What s the worst thing your parents say to you?

It is common for parents to say some ugly things to their children, some words seem to be difficult to listen to others, uncivilized, but they don't care about some cruel words said by their parents, maybe they have been used to listening to them since childhood, maybe they feel that their parents are their dearest relatives, and saying some heart-piercing words to their children is your concern and love. My father was a teacher, educated, never said harsh words, and always told us a set of big truths, and we ran away when we got tired of listening to them, and my father was still in the same place and one by one. My mother was uneducated, she used to go to a literacy class, and she couldn't read a few words, so she didn't speak so "civilized" to us.

My father rarely came home to teach abroad, and I grew up under my mother's "ugly" education: when I was a child, I often heard my mother ask with concern: Little rabbit, where did you go?

Coming home so late? Why don't you die and go outside, hurry up and eat. My mother would scream in pain when I gobbled up my meal:

You can't eat anything that doesn't come slowly, like a pig, you'll be killed when you're full. I don't sleep at night, I will whisper: You little thing, what time is it, you don't sleep, if you don't sleep again, I will throw you to the mountain, there are wolves on the mountain.

When I was in middle school, the school organized theatrical performances, and I wanted to sign up for them, but my mother stopped me and said, "You have a pair of mouse eyes, you can't speak, what kind of activities do you participate, go home and stay." My mother told me a lot of sad things, but as I grew older, I rarely heard my mother's ugly words, because I had left my mother to study and work in a foreign country, and after leaving my mother, I especially missed the happiness and the ugly words when I was by my mother's side.

I hope that today's parents will not educate the next generation like my mother, the impact is not small, I am now very inferior to myself, no self-confidence, not good at socializing. However, now parents are educated, and they are very measured when they speak to their children, think twice before speaking, and be careful to tell their children. Now they are only children, pampered, not easy to serve, and have a particularly strong sense of self-esteem.

My parents never said anything nasty to me. Every child is a treasure in the palm of their parents' hands, my parents are post-70s, our family is two girls, both parents are impartial and a bowl of water is even, and the relationship between our sisters is also very good. When I was in high school, I didn't study very well, and I had more than 50 workbooks in my junior year of high school, and I would run out of them and buy new ones after a while, and my family had a heavy financial burden, so I didn't want to continue going to school.

My mother persuaded me, don't think about the family, as long as you want to go to school, your parents will provide you with education, now you are going out to work, you have no social experience, you want to work and wait for college graduation, it doesn't matter how many points you score in the college entrance examination, the focus is on participation! Don't leave yourself with regrets in the future. I've also seen some parents who speak badly to their children, the forest is really big, and there are all kinds of birds, and I didn't understand at the time, isn't this child biological?

My parents encouraged me more than they reprimanded me, and what I said was really a scolding that was ugly, and it was the kind that didn't care about the occasion. May everyone age healthily and happily and live happily.

The most ugly thing my parents said to me was, "Look at who is better than you, you know how to play, like a fool." "At that time, I was really sad to hear it, and I vowed to surpass others.

The words of parents are sometimes ugly, but they will never pierce the heart, let alone leave eternal pain in the heart. However, no one is a saint, and no parent will be perfect in educating their children. It will cause some undesirable consequences, which may leave some shadows in the hearts of children, but this is by no means their original intention, maybe they also have a hard time, our parents love us, just as we love our children.

Let go of these mustards in our hearts, so that we can be happier. Many times, to forgive others is to forgive yourself. This is true for parents, and it is true for others.

When I was a child, I studied very well, the first and second in the class, because the conditions were not good, my mother let my brother and brother go to school, my mother said that you are a girl to go to school is useless, this sentence is the most heart-wrenching words I have heard in my life, I cried for a few days and nights, my parents still did not let me go to school, since then I went to sleep at night and dreamed that I went to school, I was very happy, and when I woke up was a dream, this dream was more than ten years, and I didn't have such a dream in recent years, because the child studied better, I have pinned my hopes on the child, the child is now the first and second in the class, and I am now taking good care of the child and this family, happy every day.

When I was 12 years old, my final exams were approaching, and my mom said to me, "If you don't do well, I won't want you." Now I can still remember myself at that time, hearing those words, I wanted to cry but didn't dare to cry, my eyes were wide open, and I didn't dare to let the tears flow.

I'm afraid that if I don't do well in the exam, I won't have a home. This phrase has been with me for a long time, and until now, I value relationships very much.

The most ugly thing to say is, if you knew it earlier, you wouldn't have been born out, what's the use of being angry here since you were born.

Once chatted with my father, he said how I am not as good as his son, how great his son is, I am in the rotten pit, no money and no ability, my heart was broken at that time, and I have never beaten him until now, I just think when I am rich, I have enough strength to compare with his son to talk to him, I don't seem to have talked to him for a year.

Eleven and the Chinese New Year told me twice: you don't expect us, and then turned his face to my brother from the down payment to the decoration, and then talked about the future life subsidy for my brother. Later, I realized that parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for it, and they burst into tears several times.

When I failed the college entrance examination that year, I said that I was not successful enough to fail, and I felt that I was that kind of person at that time, and I was living a muddy life.

My dad said, "Don't embarrass Lao Tzu when you go out." "Apparently I am just a representation of his vanity.

My parents also said ugly things when they were angry, and they must have been angry, but I can understand what my parents say is for our good.

My eldest brother is going abroad recently, and my father wants to reunite the family before my eldest brother leaves, and every time we meet, my father and I will quarrel, which has almost become a law, and this time is no exception.

And there persuaded me bitterly, don't stay in Beijing, there are many talents, wandering all day long, no sense of belonging, go back to my hometown, arrange a job for me, why don't you go.

