The stricter the parents, the more filial the children grow up?

Filial piety is also determined by the child's character, good to him, doting is not necessarily filial, no matter what is not asked, it is not necessarily not filial, some filial piety is foolish, what the parents say is what, no matter right or wrong, some of them feel that filial piety to their parents is not good enough, people who know how to be grateful are generally very filial.

Children are born with a desire to be loved by their parents, so when they are beaten and scolded by their parents, they usually do not think about being inseparable from their parents from now on, but are sad on the one hand, and on the other hand they are trying to please their parents, all kinds of obedience, all kinds of befriendedness, just for their parents to like themselves again. If it doesn't work, you will continue to pay. Some people develop a submissive character from this, but they do not get pleasure from it because they have low self-esteem.

Because they feel that they are not recognized by their parents, they lack the confidence to be loved when they grow up, they are insecure in their relationships, they often feel that they are not good enough, they do not believe that the other party loves them, they are easy to put themselves in a very humble position, and they are easy to blindly give in exchange for the same return. You can say that they are filial and giving, but the origin of all this is nothing more than humble flattery.

When I was young, my family was very rich, and many people came to my house to borrow things, borrowed clothes and shoes, and never said anything, my mother was very skillful, and the clothes and shoes made by my mother would be praised by others, and the rice, cakes, and dumplings made by my mother would be given to others Later, my sister went to college and high school, and the tuition fee was more than 100,000 yuan, and that was more than ten years ago, when no one went out to work, I spent nearly 10 more

See, whatever my mother buys me, it's up to me, whatever she likes, whatever her mother left her, she'll give it to me, it's the little details, and those are what I'm willing to do, I'm willing to do anything for her, and my sister is the same, but my sister is sensible and calm, and I'm calm with people outside the circle.

That's not true, my parents are the type who would rather suffer themselves than let our brothers and sisters suffer, it is just watching them suffer for us that I feel indebted to them, love is priceless.

Not really. I was taught by my parents to be harshly criticized, reprimanded, and scolded if I didn't obey. Explanations are useless, they won't believe me, they won't take my feelings into account.

They think that this kind of education is the most useful, that if you force it to do it, you can teach it well, and they don't think of me as an individual. But, fortunately, I didn't give in and I'm sure many kids are too. University is a place where people can grow independently, and in college, I gradually learned to think independently, and I began to think about the things around me, and also about the relationship between parents and children.

I think that parents harshly reprimanding and scolding their children have caused deep harm to their children, and children can choose not to forgive this kind of hurt. Children should be filial to their parents, this is just a moral standard, and there are specific circumstances behind this to satisfy, for example, family harmony, and so on, and it is unreasonable to demand everyone just for these few words. In other words, in some beautiful concrete situations, some good moral standards can be reasonably realized.

It's quite unreasonable, if children can't experience the love of their parents, they won't honor their parents when they grow up. Many Chinese sayings are wrong. It's just that when there are more people talking, it becomes right.

This is not necessarily, sometimes parents are too strict words will be counterproductive, you need to educate children according to the character of each child, you don't necessarily have to be strict with children, just like the same truth of filial piety under the stick, children's rebellious hearts are very heavy.

Not necessarily, it still depends on the attitude of parents towards their elders, sometimes I see many women complaining about their mother-in-law on the bus, I am thinking, your children whisper and see your attitude towards your mother-in-law all day long, and you still expect your son and daughter-in-law to treat you with filial piety, don't you think it's funny?

**There is oppression,** there is resistance, and such as action and reaction, if it was before, still living in a city, or even a village, the power is still there, it is estimated that it is a bit useful now, don't you know what freedom is? I observe the surroundings too, parents are more tolerant, children are generally more family-loving and strict, hmph, finally out of the clutches, you go stern to the air.

There are two types of children who will be raised, one is to give in for a lifetime, and then become a 'filial' child. One type is rebellious, who will not live with their parents when they grow up, and will seriously cut off their relationship. I'm the second type of kid, but my parents weren't too strict, but my father was too strong and I always wanted to run away.

This question is not like this, if you just look at the phenomenon, it seems that it is indeed the rhythm of the more spoiled and the more spoiled, but the child problem still has to look at the essence through the phenomenon! There are two core problems that lead to children's disobedience, the first is the example of parents, parents' attitude towards their parents will greatly affect the child's attitude towards their parents, if adults are not filial to their parents, then the first education link of the family has a problem! So there is no controversy that the child is not filial to the "upward and downward effect", and it cannot be attributed to the matter of pampering!

The second point is education, as the Three Character Classic says, "If the son does not teach, the father is guilty." If you don't teach, the teacher is lazy", education is the core of traditional Chinese culture, and the core is to strictly abide by "filial piety", what is "filial piety", if you don't know, then the child is not filial, please don't blame him, that's a family education problem! The so-called "filial piety" at the core of Chinese culture is the basic virtue of people, that is, "filial piety to parents and respect for elder brothers", which is gradually forgotten by Chinese people!

So why "the son does not teach, the father's fault" will be in front, this is because the ancients knew a truth! Family education is far more important than school education! After all, the knowledge learned in the "school" of the family is the earliest to affect the child, and it is also the farthest to affect the child!

So spoiling children and children not being filial are completely different things, and there is no direct relationship! On the contrary, the more pampered the child is psychologically complete, the more he knows gratitude, and it is normal to be pampered and favorited, why? Because children come to this world passively, not voluntarily, as parents should give more tolerance and patience, of course, tolerance and patience and pampering cannot replace education!

