How do you maintain high quality relationships?

High-quality relationships tend to affect a person, it will make the person quiet and lively, successful and unsuccessful, it all depends on it. Having high-quality relationships will not only help you in times of difficulty, but also improve your own abilities. So how do you maintain relationships?

First and foremost, be honest. Since you already have a high-quality relationship, it means that you have a good relationship, and if you want to maintain it at this time, you need to at least be honest with each other. Everyone has the need to maintain psychological balance, if you lie to her at this time, and then hide it from her, the balance in her heart will be tilted, and then you will have a gap, and she will feel uncomfortable.

So in order to maintain that balance in our hearts, we must be honest with her. After all, it's high quality, if you don't be honest, how can you continue.

Second, keep in touch. I think that no matter how high or low quality interpersonal relationships are, we need to keep in touch often, and one more friend is one more way. It's not like it was in the old days, where only letters and telegrams could be used, and there was no contact with each other.

But now it is different, we live in this high-tech era, there are more and more mobile phones, computers and tablets, and mobile phones are even faster than computers. And there are more chats, and any WeChat buckle can make your communication unimpeded. In this way, even if you are far away, you will still be as close as usual, because you are there for each other in the most difficult times, giving you comfort and warmth, and then your high-quality interpersonal relationships will become higher and higher.

In fact, this kind of interpersonal relationship is not difficult to maintain, as long as we give sincerely, how can there be so many bad people.

Factors influencing interpersonal communication.

The factors that affect interpersonal communication include: local cultural differences, background, personality, three views, behavior, psychology, etc.

Local cultural differences. Everyone comes from a different region, and they have some customs and habits of that place to a greater or lesser extent. Some local cultural differences can affect interpersonal interactions.

Life Background. The life background is different, the things you see are different, and you have different attitudes towards interpersonal communication.

Personality aspect. Some people are more extroverted and like to make all kinds of friends. While some people are more introverted, they prefer to seek quality friends over quantity.

Three aspects of contemplation. Generally, people with the same three views will play better and better, while some people with different views often tend to lead to quarrels. The three views are also an important factor in determining whether this friendship can go long-term.

In terms of dealing with people. In most cases, people who know how to behave, that is, people with high emotional intelligence, tend to be more popular. Because interpersonal interaction with them tends to be more comfortable and not too burdensome.

Psychological aspects. In the early stage of making friends, they generally judge whether the person is worth dating based on their own psychological activities. If we agree with his actions and opinions, we will continue to socialize.

After reading your description, I have a certain understanding of the question you want to ask, and here, I will also give you a hug of the four-dimensional spaceYou mentioned in the description, what is a high-quality interpersonal relationship? According to what I have found on the Internet, there are about four points of high-quality interpersonal relationships, which are mutual benefit, low cost, being honest enough with each other and giving positive feedback, and learning to say goodbye.

The first point is mutual benefit, where everyone in a good relationship continues to improve, become better for themselves, and at the same time make each other better. A relationship that is only beneficial to one party will certainly not last long. For example, many relationships are estranged, not so much because the relationship has become less round, but because they are no longer needed, so if someone is estranged from you, don't be too the other person, you may need to review whether the value of your role in the relationship is no longer there.

The second point is that the cost of communication is low, as the saying goes, what you say, he must be able to understand. The third point is to be honest enough and give positive feedback on the lack of ants. Any relationship needs to be maintained, and the most effective way to maintain it is to be honest enough with each other and to give positive real-time feedback, which must be constructive and based on reality.

In any interpersonal relationship, the lethality of the Cold War is very great, I am dissatisfied with you, I will not say, but this dissatisfaction will not be automatically dissolved, the accumulation of dissatisfaction is too much, the relationship will exist in name only, and the interpersonal relationship that has no ability to resolve the contradiction has only negative value. The fourth point is to learn to say goodbye. Most interpersonal relationships are dynamic, each other is changing, this year can still talk, Ming Bi buried in the year may not be able to talk at all, because the speed and direction of everyone's change are different, the results of differentiation are very different, completely different frequencies at the same time can not form a positive interactive relationship, do not deliberately maintain, such a relationship is meaningless to each other.

Therefore, the departure of friends should not be overly sad, this is the fate of individual growth and differentiation, if there is a relationship that can be maintained at a low cost for many years, it means that the speed and direction of each other's growth are not different, such friends must be cherished, less than one in ten. The world and I love you? Best wishes?

Here are five ways to maintain a good friendship.

1. Learn to care about others.

We want others to treat us as we want, and we have to think about how we should treat others. Everyone needs help at times, so we need to learn to care for others, so that others will naturally care about us. In the same way, when others need help, we can sincerely help them, and we must believe that we will be sincerely rewarded.

2. Learn to respect others.

People need mutual respect, and respect is the most basic, and only by respecting others can we get the respect of others. We must learn to respect others' actions and ideas, because everyone has their own ideas, and we cannot deny them at will. Because everyone is equal, there is no nobility in status.

3. Praise others from the bottom of your heart.

Everyone wants to be praised and affirmed. Because everyone has vanity, but there is nothing wrong with "vanity", when the other person is affirmed by us, we also have a positive impression of being affirmed by others or giving an effective response. Sincere praise is the beginning of smooth communication between people, and praise others is also the lubricant of interpersonal relationships.

4. Treat people sincerely.

Treating people with sincerity is the most basic requirement for communication, and interpersonal skills should be built on the basis of sincere communication. If there is deceitful deception, or hypocritical perfunctory, these are all blasphemy against human relationships. Only by treating people with sincerity can we win people's hearts.

