How can I live without being selfish and lazy, and live confidently without worrying

After listening to your account, I can only answer a little. Now you need to ask yourself, ask yourself, what kind of person do you want to be? Do you want to be recognized by most of the people around you, and liked by most people?

Personally, I think that if you survive in this society, if you are affirmed by others, others will evaluate you behind your back: this person is okay. Such an assessment is sufficient.

Method 1: Interact more with more motivated people, and learn from more polite and sophisticated people.

Method 2: Read more celebrity biographies, etc. Boost your mind.

Method 3: For unavoidable things, such as your father's forced teaching, you should not be too careful, causing a lot of depression, which will also cause distortion in your heart. Solving your mental problems is the foundation for you to start a beautiful life.

You have to believe that you can do it. Maybe I'm a little selfish, but everyone is the same and there will always be a little bit of selfishness, after all, we are not great people! For the father, you can try to say what you think, people will be open-minded and will have their own ideas.

Sometimes your mindset determines your fate. For a life that is not selfish and lazy, can be confident, and does not worry about it, you can try to do your own thing independently. Try to look up at the sky from time to time!

I believe you will feel different every time you look up!

First of all, you need to relax, spend more time with friends, take the time to communicate with your parents, tell us what you really think, and wish you all the best!

Change slowly, you must believe in yourself, because you don't believe who else you can believe, things only do to know whether they are right or wrong, don't do what you think is wrong, do what you think is right, and change it if you are wrong, this should improve your self-confidence, I am also a person who is very good at thinking about things, there are many things in the world that we can't figure out, we only have one way to believe in ourselves, there is only relative right and wrong in the world, and there is no absolute right and wrong, I am willing to believe in myself and believe that you can also.

Hey, after reading your question, I really don't know what to do with you! It's really not easy to change alone, take your time, give it to time, your friends will understand you, it's just that you feel tired or something, you can find a few people to talk to, and say everything in your heart, it will be fine! The main thing is to be happy!

Go out on a trip, look at the sea, relax, and maybe you will know how to be happy before you know it.

I suggest you take a look at the Human Weakness book which has the answers you want to know.

It's impossible to change right away, and you can't eat a big fat man in one bite. Everybody is selfish knowledge, you just show a little obvious, first of all, to see if you are doing it right? That's right, don't doubt it, you have your own way.

But take into account the feelings of others, try to care about others, and you can talk to your parents about it, not necessarily with good grades can have a good way out, but have your own characteristics, skills, you can, try to find out what you are suitable for, have confidence in yourself, bad habits can be changed one by one, all listed, change one after a while, believe in yourself, since you decide to change, you have to make up your mind, as long as you do it right, no one has the right to say this. Come on, believe in yourself, the future is still bright.

Little sister, in fact, selfishness is something that most people have, think about yourself in advance, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, and you're still young, and when you grow up, you will feel that your current problems don't need you to worry about so much, so now just do your best to do what you should do, and you don't need to care too much about what others say about you. I want to tell you that in fact, as long as you are determined to do your best, you will do the best no matter what the outcome is, and you will not regret what the outcome is, and your parents will understand and support you. Instead of worrying about these problems all day long, it is better to study more and read more good extracurricular books to increase your content.

There are probably two kinds of people in this world, one is to not believe others until others prove that they are worth believing, and the other is to believe others first until others prove that they are not worthy of believing.

Don't think too much about right and wrong, Qian Zhongshu said that many times right and wrong are just the difference between people and me.

You can read between the lines that you are a kind person.

You can be self-reliant now, just be yourself. You don't have to think too much about it, you will grow up slowly.

Run every day and communicate with people. Don't think that everyone else is a bad person. I'm not a gentleman, but I'm not a villain either. If you strengthen your ability and ability, you will have self-confidence.

Be open-minded and you'll be fine.

Put aside what you're doing, change the environment, and breathe in a different air.

Guaranteed that you will not be in the same state as soon as you come back.

Then try to think of others first, do your own thing, and if you do what you believe in, don't care about what your parents think.

Well, sometimes I feel the same way!

It is recommended that you make a specific goal at each stage, so that you can have a sense of direction and mobilize your enthusiasm in life! Get started now!

Establish a long-term goal, a long-term plan.

Then establish a short-term goal, a short-term plan.

Try to do things according to the plan.

Keep exercising, go to bed early and wake up early.

Wake up every morning and go for a run, wake up as soon as you wake up, and stick to it for 21 days, and you'll be able to give yourself the answer.

There should be a plan in life, so that life will be motivated. It is recommended that you buy a book on life planning, such as Xu Xiaoping's book by New Oriental. Then set a goal for one day every day, a goal for a week every week, and a goal for a year every year.

In addition, sports will make people more energetic and more passionate about life. It is recommended that you meet up with a few friends to play ball, climb mountains, and swim together after work or on weekends.

I've had this experience before.

I think you just haven't found what you're really interested in and what you're striving for (or where you're going in the future).

When I was a child, we used to write in our essays: we have to fight for our ideals.

This sentence may be a very general concept.

But when you think about it, it doesn't make sense.

I suggest you take some time for now.

Think about what you want to do or what you want to strive for, and make some small plans.

For example, if I am going to memorize 10 English words today, then if I can stick to it for a month, I will have 300 words, then two months and three months ......

You will find that life has a goal, the spirit has a pillar, everything will slowly become different, and you will learn to find the beauty in life with the eye of searching.

Your life will be filled with color because of it.

It's good to find something meaningful to do, and don't let yourself get bored

You don't have faith, do you? Then you can do a few things that you are good at and encourage yourself!

Standard has nothing to do.

Just find something to do.

Find a girlfriend to talk to, hehe.

Believe that you are very good, and then treat all your friends sincerely, don't care about gains and losses, your sincerity will open a door full of love for you.

You should slowly adapt to this society, and there may be too many things here that you will not like. But we have to adapt to this society in order to survive ... If we can't change it, we have to adapt to it.

Believe in yourself. It will work.

Make friends with your heart, you have a misunderstanding, thinking that associating with you is to make others want from you, so that you can occupy the moral high ground.

You are wrong, you should be equal in interpersonal communication, you must not be higher than others, and you should not be inferior, because you do not ask for others, so that you can make real friends.

What is there to worry about, look broader

Are you a rat? Can't really let go of your heart?

People have sex and love, but the key is to have a positioning, without a positioning, you will not have the goal of life, you still have motivation.

Watch more inspirational and comedy books, movies.

travel outside; Make some new friends.

Recommend "Facing the Sea, Spring Blossoms".

Find a job to do, preferably the kind where if you don't work today, you'll accumulate all your work for tomorrow! Plus some people are in charge of them. You can change slowly, in fact, I used to be the same as you! It's much better now.

Find a small restaurant handyman to do, and you have to persevere, so you can slowly exercise out.