Is it really difficult for women to marry when they are older?

There is no such thing. Fate, the right eyes are naturally paired. Unless it's really a bare-bones commander.

Women can get married at any time, but it's hard to say whether they can marry well at their age.

It's not that it's hard to marry, it's that it's too lazy to marry, or it doesn't want to marry casually.

It's not that it's hard to marry, it's that you don't want to marry, you don'

It depends on whether the person you meet is right or wrong, of course it is not easy to marry if it is wrong, but if it is right, it is easy to marry.

To marry or not to marry depends on the mentality.

It's really not, if you're good enough, your appearance and figure can keep up, and the older you are, the better you will marry. If it is most ordinary people, then it is really recommended to marry while you are young.

Of course, the most ordinary women are disadvantaged the older they get, but some women have been growing and improving, and the progress in other aspects is enough to resist the little disadvantage that comes with increasing age. In fact, just like our evaluation of boys, young and handsome boys are of course good, but when a mature, wise and golden man appears, the charm of the two is not necessarily determined by age. As for the best age to have children, I don't think it's a big deal to be able to conceive as long as you don't have menopause.

But there is a category of people in the comments that I don't really understand. This is a question for women who want to get married, unmarried women are not in the scope of discussion, and unmarried people come to hurt people and say what to breed cancer free babysitting, I don't think it's appropriate. Aren't women who start a happy family and are willing to make sacrifices for the sake of it deserve to be celebrated?

There is no difference between them and unmarried women who dare to transcend secular restrictions and bravely pursue their own values, and they are just a choice for independent women in the new era. The difference may be whether you meet a man who is willing to sacrifice for him.

It should have a lot to do with the mentality, there is a relative around me, a female graduate student, who graduated and wants to study for a female doctorate, but was unanimously stopped by my family. During the graduate school, there was a boy with good conditions chasing her, but she always had strength, it is estimated that as some respondents said, she had to change the law to investigate the man, hanging others, or she was a master with low eyes, and felt that her conditions were good, and she wanted to see if there was a better one, and finally the man was tired, and then he went abroad after graduating from graduate school, and the boys are now married and have children, but she is still single, and the man she met after that is not as good as the man. In this way, she is even more difficult to marry, one is that she has a high degree of education, and many men are discouraged (although there are more and more graduate students, but compared to those who do not continue to study after graduating from college, they are still a minority), and the men I know around me don't seem to like girls with higher education than themselves, of course, this certainly does not represent all male views.

The second is that she missed a man with good conditions before, so she will basically use that man as the standard to ask for the following suitors, after all, the first man with good conditions can not be found, which is so good to meet one, so it will be a vicious circle, causing her to look down on all the suitors after her. The third is that her leftover female classmates in graduate school seem to have the same problem with her, they are too picky to find a partner, they still get together all the time, and they will assimilate each other more powerfully, and they will become more visionary and tricky. So her mom is now very opposed to her communicating too much with those girls.

Most people don't grow up. Many people regard what time brings as their own efforts. Most people are just getting old, not mature.

Many people carry the burden of age, but only a few are able to grow more than the average in their age. Old age is always a disadvantage, unless you get more than average gains as you age. The premise that the older you are, the easier it is to find, must be during this period of time, you have achieved leapfrog growth.

Understood, following the average wage**, following the growth of the inflation level, it is not called growth. That's called aging.

It's not easy to marry, but it's because of the growth of his own experience, his vision, career, life, and opinions, and all aspects of his life are gradually enriched, and there is nothing in life that he can't do to earn money to support his family, so what is the role of a boy at this time? It's a body, mind and soul companion. The concept of husband and wife in the past is very different from now, even Ah Hua at the entrance of the village knows that I want to be self-reliant, I can't let my husband look down on me, we can divorce, let alone urban women??

As I get older, I become more and more clear about what I need in my heart and know what character is suitable for me, rather than the right age, the right income, and the right status. A few years ago, I also had been stuck in such a situation, the elders urged, upset, but find a way to enrich myself, increase my own value, travel around in my spare time, usually work hard, love just came, it was a very good time to come, and it was also what I needed in my heart. For me, marriage is sacred, you have to respect it, you don't have to have it, but don't be presumptuous.

It's not that it's hard to marry when you're older, it's because you haven't been married and you're older. For those women who really like men, even if she decides to marry at the age of 40, there is no shortage of suitors. Whether it is a man or a woman, you have to try to understand the standards of the opposite sex, in the marriage market, the opposite sex is the buyer, and it is useless to define yourself as a good object according to the standards of the same sex.

For men, no matter how hard your brother is with you, and saying hello will not help you chase a girl. For women, maybe all the standards you care about have not been considered at all on the men's side. Try to understand the opposite sex, don't try to understand why he thinks the way he thinks, as long as you understand what he is thinking, you can get yourself out of the single.

The reason why it is difficult for a woman to marry when she is older is that the more mature and realistic she is, the more unwilling she is to spend time and patience to cultivate potential stocks, and she is not willing to compromise. In addition to the fact that age has a certain impact on fertility and postpartum recovery, the main problem is actually a change in mentality. I wrote before why it is advisable to get married earlier.

Because at that time, our women's income was still relatively small, and our desires were less. will not recognize the impact of buying luxury goods on their lives, nor will they sneer at men who do not match some classes because of too many blind dates. I also don't see too many cases of negative marriages, so I think that the secret of a successful marriage is to find a successful man.

