What should I do if I am disgusted by my respected elders?

Look at what kind of elders you have, who have feelings for you, such as your parents, listen to their speeches more, ask for more things, respect their opinions, if you have left home, you should give more ** to the family, in short, it is enough to make the elders feel that they are remembered. If you don't like to see you very much (since the subject said to please, it is estimated that this situation is too much), as long as you remember a sentence, do what you like, everyone has their own preferences, if you have children, you can praise other people's children, if you love beautiful, you can praise your taste in dressing, and you can also give some gifts or something.

Ever since I was in college, my father has been taking me to various dinners to train me (but I'm stupid and haven't learned to be a trader). One thing my father always emphasized to me was that it was not strange to be polite. I think it makes sense to talk less and listen more, but saying less doesn't mean not saying nothing, and what needs to be said must be said.

What to say, I think, is just some polite words. The elders won't say, hey, this kid is so polite, it's annoying. I have an eldest brother who used to be a popular figure in the university, and he was deeply appreciated by his parents, and it seems that he has a very important point in my elm pimple head is to speak properly.

I feel that there are two parts, one is polite, and the other is a complimentary response to the elders' words. Who doesn't like to hear good words. After all, some of the impressions of brief contact between people are mainly made through a few words of communication.

Listen to them carefully and be a good listener. The elders, especially the older ones, most of them feel that they have a generation gap with the juniors, and they don't communicate much with the juniors, like my grandfather, who often feels that some juniors don't care about him. In fact, they just need someone to talk to them and talk to them.

If you don't know what to say, you can ask, for example, "What did you play when you were a child?" or "I heard about your youthful (preferably some heroic deeds)", and then you listen carefully, remembering, not absent-mindedly, are you sincere, people have lived so old and you can't tell.

Actually, I think that when you get along with your elders, you really have to be filial, but filial piety and obedience are separated, and more often we will honor them, but we may not necessarily do it in their established way, because after all, there is still a gap in our thinking. And how do we do it when we are in order, more often we may follow their wishes, follow their ideas, give them what they want, and look forward to. When I get along with the elders, I think the most real and important thing is to make the elders feel respect for them, and I can also see hope from us that we can have a good future, and I don't have to worry about them anymore.

You can't go wrong with being a listener to your elders, but when you listen, you have to pay attention to your eyes and be focused. If you feel that it makes sense, you should nod your head, and if you feel that it is wrong, you have to show a thinking look, and you can say that you have doubts, and he will have the desire to explain further, there are many in Zhihu, but remember that painting a tiger is not an anti-dog, and the cost of silence is the lowest. But don't be idle, bring a cup of tea, bring a piece of water, peel an orange, peel an apple.

Then hand it to the elders, definitely thirty-two likes.

I met more elders, on the train, on the bus, at home, except for my grandfather, I have a good impression, not only the elderly, anyone needs to do what they like to chat, no matter the guidance or cooperation, let him say his voice you to listen, undoubtedly the greatest respect. It's not an ordinary serious sitting there, facing the old man, and I don't know what I'm thinking, that's called perfunctory! An old man can't see it?

As soon as you have to say your own opinion, what you have thought about, say it and he will know that you are listening carefully, whether what you say is right or not, you have to say it, what you say is not right, the old man corrects you, he gets a greater sense of achievement, and if he is right, the old man will know that he can explain the problem clearly, and he will naturally be happy.

I think one of the biggest barriers to interacting with elders is that I think of myself as a child. This kind of mentality is not growing.,If you psychologically see each other as equals.,There's definitely no obstacle to communication or something.,Or I don't know why there's no help post for communication barriers with people of the same generation.。 You do more, say more, others won't say anything.

But if you don't say it, if you don't do it, others will definitely not have a good impression of you.

Communicate with the old man and do not forget about his self-esteem; Communicate with a man and don't forget about his face; Communicate with a woman, not forgetting her emotions; communicate with superiors and do not forget about his dignity; communicate with young people, not forgetting his directness; Communicate with the child, not forgetting his innocence.

