If you promise one thing to the person you like! Didn t do it, should be compensated like this?

If you promise not to do it, then see if you can do it, it depends on what you promised, if you promise not to smoke and smoke, then don't smoke, and then coax, that is compensation!

If it's impossible to do it, look at what she likes, and you accompany her to do it, or buy what she likes, which is also a kind of compensation.

The most important thing is to see what she thinks psychologically, if you don't do it, how she wants to solve this matter! If you want to talk to her and listen to her thoughts, the things she asked you to promise must be what you care about and full of expectations.

Keep helping her find it (it's okay if you can't find it, but be sure to find it).

Or give him another surprise next time, and don't promise her anything in the future. (That is, if you are not 90% sure, don't agree easily, otherwise it will backfire).

What she likes is you, it's your personality, it's not someone else, you don't have to learn from others, it's still you after learning others? Will she still like you? Coaxing is a deception, say some nice white lies, since women don't like money, then what she wants with you is happiness and joy, you can't give it, how can you say that you like her and love her?

If you do what others say, beyond yourself, it may bring disgust, don't get together for too long in the future, too much talk will show too pale, too much flattery will show you too hypocrisy!

If you have done something sorry for someone, first you have to express your sincerity to the other person, and this owe is to apologize to the other person. Only in this way will you be able to ease the relationship between you.

You have done something that is not worthy of you and you like you, and you must double the compensation. Choose something she likes, or invite him to dinner and tea.

If you do something that you can't help but like people, how should you alleviate it, then I think it should? Fu sincerely apologized to the other party. Correct it slowly. Remedy.

It depends on whether what you do can be eased.

One word buy, cure all diseases.

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First of all, you can be friends. I said that the relationship between men and women is not only a husband and wife, but also a very good friend, but if you want to be friends with a person you love, it is a very difficult thing, because if it is a friend relationship between men and women, you must keep a due distance, do not cross the line, because if you still fantasize about using friends as a springboard to realize your dreams, then you had better not even be friends, because if this is the case, you will definitely feel burdened by your thinking, As a result, you can't really get to the line of being friends. Therefore, a friend is a friend, and only by putting yourself in the right position can you not embarrass yourself or burden others.

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Second, you can be confidants. One level closer than a friend is a confidant relationship, and it is even more difficult to maintain this relationship, because confidants are a kind of spiritual sustenance, and they should treat each other with sincerity, think about each other's thoughts, and what the other party can reach. If you want to say that lovers will have reservations, then confidants can talk about everything, because confidants communicate heart-to-heart, need to understand each other, need to empathize with each other's affairs, can solve problems for each other, and let the other party out of the current predicament is what people as confidants should strive to do.

However, if you want to be a confidant, you need to give up your deep affection and treat the relationship between yourself and the other party rationally.

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In the end, if you can't trap your heart, I think you still need to stay away from his life, give yourself a space to forget the other person, and give the other person a certain space. Time is the best medicine, it can make you think a lot of things clearly, it can also make you forget a lot of things, and most importantly, it can also be emotional. So if your feelings for the other person are deep in the bone marrow and you can't forget them in a short time, I think it's best for you not to participate in the other person's life anymore, although it will hurt, but this is the best way to explain to yourself and the other person.

After a long time, maybe you can be calm with each other when you meet again, and maybe you can develop in the direction of friends and confidants.

Therefore, in the relationship between men and women, there is not only one relationship between husband and wife, since we cannot become husband and wife, we can also retreat to the next best, let you become an important person in each other's life, or let time solve this unfathomable relationship.

Although love is beautiful, it does not mean that every pair of people who love each other can stay together for life, so if they love each other but can't stay together, how should we deal with the relationship between the two?

1. If you are separated, you still insist on being involved, and you will only hurt each other.

Some people say that even if we can't love each other, we can still be best friends! In fact, this is not a good choice, and even for those who can't be loved, it's a little cruel, and it's uncomfortable to think about watching the person you like and others go in and out every day. In fact, people who have loved each other deeply, since they can't be together, it's best not to cross paths again.

Because goodbye just makes each other more uncomfortable.

Just like the love between Lu You and Tang Wan is a good example. Originally, the two loved each other, but because of Lu You's mother, the two had to break up. Over the past few years, Lu You has already remarried, and Tang Wan has also married a wife.

Seven years later, Lu You's hometown revisited and met Tang Wan and her husband. Seeing his former lover, Lu You had mixed feelings and wrote a song "Hairpin Phoenix" that has been passed down for thousands of years. Unexpectedly, this poem once again evoked Tang Wan's sadness.

Later, after Tang Wan combined a poem, she died depressed. If it weren't for Lu You's sadness to arouse Tang Wan again, Tang Wan wouldn't have ended up like this.

So, for lovers who love each other deeply but can't be together, the best thing to do isLet go of your hands, no more attention, no more contact. It's really not a good thing to know that you can't be together anymore, but you still insist on getting involved.

We should try to downplay each other's influence in each other's hearts, so that each other can live well.

For example, your ex-wife sent you a message, saying that she was so sad, so sad, and needed someone to accompany her? And what will be the result of such news being seen by your current wife again?

2. Forget the past and live well.

Now that it has passed, you should choose to forget, and only in this way can you start a new life. The past is just an experience, not a bondage. The most important thing is to grasp the present and live well.

There is still a long way to go, and only by letting go of the past can we better face the present life. Smart people, no matter how much they loved in the past, will choose to let go. Because only by letting go of the past can there be a new beginning.

