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I think that when encountering this situation, I can also make corresponding counterattacks against my mother-in-law's behavior, I can do this behavior in advance before my mother-in-law does it, and splash all the dirty water on my mother-in-law, you can pretend to be aggrieved and pitiful, and when we express our grievances, we must also deliberately let our husband see that we have been hurt, so that my husband will feel more sorry for himself, and he will stand on his side.
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Children can't pull out, they don't care, I take the child to ride an electric car, carry the child to the street Jianming Hospital, go to see a doctor, give my child a intestine, paste two days of traditional Chinese medicine is good, my mother-in-law is patriarchal, today her son is carrying the child, proudly take a scarf, wrap it around the child's sheet, clip two pumpkins to feed the child, the child is sick and prescribe medicine, take it to the doctor to see,. Tell outsiders to buy medicine for children, tell me to wear socks, her husband has a cold, tell her husband to leave the child's luck, create her image as a good grandmother, and an old woman, buy this for the child, buy that for the child, hold the child and lead the child on the back of the child, buy it for outsiders to see, do it for outsiders to see, she likes children and loves children, cares about distressed children, outsiders will not say that she is patriarchal, she likes children and loves children, cares about distressed children, and is afraid that outsiders will say that she is patriarchal and does this. When people have one set of backs, one set of acting, and outsiders say good things, pretend to be good people, pretend to be pitiful, and innocent people buy miserable.
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You have to communicate well with your family, don't lose your temper with your husband because of some things, communicate and communicate with your husband more, explain your thoughts clearly, and usually communicate more with your mother-in-law.
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You can install several cameras in your home, so that her usual words and deeds will be watched by your husband, and she will not be able to fit on.
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It's hard to do, if you want to get a divorce, you can get a divorceIf you don't want to get divorced, you can only stay away.
1. It is difficult for a woman in marriage to go to her mother-in-law's house after marriage, and she is based in the family as an outsider.
No matter how good you are to your husband, no matter how good you are to your in-laws, in the eyes of your husband, in the eyes of your in-laws, you are always an outsider, and you are always a person who provokes the relationship between your son and your parents.
There are even some mothers-in-law who think that you have snatched away his son, and that you have made his son disobedient and unfilial. After being wronged, your husband doesn't feel that you are wronged, but will think that you are sowing discord.
I have seen many good men how to protect the rights and interests of their daughters-in-law, and how to fight with their parents for the sake of their daughter-in-law, but in real life, few men are willing to fight against their own parents and fathers for their daughter-in-law.
Second, a lot of things want to open a good relationship with the mother-in-law is not good, resulting in a bad relationship with the husband, if the relationship with the mother-in-law and the husband divorce and conflict is very cost-effective, smart women will choose to stay away from the mother-in-law, meet the sweet words and say a few words, do not meet each other to live their own lives.
A woman must live separately from her mother-in-law, no matter how good her mother-in-law's temper is, no matter how good the relationship with her mother-in-law is, living separately from her mother-in-law is the best way to reduce the conflict between husband and wife.
If you can bear it, if you can't bear it, you can go back less, or if you don't go back, you have time to go back to your mother's house, have time to go shopping with your girlfriends, and have time to play with your children.
Women should remember to love themselves well for the rest of their lives, many things are out of sight, ears are not clear, and hearts are not troubled. You must have your own principles and bottom line, you can ignore everything in your own principles and bottom line, and once you touch your own principles and bottom line, you need to fight back immediately to protect yourself.
At the same time, women do not have the obligation to support their mother-in-law, what women have to do is to make money and save money, support their parents, and remember that sons-in-law do not have the obligation to support their parents-in-law, that is to say, women do not expect their husbands to support their parents, but also rely on themselves.
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This shows that they don't respect you enough, so you can ask your husband to think differently and move into your house for two days and he will know what it means.
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You can tell your husband that you are not unreasonable, and then tell all your grievances, or you can choose to live separately from your in-laws, and divorce is also fine, because there is no need for this kind of husband who does not feel sorry for himself to continue to be together.
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You can divorce such a husband, because this kind of husband doesn't care about your feelings at all, and will only see things from his own point of view.
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At this time, you should sit down openly and talk to your husband, tell him all your grievances, and let him know that you are not happy living here.
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If it were me, I would have encountered such a problem and I felt that I would choose to divorce because I felt that my husband did not understand me, and then the future would definitely be more difficult, and there would be no need to continue.
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Summary. Hello dear, happy to answer the question! Everything is mutual, I believe that there are unreasonable in-laws in this world, but most of the in-laws are still reasonable, if you are married, the relationship with your in-laws is not very harmonious, then the first thing to think about is not to solve the problem, but to think about why it has become like this.
Did you do something wrong, or did your in-laws do it wrong? What role does your husband play in the middle? They are all married, no matter how noisy they are, everyone is a family, and they will continue to get along in the future, and if they don't find the root of the problem, they won't find a way to solve the problem.
My in-laws treat me badly, how should I treat them, I feel very wronged, you are very happy to answer the question! Everything is mutual, I believe that there are unreasonable in-laws in this world, but most of the in-laws are still reasonable, if you are married, the relationship with your in-laws is not very harmonious, then the first thing to think about is not to solve the problem, but to think about why it has become like this. Did you do something wrong, or did your in-laws do it wrong?
