How to elegantly fight back at the person who gossips you behind your back?

I think the most elegant response is not to care about that.

Life is said behind someone's backBad wordsI think everyone has it, so there's no need to take it too seriously. Each of us is not perfect, there will be shortcomings, there will be shortcomings, it is normal to be said behind people's backs, think about it carefully, we will more or less talk about others behind our backs, so for me, the point is not the point, the point is elegance, after all, you really want to fight back against those who gossip about you behind your back, then it is estimated that you are busy every day and can't finish fighting back, it is better to relax and face these slanders behind it with an elegant attitude.

It's not hard to fight back gracefully, it's hard to find the right opportunity. I remember working in a company before, I lived in an eight-person dormitory, I slept on the top bunk, just facing the air conditioner, the disaster is not alone, the air conditioner can not adjust the temperature or speed, as long as it is turned on, the dry and hot wind will directly hit my face, so that I can't sleep all night long. Later, I couldn't stand it, so I told them to turn off the air conditioner before going to bed, and they didn't have any objections at that time, and they didn't feel too cold after turning it off all night, and I didn't pay much attention to it.

Until one day I was delayed in the bathroom, and I heard the girl in my lower bunk slapping behind me to complain that I had a lot of things, and distorted the facts that I didn't let the air conditioner be turned on, in fact, I didn't get angry, I just felt a little funny, and after listening to it for a while, I opened the bathroom door and went out, and smiled at her, I still remember that her face turned red after seeing me, and she hurriedly went outside to play **. I think she's going to be embarrassed for a while, and I haven't lost my grace, but there aren't too many chances like this.

In short, I personally still think it's best not to care, and it's good to pick it in person if the timing is right. In fact, everyone's position is different, and there will be contradictions and disputes if the thinking point is different, and then there will be gossip or slander behind the back, which is inevitable, and it is best to be able to see the point by yourself, and you don't have to spend a lot of time thinking about how to fight back.

I treat these kinds of people as air. In my eyes, I didn't take them seriously, whatever they said, they were the ones who were having a bad time anyway.

Sometimes when your mouth is on your body, you should also pay attention to the way you speak, instead of biting people everywhere.

Tell those people that excellent people are working hard to do things, and only those who are envious and jealous will have this free time.

A person's life can be described by the eight words about your and my, when you meet someone who is gossiping behind your back, you can elegantly reply with a sentence of "What do you have to do?" “

Summary. Hello, I'm glad to reply to you, how to fight back against gossiping people: 1. Keep an appropriate distance Many workplace villains like to be close to others, constantly testing others, if he thinks you are more honest, he will start to ask you to help do something, if you don't refuse, his requirements will become more and more excessive, and at the same time he will gossip in front of others, telling right and wrong, in order to be able to control you.

Hello, happy to reply to you, how to fight back at gossipers: change slippery.

1. Keep an appropriate distance Many workplace villains, like to be close to others, constantly testing others, if he thinks you are more honest, he will start to let you help do something, if you don't refuse, his requirements will become more and more excessive, and at the same time he will gossip in front of others, and let the rock get right and wrong, in order to be able to control you.

Second, the reason why they will bully you with strength data may be because you are a newcomer and don't know anything here, or it may be because although you are an old man, you are not able to work, and your status in the company or department is relatively low. If you are more capable of working, they will be more afraid of you and dare not interfere with you. At the same time, if your work ability is relatively strong, the leaders will also appreciate you, and they will naturally dare not do anything to you.

3. Fight back cautiously and concisely If this kind of workplace villain is too rampant, and he is still gossiping and telling right and wrong in front of you, we can get up and fight back, let them know their ability, and they can seize one of their loopholes and fight back against them with a pinpoint of urgency, if their counterattack is strong enough, they can make these workplace villains know how to be afraid, so that they no longer dare to be so rampant.

Step 1: Prioritize the gossip.

Some people are born with long tongues, and they care more about the affairs of others than themselves. For this kind of habitual offender who is born with traces, we can't fundamentally change people's intellectual nature. We can first listen to these gossips, whether they are trivial matters that are not a big deal, or whether they involve your matter of principle.

If it's all trivial things that don't matter, let these people who chew the root of their tongues like farts, and they can't be angry about it. If it touches your bottom line, or if it involves personality issues, then we must understand clearly, what did this guy say? It is best to have some clear evidence, such as WeChat chat history, etc.

Step 2: Find out the identity and background of the other party in the company.

Those articles that persuade you to cross your eyebrows as soon as they come up, although they are righteous words, may not be suitable for workplace culture. Who knows which leader's son or boss's relative is this colleague next to you?

In other words, it's not that we're afraid of the powerful, it's that we need to have a judgment about our identity and value in this company. And then there is a corresponding analysis and judgment of the gossip guy. Should you directly reason with the other party about right and wrong, or go to his superiors first, or the person behind it.

The third step is to be targeted and hit the nail on the head, so that the other party can really see your counterattack.

After figuring out what the other party said and did, understanding the identity and background of the other party, weighing your status and value in the company, and whether you are willing to continue to do it, you can start to launch a general attack!

If it's some innocuous little gossip, then let the other party honestly admit your mistake. If there are some issues that touch the principles and even harm your interests, it is best to find him a judge and notary first, so as not to encounter scoundrels and get into endless quarrels between the two of them. At the critical moment, it is better to use the law** than to reason with a villain who has no bottom line.

We have to know that the people who slander you are those who don't like you, don't want you to live well, and don't have a real relationship with you. The people who will slander you are usually your colleagues, your relatives and friends, and some people who don't know you well but know you.

Recently, I found that I didn't offend some people, and I didn't intersect with them very much. But I know from other people that they are speaking ill of me, or they are suddenly not rude as if they were contacting me.

I reflected and reflected on my own behavior and felt that I had not done anything to be sorry for them. Now I understand that everyone's position is different, it's not that you do anything wrong, but that they can't get used to you, or if two people really have different positions, they will slander you in various ways and endlessly say bad things about you behind your back.

I think the best way to deal with those who slander us behind our backs is not to listen, not to step on, and not to fight. Since we like to slander our people, we don't need to pay attention to them, you talk about yours, we don't care anyway.

The wisest way is to deal with it in silence, whether you do well or not, will be said by others, it is not our fault in the first place, the mouth is on other people's faces, we have no way to stop others, but we can regulate our mood.

I like the way you can't get used to me, and you can't beat me, your slander will only make you bothered more, it won't affect me anyway, all I have to do is make my life better and better.

To deal with this kind of villain is to stay away, to have less contact with these people, not to talk too much to these people, and not to talk if it is not necessary. I run in your minds, but you roll in my world.

I'm not a person who doesn't like to talk bad or gossip about a person behind my back. There is no such habit. But, sometimes I also try to be realistic.

Yes! In this generation of false grandchildren, you must control your mouth well, and don't "talk nonsense" behind your back. If you want to talk about a person, say and scold him to his face.

We should know that there is "no impermeable wall" in this world, don't talk nonsense, and one day what you say will reach the ears of others. In this way, others will not give you a good look.

Therefore, you had better not tell people right and wrong behind your back, you must understand that it is not disgraceful for a hidden arrow to hurt people. We can't base our momentary happiness on the suffering of others in order to satisfy our own gossip.

Remember the good of others in the future!