The older generation in the family has different views, how to get along?

Let's communicate! Because only communication can solve the problem, the three views are formed over time, and it is impossible for him to change his opinion just because you say two words, so he can only be persuaded to accept it temporarily.

The older generation will have deviations from our three views, they will not change and we are not willing to accept, if the gap is too big, I think living alone is the most effective way. You will never be able to communicate with your predecessors, and in the same way your children will be mentally dumped with you in the future, and you will not be able to communicate with them. Family members only talk about family affection, not right and wrong.

If you shift your thinking from "proving right and wrong" to "harmonizing and harmonious," it will be much easier.

Don't speculate more than half a sentence, greet more, please the elderly more, avoid minefield problems, perfect. There is no need to care about small things, just coax the old man as a child and let him be the same, but in big things, you must be principled and resolute.

When I don't agree with my parents, I will patiently persuade them. First reasoned, argued according to reason, and then coquettishly, and generally reached their own concepts, in the conflict with the three views of the elders, the party who always loves deeply will give in first. I think I'll give in when they're too old, too, though maybe they're not right.

One simple word can be solved: seek common ground while reserving differences. In fact, it is not only this problem, most of the contradictions can be solved with this.

If you are more specific, I want to first ** what are the three views? Each age experiences different things and will have different views on the world, but you can ask a 10-year-old child to understand your outlook on life with the experience of 80 years old, it is inevitably forced. I haven't experienced birth, old age, sickness and death, and some thoughts just can't be understood, but I like to communicate with the older generation because when I'm going through something, they tell you more

It's nothing, young man, you still have a long way to go, and you still have unlimited possibilities.

You can only stay away, but when you are strong enough, you can stick to your own opinion and the other party can't help you. For example, for some elders who value money but can't understand your behavior, a good-looking annual income is better than a thousand words.

The three views are inconsistent, then quarrel with them less, listen to them, after all, there is not much time left in their world, there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure, it is such a truth.

Try to persuade, quarrel, persuade again, quarrel again, and the cycle goes on and on. Silent until now, silently listening to the chatter of his family, occasionally perfunctory, but still contrary to them, continue to do his own thing. I tried to communicate, but it didn't work.

It's not surprising that he was disheartened and didn't say it.

Don't try to change them, you need to fit in with them and learn to endure.

At present, I am taking a cold approach, trying not to discuss anything related to the three views with them, but there are always things that cannot be avoided, such as going home for a few days during the Chinese New Year, and finding that I do not agree with my family, especially the older generation, and the three views are really unavoidable. My cousin's monthly salary is 3,000 and the honey of state-owned enterprise employees is superior, and the whole family is in heaven. I have a business with a monthly income of 10,000 yuan, and I earn 10,000 yuan a month from sports related management work in third-tier cities, and the average monthly income of 2-30,000 yuan is said to be not a good job.

The family has no respect for the family's independent space at all, and they will not voluntarily reduce any of their voices when they wake up in the morning because someone is resting.

After all, everyone's living environment is different, and I think that if you want to get along well, you can just listen to them more.

Let's move out and live, I haven't had any experience before, I know that this year, the old people in the family come to my side for the New Year, I order a takeout, buy a courier, the old man complains, saying what is good about you young people? Take the children out to watch a movie, and the old man chatters in dialect, which probably means, what are you doing all day long? After the Chinese New Year, the house was clean.

It is difficult for the old people to reverse the thinking of the older generation, and there is no need to refute it as a young person.

I think they can sit down and talk about what to do.

Sometimes I feel better when I say it ...

If you encounter a situation where you don't agree with your relatives, I think you should learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, and don't force the other party, you must change according to your requirements, and it is inappropriate for the other party to ask you to change, because everyone's age difference and education level, as well as the people and things they come into contact with, it is normal to have different three views. This cannot be forced, we can only understand and understand each other, otherwise a family will not be able to maintain harmonious coexistence, and there will be no peace in the family.

