The bride price standard scares young people, and will excessive demands make marriage sour?

Definitely. Before the two people discussed the matter of marriage, they were very simple love relationships, but when the two families sat down to discuss the matter of marriage, the two newlyweds will become very realistic, and the feelings they once regarded as disappear, more for their future life considerations. <>

First, the participation of money makes us sober. Today's society is very realistic, no matter how good our feelings are, as long as the problem of money will become very realistic, and it will also make our feelings and friendships all tasteless. There will be a lot of conflicts when discussing marriage, because the woman's family always hopes that the man's family can give them more bride price, and they also hope that the house that the man buys will have his daughter's name on it, and the two families will quarrel over money, and this stage is also a great test of the relationship between the two couples.

There are many girls who give up the relationship before marriage because the man's family cannot meet their family's requirements for bride price, which is a fatal blow to the boy, and also witnesses the hypocrisy of the love between two people with money. <>

Second, marriage should be realistic. In my opinion, marriage is to be realistic, because when two people are in love, it is only a matter of two people, but after the real marriage, it becomes a matter of two families, and the two families will definitely have money involved, and if this problem cannot be solved before marriage, it will be very troublesome after marriage. Nowadays, the standard of bride price in many cities is indeed very amazing, whether it is for the man or the woman's family, because of a wedding, their property will be lost, so many young people are reluctant to get married because of the bride price.

Personally, I don't think these bride prices are necessary for couples, because the couple can earn a lot of money through their own efforts and don't need the help of their parents. These expensive bride price standards are all rules formed because of many people's comparisons, and if the family's economic conditions do not meet, they do not need to be followed.

The bride price standard scares young people, and excessive demands will make the marriage sour. The most important thing for two people to get married is because they have feelings, and they don't have feelings, and they rely entirely on money to maintain them, and this kind of marriage is not long-lasting. In addition, the sky-high bride price makes it impossible for many men to pay, so even if they get married, there will be a lot of conflicts after marriage because of money, which will evolve into some domestic violence and even divorce.

Excessive demands will of course make the marriage sour, and the bride price is a help from the two original families to form a new small family, not a means for the woman's family to get rid of poverty and become rich. Otherwise, what's the difference between this one selling her daughter!

Yes, marriage should be a mutual agreement between two people, and the wedding is just a ceremony to witness, so the bride price should be based on the family situation of both parties.

A certain bride price can give the newlyweds a material basis, but too many excessive demands make the marriage no longer an equal marriage, but a transaction like a "daughter sale", and the marriage has changed its flavor.

Yes, many young people are forced to break up on the eve of marriage because of the bride price, which is the first step for couples to face reality.

Whether you live well or not is a later story, and now the reality is that if you don't give so much money, you won't have a daughter-in-law.

Yes, the bride price is becoming more and more popular now, which is a major difficulty for young people to get married.

In traditional Chinese culture, the bride price has both the function of determining the marital relationship and the function of expressing the feelings of both parties. However, a high bride price may turn emotional expression into a material exchange, giving way to family affection and love for bargaining money. At the same time, the high bride price has raised the marriage threshold for marriageable men in some rural areas to a certain extent, and may even cause some contradictions.

It is true that from the older generation's "three turns and one ring" to today's "three golds, four silvers, motionless", around you and me, there are often cases where the bride price cannot be negotiated and "the whole drama ends", or the fuse of family conflicts is buried in the reluctant "deal".

So why is the bride price a hurdle for weddings? The reason for this is that whether marriage and family are happy or not is "simple and rude" equated with the amount of material, and it is even more suspected of objectifying women. Some families are troubled by the psychology of comparison, and even make the sky-high bride price an important reason for some families to fall back into poverty, and even cause criminal and civil disputes, increase the cost of grassroots social governance, and add unstable factors.

But this just shows that the true core of marriage has been neglected, and only marriage based on love is its true meaning. This is why many people agree that a bride price is not required for marriage, and that "two people love each other".

