How do you view the impact of the family of origin?

Everyone is an individual, and we are not here to fulfill the expectations of our parents. Embrace your past self while distancing yourself from it: You don't have to be held accountable for the rejection of any behavior you suffered as a child.

You need to separate your parents from your lover, and your lover does not make up for the damage of your childhood, nor can it repair your trauma in place of your parents.

These are very important. Because many times we will bring the personality problems caused by our original family to our new family, and we are eager for our spouse to make up for it. For example, a man who lacks maternal love when he is a child will want his wife to take care of him like a mother and accommodate him in everything. Children who were strictly disciplined by their fathers when they were children will grow up to strictly control their children in order to vent their desire for control.

These practices are all due to the failure to separate the original family from the current family, which leads to the repetition of the past and even harms the family and children. We can't choose our own family of origin when we are children, but we have the right to live our own lives when we are adults. Confront the past and better separate the past from the present.

We all have to work hard to do it, and we all have to live well.

We grow up in the atmosphere of the family of origin, and every aspect of us is influenced by the family of origin. These effects can be both positive and negative. The negative factors will stay with us for the rest of our lives, but they won't affect us for the rest of our lives.

The reason why I say this is because the memories left by the family are indelible, the living habits under the influence of the original family will accompany us for a lifetime, and when I grow up, I will form an independent concept and will no longer be influenced by the outside world.

1. The memories left by the family are indelible and we will always remember.

Everything we experience will leave an imprint in our minds and become part of our memory. ......This memory is indelible and we will always remember it. Even if we sometimes forget it occasionally, we will remember it again if we are reminded in moderation.

Therefore, the influence of the family of origin will be remembered by us and form a lifelong memory.

2. The living habits we formed under the influence of our original family will accompany us throughout our lives.

Among the influences brought to us by the family of origin, the most direct and intuitive is the influence of living habits......Under the influence of the original family, we will form our own unique living habits, and this living habits will accompany us throughout our lives, no matter how we go, it will not change. ......From this point of view, the influence of our family of origin will accompany us throughout our lives.

3. When you grow up, you will form an independent concept and will no longer be influenced by the outside world.

When we were young, because we were young and had no independent thoughts, we would be directly influenced by our family of origin in all aspects such as words, deeds, and thinking. ......However, as we grow older, we will gradually form our own independent concepts, and at this time we will no longer be affected by external factors, but will think independently and choose a suitable way of life according to our actual situation. At this time, the influence of the family of origin will become very limited, and those negative influences will be eliminated to the greatest extent, and will no longer have any substantial impact on us.

From this point of view, the negative factors brought about by the family of origin will not affect us for the rest of our lives.

The influence of the family of origin on oneself is a problem, not a question of "right or wrong" or "good or bad".

If there is no family of origin, then it means that there will be no appearance of you, with your own appearance, there are infinite possibilities in life, and these may be your own decision.

Don't you know that you are essentially yourself with independent thinking? It's not surprising that you feel uncomfortable listening to people talk about the self.

2) There is no good or bad family of origin.

So is that really what you and others are like that? Actually, you don't see it clearly at all.

For example: Obviously he is a scumbag in front of him, but he looks like an honest man in your mind.

If you can really think with your heart and feel confident enough about the results of your thinking, then you won't be afraid to listen to others talk about self-esteem and self-love.

3) Seeing the energy holes of the family of origin.

Many people will have this feeling: they often don't want to do anything, they don't want to think too much, no matter how big or small, what they do is a powerless ......Including: falling in love, getting married, accompanying parents, teaching children, etc.

In fact, the essence of your lack of motivation stems from your doubts and disagreement with the concept of "family" or "home", and you do not believe that the love of family members is unconditional and eternal.

The original family is the place where a person is born, and it is also the **** of a person's true love and energy, and it is also the underlying logic of your cognition and way of thinking.

Our ** original family is also to find the part of the energy deficiency and fill this loophole.

4) Make up for the energy gap.

Maybe we don't have the ability to learn love or love correctly in our family of origin, and you may think that we may have lost the ability to be loved, but that doesn't stop us from learning as adults.

In the deep ideology, positive energy such as emotion, motivation, ability, and communication can all belong to the same thing - true love.

It's worth a lifetime of exploration.