Education is always the core!

1. Spoiling children excessively.

It is natural for parents to love their children, but if this kind of love goes too far and becomes doting, parents try their best to meet any excessive requirements for their children, which will lead to children not knowing the hard work of their parents, having no concept of life values, and not knowing how to cherish and respect, and becoming selfish. 2. Excessive favoritism towards children.

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and children are no exception, and some parents face their children when they make mistakes, and they are everywhere to protect them, and find all kinds of reasons to dissociate their children, so that children gradually become arrogant, self-centered, and unable to distinguish between right and wrong.

3. Arrange for children to cut.

At present, many parents put their children's academic performance first, thinking that as long as their children's academic performance is good, everything else is not important, and even many children will not wash their own socks when they are in middle school. Under the big bag of parents, children gradually lose the most basic self-care ability, and when they grow up, they become low-eyed, inferior and arrogant.

Children are the hearts and minds of parents, and parents love their children. But love children to be far-reaching, love children to have a degree, there are limitations, life does not start from scratch, cultivate children's conduct from an early age so that children can face the future life independently, the next long to give children the best love. Although I don't dare to "hope that my son will become a dragon, but also."

The more some parents love their children, the more unfilial their children become, and I think the main reason for this phenomenon is that the spoiling of parents causes children to be selfish and ungrateful and ungrateful to them. In some families, parents, grandparents, and grandparents, as well as grandparents, the whole family treats the child as a little emperor and a little princess, and unconditionally spoils and protects them, resulting in the child as the center of the world and only thinking about himself. Parents take care of everything for their children from an early age.

Whatever you want, parents will help their children get it non-stop. In the long run, children will take it for granted that adults do these things for them, and when parents refuse to do things for their children, children will think that it is against the norm. Children are used to being spoiled and served, and they have not learned to care about others, think about others, and give for others.

Of course, everything is not absolute, there are also some families who are well-off, have good love for their children, and children will be very polite and grateful.

Saying that parents love their children more, the less filial they are to their parents, the more they torture their children, but filial piety, I personally think it is still biased, but if parents spoil their children excessively, then it must be bad for their children's growth, but they should not torture their children, but should give correct guidance to their children, so that they can really educate their children.

The more parents pamper their children, the less filial they are, the more parents torture their children but are filial, I personally think this is a matter of probability, and being strict also makes children upright, and pampering often makes children rebellious.

The more you pamper your child, the more you will lose your gratitude, take everything for granted, and be unfilial to your parents. I don't agree with the latter sentence too much, torturing children will not be filial, but it may also be because of the lack of love of children, and when they grow up, filial parents hope to be able to get the love that belongs to their parents. It should be educated normally, not too pampered or too tormented.

Hello! Because parents also pamper their children, spoil their children, and get used to their children, it is easy to spoil their children, and the children who are used to them are more willful, but the parents say that they have children, and the children are still filial, because such children often know the hard work of their parents, but I think that educating children can not be too pampered, nor too tormenting, and there must be a correct education method, and way, so that children can grow up healthy and happy.

This is not called pampering, this is called doting on children, you will give what the child wants, there is no reason, when he was young, he had a bad habit when he grew up, at this time the parents found out, want to change them, they have a rebellious mentality, think that the parents do not love him if they can't get something, so the child is not filial, if the parents' family conditions are not good, the child sees the parents suffering, of course, he will feel sorry for the parents, such a child filial piety is very normal.

Because if you spoil your child too much, you will become doting, and if you dote on your child too much, it is easy for your child to become a child who does not know how to be grateful to his parents. The more parents torture their children, in fact, it cannot be said to be torture, it can only be said to be a strict way of discipline, but more filial piety to parents. Strict discipline will make the child grow up to understand that his parents are for his good, let him know how to behave when he grows up, and also include gratitude to his parents.

Excessive pampering by parents will lead to the absence of children's self-care ability and responsibility construction, resulting in children having no ability to take responsibility, not only will they not honor their parents, but also generally do not know how to treat others well.

Parents torture their children, and the children may not all have a high probability of filial piety, and when filial piety occurs, most of them are because the children have no self and are habitually pleased.

Maybe it's just that there is a feeling that things are going to be the opposite! If parents pamper their children, they worry about everything for their children. After a long time, they think that their elders worry about everything, and they still take it for granted that they don't have to do anything themselves. It will not be filial.

Parents dote on their children, generally he is out of the bottom line of education, so that children can't tell which is right and which is wrong, and the child will only blindly ask for it, so he doesn't know how the money comes from, and he doesn't know how to honor his parents When he grows up, his achievements are very poor, and he is likely to resent his parents and there is no filial piety. Parents torturing their children should not be said to be torture, it can only be said that the stricter the parents are to their children, let the children know what is right and wrong, and what punishment should be received if they are wrong, the higher such a child is demanding of himself, and when he grows up in the future, he will be grateful to his parents, so he will be filial to his parents.

Because pampering is doting, this will spoil the child will make him feel that his parents should do everything, he will not know what is called Zhi'en Tu Bao when he grows up, on the contrary, those children who are strictly controlled by their parents, they know the hardships of their parents, and they will honor their parents when they grow up.

I think this view is one-sided. Admittedly, there is some truth in this sentence, but pampering and filial piety are not directly related; Secondly, the more tormented the parents, the more filial the children will be, I personally think that the word torture is not too appropriate. Not much to say off topic, just according to this, there is indeed this phenomenon in today's society, parents are too accustomed to their children, and in the long run, children will develop bad habits, so parents have to educate their children well.