When such a thing happens, why doesn t anyone seem to understand me and understand me?

When you say this, you are actually running away from yourself and making a good excuse for yourself. "But now that I have grown up and have my own thoughts, I find that many of my character flaws are caused by their improper education methods, such as timidity, introversion, lack of contact with people, low self-esteem, etc. And now they are still the same.

Tried to communicate, but it didn't work. Sometimes I really resent them, why would you treat me like this? "Since there are some things that already exist now, even if it is a character, no matter how much you resent, no matter how much you complain, it will not disappear, but will make you more negative.

Rather than having no way to escape, it is better to face it well. You know that there is a bad factor in your personality, why not face it positively and find a way to change it! Live your true self.

When I was a child, I was a child, and now I am now. Don't you say you've grown up? Nothing is impossible, and if there is anything impossible, it is also a matter of giving up on your own.

There is no way to communicate, it only proves that we have not found the real door. If this way of communication doesn't work, we will change to another one, and we will always find the right one. Even if we can't find a good way to communicate with our parents, we don't have to resent them, just because they are good to us, but we can't accept it.

It's completely possible to live your own life without conflict. Because, that's how I am... I hope you can open your heart knots and live a more brilliant ......

You had the same experience as I did when you were a child, and I was worse than you. But they can't help but be their own parents, and we can't do things that are against morality and etiquette. Only find good things to enlighten yourself, and think about people who are worse than yourself, so that there will be some comfort in your heart.

After a long time, when you work on your own, everything will change.

Friends, be sure to persevere. I have time to read "Zengguang Xianwen", enrich my heart with the things in it, and tolerate all the unhappiness of the reverse with a broad heart.

I grew up like you, if not worse than you.

It's just that I'm a demanding person, and I have a dependent personality, and I love my father. All of these things add up to a nervous breakdown when I was a teenager, and I had a lot of negative thoughts, negative emotions, loneliness, low self-esteem, timidity... It's all there.

When I was in my 30s, I gave birth to a baby. Soon the depression set. Those months were really miserable, I wrote it in my space. It's been almost a year now, and I'm still taking medication.

In the past year, I have seen a psychiatrist n times. Every time I see him, my condition gets a little better. The doctor not only prescribed me medicine, but also gave me psychological **. He listened to my story and made the following request to me:

1. We have to accept the shortcomings of others, you can express your own opinions, but don't try to change others, and there should be no emotional fluctuations.

2. Vipassana**.

3. Accept your own shortcomings and imperfections.

4. Lower requirements. Low self-esteem comes from high demands.

5. Exercise more.

6. Don't rely on anyone and form an independent and complete self.

7. Empty chair**.

I did what the doctor told me and my condition improved greatly. I regret that I didn't see a doctor sooner, I have a lot of problems, and it may take years to change my personality.

Resentment is the poison of the mind.

Since you can't understand them, don't understand them, just accept them. As long as they are accepted by the heart, they can be as transparent ... Detach yourself from the negative world.

Hehe, how about staying away from them then.

Go out of town to find a job, just to go back and see it during the holidays.

Then, but the outside world is not necessarily good, you have to be mentally prepared.

By the way, let's talk about it if we can, we have a bit of similarities, my mom used to talk about how good other kids were when I was a kid. I'm out there too.

Friend, maybe we don't know much about your situation, only you can understand them when you become parents, what is "pity the hearts of parents in the world:... I'm sure one day you'll understand ...

If we can think about things from the other person's point of view, it will be easier to figure out some things at this time, and we will be able to think through them.

People should be kind, not harmful, and disadvantaged. Be generous in dealing with people, this generosity is not to speak confidently and put on a big posture; It's not about eating to see who pays money quickly, but to be kind, to be generous, don't be arrogant and complacent, always face to face, and behind your back, always work hard, and always want to do things to get someone else's little cheap; Don't talk about people, don't expose other people's shortcomings, don't look at other people's jokes, don't do things that are harmful to colleagues and classmates, in a word, be a person who does not harm others and is not beneficial to yourself, in this way, there will be good retribution, and there will be good retribution.

Be a mature and low-key person, a mature person always knows how to act in a low-key manner, the ruler is short, the inch is long, you must be modest and low-key, don't be arrogant, and make people feel light. In this way, in getting along with others, you will gain real friends, a fulfilling life, a solid and powerful every step, and a mature performance.

The ancients once said that my day is three provinces of my body. As a mature person, he must be a person who often conducts self-reflection, constantly reflects on his own shortcomings, and then continues to make progress, so as to be more mature; On the other hand, an immature person will definitely stop if he does not reflect on himself all the time.

A mature person who hears gossip must laugh and pass by, or listen silently by himself, rather than ignorant of the truth, and discuss with everyone.

People are in a certain position, some things can not be said casually, some things can not be done casually, we must know how to restrain ourselves, prudent words and deeds, so that is the performance of a mature person.

Manners are generous, first of all, it is manifested in the dress of generosity and atmosphere, which makes people look temperamental, and in addition, it also looks coordinated in the overall matching of clothing; The second is reflected in the overall temperament, which must not be humble or arrogant, behave naturally, and not twist and pinch.

To be a kind person, you can suffer losses and be tolerant. Now it is a market economy, although people are in the same unit and used to be classmates, but if they don't see each other for a few years, there may be a big gap in the economy. People can suffer, not only refers to the economic loss, especially between colleagues in the work to have the spirit of not afraid of loss, sometimes the workload may be a little larger, do more things, but do not complain, do not complain, to work hard, colleagues are not easy, only so "generous", in order to be respected and praised by colleagues.

