After thirty, why is my future still uncertain?

Family, life, work, where do we go from here?

A lot of people have been asking themselves this question!

They all said they were confused.

I am not Socrates nor Shakyamuni.

So don't know the answer.

But I know how to find out.

I ask you. 1.What did you marry and start a family for?

2.What are you working so hard for?

3.Why do you want to go to graduate school?

4.What does the future look like for you?

5.Recalling your childhood, have you ever had a dream, and what were your previous dreams?

Well, you look from the bottom of your heart and find the answers to the following questions.

What is the common answer to all the answers to the above 5 questions?

Well, no matter what kind of answer you find, as long as you think carefully and carefully, these simple and ordinary questions will guide you.

There are many ways of life, some people have a happy family, some people have a career and are satisfied, some people have a family and a career, and they are happy forever, some people have no family and are lonely and sad, some people have no career and are depressed, some people have neither family nor career, and some people have neither family nor career, and some people have neither family nor career. These people live in the upper class, the middle class, and the lower class, and this is the end of each of us. In such a society, our natural conditions are so different, and none of us are on the same starting line!

Yes, we have an unfair starting line, I have certain endings, and we all understand, so why do we have to fight so firmly? Is it forced by life? Is it forced by the environment?

Driven by others? Is it willingly? Is it a big dream?

Is it instinctive behavior? No, it's all for these reasons! For these reasons we have to make a choice!

So how do we choose, which direction is the right way for the river to flow? The river doesn't know its direction until it reaches the end! Maybe the wrong flow can only dry up the end, but which river hesitated?

The choice is painful, and the only thing that is not painful is to make a choice without regrets!

Still me, 1l.

Okay, after reading yours, I can only say that you only recognize the answer to the question from the surface.

In fact, what is the answer, the answer to these 5 questions at the same time is the real answer.

That answer is the most fundamental answer.

From your answer, family is a must and the first thing! I don't know if you feel it! A meaningful life is because you are unwilling, but in the choice of whether family or will become all you have!

One more sentence for you:

I just want to make sense"This is the most ordinary and the most honest dream, this is a dream that has no purpose and is not a dream, because you deny the meaning of the present existence and exist in the dream!

Hey, people now, thousands of people suffer in a thousand ways, and no one suffers the same.

Still not satisfied like you??

It is undeniable that if you still feel lost, then it shows that you still have a vision for the future, and you are not numb by the reality of life. It's just that you can't find a way to break through yourself, and you don't know where to start.

Life is a process of believing, believing is something, and not believing is nothing. So, at the age of thirty, you are still confused, then find the direction in your heart and do everything around you.

I think you can ask some of the better people around you, or some of the older people around you, ask them what kind of better life experience they have, of course, the most important thing is to be down-to-earth and move forward step by step, and you will naturally find the most suitable direction for your life.

I think you should adjust your mentality, and secondly, you should also set goals for yourself, and keep working hard for small goals every day, and slowly you will have a direction to work towards.

First of all, you should maintain your desire for life, and then find your own life positioning and goals, so that you can slowly get better.

If you are still confused after 30, it may be that you are not in the right direction in front of you, or you have not insisted on doing things and have no set goals. What kind of job you are suitable for, which direction to develop, only according to your personal ability and quality, preferences, market demand and other factors to a comprehensive analysis, we can only give you suggestions, say the general direction, you have to consider it yourself.

When you first start looking for a job, you just need to avoid being too picky. What is certain is that your confusion is temporary and normal at the same time. Everyone feels more or less lost in the process of growing up.

To get out of this situation, it is recommended that you set a goal for yourself, that is, planning, according to your own ability and the future needs of the market. Then set some stage goals, the kind that can be achieved by jumping on your own. When it is achieved, set a goal that can be achieved by hard work, so that the final goal is reached step by step.

The goal should not be too big, but it should be within reach, so that you will not be confused and discouraged, and in this way, you will be able to get happiness from the success of achieving your goal.

The goal can be any aspect, such as finding a job you like, or determining a skill training you need, and then setting a work-study goal, so that you can make a little progress every day, work and study steadily, and accumulate experience, so that you will definitely gain something; After that, set a new stage goal and work hard. Give it a try, instead of being confused and entangled, make something that will be beneficial to you in the future.

30 is not too big, just started. Some of the ancients were still taking the imperial examination in their thirties and forties.

There are a lot of opportunities, depending on whether you can find them.

Life is just busy living or dying, and if you have a goal, you won't be confused.

Can you tell me about your hobbies?

If you have a direction, you won't be confused....Hope it can help you show you the way....It is possible to communicate.

Calm yourself and think about what you need to be your goal for the future.

After reading the landlord's question, I was happy to answer the landlord's question.

Hello, I know from the information that you have reached the year of standing this year, but you have fallen into the confusion of life, not only you, many people like you, have not found the beacon of their life. I think your experience is very normal, but your ideal may be too far away from reality, and the ideal me is a normal struggle with the reality of me. You don't have to be in pain, can you sort out your life plan, whether the work you do is what you are good at and like, whether you can do something you like in your spare time, a person's ability to grow is related to your ability to deal with things, are you good at learning, learn what you lack.

Of course it is possible to change the pull. There is nothing in life that you can't change! In your life, you try to help others do what you can, go out and play with others, and participate in various beneficial social activities, such as:

Playing ball, singing, and more. Over time, you will find that your personality has improved. I wish you some improvement in your character!!

1. It is easy for a man to start a business first, and then start a family.

2. You first find a decent job, if you are not satisfied with your current job 3. If you want to find a job, pay more attention to your friends and see if they have good information to convey to you.

4. Luck, good luck, friend.

Regarding career planning, it is recommended that you consider this question from the following directions:

1. What are your interests? What kind of person did you ever want to be? What kind of knowledge do you feel good about and can be further developed?

If you don't know your interests, you can go to the First Workplace Career Assessment section to take a free Holland Career Aptitude Assessment to get a general idea of your interests.

2. What is your personality suitable for? Different jobs are suitable for people with different personalities to do. Recognizing your personality is a very important step. You can also go to the first workplace to do a DISC personality assessment to understand your personality traits before making a decision.

3. What are your strengths and strengths? What are some of the skills that can be used? What should I do about what I lack?

4. What weaknesses do you have in your personality that need to be overcome? Don't let the weak balance roll point become a stumbling block in your growth.

5. There is a "Follow Your Heart - 14 Steps to Set Career Goals" in the top post of the first workplace, you can take a look at it and plan your career according to this method.

6. The first chapter of the book "Workplace Redemption - Written to the Grassroots in Confusion" also provides a more detailed and specific method, which is very helpful to you.

If you have any questions, please feel free to communicate!

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