Sincerity comes from the heart, and the sincerity that comes out of hypocrisy will only make us feel annoying.

5. Interpersonal interaction.

Everyone wants others to recognize their worth and accept them. Therefore, many people will pay attention to self-expression in social interactions, hoping to get the attention of others, in fact, we must learn to accept ourselves. Only by accepting ourselves will others accept us.

It is necessary to understand that interpersonal relationships are mutually reciprocal, and only mutual efforts can be reaped.

Truthfulness and trustworthiness, the principle of reciprocity, self-improvement, empathy, helpfulness, learning to speak, learning to appreciate.

1. Sincerity and trustworthiness. Honesty is the foundation of good interpersonal relations, a trustworthy, honest person everyone is willing to associate with it, sincere and trustworthy people can gain the trust of others, promote the successful exchanges between the two sides, and form a mutually supportive, closely coordinated interpersonal relationship.

2. The principle of reciprocity. There is an advertising slogan that says that "everyone is really good", and good interpersonal relationships ultimately need to be interdependent, and the two sides meet each other's needs through the exchange of money, material, resources, and spirit, so as to promote interpersonal communication and deepen each other's feelings.

3. Improve yourself. "If you are in full bloom, the fragrance will come", "look at a person's taste, look at the friends he has", all of which are expounded on the only way to improve their own quality in order to make excellent friends, improve themselves to make themselves more valuable, to be able to provide more help and support to friends, so that others are more willing to interact with you, and help maintain good interpersonal relationships.

4. Empathy. Being more considerate of the other person is an important manifestation of high emotional intelligence, "If you do this, how does the other person feel?" Will it be uncomfortable", "What benefits and harms will this bring to the other party, and what are the effects", thinking more about the other party when dating, it will make people feel that you are very understanding, and it will be easy and comfortable to interact with you, so you are naturally willing to maintain a good interpersonal relationship with you.

5. Be helpful. Life in the world is inevitably difficult things, friends can only see the truth when they are in trouble, when friends encounter danger, we must do our best to help, "send charcoal in the snow" like help can always give people a deeper impression, interpersonal communication process must remember to solve problems for others.

6. Learn to speak. "Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June" in the process of interpersonal communication, we must learn to speak, think about it and then speak badly, once the mouth is out and the sedan chair is bad, then it will take a lot of effort to repair, which may ruin the painstakingly established interpersonal relationship, we must learn to be tactful and polite to communicate, and create a relaxed and enthusiastic interpersonal communication mode.

7. Learn to appreciate. Everyone wants to be complimented and recognized, and sincere compliments are an easy way to have good relationships. Learn to appreciate others, be good at discovering the shining points of the other party, ignore the shortcomings, find the advantages of the other party, and praise the other party in a timely and sincere manner.

However, to put an end to flattery, praise and appreciation must be expressed from the heart and sincerely.

In today's society, maintaining good interpersonal relationships is not only a science, but also a manifestation of a person's ability, and it is also a recognition of character.

In order to maintain a long-lasting and better relationship, it is important to do the following.

1. Keep in touch and get together when you have the opportunity. Talking about family life and work so that you can know each other's current situation, and contacting is an important part of keeping the relationship from fading.

2. Take the initiative to greet relatives often, show concern and pay attention to family affection, because those people are your closest relatives, don't be indifferent and become strangers.

3. Have a good relationship with leaders and colleagues, do not flatter your boss, do not alienate your colleagues, take care of your personal interests less, do more goodwill exchanges and learn from each other, learn from each other's strengths, and after a long time, your character will be seen by others.

Fourth, we should be tolerant of people, look more at people's strengths and advantages, find less faults, do not provoke right and wrong, calm people, and use sincere language to feel the people of the people. 5. Do less and do more in everything, show others with practical actions, and let people see that you are a serious person and a person with positive energy that can be trusted.

Care, deep concern for each other, care for knowing each other's needs and hobbies.

Textbooks "Social Psychology", "Social Psychology Fifth Edition" Aronson, "Chinese Psychology and Behavior: Localization Research" Yang Guoshu, "Social and Behavioral Science Research Method" Yang Guoshu model, etc. (involving interpersonal relationship measurement).

Relationships are a core part of our life experience, and it's also the foundation. The quality of our relationships has a significant impact on our physical and mental health. China is a relational society, Yang Guoshu once said:

Chinese people are divided into four orientations: social orientation, other orientation, relationship orientation, and family orientation. Therefore, for the Chinese people, the relationship is very important.

Interpersonal relationships can be understood as the personality aspect or psychological aspect of social relations.

Interpersonal relationships are conditioned by objective social relationships, such as teacher-student relationships, parental relationships, or roles.

Interpersonal relations are a complex refraction of social relations, and social relations act on people through the mediating factor of interpersonal relationships.

Relationship Building and Development:

It is divided into four stages: 1. Orientation stage.

First to choose who to associate with, after the directional selective attention, I decided to communicate with him, some people hate to see each other late, they enter very quickly, and some people will continue for a long time in the orientation stage. I think it's pretty good.

It has entered the stage of 2. emotional exploration.

The process of satisfying each other's emotional needs is actually the beginning of self-disclosure, and we have to explain to each other what we need in our hearts. The involvement of emotions is mild. Even if the relationship between the two parties breaks down, it will not hurt much.