Speaking of which, I myself have mixed feelings for my father himself. When I was in the first grade, my father moved a lot because of work, and I was busy with work and spent very little time at home, and my attitude towards my father was to respect but not get close, and sometimes I was slightly disgusted by my father's unreasonable education in my opinion, and my feelings for my father were quite complicated.

Maybe many people have more complicated feelings about their parents than I do, and I just want to talk about my opinion now. My negative feelings towards my father (e.g., my anger at the collision of my values with my father, his emphasis on money, my emphasis on ideals and facing reality because I can't understand each other; or the contempt he had for what seemed to me to be rude) did not affect my respect for my father. The relationship between children and parents is chaotic and complicated in many families, and only a few happy families can parents and children always be in a state of mutual understanding.

I admit that I am very envious of the kind of family where parents and children can always understand each other. I admit that the family I am in now is not my ideal family, if I can I hope that my father is as gentle as he came out of the book, but no, he is just a middle-aged man who is trying to support the children of the family. I admit that I hope that all can change.

It's just that, although I really have all kinds of disappointments with my father, I can't forget that when I got up in the middle of the night when I was a child, I saw that my father had just returned from work; I can't forget that when I was admitted to the key junior high school in the county and the key high school in the city, he used how vulgar but direct the language seemed to me to express his inner joy; I can't forget that he wants to express his concern for his children but doesn't know how to express it. I believe that many fathers care about their children, but because of the age in which they grew up, their level of knowledge is not up to the expectations of their children. They don't know how to express it in the same language as splendor, and maybe they only know how to brush some rustic ** in Douyin, which makes their children feel ashamed.

It's just that I hope you can think about what you hate your parents before you hate them. Is it all or a certain aspect of the person, can the method of communication be used to solve this problem, and if not, then is there any other way. (Of course, if you are subjected to domestic violence and report it directly to the police, don't be deceived by the parents of those ghost relatives that everything is good to you) When the child grows up to a certain stage, parenting is no longer a matter of parents, you have to learn to educate yourself, what kind of person you want to become, you need to cultivate yourself, not hope for your parents.

The general leak family concludes with one sentence: communicate with parents first, recognize the ideal and the reality of the parents, face the reality in order to contact the ideal.

1. There is no culture and I still work hard to educate, and the words I say are still hard to hear, and there are a few stubborn things back and forth that annoy people.

2. Don't come into my room when I don't wake up! It's really annoying!

3. When you can't talk about me, you're still in college, and you're still a college student.

4. Stand on the moral high ground to educate you, just dislike me, even tell me to look down on my parents, this is really the most unbearable for me.

5. One set in front and one set on the back. One side at a time.

6. When you help him work, he praises you for being so diligent, praising you so hard, not being so lazy when you help him work, why are you so lazy, you are really lazy to death, and all kinds of ugly words.

7, very gossip and very snobbish relatives, really absolute, what he said is not good to hear about two sentences, that is, this child is really ignorant and has no tutor.

8. Ask your child, how much do you score? Have you finished your homework? Ask the people who have worked, how much do you get paid, and who are you talking to? Why aren't you married, look at how old you are?

9. Ask me why I don't look for a partner, let me go somewhere else to develop, I wonder what are you doing with so much heart? I want you to care?

The elders love to compare when they stay together, and this kind of behavior makes people feel particularly annoying. And they will spoil their children without a bottom and rolling line, which is not pleasing to be.

They don't teach their children, they just tell them what they want, they do what they want to do, and more importantly, they do something wrong, because it is not wrong in the eyes of these elders.

Instead, they will send them to encourage them, so it will be hard to accept after these practices, and such behavior is not worth promoting.

The elders "rely on the old and sell the old".

Many elders, when they get older, do not have a judgment of their own in the process of facing things.

And when they reach a certain age, they will rely on the old and sell the old, thinking that they have reached this age and have not seen or heard anything, so they will feel that their ideas are correct.

While blindly denying others, they will not listen to other people's suggestions, and such elders are actually very stubborn, no matter how much they persuade them to rent eggplants, they can't persuade them, which will make people feel particularly uncomfortable at the first time.