We live in society, if the job is not suitable, we can change, friends and our three views do not agree, but relatives are different, relatives are innate, they can't change, and they can't choose, so we can only learn to adapt to many times, learn to tolerate, as long as everyone can take a step back, then we can definitely meet the sea and the sky. Whether it is yourself or your relatives, you should learn to be considerate of each other and think about problems from the other party's point of view, so that even if you don't agree with the three views, you can still be patient appropriately, and life can be harmonious and beautiful.

In fact, many times there is no right or wrong difference in the three views, but the position of each person, his point of view and the angle from which he sees things are different, so no matter what, don't try to change, you should learn to accept, if you really can't accept it, then you can choose to ignore it.

In the process of getting along with your loved ones, try to avoid positive conflicts, and if you can't get into a dispute, you can leave for a while, and when everyone calms down, think about how to solve the problem. Especially our parents, as children, we really shouldn't contradict our parents because of the disagreement of the three views, because they will have an opinion about themselves, and they must be for their own good, but the way they use may be something wrong and not in line with their own wishes. We can communicate with them from a perspective that they can understand and persuade them to accept our opinions, but not too hard-lined.

Try to talk to them less, because if you say too much, it will cause unnecessary trouble, and getting along with a family member who has different views is really a tiring thing, you can't talk together, and everyone thinks differently.

It is a very normal phenomenon to disagree with your own family, because you have not lived in the same era after all, so your thoughts and values have some deviations, which is also very normal, I don't think there is any need to ask you to be in line with each other.

When you don't agree with your family's three views, in many ways, you won't know what your family thinks, and your family won't understand what you think, so you can find an opportunity to understand each other with your family members clearly, and then make a correct judgment, for example, explain to your family members what your three views are, and then don't interfere with each other.

For example, my ideas and my family have three different views, and I often quarrel with my family because of some small things, and to be honest, I am very depressed, and I feel that I can't communicate. Now I have become very reticent, I don't discuss anything with them, and I can do whatever I want.

Then you have to try to find your own problems, if you are alone, and the family does not agree with the three views, it must be your personal problem, why the people around you are very compatible, just you alone, not compatible, then you have to find out your own problems, try to change your own personality.

In the face of disagreement with the three views of the family, we must calm down, talk and talk calmly with our parents, quarrels can not solve the problem, we must tell our parents what we think in our hearts, and our parents will also tell you what we think in our hearts, and you must also learn to empathize and understand your parents.

I don't think it affects the relationship between you, if you both know how to tolerate each other, you can get along very well, the family does not have much hatred, as long as you know how to communicate, know how to tolerate, you can get along with special happiness.

The best way to get along with the elderly who do not agree with the three views is to communicate more, instill more of today's thoughts, and try to nod if the old man reacts excitedly.

The concept of the older generation is indeed very different from our own, they live in their own time and do not understand the current way of life.

If the old man belongs to the more extreme type of communication, he can only choose to be silent, nod his head and not fight back against the education of the elderly, and he can't let them accept it for a while, so he can only let them slowly like the current concept.

In my opinion, the most important thing to get along with the elderly is respect, especially when getting along with the elderly who are close to you, you must know how to be filial.

As a young person and the elderly, it is normal to have different three views, listen carefully to the opinions or suggestions of the elderly, and if it is helpful and beneficial to yourself, we will just do it. As for the opinions or suggestions of the elderly that may be outdated and not suitable for use, we should listen silently to the timely response, and do not argue with the elderly. Because everyone's life experience is different, it is normal to think about problems and look at problems in different ways and methods to solve problems.

In addition, in the process of getting along with the elderly, take care of the elderly more carefully, talk more about some happy things, so as to avoid arguing more about those issues that do not agree with the three views, get along with the elderly who are close to them, and do the filial piety to treat them separately, which means not only filial piety but also know how to be obedient.

Don't convince each other, be respectful and tolerant of each other.

