Do you want such a boyfriend If you want to ask how to get rid of these problems

Updated on psychology 2024-06-23
19 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Whether you want to take care of yourself or not, others can't be the master.

    I made a decision, as long as I thought that I would not regret it in the future.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    It's better not to do it.

    If you do, do you think you'll be happy with him?

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Ha, 123 is nothing. Now the boy is asking him to be so old-fashioned, it's good when he's old. And the reasons for 23 are all caused by 1.

    As for 4, 5, 6 if he loves you and gradually understands his responsibilities as a man, he will change it. It is not advisable to use an aggressive way, be gentle with him, and build his self-confidence. Let him find a job and get more contact with the external environment, and it will be better.

    As for what you said about his merits

    I don't think it's a big deal.

    Since you ask like this, you still have feelings for him, because with feelings, everything will take a turn for the better.

    If this is not the case, then his merits are not really good, how can you have the patience to continue to tolerate him? Then weigh what, find someone you can love.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    No! Generally, people with no fixed income are temperless.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    If you can tolerate his shortcomings, that's fine, but I wouldn't choose a man like me.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    If you want it, you don't want it.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Everyone is imperfect, will have their own shortcomings and advantages, since you can choose to be with him, it must be because of some points in him that attract you, if you find that your boyfriend has some small problems that you can't accept, you shouldn't dislike him too much at this time, but learn to let him change. First of all, we must find his strengths, constantly encourage myself to accept his disadvantages through his advantages, and at the same time when pointing out some shortcomings of boys, do not hurt his self-esteem, subtly affect him, and finally communication is very important. <>

    When two people are together, love slowly tends to be flat, it will magnify the shortcomings of the other party, at this time you must learn to find the advantages of your boyfriend, so as to convince yourself to be more tolerant and patient. No matter what kind of two people are together, they have to go through changes and run-ins, and paying too much attention to each other's shortcomings will not only hurt two people, but also may make the relationship difficult to continue. At this time, as a girl, you should be gentle, don't blame him too much, which will only make the boy's self-confidence frustrated, resulting in a rebellious psychology, gently and coquettishly point out his small problems and accompany him to correct.

    Communication is very important, if you are alone and keep sulking, this will only slowly accumulate anger in your heart, and the other party does not know what you really think, it is easy to intensify the conflict. So if there is a behavior that you can't bear, you must make it clear to your boyfriend, but you must pay attention to the way you speak, don't blindly blame, and don't listen to his ideas. <>

    To sum up, no matter who you get along with, you need to be more tolerant, especially in front of your own close people, you should not ask him too much, only mutual understanding and mutual respect can you continue to go on, and in ordinary life, you should look at the problem with more positive eyes, only a little less complaining, life will be better.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    First of all, we need to communicate with him in a reasonable way, express our own views and feelings, we can supervise him and let him slowly change some small problems and bad habits, two people supervise each other, actively communicate with him, show his mistakes, and solve them together.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Tell your boyfriend appropriately, and show that you want him to change, and then give him some rewards after he changes, so that you can get twice the result with half the effort.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I want my boyfriend to get rid of his minor problems, and I can communicate directly with my boyfriend to explain the pros and cons of these problems, so that he can make effective changes.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Why not get a boyfriend. Do you see your boyfriend's shortcomings until the raw rice is cooked and the rice is ripe? Will it be late to correct your boyfriend's shortcomings, I think! You're not as good as his mother, and his mother can't change your boyfriend's shortcomings, are you sure?

    Will your efforts cause the two of you to fall out of harmony? Why don't you tolerate your boyfriend's shortcomings like his mother, and when he wants to change it, he will naturally change it.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    3. If you don't use all the methods correctly, how can you get him to change them?

    In fact, if you think about it, if you were "forced" by your boyfriend to change your little problem, would you be willing? I think no one will want to, and on the contrary, because of his request, he will arouse a little rebellion in his heart, so that he will choose to face him, and even more excessively than before, in order to express his dissatisfaction.

    So, you can't talk to him directly, you have to coax him. After all, boys are like children, and if you want him to change for you, then you have to guide him in the direction you want. It can't be said that no matter what he thinks in his heart, he always tells him this matter directly, and he will also find you annoying!

    As for other small problems in your boyfriend's daily life, you can mention it to him at the beginning, but, it's only three, don't talk about it more than three times, or you "treat others the way they are", let him feel it, or you will urge him to make small changes step by step, and after a long time, it should have an effect!