Attitude of thought. Because many elders do not have a correct attitude towards their children in the process of facing them. Because some of their opinionated ideas will end up being difficult for people to accept.

For most people, in the process of doing these things, they have actually left a mark on the hearts of young people to a large extent, and this imprint is very disliked.

Spend more time with your elders.

Although the elders sometimes behave very badly, sometimes they are very cute. It's just that some young people have a hard time understanding the behavior of their elders, so they come into conflict with their elders.

In fact, no matter what the elders are doing, as long as it is not particularly excessive, there is no need to talk too much.

In addition, I feel that by spending more time with my elders, I can also promote a relationship with my elders. Then after a long time of getting along, it will be a little annoying, and in the end it will become very liked.

It's not the old people I hate, it's some bad habits in them that can't be broken in a lifetime.

Turning the dishes: When eating and serving, he must turn over every dish on the table with chopsticks, so that everyone else will eat his saliva. It's the same when you go out to dinner with relatives and friends, and it's embarrassing to have a good hall.

Easy to be deceived: convinced of the efficacy of various health care products, even if it is an elixir to buy and try, there is no resistance to all kinds of salesmen, investment in pension, health care, group travel, and the monthly pension is basically spent on all kinds of **.

Nosy: Other people's parents are short, husband and wife are conflicted, they are always overzealous, and they love to intervene when everyone has something. I like to be the master of others, and I can't do it well.

Believe in all kinds of home remedies:

I don't go to the hospital when I am sick, I believe in all kinds of folk remedies, the room is full of all kinds of bottles and cans, large bags and small packets of Chinese herbal medicines, and there is a strong smell of plasters on my body every day.

Stubbornness: Tachibana Bridge.

What you decide on yourself is incomprehensible. I never listen to my children's opinions, I always think that I am right, and I refute other people's mantras: I have eaten more salt than you have eaten!

Therefore: if there is such an elderly person in the family, it is impossible to communicate at all, if there is a suitable nursing home, it is still sent in, or if there are conditions, it is still lived separately, unless life cannot be handled. Of course, it is an obligation to support the elderly, but as a child, it is sometimes quite helpless.

The most annoying words I've heard in my life are:

I eat more salt than you eat, and I walk more bridges than you walk.

Every time I hear this, my heart is filled with hehe:

Why don't you say that you have fallen more than I do, and that I have more experience in failure than I do?

Forgive me, I really don't understand how someone can describe the wastefulness of time so freshly and refinedly. For some, time can bring him wisdom, but for many more, it only adds wrinkles and a few wisps of green silk.

So it's just that these words come from a successful person. But it all came from those elders who couldn't beat the eight poles and even met in Pingshui. That's right, the same people who keep saying it's for your good.

Whenever I hear them use their own unproven theories to point out the country, I feel full of irony. Because I know that really awesome people will reveal the secret of success so easily, and those truths that can be heard by pulling the neck on the mountain are often useless.

Some roads have to be walked on your own to know if they are okay.

In this world, there are many great truths of elders, but young people don't want to hear them. Because we know that those elders who keep saying that they are for your good are just looking for some sense of existence. They may not care if you're doing well or not, they just want you to be obedient.

That's why I hate the elders.

They are reluctant to make changes and try to make us settle for the status quo as well.

They say they are absolutely right, and they easily conclude that we are defeated.

They pride themselves on being tactful and ashamed of our sincerity and candour.

They are full of disdain for money, but envious of those who do.

If you are not an elder, you deserve respect, because there are many people in this world who are disrespectful to the old. Only those elders who accompany us to grow up, give us encouragement, set an example for us, and set an example with their actions are worthy of our young people's hats.

My dear elders, I hope that the next time you educate me, you will be an elder who truly thinks about me and deserves respect. Rather than being arrogant and pointing fingers at elders for the sake of brushing up on their sense of existence.

I hope that you will not educate me in an aggressive manner, but give me some advice and guidance, so that you will find that we young people actually have a lot of ideas.

If we continue to insist on going our own way, I beg your forgiveness. Because the world will eventually belong to us young people. Setbacks on the road are inevitable after all.

There's nothing wrong with failing, after all, that's how you've come to be.