If you only talk about family, can t you really marry a rural person?

If you only talk about family, can't you really marry a rural person? Even if I only talk about family, I don't think I really can marry a rural person.

Although I am also a rural person, I just grew up in the city, and I do not discriminate against rural people, but if you marry a rural person, you will marry him, the whole family. When you first got married, you may not be able to accept some of their family's living habits and other aspects, but you can bear it. But if you have a baby, especially if you give birth to a girl.

The mother-in-law's attitude immediately changed 360 degrees, for the sake of their family's incense problem, she will insist that you have another one, and you must not give birth to a son.

If you say you don't want to give birth, it's impossible. As long as you live in their village, everyone will say that you gave birth to a girl, and your family doesn't even have a son, and this daughter-in-law is too angry. And her son, your husband, will also think that you should have a son, and under the compulsion of his mother, he will instill in you every day the idea of having a son.

You will say that your husband is not such a person, no, you are wrong. In that patriarchal dye vat in the countryside, that is a deep-rooted idea.

So even if I only talk about family, I don't think I can really marry a rural person. You are looking for a young man in the city, everyone can get along in all aspects of personality, and they can chat well, and after marriage, they will not feel depressed because of having a boy and a girl, and there will be no particularly big friction between you and your parents-in-law, isn't it fragrant? Hello everyone, I'm Yaoyao Yeqing, I hope mine can help you!

Real experience and feelings, referring to rural men and urban women.

Rural people will not be too rhetorical to promise you what kind of life I will give you when they are in love, at first they will feel realistic and real, but the days need to have a head. Urban people and rural people have been living in different environments since childhood, and their values are rarely the same. Regardless of whether urban people are wealthy or not, their horizons are broader than those in rural areas, and their pursuit of life is naturally different.

Most rural people have seen how hard their parents work and how hard they work, and most rural parents do not have regular jobs, which leads to the fact that after marriage, the parents in the city do not need much support for their children, and they can live a prosperous life, while the parents in the rural areas need their children to be honored. This is not to say that urban children are not filial, but that urban parents need a different way of filial piety than in rural areas. If the family is rich, it doesn't matter, if the family is not capable, and their own families are tight, contradictions will naturally arise, especially if the man is a rural person, the city girl values your down-to-earth progress, not to mention that you can't get the life you want, but also consumes yourself for life, and your parents are naturally more distressed, which will cause greater contradictions.

Rural men are more or less straight men, with great self-esteem and conceit, and there are many people who regard women's vocation as the successor of the lineage, and there are not a few people who think that as long as women run the family, they should pursue less material life. Urban people are generally born superior, and even if they love each other in this kind of life, it is like spending it in grievances, not to mention that love will slowly die out after marriage. The poor woman was sorry for her parents because the man was distressed, and she suffered with the man and even the house was not settled, and finally her life got better, and the man took out the inheritance of the family and the thrifty family to kidnap you, now undergraduate graduation is common, and the number of graduate graduates has also increased greatly.

And if the man lives in the city where the woman's family is located (although there will be more economic problems), if the woman marries the man, the rural mother-in-law's behavior is really not that I am prejudiced against them.

Of course, there are still people who are destined to overcome these contradictions and differences to the end, but most city women probably don't have the patience and courage to run in, and you don't need to take this risk and suffer this injury. Timely refusal is good for both parties. Since ancient times, it has been important to pay attention to the right person, both parties live in their own circle, do not hurt each other, the best.

There is a fate to meet thousands of miles away, but there is no chance to meet on the other side.

Marriage needs to be the right person, the right person is money and family, to put it mildly, it is class, people who have not experienced the class gap will not know how powerless love is in front of class. My predecessor is a girl with a good family education, but what about it? 1.

Mom told her not to spend boys' money, girls should be independent, and when they fall in love, they will tell their mother, and their mother will give you money. 2.Dad told her not to look for a partner with too good family conditions, for fear that he would not be good for you.

The girl who chats with my mother every day is a girl with a happy family, and I, who was born in poverty, was not worthy of this girl at that time. When I was young, I felt that those who broke up after graduation because of reality are not love at all, I regard money as dung, do not bend my waist for five buckets of rice, I am Qinggao, love is everything, I feel that there is love, there is a life of two people. In fact, it's completely two worlds.

It costs more than 100 to eat a dinner, which I think is a big meal for a date, and it turns out that people eat dinner like this every day. went shopping together, I didn't know the brand she bought, and I pulled her to the small market or something, and I could feel that the other party was very reluctant. At first, I was still a little entangled in my heart, thinking that how could a girl spend money so much, and she would also associate this behavior with a "loser".

Later, I found out that this is the daily life of people. Once she took a look at a coat, tried it several times, and finally took it off. I thought it was inappropriate, but she said to me on the way back

There are more than 3,000 clothes, and if I had bought them without hesitation, would you have any opinion of me. "It's really ......Did the other person do something wrong? No, you can't say that other girls follow you every day to eat boxed lunches and wear stalls is true love, right?

