, and it does not cause particularly big social problems. We have a clear conscience, so it doesn't matter whether the matter is praised and appreciated by others.

There are a lot of people who will accuse others of being nosy and doing thankless things. In fact, I think there should be more such people in social life. Take other people's affairs as your own and do your best to help others.

In this way, our society can become more beautiful, harmonious, and make people feel warm.

If a society is only apathetic and indifferent. Then this society is also destined not to continue to progress, will not continue to develop.

There are often many good intentions and bad things in life, such as persuading the old man who fell in the middle of the road. And to do a lot of good people and good deeds but be misunderstood. There are also those martyrs who are brave and brave.

I think it's that when I got married, when I helped my in-laws unconditionally, no matter how much I helped, it was thankless, and I didn't even say a word of thanks from the other party!

"Thankless" is often used to describe a person who spends a lot of time and effort doing something, but in the end does not get the desired return or result, or the return received is not proportional to the effort put in, that is, it is not worth it.

The origin of this phrase can be traced back to the early agricultural society, when people needed to cultivate the surplus land, but due to the infertility of the land, the unstable climate, etc., they often spent a lot of time and energy, but in the end they could not get enough harvest, which is a typical "thankless" situation.

This situation is also very common in modern society, such as someone who spends a lot of time and energy to learn a certain skill, but ends up finding that the skill is not much useful in real life, or someone who constantly works overtime to complete a certain task, but in the end does not get obvious rewards and rewards, these are typical examples of "thankless".

It may be because when you do it, you find that there is no difference between what you do and what you don't do, and you work hard without receiving a positive response, but you may have negative comments. In this case, it will naturally feel thankless.

1 Do or not do what is no different, don't do it.

Many people like to be happy to do things, and feel that they have nothing to do more, but instead seem to work hard. But often after being busy with these things, they will find that doing these things by themselves and not doing these things has no effect on the things themselves.

You do it or you don't do it, it's there. If you do it, you have to spend your time and mind to deal with the problem, but you can't see the effect and change, why do you do it?

So those who always feel that they are doing a thankless job, do they first think about whether this thing is worth doing?

It's like loving the wrong person, no matter how hard you try, it still won't please you in the end. Therefore, choose the right person and do the right thing first, so as not to be unflattering.

2 Don't pay too much attention to what others say, but don't go unanswered.

After identifying a thing or a person, your judgment may not be accurate.

At this time, other people's opinions and opinions will also affect your judgment of this matter and this person.

We always have a goal in everything we do, and what is this goal? Are you doing something that really achieves that goal and helps get things done?

I was doing things happily, but people said, it's not right for you to do this, it's useless for you to do this, I'm doing it very hard, and when I hear others doing this, I will doubt myself if what I'm doing is thankless. This is the mindset that everyone can have.

If I do something that no one else has done, and I can't see the results of what I'm doing, and I don't have any feedback or response, I will naturally get ...... panic

3 Thankless, it may be that you are using the wrong method, and it may be better to adjust the method in time.

When chasing a girl, you do a lot of things for him, but if the other party doesn't like you, what you get will only be the result of "ten moves to refuse" (very moved but rejected).

Many things have their own rules, as long as you find the rules and do things according to the rules, you won't always feel like you're doing thankless things. On the contrary, because of the method, it is easier to get twice the result with half the effort, and the effect is more significant.

Of course, direction is also important, and if you find that what you are doing does not help your goal, you need to adjust your actions in time, or just change your goal.

People's intuition is really accurate, when you feel thankless, either there is something wrong with the work, or the method is wrong, or the goal is wrong, don't continue as before.

In the future, you should calm down and communicate with your classmates and friends.

You say that you always do thankless things, why.

That is, it is not well considered, as the saying goes: if you don't do things according to the east, you will be tired to death. That's what I'm talking about.

It may have something to do with your personality, and it also has a lot to do with the people around you, it's all because of how the people around you treat you, how they see you, they always feel that what you do is what you should do, so they always feel that you should do this kind of thing, and then it causes you to be thankless, so you have an absolute relationship with the people around you.

Charles Dickens once said, "The best courtesy is not to meddle." ”

In life, the things we encounter can be divided into two categories: our own business and other people's business.

What we should do is to do our own things with our hearts, and not to take care of other people's things.

Because everyone's perspective is different, their ideas and thinking are also different. Not many people can empathize and compare hearts to hearts.

Sometimes even if you are helping him with good intentions, maybe you are watching him laugh at him, and it becomes a thankless task for you to help him with your heart.

01 Someone else's business.

It's best not to get involved in other people's family affairs, and many times your warm-heartedness will cause trouble. So, it's better to do less and worry less about thankless things.

Family disputes are often incomprehensible, and as an outsider, don't meddle easily. Besides, you don't understand the twists and turns in it, so why do you need to worry about it?

Family is not a place to be reasonable, you are reckless in a place where you talk about feelings, isn't it a blind worry? If you think too much about other people's family affairs, it is you who are tired, and it is yourself who may offend others in the end, so it is not worth it.

In life, it is enough to take care of your own affairs, and don't meddle in other people's affairs. It is enough to live your life easily and happily.

02 Friends' emotional affairs.

Women generally like to talk, especially between girlfriends, and will often share some of their little secrets.

It's a good thing to have a girlfriend who can share secrets, but there will always be some people who don't know how to measure because of their girlfriend's identity, which leads to two people gradually drifting apart, or even breaking up their relationship.

In life, I have seen such a situation more than once: a pair of girlfriends who originally had a good relationship, one of them fell out with his boyfriend and was arguing to break up, and the other friend Tong Paixian had long looked down on the scumbag, so in order to comfort his girlfriend, he brought out the disadvantages of the scumbag.

As a result, I didn't expect that after a few days, people reconciled, and my girlfriend in turn blamed my friend for blindly mixing up, and my friend was very hurt, and gradually alienated my best friend.

Therefore, take this as a lesson, even if you are a good friend, don't easily meddle in the contradictions between the other party and your lover.

As the saying goes, "it is difficult for a clean official to decide family affairs", feelings are not broken just by saying, you can only look at your personal thoughts, as a friend can comfort each other, and it is easy to hurt feelings if you manage too much.

Many times, your girlfriend complains to you not because she wants you to take care of her business, but just wants to tell you about her unhappiness.

Therefore, it is better for us not to worry too much about other people's affairs, this is the best cultivation of a person.

Like this, you should talk about credit, he backtracked, you were kind enough to wait for him, and kindly returned his mobile phone, but he was like this, he really disappointed your kindness, don't be angry, in case the other party has something important to delay.

Now people's hearts have changed, they don't dare to do good deeds, for fear of being blackmailed, you kindly return the phone, the other party is afraid that you will blackmail him, so you will be praised for this treatment.

It took a lot of effort, but I didn't get praise. Describe things as tricky or clumsy or wrong.

Well done. Everyone's time is precious, and no one has the right to waste anyone else's time. Let him go to the police and do the right thing.

Heck, you'll just stay next time.

Begging: Seeking. It took a lot of effort, but I didn't get praise. Describe things as tricky and difficult, or the work party is clumsy and wrong.

The eighteenth chapter of Qing Wu Zhaoren's "The Strange Status Quo Witnessed in Twenty Years": "To be honest, with money, instead of working hard like this, I might as well give it to my uncle as filial piety." ”

After a lot of effort, not only was it not rewarded, but it was disliked.

synonyms] thankless, fruitless, futile, clumsy, and scheming. 【Grammar】thankless as a definite sentence or clause; It means that the effort is in vain, and the effort is not praised. Describe things as tricky and difficult, or clumsy in working methods, and don't destroy the right shot.