At the same time, be lenient with inappropriate comments about others.

1. Image problems. I feel a little sorry for the masses.

2. Environmental issues. The people around you are perfect, and in your opinion, you will feel unfortunate in comparison and have an inferiority complex.

3. Over-emphasizing one's own shortcomings and ignoring one's own shining points will only make oneself more and more bleak.

Be specific and give you some specific advice when the time comes.

Dear Friend:

Don't worry about the fate of life Everyone will have this or that life troubles Find a confidant who loves you to face your ups and downs in the future, you have to remember that suffering losses, being deceived, even if it is your ordinary fall, is the most valuable experience in your life

What you have to do is accept all of this, cheerful acceptance, generous tolerance, fraternity, even the most painful thing.

Just like listening to a story, don't take it too seriously. Everyone's opportunities, circumstances, and overall popularity are different, and the main thing is that the historical environment and social system are different.

Look at everything around you with an optimistic mind, people who laugh at you, people who don't love you, you can take the initiative to show your friendliness, and forgive those people with a tolerant and generous heart, friends like the new and hate the old, you can cherish them well, be good to them, and they will naturally cherish you very much.

You don't need to be a character in someone else's life, when you are bored and depressed, you can find good friends to chat and communicate more, you don't like others to laugh at you, you can turn a blind eye, you don't need revenge, revenge will only bring more harm!

I hope you have a good mood to do your own thing, don't care about other people's eyes, don't care about other people's ridicule, just be yourself! In fact, there is no need to pretend to be crazy and stupid to escape reality, escaping will only make you more lonely and lonely.

So, isn't it all a lifetime? If that is the case, why do we choose to be unhappy or burdened? Is that right?

For man does not live for himself alone. Everyone has a series of groups such as relatives, friends, etc. People have to take into account the thoughts of the people around them.

Everyone is responsible! Living is not just about living, how to live, what kind of way to live? Once the material needs are satisfied, can the spiritual needs be satisfied?

So people have a certain amount of pressure. The double pressure of the outside world, its own body. That's why people feel tired!

In fact, people don't have to be so tired, it depends on how you look at your life?

In fact, there is a lot of fun in life, but your tired body doesn't want to feel it.

Have more interest and curiosity to discover the bits and pieces of life! ~

Really enjoy life and you will find that life is beautiful. People won't be so tired.

There are not so many things in the world that are inevitable because of accident, the plan is in people, the success is in heaven, and things are man-made! ~^

So much to the point. You should work harder to face life.

Even if it's a storm, it's a necessary part of your life!

May you shine every day! * Happy and healthy :)

I hope to encourage you together.

Can you understand yourself? If you can know what others think of you, what shortcomings you have that make others unhappy or sad.

Don't hide from them, they won't understand you, they'll just hate you.

Try to get rid of your shortcomings.

Dealing with friends who are going to work hard.

There is an old Chinese saying that if you don't do it, you don't make sense.

Rely on your parents at home and your friends outside.

No one can understand you.,Because no one can really understand another person.,I also don't think Hui Huai holds someone to understand me.。。。

It can only be that you know and show yourself more and let others know as much as possible, really, this is true.

Try to find something to do that makes you feel relaxed, and then you start to feel that things are not like this.

When I was in the second or third grade of elementary school, my grades were relatively good, and the teacher deliberately arranged a boy who didn't like to study and was naughty to share a table with me. He copied me every time he took the exam, and he also said that the teacher asked me to take care of him, and I was so angry. Then there was a math test, and I was doing the math while quietly writing the answers on scratch paper.

Then scribble an answer on the paper, and generously copy it for him. When he finished copying and started playing, I quietly erased and rewrote all the answers. Then the next day, he also brought me a mooncake to eat.

When I was very young, there was a very nasty boy in the class. Poor grades, unhygienic, annoying. When he transferred to another school, he held a farewell party, and I said it very loudly in front of him in the back

It's going to be transferred, and we're going to be sick in our class. At that time, I was stunned when I said it, and I wanted to apologize, but I couldn't pull my face. The light in the boy's eyes quickly dimmed.

I'm sorry. But I can't say it.

I was in the fourth or fifth grade, and my mother was sick and hospitalized, and it was very serious, and she had to undergo surgery, so I won't say what it was. I live at my grandmother's house, borrow my cousin's mobile phone, my grandmother and I call my mother, we want to go to see her, my mother said no, don't come, I have tubes all over my body, and I'm bleeding, it's scary, don't come, I'm fine. Then, I hung up on the **, and I really didn't go.

Six years older than my brother, when I was a child, my brother and I liked to eat roast duck, once my brother was out to play and eat dinner before I came home, I ate all the delicious meat of the roast duck, and there was only a little duck rack with skin on the neck. When my brother came home and saw the roast duck eaten at night, he was very happy (when I was a child, the conditions at home were not good enough to eat whatever I wanted, and the roast duck could be eaten occasionally), and he ran over and pointed to one of the few pieces of meat and said to me: Sister, sister, this piece is delicious, you eat it quickly.

I feel like there are many times wow, when I give someone the wrong answer, when I say "nonsense" to others, when I say bad things about others behind my back, when I quarrel with my mother and say cruel things, I feel very regretful after doing it, and I feel that I am very bad.

When my mother was depressed, I didn't understand it at first, and I always felt that my mother was asking us to pay more attention to her! Just said a lot of bastard words! Later, I understood, and I always felt that I was a special bastard, not a thing! Every time I think about it, I feel sorry for my mother.