What is it like to gnaw on the old age after getting married?

I always felt that it should not be used with my parents' money. Young people come back after their money is gone, and some have the opportunity to make money. But the elderly may retire soon, they may not have so much money slowly, and they may even get sick.

It depends on the situation, if the economic conditions allow, gnaw it. I know a couple who can make money, they are only children, although they can earn money, but they are really not comparable to the man's parents. After having a child, the man's parents paid all kinds of stickers, and the couple's wages were spent by themselves.

Some people like their parents to post upside down, and they are very proud, thinking that they are reasonable and good girls, and their only child is extremely superior. That's why you should keep it. Pamper yourself a little more.

The family has money, and I don't object to gnawing the old, anyway, the money is for the children in the end, what to gnaw if you don't have money, gnaw on the bark, don't think about toothache. This kind of non-self-reliant fight out.

Parental help in times of difficulty. The turnover of capital when starting a business, and the support of parents when buying a house. In fact, this is not gnawing at the old.

If so, then all of them are. The so-called idleness, and not motivated, nothing accomplished, asking for money from parents at every turn, or lazy at home and not working, thinking about their parents' wallets all day long, can be regarded as gnawing old.

Chinese young people, how can they live without gnawing at the old? How many people are able to afford their own motorhomes after working? Can the husband and wife bring the elderly after the child is born? It's not all the difference between gnawing and gnawing more and less.

I think it's a shame to gnaw on the old, but now a lot of the old are gnawed, and many old people are willing to be gnawed, which can't be helped

Now that you are married, your parents will buy a house and a car, otherwise you will not be able to get married just by relying on your current salary. In addition, the pressure of the second child has to be subsidized by both parents, and the pressure is also very great.

I won't say anything about buying a house or a car. But raising children also needs to gnaw at the old, so I can't agree. The most important thing is that if your parents can't afford to buy a house in the city at all, and there is a ready-made house at home, will you force your parents to buy a house in a big city?

Buying a car, buying a house, and finding a job is gnawing at the old. Moreover, in Chinese families, mothers-in-law take children to cook, and use their parents' favors to do things, which is not gnawing at the elderly. So don't be so harsh on other people, to a large extent, the vast majority of people have been gnawing at the old without knowing it.

I think if the family is rich, and then it is normal and ordinary to use it for their children, isn't it the case that parents use money to buy a house and invest in their children?

On the contrary, my father-in-law is small! Children and grandchildren have to pay for surgery and examination, and when we go back, we will save the money and then exploit us, either we are old people with no conscience or vampires.

Those who have strength don't gnaw at the old, don't you think that gnawing the old is a denial of your own ability? I don't want a penny at home, and I feel uncomfortable when I ask for it, so I still give my parents money to spend happily.

Look at your definition of gnawing the old, anyway, I don't need my parents to buy a house when I get married, I don't need my parents to make up for my usual life, and I don't need to trouble my parents to take care of a small couple with children.

It's settled, my child is ten years old, he still gnaws if he doesn't work, and it's his life to gnaw.

One of the people in the family is willing to gnaw, and the other is willing to be gnawed, and the others are willing, so why should outsiders meddle.

In the past, people were much worse off than they are now, and their education and income could not be compared with ......The result? In the past, two husbands and wives could support a child for two people, but now there are too many children who are unwilling to pay a penny for their parents to support their parents! The reason is fundamentally the result of the parents' own education and their own spoiling of their children!

Zhou Yu beats Huang Gai, one is willing to fight, and one is willing to suffer!

We are about to have a second child, my husband works alone, the mortgage, and my husband can't afford it if he doesn't gnaw at the old one. The old man is willing to give birth to a second child. There is no way, we just gnaw on the old people and gnaw on the living expenses.

Comfortable, that's all there is to the home.

Basically, there is nothing that you don't gnaw, just gnaw more and gnaw less.

Shuangdu, don't feel too good.

Shameless! The whole world boycotted.

Parents also have no way to completely get rid of their children, because now the pressure of car loans, housing loans and life is relatively large, and young people have no way to rely on their own ability to manage a good life.

