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It is normal for children to make mistakes, their lives have just begun, many of the things they do are still done for the first time, making mistakes is inevitable, even parents themselves have grown up in making mistakes since childhood, so why do you have to embarrass children?

And parents are not children, how can you know your lessons, what kind of psychological damage will be caused to children, many children have become very timid and cowering since childhood, just because parents have taught too much. So he made the child dare not say anything, dare not do anything, and became a child with a gloomy personality.

So in normal times, you have to be tolerant of your children, if you see them do a good job, you must be very happy to praise them, affirm their achievements, and let them know that they are also capable of doing good things.

Then if the child does something wrong, don't blindly teach them, first communicate with them in a gentle tone, let them know that what they are doing is wrong, and then help them do things better, teach them the method, let them know that they have actually done something wrong, and their parents will help them.

Afterwards, you should sincerely apologize to the child, and explain the reason why you hit the child at that time, tell the child, because Naishi was emotionally out of control and hit him is a very wrong thing, make a sincere apology, pray for the child's forgiveness, and have a good communication with the child.

I think that at this time, Jia Chiqiao should first apologize to his children, because only an apology can let children see the sincerity of their parents, and they should communicate more with their children in ordinary life, let them understand their own thoughts, and truly understand their children's code.

Afterwards, you can apologize to your child and tell your child that it is wrong to hit him, and that you will not hit him next time.

The punishment is as follows:

1. Cancel some specific treatments, for example, parents can cancel the fact that their children are not allowed to watch TV within a week, or are not allowed to eat snacks within a week, and parents should not be soft-hearted in this process, so as not to lose their prestige in the hearts of their children, and it will be more difficult to discipline their children.

2. When the child is disobedient and collides with adults, keeps making noise, or fights with friends, parents can take this way of knowing the punishment station. Set a fixed corner of the home as the "penalty corner", the penalty station area should not be too obvious, and the general penalty station time is about 15 minutes. Before the punishment station, the parents should explain clearly why they want to punish him; After the penalty is over, let the child say how to correct the mistake next time, which is the meaning of the penalty station.

I believe that many experienced parents know that punishment is only temporary and effective, and it will cause harm to the child, and parents will feel distressed and blame themselves afterwards.

Why do these parents treat their children in such a way?

First, parents themselves were treated like this when they were young;

Second, parents don't know what to do? Therefore, it is simple and rude, and it hurts yourself and your children!

Punishment, or the idea of authority ("Listen to me, or you will ....... It must be replaced by mutual respect and cooperation. Although the status of children is no longer as low as we used to be, they are inexperienced and untrained, so they need our guidance.

A good facilitator should inspire his followers and motivate them to behave in a way that is appropriate to the situation, as are parents. Children need our guidance, and when they are sure that we respect them and their right to make their own decisions, they will accept our guidance.

Hitting children is a great insult to their dignity, and parents do not respect themselves and feel guilty and regret afterwards. Parents can learn effective ways to motivate their children and make them self-disciplined; It can create a home and garden atmosphere of mutual respect and mutual understanding, teach children how to live happily with others, create a state of life that respects themselves and children, and gives children the opportunity to learn and train in such a life. These behaviors should be carried out under the premise that Sakura will use parental privilege, because once we use parental privilege, it will provoke the children's rebellion, which is contrary to our original intention of educating our children.

When you get along with your child with sincerity and respect, your child will be very cooperative. Every time you say that your child cooperates, some people will say that it is because your child is well-behaved, and the real reason is that the child is "well-behaved" because the parents have won the child's cooperation with sincere and respectful interaction.

It is normal for children to make mistakes, we have to discuss them in different situations, if it is a small mistake or irrelevant food, then after the child admits his mistake, we can forgive him, if the child makes a big mistake or repeatedly teaches him not to change, we will punish this situation appropriately, to let the child know that making a mistake is a price, sometimes the cost must be huge, it is best not to make such a major mistake.

Babies are also very easy to make mistakes, but parents must control their temper at this time, if parents always blame their children, it may easily lead to children have low self-esteem. Therefore, parents must pay attention to their own educational methods, and we should not lose our temper in front of small children at this time.

