My son is a sophomore and is very willful and ignorant, what can I do?

That's because you're too used to it, you're a sophomore and you're not sensible, when will you be sensible, first of all, you have to make three chapters with your children, especially in terms of money, only give tuition fees, basic living expenses, and other expenses, and don't care too much about your children's life and learning, so let your children know that their parents love him, but not your ATM, punching bag, and cleaning up your waves.

The longer the lovelorn is, the more painful the man becomes, and he can't start a new relationship for a long time. Let's assume such a situation, suppose a woman what she will do if she falls out of love, she will cry, make trouble, find all her friends to confide in, feel that she is extremely painful, but if a man falls out of love, most of the time we will not be able to see it, that is, he will not say that he will not make trouble, nor can we see him crying, at most smoking and drinking. It is easy to have the impression that women are actually very nostalgic and emotional, and do a good job of in-depth communication.

When the two sides calm down, you can find an opportunity to sit down and discuss how to solve the problem and how to solve it, so that both parties can get relief from this contradictory confusion, and the relationship between the two people will continue.

We need to learn to understand and tolerate each other.

Contradictions are inevitable, and at this time, the whole number needs the understanding and tolerance of the other party, in order to reflect whether the feelings between each other are strong enough, test each other's ability and methods to deal with things, and find a better way to get along with each other in love contradictions, and slowly run in.

Both are willing to pay for this relationship.

Since they have chosen each other, they must regard each other as lovers and confidants, and each other must be willing to pay for each other, without any complaints. It is true that the longer the lovelorn is, the more painful the man becomes, and he cannot start a new relationship for a long time. Let's assume such a situation, suppose a woman what she will do if she falls out of love, she will cry, make trouble, find all her friends to confide in, feel that she is extremely painful, but if a man falls out of love, most of the time we will not be able to see it, that is, he will not say that he will not make trouble, nor can we see him crying, at most smoking and drinking.

It is easy to have the impression that women are actually very nostalgic and very emotional, and men are a little wolf-hearted and a little indifferent, but if this thing goes forward, you will find that half a year later, the women who were crying and can't live can not live, she quickly fell in love with a good-looking male colleague who came to the unit, and then the two of them happily started a new relationship! And this man still looks like nothing has happened, and the silence is golden, but he has never entered a new relationship!

When the child grows up, he can't help his mother, and being willful and ignorant can only mean that you follow him too much, you will be satisfied with what you say, try to let him endure hardships and know the meaning of life, maybe one thing will move him, maybe it's useless, your own children are only known to you, it depends on whether you can be ruthless.

It can only rely on the teacher's education. There is no other way. What you can do.

1 dozen**, chat with people, and interrupt on the side. If you want to get your attention, it means that you don't usually pay enough attention to him.

Talk to him more often, get to know his thoughts, and build trust and respect with each other.

2 Let him do what he ought and what he ought not to do. Why, why didn't you do it?

Reasonable, you give in.

Unreasonable, explain the reason why he did it.

Reasonable, but you can't budge and say what makes you difficult.

A friend upstairs said it very well that the child was imitating us most of the time, telling him why he had to do it.

To know why he is ignorant, the child is innocent, you think he is very ignorant, you can think about it, why do you think he is ignorant, maybe it is just some childish actions of the child, causing trouble. Makes you feel that way. But that's what children are by nature.

It should not be concluded that his behavior is ignorant, and he is just acting with a child's mind.

Adult reasons. Children don't know how to distinguish between good and bad, parents are children's first teachers, and many of their personalities and behaviors are imitated by adults. Therefore, you must first examine yourself to see if you have any bad habits, and if you have them, you will change them, and if you don't, you will encourage them.

2.The child's problem. It's a child's nature to be playful and playful, and you can't say he's wrong, and certainly can't say he's doing the right thing.

At this time, we, as adults, have to guide them. You can patiently communicate with your child so that he can understand the basic principles and principles of how to behave in the world, and develop a reasonable character. If your child behaves well, you should praise him in time, and you can also give him a small gift as a reward for his understanding.

