My ex girlfriend says she still loves me, but I m almost married, should I abandon my current girlfr

Updated on psychology 2024-06-12
15 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Glad I gave you the answer to this question, and seeing your description of this issue, my personal opinion has given you advice like this. First, you describe your ex-girlfriend saying he still loves you. But now that you're about to get married, you're struggling with whether to find your ex-girlfriend or marry your current girlfriend?

    I'm sure you probably already have the answer in your mind when you ask this question. Because you ask this question, it also proves that you are still a little at ease with your ex-girlfriend, you still have opinions about him, and you still have memories of him. So he asked you this sentence, and your heart wavered.

    That is to say that your heart is not entirely on your current girlfriend. If your heart is completely on your current girlfriend, you won't ask this question, you will directly choose to get married, tell him that although we have loved, it has passed, and now I am going to get married, and I hope you will also find a good person. That's what you say.

    But the question you're struggling with now is because he asked you, and he told you that he still loves you. In fact, anyone who gives you can only be advice. You should have the answer in your own mind.

    Because in emotional matters, only you know which side you are more inclined towards. You ditch everything now, and if you don't ask, you ask yourself. Do you want to be with your ex-girlfriend or with your current girlfriend?

    Make a decision that is responsible for all three. It's the best. Finally, I wish you a happy life.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    The past is the past, a breakup is a breakup, you can't be so indecisive, how can you be so right? Feelings are not child's play, since you have given up a long time ago, don't bother, those feelings and injuries in the past, as long as you keep them in mind. People's feelings are moving forward, the perspective will change, and the attitude towards things will be different, maybe she is no longer suitable for you now.

    Many things, don't force it, don't keep it in your heart as an obsession, you have to let him pass the past things, so that you can let go, in order to let yourself move forward completely, don't let yourself be immersed in the memories of the past, then you will collapse, you can't see your future, the past has long passed, you have to learn to let go. The road of life is very short, I have gray hair in the busy, I am old, and when I look back, I find that I only have one way to go back!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    You're getting married, and your ex-girlfriend says she still loves you. Can you still believe her words? Where did she go?

    When you're about to get married, she shows up again and says she still loves you. You must not believe a woman's lies. Don't step on two boats, and in the end, the chicken is not the egg.

    A void. Let's get married in a down-to-earth manner. Don't let another girl down.

    Make the right choice once.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    You're almost married, do you think it's okay for you to go to your ex-girlfriend now and abandon the person who is now with you to marry in the future? Don't you think it's very unfair to treat your current girlfriend like this, a love is broken like a hemp rope, and then there will definitely be a knot in the middle of the street, or it will definitely not be strong, the above is my personal opinion, thank you.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    If you still have feelings for your ex-girlfriend, then don't delay your current girlfriend and apologize directly to others and break up peacefully. If you don't like it, please treat your current girlfriend well.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    For your ex-girlfriend, it's best to ignore him or contact him, and you're a person who is about to get married, if you abandon your current girlfriend, how can you be worthy of him?

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Now that you're about to get married, don't think about it, it's over, then let it pass.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I've already said that it's just an ex-girlfriend, so let's cherish the person in front of me.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Doing so will seriously hurt your fiancée.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It's not, it's just that she met someone more suitable for marriage.

    Reasons for getting married:

    First, because of love.

    There are many reasons for marriage, the most common is because of love, now many young people will fall in love when they reach a certain age, and when the time is ripe, they will hold a marriage ceremony to announce that the two are officially husband and wife.

    But anyone who has experienced marriage knows that after a couple becomes husband and wife, the relationship between the two slowly begins to fade, and the conflict begins, so the newlyweds should be prepared to deal with married life.

    2. Getting married because of old age.

    According to the survey, people will want a harmonious family when they reach a certain age, especially at the age of twenty-five, they will start to think about marriage, and by the age of thirty, no matter how enterprising people are, they will be anxious to find a life partner. However, everyone's concept of marriage is different, some people are early and some people are late, but most people will feel panic when they are old and their marriage has not yet been settled.

    3. Marry for the sake of your children.

    There are also some people who marry for children, but there are very few of them, because for people who have not yet started a family, children are generally not considered. If you marry someone who is only interested in children, then there may be a lot of conflict in your future life, because you always think that the other person only cares about children and ignores yourself.

    Therefore, couples should remember that you have an obligation to create a warm and comfortable home for your children, but it does not mean that you ignore the feelings of the two people.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Hello! Now that it's already separated, don't think about it anymore, since she's married, you should put her down and start your new life, don't let yourself live too tired, people have to look forward, let him pass the past, don't always live in the shadow of the past, that won't be good for you, you say! There are many good men, there is no need to suffer your heart for someone who doesn't love you, it's not worth it, come on, I hope you can find your happiness as soon as possible!

    Wishing you happiness!!Patient information: Male 3 years old unmarried I have been separated from her for half a year, but I have never given up on her, we are college classmates, after graduation we came to Shanghai together to work hard, a year later we bought a house in Shanghai, we have been working hard, but she got married after we separated for half a year, does she really not love me anymore?

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    The family discord of the ex-girlfriend will inevitably lead to his emotions, a little bit psychologically, which is abnormal. And you broke up with him at the beginning, although you proposed it, it should also have something to do with his situation in this regard. And I don't know how long you've broken up, and after the breakup, have you both been looking for someone else?

    If after the breakup, both parties are thinking about each other and are not looking for anyone else, it means that you have a relationship foundation. If you have found someone else, you feel that everyone else is not suitable, and you think that it is still suitable for the two of you, then you should be together. Although you are now in your 30s, you no longer believe in love.

    But marriage is the grave of love. The purpose of marriage is not to continue love. It's about living the second half of your life well.

    So there's something wrong with your thinking. According to what you mean by this? You don't have that deep feelings for your ex-girlfriend, it's just because you can't find it anymore.

    I can't find the person you want to be anymore, so you want to make do with it and live like this for the rest of your life. But this thinking is very wrong. Look for him.

    You have to have an encounter that is to be able to judge that your future will be able to live peacefully for the rest of your life. Or live this life in a noisy and noisy way. After getting married, love is no longer important.

    It is often said that no matter how strong love is, it will eventually be transformed into family affection. If you think that the two of you can turn into family affection later in life, it is okay to be together. If you can't even do this.

    Then it shouldn't be together. This is the advice of someone who has come before. Maybe you don't realize it right now.

    When you get married, slowly, you will have an understanding, and by that time, most of your life will pass. So if possible, stick to your heart. Another thing to remind you is that the ex-girlfriend is divorced because of family discord.

    I don't know if it's a bad influence on him, or a good impression. If he thinks he doesn't want to live like his parents anymore. Maybe it's a good thing for you.

    He will cherish you even more and cherish the relationship between the two of you. If he is also very disappointed in his family, then stay with you. It is quite possible that he will follow the path of his parents.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It depends on whether you still love her or not, if you still love each other, it is better to make up for your regrets.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    She will not divorce if she marries you, it depends on your feelings for her, I wish you happiness.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If an ex-girlfriend I've been breaking up with for two or three years suddenly says she's going to marry me, I'll think about it calmly first. First, I will recall the reasons for our breakup and how it changed after the breakup. If I can clearly see that the problems between us have been resolved, and that we have both grown and changed, then perhaps we can laugh and reconsider the possibility of being together.

    However, I also think about my current state of life and psychological state, and whether I am ready to be emotionally involved again and take on the responsibilities of marriage. Marriage is a long-term commitment that requires joint effort and dedication from both parties. Eventually, I will have a frank conversation with my ex-girlfriend, express my thoughts and feelings, and discuss our future development direction with the family.

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