What does it feel like to be the pillar of the house?

A home always has a pillar, as the name suggests, he is as important as the pillar of a house. If a house loses its roof and pillars, the consequences are unknown.

I'm the youngest in our family, maybe I don't have much personal experience, but let me talk about my understanding, after all, everyone has their own pillar of home, and I will become the pillar of the family in the future.

I think the two biggest feelings of being a pillar are stress and happiness.

There should be no objection to the pressure, unless you have a strong family background, do not worry about food and clothing, and stay at home or travel every day. But being stressed is not a bad thing, it is normal, and it can show that you are self-motivated.

A good man who is responsible and responsible. As the pillar of a family, the goal is to improve the life of the family and create a better quality of life for the family, so it is self-evident that there is pressure. If there is pressure, there is motivation, and there is courage to overcome it, so that you can work harder to achieve your goals.

As a pillar of the pillar, there is also a full sense of happiness, which may be mysterious, but those who are in the situation should have a deep understanding. It is also a very happy thing to support the whole family and shelter them from the wind and rain and work hard. Drink the tea prepared for you by your family, hear your family's concern for you, and see the surprise ...... your family has prepared for youI feel that the fatigue has been eliminated a lot, and I am more motivated, and at the same time, I can feel the love of my family.

The fulfillment of happiness and the motivation generated by pressure are all wrapped up as a pillar of support. If the subject is mainly into the "industry", you have to work hard!

When we were children, we relied on our father, and the family's economy all came from our father's sweat, working hard bit by bit, in exchange for our hard-earned money to let us study, what they looked forward to was when we could grow up, and we didn't need their care, just like an eagle can start to spread its wings and fly.

At that time, my father was the pillar of the family, and if I didn't have my father, the family might not be able to survive, so the pillar of responsibility was great.

Time passed in the blink of an eye, and we were already able to earn money to support our family, and we slowly replaced my father's position and became the pillar of the family. So what does it feel like to be the pillar of the house?

I grew up in the countryside, my parents will go out to work after the Spring Festival every year, and every year during the Chinese New Year, the whole family eats together, but the responsibility of the whole family is so pressed on me, my two sisters and my eldest brother did not graduate from high school and did not get into a good university, but the whole family pinned their hopes on me and let me go to other cities to study, and then finally I was admitted to the bachelor's degree.

My family felt a little relieved, there was an undergraduate student in the family, but everything changed when I went to college, and the breadwinner of the family changed from my father to me, but I still felt that I was not capable enough to support the whole family.

My father didn't know why he stopped working seriously since I was in college, and every day he traveled except to play poker or mahjong with a few friends, he just gambled with hundreds of yuan every day, and didn't even think about how to get my tuition and living expenses.

At the same time, my mother is also a housewife, taking care of my father three times a day is to do laundry and sleeping, and I didn't think about working in a restaurant or supermarket for a long time, so my life began to deteriorate.

If I don't work hard to earn some living expenses, then I only have the road to go hungry to choose, every time I think of the amount of debt my father owes, my heart trembles, all kinds of relatives and friends, but in a few years I will be able to marry a daughter-in-law, all by me to buy a house and buy a car, I think I need to work hard for about a few decades, because now this society is really too expensive.

And my father can't even pay off the debts he owes outside, not to mention that when I buy a house and make a down payment in the future, I don't know how I suddenly became the pillar of the family, I have no defense at all, and now the only feeling in my heart is that I must work hard and make money in the future, so that I can successfully hold this pillar up.

Therefore, when the pillar of the family feels a great responsibility, a little lax, and the problem that may be faced is that there is not enough food and clothing, and we must carry this pillar.

When you become the head of the family, I think your status will become very high in the family, and you can even be regarded as the head of the family.

When you become the pillar of the family, then I think the economy of the family depends mainly on you. At this point, you may be facing a little pressure. After all, in this society, life is not so easy.

If you have a stable job, a good income, and you are the breadwinner of your family, I think you will be proud of yourself. People are like this, and this is when you can show the importance of your ability to your family.

When you become the pillar of the family, you have the power to make decisions about many important things in the family. If you're not bothered by the economy, you should feel good about it.

But if your family is not wealthy, and you have a large family that usually has a lot of money on you, then you will feel pressured when you are the pillar, because the family is counting on you.

You will feel a heavy burden on your shoulders, and if you can't make it, I think you will be very distressed in your heart. In fact, I personally think that different people feel different about becoming the pillars of the family, I have to look at their family situation, their psychological pressure, and their personality characteristics.

I'm more inclined to mention the kind of poorer families, when you are the pillar of such a family, you may feel very tired, you may keep working for a living, you don't have to work hard, don't pay here. Even if you face great pressure and big problems, you can only face them head-on. Because you are the pillar of the family, you can't back down, and if you do, the family will be in trouble.

For marriage, men will have some fear, because getting married means that men are no longer at ease from now on, they have to be responsible for another person's life, they have to take on the responsibilities of a family, they have to be a husband and a father, and they will lose their freedom from now on. The reason why men have such fears is probably because they know how important they are in a family, so they want to escape. For a family, a man is the pillar of the family, a great man who can stand up to the sky and protect himself from the wind and rain.