Because we live in a different era with the older generation, so there are some aspects that are not quite compatible, I think this is a very normal phenomenon, but I think what we need to do is to respect each other, tolerate each other, don't be accommodating because of a little thing, you have to listen to yourself, this is very wrong, but also disrespectful to the elderly, when we respect their ideas, they will definitely respect our ideas in turn. So it's just about respecting each other.

Stay with the old people who have different views, no matter what they say, in fact, there is no need to confront them and refute them. Because the old people have been around all their lives, their minds have been frozen like this, and it is useless if you argue with them again, it is unrealistic to try to change their minds. Just listen to it for yourself and let them say go ahead and ignore it.

There is a good saying that the person who can change himself is God, and the one who wants to change others is a psychopath. For adults, the thinking patterns are solidified, let alone the elderly, you don't try to change the minds of the elderly, that is not to hold. And the old people's three views are inconsistent, that is, the ideas are different, just do your own thing, for the views of the elderly, you just listen, don't blame or criticize some of their old concepts, after all, it is caused by the times, there is no solution.

The old people are too far apart from us, and it is impossible to say that they want to change their wrong views, and they have adhered to these views for decades. Therefore, if you get along with old people with different views, it is good to turn a blind eye, and in some places with different views, the gangsters will pass.

My mode of getting along is to try not to get along, but many times you can't avoid it, and at this time you need to carry out a profound skill called the Great Shift. The old man likes to talk to you, you just listen, and when you hear something bad, you go in and out of your left ear, don't take it too seriously, and if you hear something that makes you feel incredible, you don't have to worry too much, and forget it, and the main thing is not to argue with them about anything, because you can't change their opinion for decades. The three views are different, and there is really no way to get along well, but it is your elders, you have to respect them, let them say it, there is nothing to mind.

It is normal for the elderly to have different views from the times and living environments we live in since childhood. Generally, the concept of the elderly is more conservative, and when communicating with them, we must know how to respect them, and many of their virtues are worth learning from young people.

It is normal to be different from the three views of the elderly, because the age of life is different, the education is not the same, and the things experienced are even more different, so their three views are different from ours. Because you can't change them, why bother arguing with red faces and red ears to anger the elderly, the old people can do whatever they like, just get along with one eye and one eye closed!

Get along with the elderly with different views to be more tolerant, and filial piety is better than obedience.

Yesterday I chatted with the doorman for almost a day at the card point, and I thought that the age difference would make us have a generation gap, but as soon as I opened my mouth to chat, I knew that I was narrow-minded.

Except for the second son and daughter-in-law, who have no regular jobs, the other three sons and daughters-in-law all work in public institutions in the county, and the four sons and daughters-in-law have a good relationship with each other, and they have never blushed because of family trivialities. The uncle never interfered in the affairs of the four small families, lived alone with his wife, never made trouble for the children, was on duty at the gate post of the community to earn wages and spend them by himself, and during the New Year's holidays, the four children all competed to send clothes and money. The uncle said that no matter who gave anything, no matter how good or bad, the old couple happily continued, saying that they should not be afraid of hurting the children's hearts, they all saved for the children, and whoever was in difficulty needed to take it out.

The four daughters-in-law are more like four daughters, and they are all called "parents" when they meet. In the uncle's own words, "It's closer than kissing his daughter." There is no barrier between their father and son, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, and concubine, and the whole family cooks and stir-fries together during the festival, which is very harmonious.

The uncle said that their son and daughter-in-law were proud, needless to say that the life of the family is very happy, and the son and daughter-in-law are also very good.

When it comes to my father-in-law and daughter-in-law, I think of Xie Guangkun, a fool, I remember that when I watched the TV series, I couldn't wait to get him out of the TV and beat him up to relieve my hatred. I have never seen an old man who can have a wrong outlook and a thick enough face like Xie Guangkun, and I don't know how many grievances I have suffered when I have lived with him.

The elderly should correct their position in the family, and when it is time to give up the head of the family, they must take the initiative to give up, and they must not be arbitrary; It is necessary to treat everyone in the family fairly, be sensible, and have a correct outlook, so that everyone can be harmonious and harmonious.