Parents have no choice but to try their best to support their children, because now that social life is stressful, their wages cannot survive.

You should show your attitude, do not give your child any financial ability, let your child develop a good habit of independence, and let your child work his own.

The phenomenon of gnawing old age after marriage may become a fashion for China's modern middle class. I'm not talking about gnawing on the old people.

Some people say that gnawing the old people is relying on the love of their parents to take it unscrupulously, and take their lazy behavior for granted.

It is also said that most of the reasons for the breeding and gnawing of the old people are caused by the soft-heartedness of the parents.

I remember that after graduating from university, I got married in 2 years, had children in 3 years, and left my wife and children alone in 3 and a half years to go to graduate school in a city 200 kilometers away from home.

I have an income of more than 70 yuan a month, plus my wife's income from work, to support a family of three. I don't have a house, I have no choice but to live in my parents' house, I don't pay the Yuanqiao food fee every month, and my parents give a monthly subsidy of 100 yuan for living expenses.

Now that I think about it, it was two generations of consensual thinking. At that time, there was no talk of gnawing the old people.

Our parents didn't have the knife to kick us out of the house. As for me, I often feel that I have started a family and start a business, and I always spend my parents' money, which is not very comfortable. I always want to support my family on my own.

Fortunately, after graduating from graduate school, I found a unit for welfare housing. There is no social housing anymore, and its orange acres are really nostalgic for that era. Soon I took my wife and children to my side, and I felt a great sense of accomplishment.

As for our parents, on the contrary, we are not happy because we are far away.

Looking at my friends and alumni now, most of those who have sons have already married their daughters-in-law. Married daughters are not counted. The so-called life has advanced. Looking at their current situation, I think it's quite interesting to share with you.

Most of my friends earn to do things for their sons and daughters-in-law, doing whatever they can without expecting anything in return. There is only one wish, and that is to hope that my son and daughter-in-law will live happily. So, I think the phenomenon of gnawing old age is what parents who have upgraded in the modern version like.

But there is a degree here, and it can't be upgraded to gnaw the old clan.

The phenomenon of gnawing old age after marriage that I have seen is becoming a fashion in the ordinary life of modern middle-class families in China. What about your point of view?

Nibbling old is a new word in recent years, and I always feel that this word has a somewhat derogatory meaning, but I also belong to the gnawing old clan.

My salary in October was a little more than 2,000, and I was about to lose my ......Most of my husband's salary is also used for himself Usually we have to go to work, and the two children are small, so the family asked an aunt to help. The nanny fee, the tuition fees for the two babies, and the food money are all supported by my parents. In order to support the expenses of our two families, my father insisted on going to work when he was of retirement age; My mother is not in good health, but in order to make it easier for me, she has been helping me with the baby.

People say that I am so happy that I have met good parents! Every time I hear this, I smile awkwardly. I think it's the ability to support myself, but the cost of living and raising a baby is too high for me, and I may have to rely on the help of my parents all the time in my life......

gnawing on the old, I was forced; However, I am indeed happy to be able to gnaw old age. Although I have always felt that it is not good to gnaw on the old, I am also helpless ......I don't have a lot of skills, so I can only do this. Be kind to your parents, care more about them, I think, that's what I can give them in return

1. Reduce the quality of life of the elderly. Most of the elderly advocate frugality in life, and after their pension money is borrowed by the juniors to buy a house, they will be more thrifty, and even cut down on food and clothing, so as to greatly reduce the expenses of food, entertainment, travel, family visits, etc. This will greatly reduce the quality of life of the elderly.

Second, it affects the health of the elderly. Because of lack of money, the elderly often consider procrastination when they get sick. This will lead to heavier and heavier dragging, which will seriously affect the health of the elderly.

3. The emotions of the elderly are depressed for a long time. When the elderly have no money, they will inevitably reduce their social activities, which will reduce the opportunity to contact others to relieve depression, which will lead to psychological depression.

