Why is it hard to get married, why is it so hard to get married?

Men born in the 80s are the most embarrassed, they don't want money, and they haven't survived until that time. In short, beautiful women are followed by rich people, and it is difficult to compare with them after 80s! Unless you are very good and capable, it is not that your family background is very good and your economic foundation is good.

Otherwise, you can only accept the reality! I'm also born in the 80s, so I'm just going to nag!

Yes, I don't want to do hard work, I can't do it, I can't do the work with technology, what can I do, hey, haha, don't worry, you're going to find the job you like.

Two, don't be pessimistic, although I am married, my husband and I are both post-80s. My husband only graduated two years and we got married, not to mention the moneyAt that time, he didn't even have a stable job.

Within a year of our marriage, we were still living a life of paying off our debts and changing jobs, hehe, what about me. It's pretty too. There are quite a few people chasing him, why marry him, just because of love, so don't be pessimistic, it's just that you haven't met it in front of you.

But I will definitely meet it in the future, and there should still be girls with this point of view!

I read a lot, and you see that those post-80s generations who came out of the countryside have been working all day long and supporting their families.

It's like you have nothing to do all day long, you can't do high-skilled work, and you don't want to do hard-working work.

It's been a year.

The older I get, the harder it is to get married, and sometimes I often wonder if I'm just going to be single all my life and grow old alone. Now I feel that it is difficult to get married, mainly because of these reasons.

1. The cost of marriage is too high.

Now that I am married, the house and car are already standard. The first question when you go on a blind date is whether you have a room, Duan Gai is just a girl's request, and the girl's parents will also ask for it, and of course, the matchmaker's request. The attitude of having a house and not having a house in the eyes of matchmakers is really completely different.

If you don't have a house, the matchmaker has always been me, and I don't have any good resources here, so I don't want to help you pay attention to it. When you have a room, the matchmaker immediately takes out a bunch of girl resources for you to choose, and if one doesn't work, arrange the next one.

But for young people, without the help of their families, there are a few people who can really afford to buy a house on their own. If you want to have a house and a car in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, you really can't work for a few years. In second-, third- and fourth-tier cities, it is also very difficult to buy a house or a car compared to the wages of young people.

In the face of the current high housing prices, I believe that many people, like me, have no hope of struggle, look at their balance and look at the ** of the house, and instantly feel the terrible gap between the rich and the poor. Of course, there are bride prices, wedding rings, banquets, etc., everything needs money, and in this era, no money is really suitable for anyone. The cost of getting married is too high.

2. There are too many requirements for marriage.

As I get older, I find it harder and harder to find a partner because of the more and more requirements I have. A series of requirements such as height, appearance, work, family situation, etc. It's basically impossible to really find satisfaction, and it's especially difficult to find someone who is about the same.

Marriage is different from love, in addition to your own requirements, there are also various requirements of your parents. If you want to get married, it becomes very realistic, not only considering whether you have a car and a house now, but also considering a series of issues such as supporting your family after marriage, providing for the elderly, raising children, and so on. Sometimes it's harder to get married if you think about it too much, it's better when you're young, it's good to fool a stupid person to get married, the older you get, the more you worry about it, and the harder it is to get off the list in the end.

3. It is difficult to find a marriage partner.

The older I get, the more difficult it is to find that most of the people I can know around me are married, and it becomes more and more difficult to find suitable and satisfactory people. I am usually busy with work and overtime, and my life trajectory is only one line between the company and my home. Basic blind date has become the only way to get rid of singles.

But every time a blind date is introduced, there are crooked melons and cracked dates, and many girls are ugly and have special requirements.

Basically, now on a blind date, as long as you are single, you will pull it out to meet, and cast a wide net looking forward to meeting a blind person who takes a fancy to me. But the cost of blind dates is also very high, eating and watching movies cost money, and many of them are not followed when they meet, and blind dates are also a lot of expenses for a year. I really feel that the older I get, it's too difficult to get off the list.

Why is it so difficult for young people to get married now? Because it is difficult for everyone to skip these four stages when looking for a partner or blind date.

In the first stage, 80% of the men and women who meet for the first time are brushed off because of their education, appearance, and body height of less than 180cm (limited to men), and it is difficult to enter the next level.