What role does your husband play in the middle? They are all married, no matter how noisy they are, everyone is a family, and they will continue to get along in the future, and if they don't find the root of the problem, they won't find a way to solve the problem.
If you have a good relationship with your husband, then you need to communicate with your husband, he knows his parents better than you, and many times the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it is completely caused by the son's inaction. If it's your fault, why don't you try to change it? A family doesn't talk about two family affairs, you married to live with your husband, not to be angry, many times because of your problems, and it lasted for a long time, which eventually led to your relationship not being harmonious, not that you should go to the in-laws, but as a junior, you must learn to maintain the relationship between family members.
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I also don't understand why women are embarrassed by women's ......But mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, like water and fire, are often incompatible.
Your mother-in-law must be used to drinking at home, your father-in-law and husband have developed a habit for many years, after all, they are all a family, nothing more than nagging, short-tempered, and forbearance for so many years.
In fact, if you think about it from another angle, you will think that it is not bad to have such a mother-in-law.
Your mother-in-law's personality must belong to a point, in fact, she is straightforward, she will say whatever she wants, do whatever she wants, and you can see it at a glance. And some mothers-in-law have turned the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law into a palace fighting drama. In contrast, your husband and father-in-law can see your grievances at a glance, and when you complain, they will understand you better.
But there is one thing that I would like to warn you of, which is not to expect yourself to quarrel with your mother-in-law, and your husband or guild will stand up and speak for you. Remember, there are very few husbands in the world who can handle the conflict between mother and wife impartially. It's not that men are stupid, but because one is the mother who gave birth to him, and the other is the wife who accompanies him for life, and it is difficult for him to be caught in the middle, so most of the time, most men choose to be silent.
Try to change the way you get along with your mother-in-law, and if she wants you to convey something to her son in the future, you can just say okay, and if she wants to count her son, you listen.
Your husband is her son, and even now that you and your mother-in-law are living separately, this cannot be changed. Therefore, be generous, she loves to support her son, let him go, anyway, it won't be bad.
I really don't think a family needs to compete for a high or low together, or that sentence, home is not a reasonable place, maybe your husband and father-in-law know your mother-in-law's strong character better, but she also has a lot of good sides, so many times they are more tolerant of her and don't care about her! So I don't think there's any need to worry about her as a daughter-in-law, it's a big deal to hide, don't hit the muzzle, I really can't hide, she scolds her, don't go to heart! After a long time, she is also boring, and maybe she won't be able to quarrel!
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Then don't look at it, the father-in-law and mother-in-law have their own way of getting along, and they have been together for most of their lives, and it is very happy that they can tolerate each other.
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If you don't like it, you can watch it, it's the business of the older generation, it has nothing to do with you, what can you solve by interfering, but you can tell your husband and let him come forward is much better.
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Don't look. It is recommended that you do not get involved in the affairs between their husband and wife, otherwise you will only get into trouble yourself.
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Strong mothers-in-law, most of them will raise a cowardly husband (why did you marry him in the first place?). If you want to quickly change your mother-in-law's strength, or your husband's cowardice, then I think you should stop, because that's basically impossible, and if you're really asking, then I'll tell you my opinion:
1. Divorce; There's nothing to explain this, if you can't accept it at all, and you and your husband can't talk about it at all, then you have to do it, but it's the next step;
2. Cultivate your husband from the new; You have to let your husband realize the importance of this problem for you, for him, for your small family, and then cultivate your husband a little bit to be a strong and responsible person, the way of cultivation is recommended to read more books on personality, and also let your husband read more books or articles on the family, here you need to note: you can't have too much material to rely on your in-laws, otherwise you will eat other people's mouths, take other people's means, even if it is parents, It's the same (mother-in-law will think, use me for everything and don't listen to me!) );But this process is relatively long, depending on the patience of the landlord, but this is the best policy;
3. I see that there is a separate living downstairs, this is also a suggestion, if the landlord is not patient, he is not good at doing this kind of psychological construction, and he can't divorce, so he can only retreat to the second; But I personally think that the symptoms are not the root cause, no one has changed when they live separately, the form has just changed, and this kind of mother and son are weak personality model, can you hide from the distance? Maybe something happens one day, and it will be the fuse of another big war; middle policy;
I said at the beginning that if you really ask, why do I say that, because a lot of times I think the person in question knows what to do, but can't make up his mind what to do, and I still hope that you should do something instead of passively accepting it.
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My husband is also cowardly, cowardly, listens to his parents for everything, and everything is centered on his parents. The in-laws are too strong, too strong, and they have to meddle in everything, meddle, and take care of everything big and small. So I now have a countermeasure in mind:
The family of three kept a distance from them as much as possible, lived separately, hid away, and had less contact with them, which may improve over time. Otherwise, there is no other way but to divorce.
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Gradually develop your husband's self-confidence and learn to praise and praise him. When you cultivate well, your mother-in-law will naturally not be strong. If you can't change it after all your efforts, find another way.
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It is strongly recommended to live separately, stay away, and go to your mother-in-law's house for a meal during the New Year's holidays.
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We have now opened a factory in the city, and now we have to make a contact, and we are about to get divorced, so we won't say anything
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