Fourth, it affects the relationship between yourself and your family. When the quality of life of the elderly is affected, it is inevitable that they will regret giving their pension money to their juniors and make blame words and deeds, which will affect the unity of the family to a certain extent.

5. Reduce the ability of families to respond to emergencies. The elderly give their pension money to their children to buy a house, which means that the family's savings have tended to zero or even have an economic deficit. In this way, it will be difficult to deal with emergencies such as illness, disability, and accidents in family members.

6. Reducing one's quality of life. After buying a house, in addition to paying the monthly payment, he cannot ask the elderly to help him in life, so he often greatly reduces his living expenses, thus greatly reducing his quality of life.

7. Hit your self-confidence. Due to the increasing pressure in life, it is difficult to make progress in work and life, so their self-confidence will be greatly hit.

8. Influence the accumulation of their own contacts. Due to financial constraints, social activities will be greatly reduced, so it will be difficult to accumulate network resources, and even friends will be affected by long-term difficulty in communication.

9. It is not conducive to the development of personal career. Due to financial pressure, it is difficult to recharge after work, so it is difficult to grasp good opportunities when they come.

10. It is not conducive to grasping investment opportunities. Because when you buy a house, you will not be able to grasp a good investment opportunity. For example, in this round of opportunities, there are many people who watch others make money because of the lack of funds for buying a house.

The final result may be different for everyone, so sometimes it is really impossible to know what the final result will be for the person you see, so it is different for everyone.

I think the life he lived later should be poor, after all, it is impossible for the old man to be able to accompany him for a lifetime, and after that, he will not be able to survive without relying on himself.

also gnawed at the old people, what happened to them later. The old ones are too unproductive. He always relied on the old man to support him. And then they were. Do nothing. Idle. Waste one.

The people who gnaw at the old continue to pit the old and find something to do temporarily.

Those who gnaw at the old will starve to death.

Life will definitely be unhappy in the future, and it is very sad, people with hands and feet, should use their own hands to bend back to work hard, and can not rely on their parents, such happiness is not long-lasting, and will set up a bad image for their children.

Later they will become very incompetent, have no job, no savings, and children will have the same virtues as their parents, and they will not know how to be grateful to their parents.

In the end, their lives are still very ordinary, because there is no way for their parents to be by their side for the rest of their lives

Later, after the death of their parents, they will live a very miserable life because they do not have any ability to live.

After getting married, the husband and wife treat their feelings with the same kind of gnawing old people, in fact, I think this is beyond the imagination of ordinary people, and it is not suitable for my normal people's analysis of the attitude.

The struggle to get married and have children is a special process that every pair of young people should go through, and the struggle should not be put on Ken Lao. This kind of life will put an end to the joy of life, and it will be looked down upon by many people from now on.

As young people, we should master more social methods and improve our professional skills and characteristics, so that our lives can become better, not only need to work hard, but also need to gradually improve our own understanding.

Therefore, young people should rely on themselves and the wealth created by their own hands, so that they can feel happy.

The second is the spoiling of parents for their children, as the saying goes: "Father's love is like a mountain, mother's love is like water", but excessive pampering will make them lose their ability to be independentWhen they are used to the path that their parents have arranged everything, it is difficult for them to be independent from it.

It is a very bad experience to gnaw at the old age for 30 years, and slowly you will lose the basic ability to survive, and you can rely on your parents for everything.

Sadness, guilt. In fact, every time I take the money from my parents, I feel uncomfortable, and I will secretly scold myself countless times for not being human. The more self-blame, the less confident the whole person is, and the more he dares to take responsibility if he is not confident, he can only wait to gnaw on the old again, a vicious circle.

It's a kind of feeling that I'm worthless, I feel sorry for my parents, but I still break the jar and don't know where to start working hard.

It should be a spurned experience, because many people will feel that such people are incompetent and very lazy.

Individuals don't like to gnaw at the old life. Because gnawing on the old will make you feel ashamed, and you will be sorry for your youth. And relying on the elders, you will also lose some of your right to speak.