In the second stage, I finally entered the state of looking at each other, and I made a few contacts, but because of whether I would chat humorously, whether I was a warm man, whether I was working in the same city, etc., I was put aside before I entered the state of love, and the development was too fast and I felt that the other party was a bit of a scumbag, and I felt that I was too honest when I was slow, and only a few people entered the next stage.

In the third stage, this time has entered the run-in period of love, generally the woman wants to ask the man to accompany the man to buy and eat in various shopping malls on the weekend, come back to all kinds of friends, the economy almost can't bear it in advance, take the initiative to flash back, can withstand it, but also carefully wait, there is no shortage of Wang dare to say anything slack, if there is a little friction during the period, try to think that the other party changes to cater to themselves, and finally find that no one can cater to anyone, and finally feel that it is not in line with their own choice to escape or give up, So only a smaller number of people can get married.

At this time in the fourth stage, the two parties began to discuss marriage, and found that there were problems such as houses, cars, income, family economic situation of both parties, and future elderly support and children, etc., and there were parting ways.

First, sufficient economic foundation as support.

In this era, if you want to start a family, the condition that you must consider is undoubtedly money, which is not to say vanity and power, this is just one of the conditions for surviving in this society.

Second, the character of both sides.

Marriage is a matter of two people, the most important thing for two people together is to be able to run in, if they can tolerate and understand each other, then it is possible to live, the man must have enough sense of responsibility to take on the whole family, and the woman must be tolerant and understanding, two people to manage the marriage together, in order to harvest a happy life.

3. Freshness will maintain the quality of the marriage.

Freshness is the most important thing no matter what the situation, keep a proper distance, and give the other half a new experience every day, such as giving each other a little surprise every day, a flower, and a beautiful evening sail reed dinner.

Fourth, the parents of the other half will not be too dry.

The most breaking thing for a woman after getting married is to face the problem of her in-laws, for fear that her in-laws will not like it and make things difficult everywhere, which is the problem that women are most worried about. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a great impact, and two people cannot understand each other, which is prone to many problems.

Fifth, whether a man really loves you?

Whether a man has true love for you, whether he has a heart to play or really wants to live with you for a lifetime, you can see from the man's usual details and attitude towards you, whether he can tolerate you and tolerate you, if he is not sincere, don't get married.

6. Family atmosphere.

The family atmosphere of a family is too important, if the family is deserted, everyone does not talk, and everyone does their own things, the family will be very depressing after staying for a long time.

It is difficult to get married, that is, in today's society, people are facing the pressure of getting married and the difficulty of fast selling. This phenomenon is seen in different regions, cultural backgrounds and age groups. Here are some specific reasons why it is difficult to get married:

1.Impact of socio-economic development: With the rapid development of the economy and the rising cost of living, young people are facing greater financial pressure.

In this case, marriage often requires higher economic costs, such as buying real estate, bride price, wedding expenses, etc., which makes many young people Qingchangzheng feel unbearable. 2.Imbalance in the sex ratio:

In some regions, the imbalance between men and women has led to a relative scarcity of marriageable women, which in turn has increased the competitive pressure on the marriage market. This makes it more difficult for many men to get married. 3.

Education and career development: With the improvement of education level and the diversification of career development, more and more young people choose to postpone marriage or not to marry in order to focus on career and personal development. This has led to a general delay in the age of marriage, making it more difficult to get married.

4.Changing values: In modern society, people's values are becoming more and more diverse, and expectations for marriage and family have also changed.

Some young people no longer see marriage as a necessity in life, but instead pursue a more independent and autonomous lifestyle. 5.The impact of social networks:

The popularity of social networks has made it easier for people to meet new people, but at the same time, the relationships people have built in the virtual world have become more vulnerable. This makes it difficult for many young people to find a suitable partner in real life, which makes it more difficult to get married. 6.

Rising divorce rate: In recent years, the divorce rate in our country has been on the rise, which has caused some young people to have concerns about marriage, thus reducing their willingness to get married. To sum up, the difficulty of marriage is a complex social phenomenon that is affected by a variety of factors.

In order to deal with this problem, society, and families should work together to create a more inclusive and equal marriage environment and help young people solve the problem of difficulty in getting married.