As he spoke, he quarreled again, like a mantra, and his thoughts were broken.

However, this time it seems to have changed, after we were silent with each other for half an hour, my father moved over a small stool and sat down, five meters away from me, facing me looking at my mobile phone on the balcony, and said, can we communicate without emotion, you say that I am useless every time, we are old, without your culture, some can not keep up with the trend of the times, and the concept will be outdated, but can we communicate calmly.

Looking at my father's almost pleading eyes, I suddenly realized that I had always had a problem, in order to avoid my father's problem, I chose to quarrel, and even sarcastically talked to him, although I won the victory in language, but I lost a lot in the relationship between father and son, so I chose the same way as my father, started a conversation, and slowly found that I could actually communicate well with my father, and carefully recalled the process of good communication with my parents, and summarized 3 points of experience.

1.No emotion, right mentality.

When communicating with parents, it is important to remember not to be emotional. At this time, you must control your emotions, you have to be like a counselor, accept everything from them, and then enter their channel, feel their feelings, try to understand their anxiety, uneasiness, worry, and then withdraw from their emotions and then communicate with them.

2.Consensus mechanism, principle exchange.

Before communicating, we must ensure that both parties have reached a certain consensus on communication, mutual recognition of the principle or mechanism, on the basis of the principle, everyone in communication, will not quarrel, summarize 3 principles, 3Never say nasty things to your parents.

Sometimes when I quarrel with my father, my emotions are uncontrollable, and I will say some particularly ugly words, which also hurt their self-esteem, and now I think about it, I really regret it, they don't show sadness and sadness in front of us, and they are silently crying behind their backs, and the words are spilled out of water, and they can't take it back when they say it, and they may still remember it in their hearts and can't let go, so never say ugly things to their parents.

Chinese culture talks about "filial piety first", talked about more than 2,000 years, but the sage only told us that we should be filial to our parents, but did not tell us how to get along with our parents, what to do if there are contradictions, what to do when encountering differences, different age groups, how to deal with relationships, this is a very specific problem, but looking through the four books and five classics, I can't find the answer, this culture has advantages and disadvantages, out of the nurturing kindness of parents, we must also be filial, but in respect for the development of individual life, how to live in harmony with filial piety cultureIt's a big problem.

Everyone in the world will betray you, look down on you, and leave you, but you have your parents who will always support you and love you unconditionally. As we grow older, our parents are getting older, but our parents will still give us without regrets. Sometimes, parents will be more verbose and will care about you for a long time, but we can't ignore their concern, they are just caring for us in their own way.

Let's take a look at what are the ten things you must not say to your parents? Did you say that?

1. Okay, okay, you know, it's really wordy! (Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, and the "wordiness" of parents is actually a kind of happiness.) ）

2. Is there something wrong, okay? That's hanging. (Parents hit **, maybe they just want to talk, can we understand their intentions and don't hang up in a hurry**?) ）

3. You don't understand, don't ask! (They just wanted to talk to us).

4. How many times have I told you that I don't want you to do it, and I can't do it well. (Some things that they are already out of their power are stopped because they care, but don't make them feel useless.) ）

5. Your set is outdated for a long time. (Parents' advice may not help, but can we respond in a different way?) ）

6. Tell you not to clean up my room, you see, I can't find anything! (You should clean up your own room, don't clean up, and don't brush off the kindness of the old man.) ）

7. I know what I'm going to eat, don't clip it! (Parents who are looking forward to us coming home always want to put all their care into a specially made dish, and we just appreciate it silently.) ）

8. I said don't eat these leftovers, why don't you listen to them! (It's hard to break their lifelong thrifting habits, so let them make as little food as possible each time.) ）

9. I have a sense of proportion, don't talk about it too much, and don't bother.

10. I don't want these things, what are you doing here! (They always want to keep everything related to our upbringing, maybe fill the room, and years later, they are surprised to see their little padded jacket as a baby.) ）

When our parents were young, they would patiently teach us everything, but when our parents were old, we should also have patience to teach them. Have you said the above ten sentences? If you say it, don't say it in the future.

Many elders like to lecture others every day, they think that they are elders who have experienced a lot of things, and their views on things are correct, and these young people will not do things, and the elders also like to use their own experience to teach others to do things, but these experiences can no longer be used.

Elders like to preach because they have a sense of age superiority.

Elders like to preach to others, and they feel that what they say is right. Elders rely on their age and seniority, so they can casually preach and criticize others, because even if he says it, others dare not refute it, because he is an elder and he is old. So he slowly developed such a bad habit, and he himself felt that it was very good, but in the eyes of others, he had no choice but to endure it, and he couldn't disrespect his elders, just listen to it himself, and he wouldn't take it seriously.

Very to the elders think that they have experienced a lot of things, so some of the ways they say about some things are also correct, and they have to let those young people do things according to their own words, but young people have their own methods and plans, so they often contradict each other because of the disagreement of views, and in the end it is often the end of the young man who contradicts the elder who gives him experience, and often complains that the young man is disobedient, so the young man is very rare.

Some of the lessons given by the elders are not so useful now.

Many elders just like to give all kinds of advice to young people, saying that they should get married at twenty, and if they don't get married, no one should want them, the sooner they get married, the better, others don't listen to what they say, they will get angry and lose their temper, and finally they quarrel, many of the elders' experience is outdated, and they are not suitable for the current society at all, so we must listen to the opinions of the elders appropriately.

The elders like to preach to others for the good of these young people, but many experiences are no longer applicable to this society, and they will still speak these experiences, as juniors, they only need to listen to it, and there is no need to take it seriously.