When the elderly help their children take care of their children, they should set up a few rules in

Young parents are busy and let the elderly help take care of their children, but it does not mean that they can be a hands-off store, in the final analysis, parents are the core of raising children, and the elderly with babies are only helping after all. A better generational parenting should be led by parents and assisted by the elderly. There was such a scene in the TV series "Little Huanxi", because his parents were busy with work, Ji Yangyang was raised by his grandfather since he was a child, and once when his grandmother sent him to find his parents, he chased after him and shouted:

You need to feel that the food doesn't taste good, and you go home! ”

Ji Yangyang must also be overemotional, when he saw that his grandmother was intimate from the bottom of her heart and was expected to be to her parents, there was an indescribable sense of distance in her eyes. This is actually the problem of character displacement in intergenerational parenting, because the child has been taken care of by the elderly, the parents lack in the growth of the child, and the elderly unconsciously replace the part of the parents and become the implementers of raising children.

On the one hand, it is not conducive to the healthy and happy growth of children, and it is very easy to affect physical and mental development. Therefore, before helping their children with their children, the elderly must make it clear that young parents are the core of raising children, and carry out a very clear "division of labor and cooperation", which not only prevents disputes between them that do not conform to the concept of parenting, but also avoids their children from being "hands-off stores".

There are some elderly people who have a very poor physique, and when they take the baby, they "work hard", and they can't wait to put the child's eating, drinking, lazing and sleeping on their own, and the conclusion is that they are tired and have a sore back, and in the long run, the whole body is a problem. In fact, when you start with a baby, you should explain the problem to your children and leave yourself a certain amount of free time.

For example, usually during the day, the children help to take care of the children, and at night the children sleep with their parents, and when the children are off on Saturdays and Sundays, they also need to take care of the children, rather than putting the heavy responsibility of taking care of the children on the body of the elderly. If the elderly are overly tired of taking care of their children and invest too much for their children, it is very easy to exhaust themselves and be unable to adjust their own situation. Everyone helps the children to take care of the baby, why not "three chapters of the law" early, leave some free time for yourself, adjust your physical state, and take care of the children with a fuller spirit.

No matter how good it is, don't complain about it. Parents still need to do the education thing.

If you want the elderly to help their children take care of their children, then the first thing to do is to tell the elderly not to spoil their children excessively, and to spoil their children when educating them in time is to destroy a child.