But you can't ask too much, after all, it's all one step at a time.

I also acted ignorant in front of my son, so let my son experience it.

It's not good to give advice on the specific situation.

First understand what is in your heart when you are of the same age, and then ask yourself what personality your lover has when she is of the same age, and it will be easy to understand when combined, although the performance may not be the same, but the essential character is the same. Now the child's personality is generated by the current situation of the family, and if you understand the emotions of your own family in recent times, you can understand the child's situation.

Children don't know how to fight, they will be sensible if they do, they don't have to be afraid of broken arms and legs, they have regenerative functions at a young age, and they will grow out of themselves.

Send you four words to "teach by example" and understand it yourself.

Children's values have not yet been formed, so it is very important for parents to teach by word and deed, and parents usually set a good example for their sons.

When many parents face their ignorant children, the first thing they think of is to educate their children, and if they are extreme, they will beat and scold their children. Thinking that children are ignorant is a sign of lack of upbringing. So I took the trouble to nag and preach over and over again around the child.

Many times, moms and dads find that their preaching doesn't work. As a result, the child will be beaten and scolded, and the child will become well-behaved under the intimidation of his parents, but he also seems to have lost the spirituality of his childhood.

And when we face our own ignorant children, don't find the reason in the children first. Children are actually a mirror of their parents, and their shortcomings are the epitome of our parents. So first of all, you have to see if you have any of these shortcomings.

Sometimes, it's as simple as that. When we correct these shortcomings, the children will follow us. Because example is better than words, you have to obey.

There is now a popular education for boys. Just don't be a 100-point mom. In the education of boys, it is necessary to cultivate their manhood from an early age.

In education, if you are weak, he will be strong, and if you are strong, he will be weak. If you are his big tree, he can only be small grass. If you do the little grass around him, he will grow into a big tree to protect you.

Therefore, as a mother of a boy, we must take the initiative to show weakness in front of our son. There are many things that you don't know how to do and don't dare to do, and they use them to inspire their masculinity. They feel that their mother needs their care, their protection, and they will become strong on their own.

When they do anything for you, don't forget to encourage them and say: having a son or not is different.

I believe that your children, under this correct way of education, will become more and more sensible and stronger.

The idea is that although it is relatively rough, the central idea is fine: don't get used to the child, wait for him to really get rid of the help of his parents, face the outside world, and face those difficulties; If he can't get over those hurdles, then he will naturally understand that he is ignorant; If he has crossed some hurdles by himself, then as a parent, it is okay to be happy - if you don't beat him, society will beat him, and if you don't teach him at home, someone will teach him when you go out.

23 years old, a fully adult and has his own thinking, communication can solve the best, if you can't communicate, let him go, give some guidance in a timely manner, don't be too tough, otherwise it will be more rebellious; Maintain a good parent-child relationship, at least have the right to know what he is going through (don't say anything if the relationship is not good), so that even if there is a risk, try to be in a position that you can control or help him stop the loss.

It's still very tough to ask questions that are not obedient.

Answer: Because I am already 23 years old, unlike when I was a child, I relied on you, I have the ability to be independent, and I have more of my own ideas, this age is more about the need for guidance, as well as the stop loss within my ability, and I can't force him to do what he doesn't want to do, but only to guide, and the mandatory consequences may cause tension in family relationships.

Question: What should I do if I don't spit until 3 o'clock at night?

Question: We are bricklayers who stick bricks.

Ask questions and don't want to work.

It's too late. When I asked a question, I didn't listen to it and did it right.

Or let him go to work in the factory, and try to experience the hard work of making money and not gnaw on his parents.

Or if possible, send him to the army.

Let the troops hone him.

You can't let him be by your side, otherwise you will become dependent on yourself and don't work hard, and the results may be unacceptable.

Sensible? What does it mean to be sensible? What does it mean to be ignorant? If the child does everything according to what I say is called sensible, then I would rather the child not be sensible, and an overly sensible child is distressing.