Parents are also very concerned about children, because parents also hope that children can trust themselves, and also hope that children have a better growth environment, but parents' education methods are also very important, so we must observe our children more in life, and we must provide a better environment for children. If children make mistakes, then parents should pay attention to guidance at this time, and we also know that children are more likely to make mistakes, which is also a very normal thing, so parents do not need to be too anxious at this time.

If parents always blame their children, it may easily lead to some inferiority complex in children, because children will also feel that their parents do not love themselves at all, so these problems need to attract our attention, and parents must control themselves when educating children, we should not lose our temper in front of children. And you don't always blame your own children, because children can feel very inferior. Everyone must pay attention to related issues, and we must also take the initiative to communicate with children in the work of the living shed.

Parents are also very concerned about their children, so parents must pay attention to their own education methods at this time, so as to make your children better. Therefore, we must pay attention to our own behavior, and we must be gentle in life, so that children can trust their parents, and it is also conducive to the development of parent-child relationship, so we must pay attention to the method.

The child is influential, if the baby makes a mistake after you always hit her, maybe the baby will not dare to make mistakes in the future, and then the baby will make a mistake after Qi Xiao will lie, disturbing will develop a lot of special slow boy don't bad some problems, are to avoid your scolding.

This is very unaccompanied, it is likely to cause the child to become very inferior, become very introverted, not conducive to the growth of the child, the baby will feel that the parents do not love themselves, and will do things in the future.

It will make the child become very inferior, it will also make the child become very irritable, it will also make the child become very introverted, it will also make the child very timid, and it will also make the child become very chained and not like to learn.

It may have an impact on the psychological aspects of the child, and often hitting the child's model shirt will make the child become inferior, have no self-confidence, and be timid, and it will also affect the child's future life.

When a child does something wrong, parents should be reed:

1.Calm down: Parents should not lose their cool due to their children's faults, such emotional reactions can make children feel scared or misunderstood.

2.Show support and understanding: Parents should show their support and understanding and let their child know that they are willing to help their child solve the problem.

3.Help your child find the cause of the problem: Parents should ask their child why they are doing what they are doing to find the root cause of the problem. And find solutions to problems through active communication and exchanges.

4.Give appropriate punishments and punishments to children: Parents should give appropriate punishments and punishments according to the child's situation and the degree of fault. Punishment should be just, reasonable, and proportionate, and should not be excessively harsh.

5.Urge children to correct their mistakes: Parents should clearly accompany their children to tell them that it is wrong to do so, help children establish correct values and behavioral norms, and urge children to correct their mistakes.

Finally, parents should keep an open mind and be willing to listen to their children's voices and understand their children's ideas, helping their children grow up to be responsible and independent people.

As parents, as soon as we see our children making mistakes, we immediately burst into a rage, and our bad mood repels our children step by step to the point of being unbearable. The so-called kicking cat effect is like a parent's inability to tolerate a child's mistakes, and then the bad mood affects a series of chain reactions, and finally leads to the child's increasing insecurity in the tense parent-child relationship.

In particular, there is no fundamental reason for learning, and children have no direction for learning, so parents can only be anxious. In "The Pattern of Learning", it is said that Professor Kapoor's research has achieved ineffective successes and effective failures. Effective failure means that parents must be able to tolerate their children's mistakes in order to let their children benefit from their mistakes.

Many parents see the report card, see the results, do not analyze, directly scold their heads and faces, and will still be like this next time after scolding. Parents are impatient, more often parents don't know that their children are wrong? Most parents said, I don't understand, I can't read.

It doesn't matter if you don't know this, you can learn it, have you ever flipped through your child's book? Help the child sort out the knowledge points, see which are the children's more vague and weak points, and then make a plan how to make up for it, and what Cheng Biwang Xingdu can be achieved after how many days? Accompany the child to stay up the most difficult night, do the most difficult problem, really go into the child's heart, understand and give support, guide the child to find problems in mistakes, and find ways to solve them.

It has been said that:"Education is a trial-and-error process, and there are no standard answers"。In life, parents should encourage their children to try and regret their mistakes, so that they can experience the excitement and ups and downs of life by themselves.

In this way, they will accumulate their own life experience and find a code of conduct that suits them. Children's growth is a continuous learning process, they often make such and such mistakes in the process of learning, it is this time and again "trial and error", "correction of mistakes", so that children's learning ability, life ability can be continuously improved. Therefore, allowing children to "try and make mistakes" is very helpful for children's development.