Women can be tolerant and tolerant in their in laws house, but what bottom lines must they keep?

Many parents-in-law of traditional families believe that a daughter-in-law should be diligent and thrifty at home when she marries, and she should rest assured that she will be a housewife and do not need to work hard outside. Most of the parents-in-law who have this kind of thinking are suspicious, and they are afraid that their daughter-in-law will have a high salary outside and press their children. Worried that his daughter-in-law is too capable, his son has become a disadvantage, and he can't hold his head up at home.

This kind of thinking of the older generation will undoubtedly restrain women's actions to a certain extent, forcing their daughters-in-law to give up their idealization, making him lose the ability to create wealth, and only relying on boys for the rest of his life to survive. Therefore, a woman must have her own independent work after marriage, and only if you have the ability to create wealth can you be respected by your in-laws.

The first thing a woman does when she gets married is to learn how to live with her in-laws. Although I don't encourage the intention of welcoming each other, I also expect that my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can raise their eyebrows with each other and give each other a minimum of respect.

It's a pity that many women don't understand this truth, once they marry into their in-laws' family, they will unconsciously become more and more lowly, in order to please their parents-in-law, and even meet each other's regulations at all costs.

Women must understand that if you often marry without a bottom line to meet the needs of your in-laws, in the long run, you will be regarded as having no bottom line, at this time, all my efforts to the family can be taken for granted, and there is no family status to talk about.

After getting married, a woman must let her in-laws know that her bottom line is **. As a new partner in the family, women really need to be a little more accommodating and find a way to integrate into this new family on their own. Therefore, many women will behave very lowly, for fear that they will not be able to provoke their in-laws in some places.

Actually, this kind of lowliness is completely incorrect, and if you are too weak, not only will you not be able to get the approval of the other party, but you will continue to appear to be very weak. Women need to understand that tolerance and cowardice are two very different things. Even if you want to integrate into your in-laws' family, women must learn to express their inner feelings, so that your in-laws can understand your attitude and moral bottom line.

After some young people have children, the old people help take care of the children, and they completely let go of their hands, regardless of the children. As a result, many children brought out by the elderly have many problems. The final outcome is that a disagreement was formed between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which seriously affected the family harmony, and in the end, the children were not educated well and their lives were not lived.

Living with my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law is able to help take care of the children in life, but when it comes to teaching, I must not let go of my mother-in-law. The concept of the elderly with children is relatively old, and today's children must be scientifically and reasonably raised and effectively educated. We all know that in the education of children, we must not tolerate it.

The older generation of people with children, all of them are relatives of the next generation, and the children want to give whatever they want, and they can't take off the stars for the children, so it is easy to spoil the children. I think that if the education method is wrong, when I grow up, I want to change it, and it will be very difficult. Therefore, in order to be able to future, we must not hand over the real power of culture and education to my mother-in-law.

First of all, if your in-laws treat you as an outsider and guard against you everywhere, then you should also keep an eye on yourself, and it is not necessary to leave a property for yourself. Secondly, if the people in the family don't respect you, there is no need to respect them too much, you must have your own position, and let them know that you are a person with a bottom line.

But you must know how to love yourself first, then love others, don't be bullied by others, but also improve your strength, let yourself have a job, have an economy, and don't let them look down on you.

You must have your own financial income, don't blindly flatter them, and don't let them insult their parents.

Marriage is different from falling in love, one is a matter of two people, and the other is a matter of two families. It is normal for couples to have conflicts after marriage, and picking bones in eggs can also improve the emotions between each other, but conflicts also need to distinguish places, women must remember that they should not have conflicts with their husbands in front of their in-laws. For the in-laws, the son is his own, yes, the flesh fell from the body, of course, I don't want the daughter-in-law to go to the top of the son's head in his own house, if the woman has a conflict with her husband and is discovered by the in-laws, it will make the in-laws think that the daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with, and then cause prejudice to the daughter-in-law.

As a daughter-in-law, you should remember that your in-laws are elders, and of course you look forward to the children's good life, not noisy at both ends of three days, and it will make your in-laws unhappy.

As a junior, a daughter-in-law should pay attention to and be filial to her elders. There is a generation gap between the elders and themselves or there are barriers to communication in some things, which can also be understood, after all, everyone's thoughts are different, the daughter-in-law understands more, and it is also beneficial to solve the relationship between the family members, but understanding the in-laws does not mean that everything is obedient, although the in-laws are elders, but they also need to be reasonable in speaking and doing things, and they can't frame the daughter-in-law for some reason, and blindly endure it will make the daughter-in-law feel aggrieved.

Women marry to live better, not to see their in-laws' faces every day, so if you live like this again, you will feel physically and mentally exhausted one day. In response to the unreasonable request of the in-laws, the daughter-in-law can refuse, because the refusal is also a kind of wisdom, naturally, the way of speaking can be tactful, and the in-laws can not be hurt.

In this life, everyone is an independent individual, there must be a private space, as a woman is married, there should be more private space, not because the in-laws are elders, you can go directly to your own room, this is unreasonable, sometimes it is inevitable that bad things will happen, in order to be able to get along with each other in the future, daughters-in-law need to have standards. It's actually true that the in-laws cherish the children, but the children are married after all and have their own homes, and they can't be controlled all the time like when they were children.

If the daughter-in-law lives with her in-laws, it is best to communicate with her in-laws in advance, and she must knock on the door before entering her room, and then go in after agreeing, so as to reduce unnecessary losses.

Don't let your mother-in-law and father-in-law interfere in your life, don't obey them all the time, and don't give them all the money, otherwise you will only suffer from your own self-indulgence.

