In life, in marriage, there are some things that really don t have to be known to the other party

If you don't have to, you don't have to tell each other, sometimes you hide from each other, but it's the greatest care for each other.

When you succeed, everyone comes to the icing on the cake, and when you fail, what you are often waiting for is not to send charcoal in the snow, but to complain, this is human nature. In fact, when you make a decision, you can discuss with him first, so that no matter what the result is, it is two people who bear it together, don't think too much, there are still relatively few people who can often empathize, and many people can accept it as a matter of course, but they will not take it for granted, come on.

Same with me, but what's the solution? I want to leave but I can't leave. Be indifferent to everything, if some things are said in exchange for a quarrel, then don't say it, in fact, whether it's marriage or relationship, as long as you can calm down, it's a lifetime.

My life is the same as yours, yesterday he also told me that he must divorce this time, every time he talked about it first, you should be much better than me, as long as you can get by, no matter how you don't leave, just endure it.

I don't know if you're married, if you do, you won't have your money, his money.

Yes, I feel the same way, tired.

That's his problem.

When the relationship between husband and wife is good, they can "breathe out of one nostril"; But when the relationship between husband and wife is not good, I wish I would never see each other for the rest of my life. To be able to make a relationship "go" for a long time, it does not depend on the whole house, nor does it all depend on the ticket, and the husband and wife need mutual respect, tolerance, trust, etc. So, what are some things that couples should never do before they are married?

Let's talk!

First, talk about the rights and wrongs of the family behind each other's backs.

As the saying goes, "family ugliness should not be publicized", and this is not true at all. If one of the husband and wife has to tell others about his "family ugliness", then the other party will definitely feel uncomfortable when he learns from others. Over time, the conflict between husband and wife will deepen.

For example, if a wife tells her husband behind her back, and her husband's temper is not good, others will definitely not tell him in front of her husband.

Smart people, when there are some differences between husband and wife, they will not talk about it to outsiders, but they will tell each other in time, "Your temper should be controlled, and you are good to yourself and your family".

Second, every time you quarrel, you turn over old accounts

It is not difficult to find that this is normal for many couples in life, but turning over old accounts like this will only make the other party think you are boring, and over time, your estrangement will become bigger and bigger. likes to turn over old accounts like pinching other people's "scars" and not letting go, hitting each other again and again, thus hurting both of them to the point that they are "not fully skinned".

When smart couples quarrel, they don't turn over old accounts every time they quarrel, they think that the matter is over and let it pass.

Third, often complain to friends of the opposite sex

When two people encounter some troubles, they can complain to their parents, brothers, and sisters, but they must not just complain to friends of the opposite sex. Complaining is a way of chatting, and it is easy to let yourself "get distracted". If you often complain to a friend of the opposite sex, it is easy for him to come into your heart and easily rely on the other person.

As a result, the estrangement between husband and wife is getting deeper and deeper.

Smart people will communicate more with their lovers instead of looking for people to complain about. Although the communication between husband and wife looks like noisy and noisy, it will not hurt the muscles and bones.

Fourth, desperately save private money

Many people have the habit of saving private money, they feel that marriage is full of a sense of crisis, and they always have to leave a way back for themselves. It's not a good thing to save private money, let alone save private money desperately. Whether a relationship is good or not cannot be measured by money.

Although money is very important to a family, people who are overly selfish are not worthy of love.

In short, a good marriage needs two people to run together, if you want to grow old with one person, then you have to change yourself, let the two people live happily together, instead of quarreling often, even if there have been quarrels, don't care. "One day husband and wife raise a bright smile for a hundred days", since they have become husband and wife, both people should think more about each other.

Never cold war, don't talk about the shortcomings of the other half, don't say in front of the other half whether the other party's parents are good or not, no matter what, you shouldn't beat people, don't put all your energy on the other trembling Feng Ban Ling in marriage, you must have your own job, you must be financially independent. Eggplant.

When two people quarrel and don't answer, don't insult each other, don't always shirk responsibility when encountering things, don't always let the other party tolerate you, try not to touch and swear, and don't drop things.

Casual tantrums, cold war for no reason, excessive pursuit of a sense of ritual, suspicion and suspicion of the other party without any reason, not knowing how to be considerate of each other, too selfish.

You can be coquettish in love, but you must be mature after marriage.

You can't ignore each other's emotional feelings.

Be sure to leave some personal space for the other person.

What needs to be paid attention to in love and marriage is whether she likes you or not.

You can be sensible in love, but you must be sensible after marriage.