Of course, this is how I have felt in the past ten years, and I can't include all the outstanding women who are precocious, have a good family background, and have good conditions, after all, as a bottom, I can't be born with that kind of pride! The older you get, the more anxious you will be if you still want to get married, and the worse your mentality will be, and it will be easy to isolate. I support women who are better than single if they marry for the sake of getting married.

But I don't support women's lack of self-positioning, low eyesight, and criticism of men. Happiness does not come from marriage, but with a state of mind.

Is a woman's only goal in life to get married? Is it to have a child and be a family nanny? If so, it is true that the older it is, the harder it is to marry, because as a fertility tool and labor, of course, the younger and stronger the better, this is undoubted.

But have you thought about the meaning and value of a woman as a "person"? Like men, with the improvement of ability and experience, women are actually more attractive the older they are, and from the perspective of spiritual resonance, many men with a common level will also like such women, I absolutely do not believe that all men only look at their appearance. Women, don't be carried away by love and worldly eyes, self-enrichment is always more reliable than relying on a man (even if married), comprehensive self-development should be the embodiment of the greatest freedom of the human individual, which many sages have pointed out for us, people's destiny should be in their own hands.

As the saying goes, when a man gets married, a woman should get married, and when we grow up, we have to fall in love, get married, and build our own family. Why do many people have good conditions in all aspects, but they don't fall in love? It's because I think that love and marriage depend on fate, and you can't force the tease button, your life has not been affected when you are single, and now that people are getting older and older, they don't have to worry.

1. Falling in love and marriage depends on fate, which cannot be forced.

Falling in love and getting married is not a casual thing, you need to be with someone who is really suitable for you. If you don't meet the right person for you, you can't fall in love and you can't get married. Therefore, falling in love and getting married depends on fate, which is something that cannot be forced, and everything should go naturally.

Therefore, even if you are older, you don't need to feel anxious if you are still single.

2. My life has not been affected by the single state, so I am not anxious, so it doesn't matter whether I fall in love or not.

Although he was single when he was older, his life was not affected by this. In the state of being single, I can arrange my food, clothing, housing and daily life well, and I can also have intimate interactions with my relatives and friends, everything is in a normal state, so although I am single, I do not feel anxious.

3. Nowadays, people are getting married and getting older, so there is no need to be in a hurry when falling in love.

Nowadays people pay more attention to the quality of life, but also pay more attention to career development. Therefore, people are getting older and older at the age of falling in love and getting married, and it is very common to fall in love and get married after the age of 30. Because of this, although he is still single at an older age, he is not in a hurry because of this, let alone anxious.

It is true that I feel this way, when I was young, I only felt that it was good to be alone, without any constraints, but when I got older, my thoughts may change, and I feel that life alone is too lonely, and sometimes I feel a little calm, so there may be some anxiety.

It is more difficult to find the right person to marry.

No matter how strong a woman looks on the outside, she will also have a soft heart, she may be able to act vigorously and resolutely outside, giving people a feeling of coldness, but sometimes she also longs for someone to take care of, be cared for and loved, especially when a person is not careless, loneliness will also arise spontaneously, and she will also want a house, two people, three meals, and four seasons.

But in the blind date market, the older a woman is, the more likely it will be a disadvantage, and men will occupy a dominant position in choosing a mate, especially for women who are too ambitious, they may also give people the feeling of not caring for their families, the salary is too high, and the socks will make some men unacceptable, and high-quality men, on the basis of not lacking in material, will focus on their own preferences, so it is difficult for them to meet the right person, and the more they hate to marry, the more anxious they will be. I don't want to get married easily, but I also want to end my singleness.

Love is beautiful, but beautiful love is hard to find, everything pays attention to fate, and being too old will indeed put yourself in too passive position, but hating to marry because of other people's eyes is a sign of immaturity, after all, life is your own, there is no need to live for the eyes of others, what you want, what you need, just do it, just follow your heart.

1.As you get older, the requirements for finding a spouse are no longer "rich and handsome", as long as you are considerate and love each other, it is enough, so if you are older, you should first learn to be reasonable, because only if you are reasonable, you will be loved, and when you can't fight young people, you should be considerate and generous to get the favor of the opposite sex.

Some people are getting older and older, and their mentality is becoming more and more negative, and even the idea of finding someone to live with them casually is not advisable. Therefore, if you want to get off the list, you must have positive thoughts.

3.Older age does not mean that you don't need to maintain, but because of this, you need to spend more attention on yourself, pay attention to your dress and appearance, so as to attract the attention of the opposite sex, as long as a person is attractive, age is not a problem.

4.If you don't want to participate in offline blind date activities, you can try**some marriage and love apps, such as a companion marriage and love, I saw it on Huawei**Recommendation, which greatly ensures the safety of users, and it has a very fresh sense of content with a passing note, which can increase the small interest between two people. So getting old and getting out of singles is not a problem, there is no need to be anxious at all, all roads lead to Rome!

Some people say that it is not anxiety, it is "age oppression", some people feel "age shame", some people reconcile with anxiety in reading, and some people resolutely do not reconcile ......

18-year-old age anxiety is seen as both an adult and a child.

30+ age anxiety: work, marriage, baby, ......

If you're also bothered by the anxiety of nuclear age, you may need a different mindset.

In Alain Debotton's School of Life project, the book "The Power of Calm", an "emotional lesson", reads:

The easiest way to do this is to accept. The first priority is this: we don't need to be anxious because we are anxious.

The presence of such emotions does not mean that something is wrong with life, it only proves that we are human beings. We cannot unload the burden of loneliness. And loneliness is not unique to us.

Many people are not broken down by anxiety, but are exhausted by endless attempts to get rid of peerless anxiety.