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It should be noted that feelings or marriages need to be managed, and two people should not always quarrel, which will break each other's hearts, and life will be particularly painful.

There should be no domestic violence, which is a prerequisite for emotional breakdown.

But be careful not to mention divorce easily, because when couples with good feelings hear the word divorce, they will also have a psychological state that they have no way to live, and they will naturally part ways.

In such a marital relationship, two people must give each other more understanding and tolerance, and give more relationship and love to each other, only in this way can the relationship between two people be promoted.

What needs to be paid attention to is not to continue to hurt each other's feelings, you can choose to separate, and the two people can still get along amicably.

Some couples break up as soon as they quarrel, and some will not leave the reason why they quarrel again is how much love they have, whether they really love each other, and no matter how much they quarrel with each other, it will only affect the feelings of both parties.

After marriage, there will inevitably be some quarrels between the two, some husbands and wives will soon be able to get back together, and some couples are more and more noisy, and finally get divorced, the reason for these two phenomena is mainly to see whether the two parties really care about each other, love each other, if the two really love each other, no matter how much they quarrel, they will not think about divorce, the two will think about how to ease the relationship between the two parties, real love is to tolerate each other, not to give in to each other.

1. True love is for two people to tolerate and tolerate each other, so that the marriage can last for a long time.

Marriage is a stage that everyone has to go through, and some people just get married in order to cope with the urging of their parents, and after marriage, when they quarrel with the woman, they will not be polite at all, and they have to fight for a high and low, and the girl is the one who likes to be coaxed, and it will make the woman feel disappointed if it is normal, which shows that the man does not really like the woman, if the two parties really like it, they will tolerate each other, and they will want to show weakness to each other when they quarrel, so as to maintain the relationship between the two.

2. The road of marriage requires two people to support and maintain each other.

Some women are used to being flattered when they are in love, and feel that the man has to listen to him for everything, and he insists on his own opinions after marriage and never reflects on his own problems. And the marriage of the two is like an umbrella, this umbrella has to be supported by the two people together, if the two only care about quarreling and no one is holding the umbrella, the umbrella will fall, so the road of marriage requires the two to support and maintain each other, so that the two can quarrel like this and will not divorce.

3. Marriage is a major event and needs to be chosen carefully.

Remind everyone that marriage is a major event in life, and you must choose carefully, choose a person who truly loves yourself and cares about yourself will be happy after marriage, and never choose a selfish person.

Because some couples are very fragile in their feelings, they can't understand each other and tolerate each other, and they will break up when they quarrel, and some couples have a deep emotional foundation between them, even if they quarrel, there will always be one party who bows his head first and admits his mistakes, and they can understand and tolerate each other, so they will not leave if they quarrel again.

Because some couples will not communicate and deal with the quarrel after the quarrel, which makes the contradiction bigger and bigger, and some couples will communicate in a timely manner even after the quarrel, explain the contradictions between the two people clearly, and will not turn over the old accounts.

Because everyone's attitude towards feelings is different, some couples pay more attention to the emotions between two people, so they will not leave each other if they quarrel again.

Because some couples have a very fragile emotional foundation between them, they can't understand each other and break up when they quarrel, and some couples have a very deep emotional foundation between them, even if they scold, there will always be one party who bows his head first and admits his mistakes, and can understand each other, so he won't leave if he quarrels again.

If there is only a difference of opinion, you should not divorce, and you can talk about it after two people have a fight.

It should be left, because two people often quarrel, indicating that they are not in harmony with each other, and it is very inappropriate to be together.

No need to leave. It's normal for husbands and wives to quarrel, and sometimes quarrels are also a kind of fun, and both parties should not take it too seriously. If for something, this is able to pass the hurdle. Don't quarrel but respect each other like guests, quarrels and the feelings of husband and wife.

It's best not to leave, because marriage is a responsibility and you should find new ways to get along.

Leave. Couples who often quarrel are very emotional, and the impact on the children is not good, so let's leave.

