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It's okay to pull, if you really love each other, I think your sensible parents will admit that you two, it's just that you don't adapt, sometimes when you bring your boyfriend home, try to give your boyfriend and your parents more opportunities to contact, so that your parents can understand him, so that your parents can also know your boyfriend's thoughts, so that they will know that they can't judge people by looking at your boyfriend's appearance, you have to work hard yourself, find a job, sometimes you can communicate more with your parents, Let them know that you have your own ideas and intentions.
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If you think he's worthy of your love, go for it... Love is love· Don't hold back, parents are like this, parents see different concepts from us, but you're a sophomore now, and it's still early, you can talk about it, don't give up so early· Maybe it's possible for you to be together, all of which may be ... Destined to be yours, it's yours· Can't run·· Believe in your own vision, you can understand a little deeper first, don't give up so easily, your parents must hope that you can find a stable job, a little higher education, and a good look, right? Bless you
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After all, you're still a sophomore in college, and your parents have a certain reason for doing this, try to understand it, as for your boyfriend, if you really like each other, you can spend more time together, time is not a problem, the longer you get along, the deeper your understanding of each other will be, why can't he hold on? That's not a trivial matter, so let's get along more with each other.
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Taking into account the feelings of your parents, resistance and quarrels do not solve any problems, even if you verbally "win" your parents, you will not have any sense of accomplishment and hurt your parents at the same time. Therefore, when you have a disagreement with your parents, don't rush to express your inner thoughts, and when you realize that your ideas are different, you should also listen patiently to your parents' words. 2. Don't neglect to communicate with your parents under the pretext of reassuring your parents.
Parents have rich experience in life, and they can be consulted about small problems in life. Parents are relieved to be able to help their children solve problems. Don't let your parents feel like they're old and useless to you except nagging.
3. In the eyes of our parents, we will always be children who will not grow up, be more patient with our parents, don't think that our parents are interfering in our own lives, even if we have our own life plans, we must combine our parents' opinions. Realize self-worth can not be at the expense of making parents sad, "do not listen to the old man and suffer in front of you", we are young, is in the stage of exploration and learning, and parents have gone through years of precipitation, with their own life experience in exchange for a lifetime to teach us, parents to taste carefully! 4 We spend most of our time "coping" outside, smiling and welcoming people.
It's hard to see your parents, even if we don't agree with what your parents say, we have to comply with the words and make your parents happy, because the days we can spend with our parents are getting fewer and fewer. 5Abandon your clothes to stretch out your hand, and bread to open your mouth. Truly integrate into the world of your parents, cook a meal with your parents, take time to help your parents wash their clothes, reduce their parents' housework burden, strengthen communication with your parents, and learn to listen to your parents' voices.
We are young, active in thinking, and use our own advantages to relieve our parents' worries. 6 As we grow older, our parents' physical functions gradually decline, and their physical and psychological changes will inevitably occur, and it is inevitable that there will be times of emotional instability, which requires us to be careful to find out and help them to get through it smoothly, and not to have a head-on conflict with or divine parents. As a child, you should know that "the crow has the filial piety of feeding, and the sheep knows the grace of kneeling milk", treat parents as patient as they did when we were young, understand and care more, and put filial piety first.
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If you say that when you get married and you get married, you have a boyfriend, but your parents don't accept him, and you like it very much, what should you do?
Generally speaking, in this case, why is he not accepted by his parents? Generally speaking, it's because of the family, because of his family, or because of his character, if it's because the family is poor, there is no threat to accumulate, then you will indeed make the future life a little difficult, but you can't beat him to death with a stick, if the person is good, you can still achieve the two of you, because there is a saying that don't bully young people to be poor? Who doesn't live poor?
Three poor and three rich live to old age.
But if it is because of bad character, then it is possible that the old man has more experience than you, and he has a long-term view, and this person's character is not good, and it may not be good for you in the future, so you should choose to break up as the best choice.