It should be clear to everyone that a couple can finally come together by mutual attraction, sincerity, and mutual admiration, not by "clearly marking" the price of marriage.

I don't think it's worth paying too much attention to the bride price, after all, the essence of a marriage contract is never about having more money and less money.

The couple's decision to face the future life together is the beautiful goal of marriage, and it should not be allowed to affect the beautiful married life.

The bride price is indeed a barrier to the marriage of young people today. Many people think that the more the bride price, the more it can prove the status and value of the woman in the man's heart, and the bride price in some places is even ridiculously high, even hundreds of thousands of bride price, and many southern families do not have this bride price money. It may be because of the bride price money, the man and the woman have a dispute, the woman feels that her status in the man's heart is not high enough, it is not worth the man to spend so much bride price, and the man is not so much, after all, there is a lot of money, the south now has to rely on the parents to be able to afford the house and then get the bride price of the big gift, it is difficult for ordinary families.

The two parties can't understand each other, and it is easy to quarrel and quarrel, and there are many people who break up because of the bride price. There are even some bride prices that are not much, but some men think that there is no need to spend such a high bride price, and the woman feels that you are reluctant to pay because of this bride price, and you will not be very good to me after marriage, because the bride price is a measure of one's own value. Many women regard the bride price as their own value, and feel that the higher the bride price, the more the man will pay attention to respecting himself.

However, many men feel that the bride price is not necessary, as long as some bride price is given accordingly. The two parties' perceptions of the bride price are very different, and there will be a lot of contradictions, so it may also lead to a breakup because of the bride price. Now there is a kind of comparison of the bride price, many people will feel that the bride price is also a kind of talk about comparing with each other, so what about this situation, for girls is face-saving, for boys is a big burden, many families of boys, in the end, because of the wedding card and did not go to the palace of marriage.

Well, not all young people will break up because of the wedding, it still depends on whether there is real affection between two people. Because many girls don't want a bride price, only this person is identified, and there are many people who are naked married to this person, and there are many local customs that do not require the woman to ask for a bride price, as long as it means a little, like the Northeast Heilongjiang side of the woman's family does not ask for a bride price. After the marriage is completed, the bride price will also be given to their small family, as the first fund of their family.

Therefore, the bride price is not a complete obstacle to young people getting married.

Having feelings may not be able to go to the end, but it is impossible to get married if the bride price is not negotiated. The domestic bride price has risen instead of falling, which has put huge financial pressure on many families. In particular, the man's family not only has to pay the bride price, but also has to buy a house and buy appliances for the children.

In the past, the bride price was tens of thousands of yuan, and many families could accept it, but now when the bride price has risen to hundreds of thousands or even millions, many men are afraid of getting married, because marriage will bring huge pressure to the family.

Now not only does the country want to pay the bride price, but also whose daughter gets married and receives the bride price has become a matter of comparison with each other. In many man's families with average family conditions, the marriage of children can bring this small family to the point of bankruptcy, smashing pots and selling iron. When it came to the eve of marriage, the boy was too stressed, and he cried when he hit his girlfriend at night.

The reason is that I saw that my parents couldn't sleep at night in order to get married, and the money that the family could take out was not enough, and the woman's family had to add 100,000 yuan to get married halfway.

The experience of this boy is also very common in China, because now marriage requires not only a house, but also a car, and the bride price, jewelry, and luxurious weddings and wedding banquets are also indispensable. Many families become impoverished and incur a lot of debts after their children get married. Just to get married, slap a swollen face and become fat, such a marriage crooked trend should be controlled.

Hello, to a certain extent, the bride price is indeed a barrier that hinders young people from getting married.

1. The bride price is too high, which seriously affects the married life of young people. An excessively high bride price will put the newlywed couple under a lot of pressure. In fact, many two people who are about to get married, because the bride price cannot be discussed, and there are not a few people who end up breaking up.

If in the end, the bride price did not reach the hands of the young couple at all, and it happened that the bride price was borrowed from a patchwork, then for the young couple after marriage, the pressure to repay the money was great, which was not conducive to the married life of the two people.