I have a little niece in my family, her parents divorced when she was 2 years old, and she was awarded to her mother, but her mother was very busy with work, so she could only be left at her grandfather's house. Once I went to her grandfather's house, and saw that she was very sensible, and when someone else came to visit, she found good shoes and handed them to you, and found a good water cup to bring to you. She was only three years old at the time, and I was very surprised by such understanding, shouldn't children at this age be a period when self-consciousness is being formed, they should be very self-conscious.

I've observed many times that this kid is really very sensible only at his grandfather's house, and he will be much better when he plays with us. In the end, I found the root cause, it turned out that Grandpa Shui found a stepwife, she knew in her heart that the grandma was not her own grandmother, and the step-grandmother often blamed her, and she felt unfree at her grandfather's house, and the feeling of being under the fence by that kind of parasitic person. So she is unusually sensible and wants to show that she is well-behaved and obedient in front of them.

This kind of sensibility makes me very distressed, because this is not really her, so that a three-year-old child has the mind of an adult, it is really cruel, this is not really sensible, maybe many adults like such sensible children, but from the inner level, children are just shown to adults, because children are children, love to play, love to laugh, naughty. Grimaces, and doing "bad things" are their true selves.

So, adults, please stop letting your child be obedient and sensible, even if you get such a child, but all you get is her non-real self in order to get your affirmation.

First, set a good example for your children. There is a classic saying in the field of children's education: children who are good parents are usually not bad.

So if a child's behavior becomes annoying, it must be that the parents are not doing well enough. If you want your child to become better, then you must first be strict with yourself and set a good example for your child. When your child is in constant contact with you, he will imitate your behavior and behave in a way, and then he will become an obedient and sensible child.

Second, change your child's environment. We have all heard the story of Meng's mother's three migrations, and a good environment is crucial to a child's development. If your child is very naughty, it is likely that the children around him are all this virtue, then you should consider changing the environment for your child.

Nowadays, many people are complaining about the high cost of school district housing, in fact, it is precisely because the school district housing is a place where parents who want their children to become Jackie Chan compete, and they have an excellent learning atmosphere, so such a good environment is of course expensive. You can find a better environment for your child according to your actual situation. If the child lives in an environment where everyone is polite, then he has no one to imitate if he wants to learn badly.

Children's education has always been the top priority for parents, when the son is not sensible, noisy, parents are reluctant to scold, but they are anxious, is there any way to educate their son well?

First of all, we need to understand the psychology of children. Sometimes the child is naughty and ignorant may be that he has a certain demand that is not satisfied, we have to inquire carefully, when the child's wish is not reached, he will take some extreme ways to express his dissatisfaction, such as making a lot of noise, throwing things, etc. At this time, parents must not take the same radical behavior, which is easy to cause psychological shadows and damage to their children.

We can educate him by asking, and then we can also educate him by encouraging. For example, if your child wants to buy toys, you can say to your child, "You dress yourself, wash your face and brush your teeth every day, and I will buy them for you for five days."

This not only allows him to develop good habits, but also lets him know that asking for things needs to be exchanged, and it is not something that can be obtained by casually being coquettish and shouting a few times.

Secondly, we cannot pamper our children. Excessive doting can only hurt him. Be serious when you should be serious, and be gentle when you should be gentle.

Otherwise, you will get used to the child's temper, and it will be difficult to correct it when you are older. Of course, seriousness is not to look at each other angrily, but to reason with him in a serious tone. Let him recognize his mistakes.

The second is to take him to places with many children to play and communicate. They have common concerns and preferences among their peers, so don't blindly enroll him in tutorial classes, but be selective according to his preferences. Let him have more contact with society.

Many times social experiences cannot be learned in the classroom. In addition, the schoolwork load is already very heavy now, so don't put pressure on him anymore.

In short, there must be a reason why the son is ignorant, and parents must find the root cause of the problem and treat it rationally.