How can we resolve the bitter conflict and return to peace?

The core element of resolving fierce contradictions is to avoid emotionality, let reason occupy the high ground, many contradictions are caused by emotion, if you can face it with a rational attitude, contradictions can be turned into hostilities.

There are many kinds of contradictions, some are emotional contradictions, some are contradictions of interests, but no matter which kind of contradictions, when they are opposed, we often face them with a kind of emotion, rather than talking about things in line with the principle of reason, so when you change from being right to people, this situation is conducive to the solution of contradictions, if it becomes not right for people, then this contradiction will always be deadlocked, and even will go off the rails, so that the contradiction will escalate.

Rationality confronts contradictions

Let peace return should first let reason return, only under the premise of rationality, can we sort out our thinking, from the overall situation to consider how to solve the problem, anger does not solve the problem, force makes the contradiction even more uncontrollable, so many fierce conflicts eventually have to return to the negotiating table, two people calmly sit down to talk about each other's interests, so calm treatment is the only criterion to solve the problem.

Mount Tai collapsed in front of the face does not change, to this attitude to face the intensifying conflict, think carefully, what are we for the conflict, is it that we all want to protect something, both sides of the contradiction have their own positions, should be in line with the attitude of harmony to the game, try not to let the contradiction escalate, each seek a balanced fulcrum.

A compromise solution

No one is willing to back down when a conflict is fierce, and concession means a loss, but if the fierce conflict continues, it can only be that both sides will suffer more losses, so in line with the principle of a timely stop loss, both sides should calmly face the choice, and a compromise way is acceptable to everyone.

Of course, not all contradictions can be resolved in some way, and some conflicts can only be resolved by-for-tat.

Everyone has different characteristics and characteristics, so everyone will have different opinions on one thing, and even quarrels and quarrels. So, how to avoid this kind of fierce quarrel and turn the conflict into a jade silk?

First, calm your emotions and calm down. Each of us has faced a situation of heated quarrels, and in this case, it is necessary to maintain a sense of sanity. The fierce conflict means that you have different views, and you will be angry at the situation.

When you're in a lot of trouble, be sure to calm down and calm down. In many cases, you don't really hate him, but you get more and more irritable on your own impulses. So you can stop yelling at each other, both of you stay in your room to calm your emotions, and think about what will happen if you hurt each other like this.

Especially the quarrels between husband and wife, the quarrels are often trivial things, because the two parties do not give in to each other and do not know how to calm down, the contradictions are getting bigger and bigger.

Second, admit your mistakes in time and be humble to each other. In ancient times, General Lian was quite like Lin Xiangru to "bear the guilt of Jing and ask for guilt", so admitting mistakes is not ashamed, but a manifestation of a person's generosity. When you have a violent conflict, apologize to each other in a timely manner.

Even if your mistake is not big, you have to apologize, because it is wrong, and people with high emotional intelligence will not have a fierce conflict, so you should apologize to the other party in time and ask for forgiveness. It is a sign of immaturity for two people not to speak and not to interact after a conflict. If you admit your mistakes, I believe that the other party will also apologize and forgive you.

Finally, empathize and understand the difficulties of others. Maybe you still can't understand the other person after apologizing, so calm down and think about it. If you were him, would you be like him at this time?

Therefore, we all have our own difficulties, and having a fierce conflict does not mean that you are all bad, but you just don't understand each other from each other's point of view.

Personally, I think it's mainly about mentality, you have to have a peaceful mindset, so that you don't always think about conflicts, and you have to know that everything is a step back and the sky is wide.

Take a step back, the sea and the sky, and then there are ways to solve the contradictions, learn to be calm when encountering things, let the brain have clear thoughts, and don't be impulsive.

You should calm down first, sort out what happened, calm down for a while, find a suitable time and then find a place to gather, I don't think there is anything that can't be solved with one meal, if you don't have it first, then have another meal.

I think the most important thing is to find the root cause of the conflict, and then communicate with the other party and try to find a way to solve the problem, so that we can return to peace as soon as possible.