    In short, you just need to remember that boys need you to coax, you can't blindly choose to "hit hard", women, when you should be weak, you have to be weaker, I think, if you can try to do this, there should be unexpected effects, right?

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    This is very simple, to treat others in their own way. If you don't think your boyfriend is doing well in those aspects, you just follow his example and show him in front of him, and if he thinks that you are doing something wrong, then he will realize that there is something wrong with him; If he doesn't think there's something wrong with what you're doing, then you basically don't have to ask him to change it, that's his way of life.

    For example, my boyfriend never keeps his closet open, which is torture for me with borderline OCD, and every time I buy him clothes, he will show me off the clothes I once bought for him. I know he's happy that I bought him clothes, but can I please treat the clothes I bought for you well? I have given him several suggestions, but to little avail.

    I naturally moved out of the fact that he didn't clean up the cabinet, I think he should have realized his mistake, and sent me a ** the next day, he has already packed all his clothes neatly.

    I believe that your boyfriend's problems are just some minor problems, and some of them are unpleasant to your eyes, which is understandable, because you may live together in the future, but the first thing is to let your boyfriend identify whether his problems are wrong or not, and then choose what way to solve them.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I think that in order for your boyfriend to get rid of his bad habits, you must first let him know where his own faults are and what they are. If a person doesn't even know what his faults and shortcomings are, and he doesn't recognize his shortcomings, then how can he want to change it. If you think about it from another perspective, if the people around you say that you have something wrong with this, then there is something wrong with that, but you don't think so, you think you are right, you think you are not wrong.

    Do you want to change? You won't, people have a kind of rebellious mentality, if you don't think it's wrong, then it's hard to persuade yourself to change.

    Also, if he really doesn't change, you can threaten him appropriately, of course, I don't think this approach should be promoted. I'm just saying no, you can think about it. If your boyfriend really loves you and puts you first, he will more or less listen to what you say.

    You can threaten him with yourself. This is also a kind of flirting! Ha ha!

    Of course just say for yourself that you can be sure that this method will work and your boyfriend won't be angry.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Before two people dating, they will hide their shortcomings and show the appearance of a perfect boyfriend or girlfriend, but after a long time, the fox's tail will be exposed, and there will be all kinds of small problems with each other. How to get your boyfriend to get rid of these problems requires some methods.

    Secondly, small punishments. There must also be some agreement between the two people, and if the other party fails to do it, they will be punished to a certain extent. The agreement must be the result of negotiation between the two parties, because in this way, one of them is justified in being punished.

    When my boyfriend and I were in school in Xinjiang, we would spend some time together every weekend, either doing homework or pressing the road, and we needed to set a time. But many times he would come late, which made me very unhappy, and I quarreled with him about it.

    In the end, we made an agreement that if he didn't arrive within the stipulated time, he would break his promise, and the person who broke his promise would have to pay a price, and every time it was different, it was up to me to decide. Sometimes I ask him to buy me snacks, sometimes I ask him to do my homework, sometimes I put my cold hand directly into his clothes......

    Finally, in the way of others, they should also govern their bodies. This is a bit extreme, but it's also very useful. If you want him to get rid of the stinky problem, then let him feel the same way as you.

    Sometimes he doesn't care about my feelings, goes to some events or parties on his own, and then leaves me alone. In order to let him also have my sense of loss, I also used the same method to him, and this time he really felt my displeasure. Or he will talk to girls sometimes, maybe he thinks it's nothing, but I'm very unhappy, and in order to balance this relationship, I will also chat with other boys.

    The end result is that he will also get jealous and ask me not to talk, and he will stop.

    Among these methods, I think the most effective is the third one, if your boyfriend also has some small problems that you want him to fix, you might as well try this method.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Ask him what is wrong with you, and then everyone will change it together (or tolerate it together).

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Parted! Parted! Parted! Parted!

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    People are not perfect, if the small problems can be passed, why be too serious, do not make mistakes, do not touch the bottom line is a good person, no one can change others, if you want to get along well, continue to get along, want to change others is absolutely impossible, in vain, do not want to get along, you have to choose to leave, don't point to right or wrong, just do your best!

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Then it depends on whether you think his little problems are some problems of principle, if it is, then he must be responsible, you can make up your own mind, if it is not some problems in principle, there is no need to completely let others do it, and your idea is the same, everyone has everyone's characteristics, why should others live as you?

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