What are the social realities that college students are not aware of?

<>There are many social realities that college students are not aware of, and the most important thing is that university and society are two worlds.

After working for many years after graduation, other colleagues still think that I have a student's spirit, and compared to their dozens of years, they will think that I am young and look weak. But when I actually work, I feel that I am not a student, not as delicate as ordinary students, even if I have to move bricks, I can move bricks, and I have no ......complaints when I have to work overtime

And this is all because after graduation, I realized itSocial reality, and the inside of the ivory tower, are two different worlds.

The world in the university is still biased towards the mode that we have been reading for more than ten years, as long as you follow what the teacher says, carefully brush the questions and do homework, and memorize the secretary's notes, you can basically achieve certain results. But after graduation, society will tell you that what you thought was hard work was not the most important thingTalent, luck, and birth skills are also a kind of capital, and it is no longer dependent on test scores to determine whether you win or lose.

However, the knowledge learned in books before is likely to be applied in practice, and we may even find that some of the knowledge in books cannot be practiced in reality.

Take responsibility for your actions and take responsibility for your choices.

After college students step into the society, they need to think from the perspective of adults, and they need to be more mature and take on their responsibilities.

In the first ten years, maybe your parents helped you choose a school and major, but in the next few decades, you need to choose your own work and life ......

Of course, you can continue to leave your life to other people, but in this case, don't complain and live your own life. Because even if you give the choice to others, you are still the only one who bears the choice.

The connection between people is very fragile.

In the past, in school, you had a very close relationship with your classmates, and you might think that this is how people interact with each other, and everyone can face each other day and night, but when you graduate, your friends from all over the world leave, maybe this time you will say goodbye, and you will really never see ...... again

After stepping into the society, you will notice that the original pure friendship will become more and more difficult to obtain after entering the big dye vat of society, and more often, it is the people who have interests with you, these people you can only interact with and contact, complete the work, and achieve certain goals, but you have not taken the heart and lungs to treat the ......If you want to talk about your thoughts, you definitely won't talk to these people.

Of course, this truth may not be understood until you have been betrayed by a colleague or witnessed a workplace struggle.

When you realize these truths, you will also become a real social person.

1. The relationship is very hidden, they are generally qualified for this position, and the upper position is legal and compliant, and the only trace left is that he is the most connected one among all the eligible people.

2. Mu pretends to give a person long-term advantageous resources, so that he has the ultimate excellent education, experience, ability and capital, and finally only this person meets the conditions (or exclusive returns). And this person feels that everything is the reward of his efforts until he dies.

3. The relationship is not the final sprint of the 10,000-meter run, but the first 9,000 meters of driving and horseback riding, and the overall situation of entering the last 1,000 meters has been decided, and the "rules" have come out to preside over fairness.

4. Another manifestation of the relationship is the information monopoly: such as **, such as the unknown special recruitment channels, such as which plots of land to increase in price, which policies to be introduced.

5. What if it doesn't matter? Some would say creating relationships. Unfortunately, there are only two kinds of hail on Earth. One is blood, and the other is interests. A person with a value of 0 is basically impossible to create a relationship out of nothing if he does not rely on marriage.

6. Can Competence Prevail Over Relationships? Yes, the premise is that the ability is strong enough to influence the pattern of interests. Even in the most competitive football field, the national football team ten or twenty years ago, unless it was the absolute main force (without you, it would affect the overall interests of the team), the remaining substitutes were likely to be related households.

Therefore, when you want to win against a related household, please first consider how to try to keep the competition in the sun, rather than relying on your so-called ability to quickly gamble on the conscience of others.

7. As long as you become the top group of people in China in any field, theoretically no related household will affect you. First, if you are top-notch, it means that you can influence the overall good. Second, if you are top-notch, it means that you have the potential to become a relational household.

8. In society, most of them are ordinary people with about 5 points, but many people feel that they have 7 points and want to work hard to pretend to be 8 points, and feel that they should live a life of 9 points +. It's going to be tiring! There is nothing wrong with facing up to and accepting your ordinariness and living an ordinary life in a down-to-earth manner, which can also make your mentality better and life much easier.

The competition for employment, the intrigue after participating in the job, and the lack of a permanent iron job are social realities that some students are not aware of.

For example, the social reality is quite cruel, if there are few jobs, no matter how good he reads, there will be no position.

This society needs powerful people, capable people, and just having a good face does not mean anything.

There are many social realities that students are not aware of. This world is always yin and yang. But most people only focus on the yang side and often ignore the yin side.

The main reason is that yang is explicit, while yin is implicit. The yang floats on the outside, and the gloom is on the inside.

Yang can be intuitively obtained through the eyes and ears, it can be learned from books, or it can be told to you by others, but Yin can only be perceived through life practice and can only be obtained by one's own experience.

Therefore, the ancients often said that after reading 10,000 books, you have to travel 10,000 miles. Reading 10,000 books is yang, and traveling 10,000 miles is yin. Only when yin and yang are combined and properly reconciled can we be comfortable in this world and live a clear and transparent life.

In life, if you don't understand the truth of yin and yang, no matter what field you are in, you will continue to suffer setbacks. The way of yin and yang runs through everything, from shopping in the car, buying vegetables and cooking, to marriage and childcare, and business.

If. Student: This is a yin and yang world, and you will gradually relax.

The world is very real and cruel. There is not only life but also death, not only comedy but also tragedy. There is no end to the world, and there is no appearance of a once and for all harmonious society, the world is a melting pot and a cesspool.