The famous Qing Dynasty poet Nalan Xingde is one such example. After the death of his wife, he was still immersed in the memories of the past. Those who are familiar with Nalan Rongruo know that Nalan Rongruo wrote many, many poems to his deceased wife.

In the end, he was even more dying, if Nalan Rongruo walked out of his wife's shadow after his wife's death, he would not be "in love".

Love is beautiful, but love is not the whole of life, and what you can't get should let go. It's the choice of smart people.

If you can't be married to a person you love deeply, how can you do it as a smart person? The author thinks that people must know how to do things rationally, but also learn to give up, since they can't be husband and wife, then don't be the best friend, let time dissolve everything, and gradually forget each other, this is the practice of a smart person.

If you can't be a husband and wife, is it necessary to be friends? Many people will say that if you can't be a husband and wife, then be your best friend, which seems to make sense, but the author thinks that since the two can't become husband and wife, then they should completely break off the relationship, rather than breaking the threadThis will not benefit anyone, and it is easy to give birth to some right and wrong, sowing the seeds of disharmony in the future life.

It is a very unfortunate thing not to be able to get together with someone you love deeply, no matter what the reasonThis will make each other's hearts very painful, but also to each other to leave the most beautiful and deep memory, if both parties can find the most ideal lover in the future, if once a party's life is not satisfactory, then he (she) will miss the old love, and this nostalgia will be deeper and deeper, more and more expectation, and even unconsciously go to each other to complain, after a long time, it is inevitable that some incidents will arise.

Therefore, since the two are destined, then they should cut off contact as soon as possible and completely, which is not ruthless, but precisely responsible for each other, which is a rational approachDoing so will also remove the element of instability in your subsequent marriage. The reason is very simple, since you have loved each other deeply, then you will always worry about each other, which is a betrayal of your other half, that is, your irresponsibility to your marriage. You have chosen a new beginning, so everything that is disconnected from your former lover is irresponsible, or even a betrayal of your new lover.

Since you can't be a husband and wife, is it necessary to contact again? The answer is no, even if you are pure, selfless, and upright, but you should not forget that love is selfish, and you think it is nothing, so what will your lover think? Will he or she feel comfortable inside?

It's not a little belly, it's not the other person's selfishness, it's precisely your own selfishnessIsn't it greed that you already have love and want another extra compensation? In a way, those who do this are asking for their own suffering, or self-inflicted suffering.

If you are a smart person, then you should let go as soon as possible and cut off all contact with each other as soon as possible. Time is the best medicine, everything will fade with the passage of time, and the same is true of feelings, if you can make a decision, then the pain will be short-lived, if you are selfish, or not strong enough to break the connection, or simply do not want to lose the other person, then it is safe to say that you will have a lot of trouble in the future.

It can be said that it is a very regrettable thing to not be able to become a husband and wife with a person you love deeply, but in any case, the result can not be changed, so the long pain is better than the short pain, and end everything as soon as possible, which is good for both parties, presumably this will also be the choice of all smart people.

Many couples experience the dull days after marriage, they don't know how to maintain their enthusiasm for love, and their feelings are slowly cold, and they simply maintain family relationships.

When you choose to be with each other, it must be that the other party has a shining point that attracts you, but after a long time, you ignore the attraction of him, and you forget to improve yourself to attract him, so the relationship between the two people is getting weaker and weaker.

So what can be done to improve the situation and avoid ending up with nothing to say? Take a look at the suggestions below:

Tell each other's hearts

If you have nothing to say to the other person, you may not know how to talk to the other person or you feel that you have not said it, so you choose not to say it.

In both cases, it is because you subconsciously do not connect with each other, there is a big difference between you and the other person at the spiritual level, and you don't know what the other person thinks, so you don't speak or say the wrong thing.

But don't let that discourage you from talking to the other person, communication is the most basic and useful means of building an intimate relationship. Find an opportunity, make an appointment, sit down, talk about the problems that exist in the relationship between each other, and discuss the corrective plan. If the other party refuses to communicate, don't worry, don't force him, get to know him more, start talking to the other party from the topics he is interested in, slowly ease the relationship, and wait for the other party to be unguarded against you, and then bring out the core issues.

Of course, you also have to be honest with each other about your thoughts, so that you can understand each other and feel emotions in each other's position.

Put love first

If you treat the other person with your heart, the other person can feel it at all. In an intimate relationship, the other person feels valued, and a sense of trust is built and your relationship is stronger.

Correct your mentality, you don't love each other for the sake of your family and children, but only because the other person attracts you.

Learn to appreciate each other

When you feel that he is not as attractive to you as he used to be, think about whether it is because you have changed. Learning to appreciate each other, tap into each other's brilliance, and then compliment him with genuine affection is a great way to break the ice in your relationship. Because people are more receptive to people who are similar to themselves, if you praise the other person, the other person will feel that you understand him and will naturally be willing to open up to you.

Marriage needs to be managed, and if you leave it alone, it will not be able to keep it fresh like food that is not put in the refrigerator, and it will slowly rot.

Child, don't be stupid and naïve anymore, if he wants to be with you, it can only mean that he doesn't like you so much, but just treats you as a friend with an average relationship, not even a lover.

Don't be angry and don't be sad, I'm from here, that's better than watching the boy who has been stammering with him say to himself that he doesn't want to fall in love, and in a blink of an eye, he officially announced it to other girls).