But if this person's character is very good, there will be no such situation, just because the family conditions or environment are not very good, his parents can't accept him, his temporary working conditions are not very good, and he can't make a lot of money, then he is in a situation where he likes him very much, then he can only find a way to have a few conversations with his parents, not a conversation can be completed, through a simple and clear relationship with him, how can he accept him in the future? Let Mom and Dad give him a chance to behave and see if he can accept it.
If Mom and Dad have a tough attitude and can't accept it, then it depends on your own choice, and you have to be an assertive person at this time, how do you want to decide? You must make up your own mind, in fact, if the two of you at this time want your parents to accept it, you can only speak with facts, and you need two people to work together to build your own small family in good condition, so that you will not be wronged, in this case, your parents see that you can live a happy life together, maybe you will accept it slowly.
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Respecting the old and loving the young is our traditional virtue, and there is nothing wrong with letting our younger brothers and sisters do nothing. However, this kind of good reasoning is for reasonable people, and if both parties can't think about each other, and just pick out the words that the older should give way to the younger, it is very wrong. As the saying goes, the eldest daughter is like a mother, and I don't see that he respects you very much.
As for the idea of patriarchy, it really lasts for thousands of years, and it is very difficult to eradicate it completely, what an individual can do is to let himself not have this kind of thought, and then pass on his own thoughts to his family. Don't have mental baggage, the more grievances you suffer when you are young, the more thoroughly you understand this kind of thing, and you will be a good mother.
By the way, I think it's wrong when you say about the education of children in the future. The truth itself is correct, and you feel wronged now, not because the reason is wrong, but because your parents are not good enough. If the younger brother robs the elder sister of something, and the older sister lets the younger brother, you should praise the elder sister and then educate and criticize the younger brother.
Let siblings know what is right and wrong. I feel through what you said, you may be a little impatient and love to drill the horns, this is not scolding, I have to make it clear!! This may have something to do with the injustices you suffered in your family as a child.
Small problems are not enough to worry about, but there will be more worries on weekdays, and you have to learn to regulate your emotions.
And your brother, this kind of stinky brother who can't be called by my sister cares about him, I'm afraid you have nothing to do with Voldemort. If you're an adult in your twenties, don't treat him as a cub, you're not a, and you're not obliged to be wronged for him. But after all, they are relatives, and if they can repent, they will give them a chance to have a deep relationship between sisters and brothers.
If you are still a little emperor, you will send him a red envelope and let him take a taxi as far as he can.
Finally, I would like to say that the truth that can be passed down for thousands of years has a reason for its existence. It is always the one who does the wrong thing that distorts its value. The truth is that the dead are alive, and it is enough to have a good heart and a clear conscience.
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It's not about finding a way to get your parents to accept him, but you should have a good talk with your parents, why your parents don't accept him, you have to know the reason, your parents won't hurt you.
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Although in modern society, we control the power of marriage, we can choose our other half, and we don't need to be approved by our parents to get married, as long as you want to, but no matter when, your parents are likely to become a hurdle on the road for the two of you to step into the marriage hall.
Whether it is a man or a woman, our parents are the people we care about the most, and if it is not a last resort, we do not want to disobey our parents, make them unhappy, and bear the infamy of unfilial piety. In addition, when our parents oppose our marriage, we will also murmur in our hearts, thinking that maybe it is really our own considerations. What should you do if the man's parents make it clear that they don't like you?
Is it to pin hope on a man, as long as the man insists on marrying you, there is hope, and there is no need to care about the attitude of his parents? Or do you turn around and walk away without giving them a chance to humiliate you? If a man's parents refuse to accept you as their daughter-in-law from the beginning, even if you reluctantly marry, it will be difficult to get their approval.
Therefore, if the other party's parents really can't accept you, you still don't want to humiliate yourself.