If you want to be free and liberated, and pursue true freedom, it is not enough to have money and leisure, but more importantly, you have the courage to look directly at the darkness and laugh at the abyss, the attitude of knowing that the darkness can also calmly drink the darkness, the attitude of knowing the light and not bowing down to the light, the so-called "not to be happy with things, not to be sad with yourself", in order to be able to grasp yourself. And those who see close are frightened crazy, those who see far are scared to death, and those who see through and are not dead become truly free and independent people.

We know that today's people, people's hearts, each has their own scheming, whether it is daily life, or workplace competition, although there is no harm to others, but the heart of defense is still reasonable, so that mutual suspicion, the mentality of self-deception has arisen, and it is good to compete with each other, do not rule out the situation of you fighting for me, malicious harm, the key is to tolerate and communicate with each other, but reluctantly, not everyone is like-minded, regardless of the gains and losses of interests, the mentality is a little flat, and they are low-key in their own life. Flexible adjustment of mentality, way of thinking and dealing with people and handling skills, struggle is a must, otherwise bread and love are not guaranteed, gradually improve and enhance the competitive strength, always remind yourself to be calm and composed, do your best, opportunities will always appear, as for the trust of others, get along well or not, not subjective thoughts can change, so, everything is fate, not just divided, waiting for like-minded people to appear.

People's hearts are diverse, each has its own scheming, regardless of daily life, or workplace competition, although there is no harm to others, but the heart of defense is still reasonable, so mutual suspicion, the mentality of deception has arisen, and it is good to compete with each other, do not rule out the situation of you fighting for me, malicious harm, the key is to tolerate and communicate with each other, but reluctantly, not everyone is like-minded, regardless of the gains and losses of interests, the mentality is a little flat, and they are low-key in their own life and things, and flexibly adjust their mentality. The way of thinking and the skills of dealing with people, struggle is a must, otherwise bread and love are not guaranteed, gradually improve and enhance the competitive strength, always remind yourself to be calm and composed, do your best, opportunities will always appear, as for the trust of others, get along well or not, not subjective thoughts can change, so, everything is fate, not just divided, waiting for like-minded people to appear.

If you really grow up, please learn to be considerate of your mother, understand your mother, and learn to apologize. Then discuss the matter with my mother and friends and family. Not doing things that make your mother worry and make her sad is the sign that you grow up.

Traveling doesn't mean you're growing up, because there are a lot of things you can't think of in travel.

What are some social realities that some students are not aware of? I have a few points to summarize here:

Society is no better than school, success is diverse, and there are indeed many ways to get to Rome.

In school, you only need to study hard and concentrate on scientific research, and you will be a success. But in society, there are many ways to succeed, even if money is used as a single success criterion, there are also many ways to make money. Some people have achieved after-sleep income by exploring side hustles outside of work**; Some people try to invest and open up a world in **.

In the workplace, don't think technologically.

If you want to become a technology master and solve the problem of stuck necks, this is your ideal, of course, you can pursue it without hesitation, but this does not mean that technology is the only way to succeed in the workplace, and even many people will find that the technology flow can be said to be the most cost-effective way to succeed in the workplace after entering the society.

Under the market economy, interest orientation is the inevitable result, so naturally, the position closest to the profit creation, the position closest to the leader, the position that is closely related to various departments, and the position that masters a large number of resources, must have the best development prospects and promotion and salary increase space, such as sales, administration, marketing, products, procurement, they mostly meet one or two of the above conditions, so under the interest orientation, it is more popular with the bosses.

For technology-related positions, such as R&D, process, and development, under the guidance of interests, it is often a position with relatively low input and output, and it is not easy to be treated by the boss. Although the benefits of building technical barriers are very fragrant, but the bosses are not stupid, they are well aware of the difficulty of this road, so in the major enterprises in the society, the vast majority of technical personnel, generally engaged in what seems to be technical, but in fact lack of innovative mental and physical labor day after day, so as to prevent the waste of resources by long-term idling of technical personnel.

1.China is developing so fast that the lessons taught to you by the previous generation may no longer apply, you have to have your own ideas, and the determination to stick to them.

2.Everything needs to be prepared, and thinking about the future path and preparing for it in school is no longer a rainy day, it is a necessary preparation. If you don't think about what to do in the future until the day of graduation, then you will basically be unemployed after graduation.

3.The relationship between colleagues and friends should be clearly distinguished, friends can be the icing on the cake for you, good friends can send you charcoal in the snow, and colleagues can send charcoal to you in the fire.

If you say bad things about your colleague and boss behind your back, no matter how long it takes, it will definitely reach the ears of the owner. ）

4.At this age, people who are still more arrogant in society are generally a little powerful, because they have no background, and arrogant people generally can't live to continue to be arrogant at this age.

People you don't like will always be there.

5.When it comes to being friends who want to be together forever, there will always be some friends who will gradually move away from each other with different jobs, different work locations, and different salaries. Light as water, but it can last for a long time.

6.Having money is one of the simpler ways adults can maintain their dignity.

7.Housing prices in the downtown area are really, really high.

8.The excitement is temporary, and loneliness will support your whole life.

9.The troubles and pains of your 20-year-old just out of school, for others in their 20s, 30s, and 40s who have already experienced a very mature workplace, it is like a kindergarten child complaining that someone was robbed of a candy today.

You feel like the sky is going to fall, and no one else wants to bother to understand it. So don't hope that others will understand you when you say that you are depressed, that someone can comfort you is a good thing, and that no one can comfort you, I hope you can hug yourself and cheer you up! After all, such days will be long.

But in fact, the experience that everyone says may not be applicable to you, everyone has only lived once, who can say that he himself lives the most correct and exciting?