Such a responsibility may be a bit heavy for a man, but in a woman's heart, a man is the heaven of a family and the pillar of a family.

It is also a product of a patriarchal society, in today's cry of equality between men and women, men still have more career advantages than women, according to relevant statistics, men's salary income is basically higher than women. Therefore, in a family, the man often bears the main economic burden of the family, is the main labor of the family, and is the one who makes more money in the family. Therefore, men have a say in the larger expenses of the family.

Economically, a man is the pillar of a family, and a man's economic income grows steadily, so that the family can maintain normal operation and daily life is worry-free If a man suddenly loses his job, it is a very serious matter for a family, because a man's unemployment is likely to cause a family's economic crisis. When a man is rich, the family becomes rich, and if a man has no money, the family is poor, and in most families, this is the result, except in a few cases, of course.

In relationships, men are also key figures in a family. As the saying goes, the daughter who marries out spills the water, after the woman gets married, the interpersonal relationship of the family is still dominated by the in-laws, and the man, as the head of the family, is not only the bond between the woman and the in-laws, but also the key person to take care of the interpersonal relationship within the family for the woman. In the newly formed family of men and women, the man is a central store, and the in-laws, uncles, sisters-in-law, brothers and sisters, all have contact with the woman because of this man.

Men's attitudes often determine other people's views of the family, and also determine the attitudes of other people in the family towards women So for women, in this family, the only thing they can rely on is their husband, who is their spiritual pillar and their emotional pillar. Without this man, a woman cannot live in this family, and there is no need to live in this family, men are the key to maintaining a family.

Capable men will feel.

Incompetent men.

Generally very unconvinced.

Why do you want me to earn money alone?

My father said I was the breadwinner of the family, and now it seems that this is indeed the case. In the past few years, everyone in the family has begun to get sick, grandma has been paralyzed for more than ten years, children are busy earning money, only grandpa alone to take care of, more than ten years of hard work, so that grandpa's body is also a little unbearable, set up two stents, and recently Chunliang was diagnosed with lacunar cerebral infarction and senile cerebral atrophy. My mother and uncle hurried back to treat the disease, but they also had to worry about the family's patients and business.

And my mother, who broke her leg last year, has not fully recovered. Because of years of manual labor, my father's arms are often sore.

On the other hand, my aunt's health has not been good, stomach bleeding, insufficient blood supply to the heart, anemia and various symptoms are frequently in and out of the hospital, and my sister-in-law has recently undergone surgery for lung nodules, and her 7-year-old sister was put at her friend's house because no one took care of her. My aunt's family is far away from home, and she has no relatives to help her when she encounters things, so her life is more embarrassing.

The younger brothers and sisters are still young, the eldest brother is in the army and can't go home, the second and third brothers are in school, the second brother is in college, and the school has not yet started due to the epidemic, and he can still help his uncle's business. My little sister is still young and needs someone to take care of her.

Now it's just me, I have a regular job, and I'm not very busy. I've seen more of the world, and I'm able to work hard outside. I have become the breadwinner of the family, and my burden is getting heavier and heavier, and I need to worry about the health and life of the people in my family to make them happy.

I hope that I can take care of the family so that they no longer have to worry about money and suffer because of illness, and I hope that I can be a "good parent".

My father is already in the advanced stage of lymphoma, and my mother is in charge of all the farm work at home. Mom was also sick, but she barely persevered when she saw her dad sick, and she didn't dare to show it in front of her dad. Mom bought a lot of eggs for the hens to cover the chicks and rubber pie cubs in order to supplement the family a few years ago, and now only a few chickens are still alive, and the living chickens are also dead, and there is no one every now and then, and the mother is very sad.

Mom complained that "I have to do my job, but I don't have to use my money", and I don't blame my mother for such a sigh, because the family spent all the money to see my father's doctor in order to leak it. But I don't have a job yet, and my younger brother is still learning excavators, and he needs tuition and living expenses. My father's wish was for my brother and I to find a job and get paid every month.

Fortunately, I opened a ** while studying, and I barely supported my personal tuition and living expenses, so that I would no longer drag down my parents.

A few days ago, my mother told me, "You will be the pillar of this family in the future", and after listening to a few words, I panicked. I thought to myself, although I am in the 20s, I still want to play compared to my peers, I am still in college, and no job means no stable income, how can I stand up to this big family alone. My sister is a married daughter again, and the water that was spilled out will not care about our lives anymore.

Besides, she would only gag me with the sentence "I can't move my home to my parents".

Now I have to bear my brother's tuition fees, my mother's family expenses, my father's hospital expenses, and my own expenses. Sometimes I feel so tired walking on the road. Liang Sohe sometimes wished he was a boy, so that at least I could have more strength and help with some heavy work.

My parents said that this year was the last year to plant crops, and they couldn't plant anymore.

I'm used to being busy and busy, but now I'm busy reading books, hoping that I can find a job sooner. I really hope that the bad things at home will pass sooner, and I really hope to find a job sooner.

The roof beam column originally referred to the columns that played the role of supporting the beams in the building structure. It refers to people or things that play a very important role in life, and it is a metaphor for the backbone of the main role!

In social life, integrity is the pillar; In the unit, the backbone is the pillar; The person who supports the family is the pillar of the family!