But if you enter the Cold War, it means that the contradiction has escalated, at this time, if there is no effective communication and communication, it will only lead to the escalation of the contradiction, during the Cold War between husband and wife, they are waiting for the other party to compromise first, which will only make each other feel that the other party no longer cares about pointing at themselves, at the same time, will forget the advantages of the other party, and there is no trust at all, between husband and wife, do not speak for a long time, this depressing atmosphere, let the child not feel the warmth of home, suppress the environment of the only line, the child will feel that he has been left out, In the long run, children will become introverted, some will become like parents, become untalkative, and some will even suffer from autism.

Couples quarrel constantly, and these two situations are the most common:

The first is that you will always have irreconcilable contradictions, both of you are very assertive, and your personality is also very strong, and you both want each other to be for you, so in the process of getting along with husband and wife, you will quarrel constantly.

In this case, the woman should understand a truth, that is, in the process of husband and wife cooperation, it is necessary to clarify which of the husband and wife is mainly responsible for what field of decision-making? It is necessary to do their own thing.

For the other party's better field, you should let go, delegate power, and trust the other party, obey the other party, and believe that the other party can handle the fight well. If this aspect is what you are good at, then the other party should trust you and obey you.

In normal times, both spouses should be clear about the general scope of responsibilities and powers. In what aspects of things, who should be the leader, whose opinions should only be used as a reference, there should be a relatively clear division of labor, then the occurrence of frequent quarrels can be avoided.

For example, my husband is more responsible, but not careful enough. At this time, you can take the husband as the leader, and the wife is more careful as a guide.

The second situation involves the influence of the original family, which is more common when the husband and wife are young, they both suffer more grievances, their parents are more strong, and even if they have their own ideas, they are never respected, even if their parents do wrong, they never apologize, and their hearts are full of grievances.

This leads to the fact that when a conflict occurs, the children of both spouses will jump out and hijack their brains.

When such couples quarrel, they are yelling at each other, expressing their grievances with each other, but not hearing each other's grievances.

The solution is that when a conflict arises, one of the parties needs to calm down and understand that this kind of yelling at each other and confronting each other will not solve the problem at all. At this time, all your grievances and injuries will not be listened to by the other party at all.

So as long as one of the parties is willing to make concessions, this conflict can be resolved. Otherwise, when the conflict escalates, both sides will be deaf and will not take into account each other's feelings and thoughts at all. It's just expressing his anger.

And this kind of performance of not receiving each other's emotions at all is also the fundamental reason why husband and wife continue to quarrel after ineffective communication again and again.

Today we will talk about what is the secret of couples not quarreling? That's why you and your husband often quarrel? The source of the quarrel is one sentence from our point of view:

You will quarrel only if your needs are not met. It's all because your expectations turn into disappointment, and you will have emotions and then quarrel with the other person.

Summary. No communication is a more terrible thing, the more you don't communicate, the less common language you have, the less you speak, and there is no chance of quarreling, and sometimes couples who quarrel every day may have a better relationship than a couple who seem to respect each other. There are many elderly people who will say that they have quarreled with their spouses all their lives when chatting, in fact, quarrels are also a kind of communication, but the quarrels mentioned here are definitely not the kind of hysterical quarrels, but telling each other their thoughts or opinions.

In the process, you will also deepen your understanding. It is recommended that there should be more communication.

No communication is a more terrible thing in Qinghuai, the more you don't communicate, the less common language there is, and there is no chance to quarrel if you say less, sometimes couples who quarrel every day may have a better relationship than a couple who seem to respect each other. There are many old people who will say that they have quarreled with their wives all their lives when chatting, in fact, quarrels are also a kind of communication, but the quarrels mentioned here are definitely not the kind of hysterical quarrels, but Qin Zhengxi tells each other his thoughts or opinions. In the process, you will also deepen your understanding.

It is recommended that there should be more communication. Disgusting.

After two people have been together for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be some stumbling and noisy, which is a common thing when a spoon touches the edge of the pot. As the saying goes, a bedside quarrel, a bedside quarrel and some quarrels and disagreements are also the norm in an intimate relationship. As long as it is handled properly, not only will it not wear down the couple, but the relationship between the husband and wife will give you more ability to resist external conflicts.

People who don't quarrel can quarrel the more noisy they are, the deeper their feelings become.