Don't tolerate everything, don't be too kind, don't listen to your parents-in-law in everything, otherwise you will suffer.

You must keep your own principles and bottom line, don't always give in, don't always give in, blindly wronged yourself, and when the other party makes a mistake, you can't easily forgive.

The first thing, blindly asking, asking will only make the man recognize your essence

Women always feel that only by letting a man continue to pay and consume can better reflect his sincerity to himself. In the face of love, although the pay and the gain are not equal, they are definitely mutually existent. If you blindly take but don't give the man all the benefits, the man will slowly see you clearly

You are an emotional company. Even if you are not like that, the boy has already identified you as that person. No matter what kind of countermeasures you make to fill it later, it won't help.

It is also difficult to change the image of a person who has defined sex in front of a person's eyes.

The second thing is to declare war on the man's relativesSometimes, when women see their future mother-in-law and their mother-in-law's family before marriage, they dilute their own characteristics and show a gentle and virtuous appearance, which is endearing. can show the face of a fierce woman once she gets married, quarrel with her mother-in-law for no reason, and even scold her mother-in-law, and there are countless conflicts with her sister-in-law, so that the boy in the middle doesn't know what to do? The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal topic of discussion, but as a woman, you need to go through the whole process from daughter-in-law to in-laws, I don't know when this story will be completed, and I don't know how many boys are left to suffer from this?

The third thing is that I love to play, not at home

Some girls like to go to play after work, and they can't miss the night club in the bar. Young people love to play, and there is nothing in the first place, but in the old thinking of some elderly people, they don't think that nightclubs are good places, and they don't think they are serious places to play. If your mother-in-law knows that she is a woman who loves to go to nightclubs, she will definitely think of you as an indecent woman, so how can she still give you a good look.

Some people say that marriage is the second reincarnation of a woman, and if you choose the right person, you are likely to step into the temple of happiness, and if you choose the wrong person, you will be in prison. In fact, married life is not only determined by the man, but more importantly, you figure out what to say and what to do, so that you can still play life well.

First, don't talk too much about your own family; second, to have your own business; Third, don't quit your job to take care of your children, and don't want your mother-in-law to take care of your children.

Gave up independent economic capacity.

No matter when, the economic foundation is the first priority, don't give up your independent financial ability after getting married, you must know that a woman who is not financially independent will definitely make your mother-in-law despise you for a long time, and even belittle you. At this time, my mother-in-law will think that why is my son using all the money he earns to support you, why don't you go out to work if you have hands and feet? Even after pregnancy, as long as you can toss yourself, then it is best to do it yourself if you can, and go to work when you can.

If a woman wants to have dignity in her in-law's family, then she must be financially independent and not always dependent on her husband for everything, so that it will be difficult to gain a firm foothold.

Respect is mutual, and the most important thing for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along is to respect each other and be good at managing the relationship with their husbands. But we can't be unprincipled and filial.

Financially independent, you have the ability to earn money, your in-laws will not despise you at will, respect your husband and in-laws, if you want to be respected by others, you must first respect others.

Never be endlessly accommodating to your mother-in-law, husband and sister-in-law. After many people get married, they slowly become less like themselves.

The first is to be tolerant but not soft, the second is respectful, but not flattering, and the third is to have your own independent personality. After a woman gets married, she still has to keep herself, and don't lose her original self because of others.

The first is that you can't give money to your mother-in-law. The second is not to be too talkative. The third is that you must have your own name on the title deed.

The first is to have their own economic foundation, and second, when it comes to children's education, and third, they must not be housewives.

Must have your own job, have your own economy**; When the in-laws say that their mother's family is not good, they must know how to maintain their own family; When your husband doesn't have an idea, he asks you to ask his mother or something.

Many women will give up their careers after giving birth after getting married, which will make their in-laws look down on them, and they must not compromise.

Matters between husband and wife should not give the mother-in-law a chance to stir up.

You can't let your mother-in-law interfere in your life, this bottom line must be kept, if you let him interfere in your life, the next days will be very difficult for you.

Clause.

First, the bottom line of the basic principles of life. You are the mistress of the family, not the servant, this bottom line. Clause.

2. The principle of fundamental rights to have children. You are not a fertility tool, it is up to the man to decide to have a boy or a girl, not you, don't chew your tongue on this matter at every turn. Clause.

Third, the basic bottom line of educating children. Children should be tutored by you, intergenerational education is not conducive to development.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are actually the relationship between seniors and juniors, after all, your mother-in-law used to be a daughter-in-law, so learn to be considerate of each other when living together, and don't cause conflicts, then it is not good for this family, we all have to be family-centered.

It should be that a woman's self-esteem needs to be kept, and she can't have no bottom line in front of her mother-in-law.

The bottom line of respect, when your mother-in-law does not respect you and wantonly tramples on your dignity, there is no need to endure it anymore.

For example, the mother-in-law provokes the relationship between husband and wife. When the husband and wife quarrel and get angry, the mother-in-law fanned the flames. The mother-in-law intervenes in the affairs of the husband and wife.

The mother-in-law took advantage of her mother's family. The mother-in-law forced the child. My husband didn't take responsibility.

There are many families, mother-in-law will tell you that you should give up your career because of your children, but give up your career, take care of your children at home, and derail from society, this kind of resoluteness can not compromise with your mother-in-law.

Regarding the right to speak, it is absolutely impossible to compromise, if you don't have the right to speak, it is difficult to survive, and then you can't compromise on doing housework, and it's definitely not particularly good to do housework all the time, and then if there is something if the other party doesn't discuss it with you, you can't, of course, the financial power of the family must also be mastered, otherwise you will live a particularly difficult life, and it is also very important that you must be able to get their respect.