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This is an unsolvable and guilty matter, now young people have to support their families to earn money, many children are grandparents with them, become left-behind children, but grandparents do not have much culture, can not give children any help in learning, just blindly pampered, there is an old saying that do not hit the next generation, it is really difficult.
For children, my opinion is that it is best for children to take care of themselves, but the young couple go to work, and we as the elderly, we also have to help bring it, and the parents are still in charge of education, which is my opinion.
There are drawbacks in intergenerational education, the concept of education is outdated when you are older, it is not suitable for children's growth, the old way has long been derailed from society, and the method of educating children has long been eliminated.
I think there are some problems with intergenerational education, one is that it is easy to spoil children. Second, the content of education methods is easily out of touch with modern society. After the old man has a grandson, he loves it very much and is easy to spoil, which is human nature, and it is understandable.
But after all, after a generation, the elderly are always painless when educating their children, reluctant to scold, and not very easy to scold. Always take into account the face of your son and daughter-in-law. Sometimes you can just let it go, and over time, the child will develop bad habits.
In addition, the times have changed, the society has developed, and the thinking of the elderly will not change so easily. It is also normal that some educational philosophies are far from the requirements of today's society.
If the elderly at home spoil their children too much, I think on the one hand, we can communicate more with the elderly, so that they can gradually realize some problems. On the other hand, try to take care of your own children and establish a sense of rules for your children.
Don't let the old man take the child, bring it yourself, what is solved! It's not good for anyone to spoil children, that's not loving children, it's harming children.
When the child's habit is cultivated, try every means to isolate it from the elderly.
The elderly can only take care of the children's food and drink, and I don't recommend meddling in life.
The next generation hurts, the way of love is different, if you spoil the child too much, it is indeed recommended to separate.
The husband and wife work together to solve the problems of the elderly on both sides: persuade their parents not to interfere in the education of their children, and say yes in advance.
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At this time, you should have more contact with your child, and you must communicate more with your child at the same time, and when your child has a particularly serious mistake in principle, you should strengthen education, and you can also physically punish your child, and at the same time, you need to let your child have correct values for reference.
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It is up to the parents of the children to discipline their children, to strengthen communication, not to let the elderly take the children, but also to get the understanding of the elderly, and to establish a correct idea for the child.
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Parents should make three chapters with their children, so that children can do things according to some rules, and when children appear to be less obedient, they can also be properly solved by force, after all, children are very naughty, so let children know that such consequences are not right, so that they can change their children.
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The way to deal with this is to communicate well with parents, and at the same time, let children know that uncontrolled naughtiness and willfulness will bring punishment. Naughty can't cross the red line.
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First of all, the child must understand what is right and what is wrong, change the child's living habits, and communicate with the elderly, so that the elderly can understand that doing this is bad for the child.
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3. Reasonable educational methods. When everything is in place, a sound approach to education is crucial. There is a reasonable way to correct the spoiled child correctly.
Let these children get the right moral education again. Parents need to know the right way to educate so that they can avoid repeating the mistakes of the past. Master the reasonable education methods, so that your children can get the best education and the best tutoring in both cultural and other aspects.
Therefore, as a qualified parent, whether it is the elderly or the younger generation, you need to master reasonable education methods, so that it is most beneficial to the growth of children.
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Don't let the elderly take care of the children, because it is easy for the elderly to spoil the children if they take care of the children, or sit down and have a good chat with the elderly about the methods of educating the children. Adjust the way the elderly are educated.
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You can tell the elderly in the family not to spoil their children excessively, learn to refuse some unreasonable requests from their children, and at the same time give their children the right education, tell them what things are wrong, and cultivate their children with correct values. Criticize education when children are naughty and make mistakes.
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At this time, you can set some rules for your children, let them regulate their behavior, and also communicate with the elderly, so that they know that this practice will affect the child's growth. When necessary, it is also possible to reduce the contact between children and the elderly, so as to effectively solve the situation of children being naughty.
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The old man always dotes on the children too much, which causes the current children to be naughty. When encountering such a situation, if it is found that the elderly have doted on the child, it should be stopped in time, so as to prevent the child from growing up. If the child's requirements are not met, the child will cry to solve the problem, and the best time for the child to educate must be when he is young.