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I was born in the 90s, my grandfather and my father's generation are farmers, when I was less than two years old, my parents went out to work, and they met once a year after the New Year, time passed, I grew up, from primary school to junior high school, and my parents got together for a very, very short time, I was brought up by my grandparents, and my personality was very naughty and disobedient since I was a child, too rebellious. Lack of strict education, slowly the character of the person changed, for parents is like a familiar stranger, there is nothing to say, never take the initiative to greet the situation of parents outside, parents hit ** home is also they ask me to answer, I have a younger brother and sister, socks Tan they were in elementary school when they were in grandma's house with them, parents consider that the three children can not be brought by grandparents, plus the elderly are inconvenient, so they arranged for younger brothers and sisters to go to grandma's house for a few years, uncles are businessmen, cousins and cousins also have college students,The education that my younger brothers and sisters received and I was completely a day and a place,To the sixth grade, my younger brothers and sisters came home,My parents didn't go to work once a year,I was in junior high school at that time,The last semester of junior high school didn't finish I hit ** to my parents and said I didn't want to study,The teacher also went to the house a few times to discuss with grandpa to ask my parents to enlighten and enlighten me,At this time, I was fourteen or fifteen years old the most rebellious,In my impression grandpa hit me for the first time,I ran away,Grandpa almost fell,At that time, I was not sensible, Now I think about it, I'm really sorry for my family, although life is difficult, I want both my parents and grandpa will satisfy me, my parents and younger siblings chat a lot of things to tell Zhitong to say, like friends, and I see classmates chatting with their parents like friends, anything can be talked, I am really envious of having such an emotional exchange with my parents, my younger brothers and sisters are very good at reading, every time I can take a certificate home to share with my parents, the family is not big enough to post, Then my dad bought a big thing like a photo book to give my younger siblings a certificate, and after I came out to work, I didn't have anything worth sharing with my parents, the only thing I could share was to find a girl to marry me.
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Correct your bad habits.
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If parents can't accept the idea of not getting married, there are a few things you can try:
1.Communication: Communicate your thoughts, opinions, and values with your parents. Let them know why they are not getting married, or why they have not found a suitable partner yet.
2.Respect: Respect your parents' opinions, but also ask your parents to respect their own ideas and choices. Don't compromise easily, but don't be in conflict and antagonism with your parents either.
3.Family communication: In the process of communication, emphasize your love and gratitude to your parents, and express your willingness to contribute to the family, but in another way.
4.Rational balance: Maintain a rational balance when considering your own thoughts and your parents' thoughts. Don't be swayed by your own thoughts or those of your parents, but make decisions based on a combination of factors.
5.Seek help: If you are unable to communicate with your parents, you can also seek help from a third party, such as relatives, friends, counselors, etc. Through third-party advice and support, better problem solving can be achieved.
Ultimately, whether you choose to marry or not, you need to be responsible and firm in your own ideas, while also respecting your parents' opinions. I hope that through reasonable communication and balance, we can achieve mutual understanding and support.
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Individuals feel that there are several basic principles in the process of choosing a job, even if their parents oppose it, they will slowly make their parents accept their choices, these principles are:
1. The principle of social needs.
The freedom to choose your job does not mean that you are blindly pursuing "self-design". Man is a social being, and it is impossible to "design himself" in isolation. The choice of work is always closely related to certain historical conditions, the Luzhou regiment, and the social era.
At the same time, people are realistic people and have their own realistic conditions. The most basic condition for choosing a job should meet the needs of society.
2. The principle of expertise should be considered.
Choose a job to know the shortcomings of yourself, and then choose the job you are interested in according to your hobbies and strengths, so that you can do the work as a pleasant thing and do it with enthusiasm.
3. The principle of feasibility.
When choosing a job, you should consider your level of knowledge, physical fitness, economic status, organization and family, etc., and the job you choose should be practical and feasible.
Of course, we emphasize the geographical characteristics of the work, not so that you can avoid going to difficult places, but that you should be aware of the situation and make full mental, material and physical preparations, so as to adapt to the natural environment there as soon as possible.
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