2. The bride price is just an expression of the heart. The bride price is the attention and care of the man's family to the woman, and I hope that the two people will live a sweet and happy life in the future. Why are there two corresponding things: bride price and dowry?

Because the bride price is given by the man to the woman, and the dowry is brought by the woman to the man's house. Many people only talk about the bride price and do not talk about the dowry, or the difference between the two is very different, which will undoubtedly bury hidden risks in married life.

3. The excessively high bride price will make ordinary families unaffordable, and it will lose its own meaning. Many times, we will see that two people who love each other have to separate because of the excessively high bride price, or on the eve of the wedding, the sudden increase in the bride price leads to the cancellation of the wedding, and the bride price has become a topic of common concern in society. The bride price itself, that is, a good omen and a good meaning, if you don't consider the actual blind demand for a high bride price, it is almost the same as everyone said about selling a girl, not for the happiness of the daughter, but just for the sake of pure interests.

If the family conditions are better, it doesn't matter how much you give, if the family conditions are poor and two people and two families want to be together, then don't ask for too high a bride price, if there are disputes and contradictions because of the bride price, even after getting married, this will be a hidden danger of marriage.

Some people say that the more the bride price, the more it proves the woman's status in the man's family, and some people say that the bride price is not important, but the relationship between two people is important. But I feel that nothing can be one-size-fits-all, and it should be determined according to the actual situation.

In fact, now the issue of bride price will become an issue that young people can't talk about, and in the final analysis, it is a game between two families.

Story 1: Xiaolu and his girlfriend have been together for four years, and they plan to get engaged this year, just in the process of engagement, because of the contradiction in the bride price, the woman said that all according to the man's customs, before the engagement, the man bought a house, negative down payment, because the family is not very rich, even if it is taken out, it is borrowed from the west, the man hopes to take a part of the bride price, just take 60,000, three gold will not buy, but the woman resolutely disagrees. Because of this, the two had a big quarrel, and the engagement was delayed.

Interpretation: Although it seems to be a war between the young couple, it is actually a competition between the parents of both sides. To be honest, children are actually ignorant about this kind of thing, and they mainly listen to their parents.

The woman's parents may feel that this is a sincerity and a minimum guarantee for their daughter. Since the man's family is really not rich, even if he borrows it, it is not a debt. Take a step back and open the sky.

Story 2: Xiaoli and her boyfriend were together, and the man's family said that he did not have the custom of bride price, and the woman's family did not say anything. However, the man's family is richer than the woman's. In the end, no bride price was received.

Interpretation: The woman has the custom of bride price, but she keeps her mouth shut, which proves that the woman feels inferior and does not dare to ask too much, for fear that the south is unwilling to break up, and the woman's family does not talk about the bride price, which just proves this, which will just cause the woman to have no status in the man's family and cannot raise her head.

Story 3 Xiaoding is a beautiful girl, looking for a boyfriend who is also more handsome, but not very reliable, does not like to work, Xiaoding's family is not very satisfied, and hopes to ask for more dowry when engaged, but the man does not agree, Xiaoding has a bad relationship with the family brain for this reason, followed her boyfriend, insisted on getting married, and finally broke up after more than a year.

Interpretation: In fact, parents sometimes don't care about the bride price, if they really think that the person you are looking for is really reliable, in fact, the bride price is negotiable, the reason why they want more bride price, is that they feel unreliable, these bride price will be your protection. Parents do this out of our protection.

All in all, the bride price is not a big problem, the most important thing is the way the man and woman communicate in the communication, the way they deal with the problem, and their attitude towards the marriage, and the attitude towards the person with whom they will spend their lives. In this process, you can also find out how the parents of both parents behave. The bride price is not a hurdle, but a test, a test for each other's integration into the family, if the contradictions between them are found in advance, they can be resolved in advance, and the contradictions that are not acceptable in nature can be broken up in advance, which is not not the protection and relief of themselves.