Frequent spoiling of children is easy to spoil children, so that parents can forgive children who make mistakes when they are young. But when the child enters society, there is no one to forgive him for making mistakes again. <>
The elderly dote on their children, as the saying goes, they will spoil their children when they take care of their children. In the face of children's requests to buy toys, the elderly will meet the children's requirements, and even the elderly will educate young people that as long as the children are willing to buy things, they will try their best to meet the children. The elderly do not realize that such a practice cannot educate the right children, and there is no way to make children realize the importance of money, and the items that children want when they are young are relatively cheap.
When the children grow up, the things they want are getting higher and higher, and the parents are unable to satisfy their children, unexpected things may happen. <>
Educate children, especially when parents beat their children, the elderly in the family will try their best to stop them, and even gamble. When young people encounter such problems, they should not care about the attitude of the elderly in the family, as long as they educate the children well, the elderly do not have any right to interfere. After all, the child is young and has little to do with the elderly, although the old man loves the child, but this kind of love spoils the child.
Children are very naughty, as parents should also realize that children are their own after all, not the elderly, so when educating children, the elderly are not obliged to help young people educate children. It is understandable that the elderly love their children, but if they find that their children have done something wrong, they should stop the children in time. In this way, children can have a healthy and happy growth, and children must be criticized in time when they do wrong things, so that children can realize their mistakes.
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Live separately from the elderly, so that the elderly can't take care of the children.
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You should find a reasonable time to communicate with the elderly, hoping that the elderly can give the child a good education, this way will only harm the child, and the old man will understand after listening.
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Then you should discuss this issue with the elderly in your own family, and only one person should educate you, and others should not interfere in the education.
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At this time, you should quit your job, concentrate on accompanying the child, correct his bad problems one by one, and don't let the old man discipline the child.
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You can tell the old man that he can't spoil the child so much, it will make the child become disobedient and can't discipline him in the future, and then tell the child that he can't be naughty if he is obedient, and punish him when he is naughty.
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For a long time, in Xiao Liu's mind, his parents were very harsh, but after Xiao Liu's child was born, Xiao Liu's parents' attitude changed a lot. Xiao Liu's parents used to be very harsh, but in front of their grandson, Xiao Liu's parents became very amiable. Whatever the child wants, the grandparents will fulfill the grandson's wishes.
What the child wants to eat, even if it takes a long time to buy it in the car, the grandparents are willing to take a long time to buy it for their grandchildren, which can be described as a hundred and smooth for the child.
Grandma prefers children, and when she goes out shopping with her children, she will buy whatever toys the child wants and go home without saying a word. The child likes the toys in the hands of other children, and grandma will not hesitate to buy them home.
From these things, it can be seen that the child's grandparents love their grandchildren very much. Once, Xiao Liu's parents' house was about to be demolished, and Xiao Liu heard his parents say that in the future, they would leave all the money for the house demolition to their grandson, including some gold, silver and jewelry from his grandmother, so that the grandson would not be afraid of not being able to marry a daughter-in-law in the future.
After listening to what his parents said, Xiao Liu felt that his son who was not a few years old was rich, Xiao Liu said, who is the son in the end, I am a little jealous.
The elderly should not spoil their children too much, which is not conducive to the growth of children.
1. Parents' education will become ineffective.
When the child's parents are educating their children, the elderly will feel very sorry for their grandchildren and will intervene. Although this is a very normal thing, the old man feels sorry for his grandson and must have a degree, and he can't protect the child in everything.
When the elderly take care of their children, they are often soft-hearted and reluctant to say that the children are not. In fact, this practice is very wrong, which will make children feel that their parents are bad people. 2. The child's perception will be affected.
The best teachers to educate children are parents, and parents are the best educators for children. Whenever parents are educating their children, if the elderly are involved, it will influence the parents to educate the children. Especially after the child makes a mistake, most parents will punish the child somewhat, but the old man feels sorry for the grandson and does not let the child's parents punish the grandson.
When the first bird grows up, the child will have a sense that as long as the old man is around, the child will make a mistake. The child will think that this is nothing, anyway, the parents will forgive him, in fact, this practice of the elderly will cause the child's growth to be greatly affected. 3. Disharmony will arise in the family.
Children's education will be affected by the next generation, and the child's parents will not talk about the elderly on the surface, but in fact, there will be a lot of dissatisfaction in their hearts. I can't help but tell my children that there are some things that can't be listened to by grandparents.
If the child's parents do this, there will be conflicts with the elderly, and it will also affect the relationship between the elderly and the child. After a long time, there will be disharmony in the family in the future, and there will be many crises.
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