In a long marital relationship, it is easy to be ignored by both parties What are the little things

The secret of harmony in our marriage and love.

Among many single friends, except for some of them who have delayed lifelong events because of work and career, there are also many people who don't know what kind of relationship and what kind of person is suitable for them. Many people have never seen what a very harmonious marriage is like, nor have they experienced what a truly close relationship is like. Whenever I think about "what a truly intimate relationship looks like" or "what kind of relationship do I want most", I feel a little overwhelmed.

Due to the lack of a blueprint and a role model, I was confused in my relationship, made a lot of wrong choices, and experienced a lot of setbacks because of this.

When it comes to the daily relationship between lovers, many people's subconscious reaction is how warm and romantic the two parties are, accompanied by all kinds of sweet and small details. But this is only on the surface, and the relatively simple show of affection does not intuitively reflect the state that lovers should have. Here are 13 tips for your useful reference ---

1. Your partner is your best friend;

2. You can talk, not because you want to be in love, but because you want to be together, you want to be together;

3. Being with each other can effectively reduce anxiety;

4.Staying in the same room and doing things separately will not feel disturbed or cold;

5. Both parties can be honest about their various habits;

6. The three views are compatible, and when encountering different opinions, they can seek common ground while reserving differences;

7. Mutual appreciation, common learning and progress, mutual respect;

8. There is space, there is secret, but there is no deception, honesty at this moment;

9. There is no violence;

10. Important matters must be decided after discussion between the two parties;

11. Will not bring any "shackles" to the other party, and will not carry out "emotional kidnapping";

12. Respect each other's parents and friends;

13. Have your own independent circle.

Summary: Equality with each other, mutual admiration, mutual respect, mutual gratitude. This is the state that lovers should have; Both parties appreciate each other, love each other, respect each other, and are grateful to be able to have each other and work together to overcome difficulties, which is what a beautiful and healthy love should look like.

Two people choose to separate because of their children, and they think it's not a big deal, but in fact, such a thing is the most dangerous, and it is likely to break the relationship between the two people.

This is the case for such a small thing as not returning home at night, and if the man is used to it and thinks it is not a big deal, it may be the beginning of the breakdown of the marriage.

In the course of their married life, two people have less and less common language and less and less communication, and such a thing must be taken seriously.

Reduced communication between two people or two people rarely go out to eat together or go out to the movies together are things that should be taken seriously.

When boys are particularly depressed because of some pressure, girls don't know how to understand, and this little thing will be particularly unhappy in the eyes of men!

When women go shopping, men don't like to accompany them, and this little thing will be particularly uncomfortable in the hearts of girls.

I don't care about the other person's feelings, the tone of conversation with the other party is occasionally cold, and I don't remember the wedding anniversary, these seem to be trivial things, but they are easy to make the marriage estranged.

I think the small things that are easy to ignore should be that two people have different views on some things, and there are different values.

Husband and wife live a life, communication is mutual understanding and support, is to discuss solutions with each other, a husband and wife should respect and tolerate each other, not do their own thing, I will do what I want, this is unfair to each other, at least the right to know.

The right to respect must be there, live a life on behalf of each other, you have me, I have you, so that the family is warm and sweet. If you drum-to-drum, you will be restless, your heart will not think in one place, you have different dreams in the same bed, look at each other's eyes are not eyes, noses are not noses, do you say that you can live a good life like this? Maintaining a marriage requires mutual communication.

Through mutual communication, mutual understanding, mutual understanding, mutual trust, and mutual tolerance. in order to better maintain the marriage. Make the marriage of husband and wife harmonious, happy and happy.

Couples need to reflect on themselves. Think about it, the problem is **. Why there are conflicts between husband and wife.

Why can't you communicate. Find out where you fall short. Correct your mistakes in a timely manner.

Admit your mistakes to the other person. Get the understanding of the other party. Calm down, and the couple have a good talk.

Understand and tolerate each other's hardships.

Increase the affection of the couple. If the marriage is sick, that is, both people are sick, then look for **, and the person who wakes up first finds himself.

own **. Find your own **, don't rush to admit your mistakes to the other party, unless the other party is also willing to find**, willing to cooperate with you, willing to change. Otherwise, the two people still can't communicate.

Find the first party to make changes, change a little bit by Li Jing, and slowly resolve your dissatisfaction and hatred in the other party's heart. This kind of change is a long time, and because of the uncertainty of the change process, it will go back and forth. It's normal for people who make changes to have all kinds of emotions because of the other person's attitude.

Because you are also a patient, you are also changing for this family and for each other. And the other party will be even more aggressive, and will even disdain, thinking that you are posturing. Therefore, the process is complex and depends mainly on the degree of change in the person's mindset and efforts.

If there is a lack of communication for a long time, the contradiction between the two people will become deeper and deeper, and the two people will not understand each other, and they will be suspicious of each other, which is not conducive to the feelings between the two people, and will make the two people have a very deep misunderstanding, a very deep estrangement, and they will often quarrel.

It will cause two people to have no sense of trust. It will be strange. Living a life is like taking a job, which can lead to a broken relationship and eventually a divorce.

If two people do not communicate for a long time in the process of marriage, the relationship between two people will definitely be particularly cold, and there will be a lot of estrangement between two people.

It will lead to two people having no communication, no common language, deepening misunderstanding of each other, different dreams in the same bed, less and less feelings, hating each other, and eventually breaking up leading to divorce.

If you don't communicate, it will make two people stupid, they will drift apart, and they will not understand each other, and they don't want to understand each other.