She was very good to me, in order to take care of my face, she would secretly stuff me with money under the table every time she checked out, and I checked out and I felt ugly. But this kind of contradiction, slowly, we eat, drink and have fun more, a month spent three months of money, I said inferiorly, I will always pay you back in the future, she cried, and said to me that you never wanted to be with me for the rest of your life. I thought about it, but I'm poor.

Later, after all, we still couldn't be together, indeed, we are not the right family, the family of laid-off workers, and the family of state-owned enterprise executives, the gap is too big. A beautiful and happy life is built on a certain material basis, I don't blame her, I only blame myself for meeting the person I want to protect the most at the age of nothing. Poor, no love.

Love must be the right match, and the two must have three views in line. I want to say to boys, don't fall in love with rich girls easily. I want to say to girls, don't fall in love with poor boys easily.

Only talking about family, many people think that people in the city can't marry rural people, because there are many aspects that don't believe, because marriage will live together, there are many aspects of the three views are inconsistent, whether it is the habits of life or the concept of consumption, the concept of rural people and urban people are different, not married means to live life, there are many aspects are not similar, but can not be generalized, now young people come out to work very early, and you develop very well outside, some also marry girls in the city, They are also happy together, and there are many of them, not that all people can't get married, it's just that some people are suitable, and some people are not suitable!

Now some people think that there is a certain reason why people in the village do not want to fall in love with rural people or get married.

After all, the environment in which two people have lived since childhood is different, and conflicts may often break out after being together.

The family background is not the same.

Although with the development of the times, the concept of being the right person has gradually disappeared in front of the world. But there will be many parents who have this set of ideas in their minds. So sometimes when urban families are richer and rural families are poorer, parents in urban families are often unable to accept people from rural families.

After all, the economic status of the two parties is not the same, so when they get along, there are often some contradictions on economic issues, which is also one of the reasons why parents consider it.

Judging from the personality, hobbies and three views.

We all know that children in the city are better educated from an early age than in the countryside, and they are also able to learn talents from an early age. Then their character is more confident, because they also have the ability to be confident. As for rural children, because they grew up in a different environment, they often receive relatively backward education, and they do not have too much money to learn talents.

So when the two of them are together, they may not have a common topic to talk about. Even for this reason, there is a person who constantly withdraws and has low self-esteem in love, then this kind of love is not beautiful.

Judging by their interpersonal interactions.

Children in the city often interact with the same family economic background, so they have a lot of topics to chat about at this time; And children from the countryside, because their place of birth determines their vision, so there are few rural children, and they will travel all over the world when they are young. Therefore, the friends they make and the friends they make in the city are not in the same circle, so when they integrate into the propaganda in the city, they often feel unsociable, and even embarrassed. If two people will feel embarrassed to get along, of course, it is not suitable for choice, but if they feel that they are compatible, they can also choose.

I'm a man, I'm 30 years old, and mine can't.

When I was 22 years old, I was asked this question, and mine was: Yes, people can't change their origins, and we have no reason to look down on a person because of their origin.

Why am I making such a change?

It's because I've met countless girls from rural counties on blind dates for so many years, and at the same time, I also learned from friends about the various bad deeds of rural daughters-in-law or husbands after marriage. After taking inventory, I really didn't find a rural person with normal three views, not a single one! At least that's the case around me.

Let's start with rural men.

Rural men, no matter how high the education, he is machismo in his bones, he especially wants a boy when he has a child, the first child is not a boy, so he forces his daughter-in-law to regenerate, he can lick his daughter-in-law to death before marrying his daughter-in-law, and abuse him to death after marrying his daughter-in-law, domestic violence is a common thing, before marrying a daughter-in-law, rural parents are also all kinds of girls, after marrying a daughter-in-law, rural parents begin to slowly take out the demeanor of the older generation to treat their daughter-in-law, and feel that the daughter-in-law should cook and wash dishes and wash clothes every day when she marries into the door, and they are the people of their family when they enter the door. There is no good face for girls, and if girls are disobedient, they will say that you look at the current daughter-in-law without a daughter-in-law. If you are the parents of a city boy, many of them will treat the girl as their own daughter when they marry the door, which is too good to be good. Rural men love to drink and brag, and they feel like they can ascend to the throne with a little achievement, such as feeling that they have a halo on their heads when they are admitted to graduate school.

Let's talk about rural women.

Most of them are really bad-looking, especially **! It may have something to do with being exposed to the sun from the small wind in the countryside. Of course, physiognomy is not the worst thing about a rural woman.

Rural women are generally not very good-looking, but they have a lot of requirements. I know a lot of girls in the city who are in good condition at home, who use cheap cosmetics and mobile phones from a few years ago, but they are still beautiful. However, many rural women can't make a few dollars a month, cosmetics must be high-end, mobile phones must be the best, coats must be expensive, and from time to time they have to go to Chow Tai Fook Swarovski to buy a chain, otherwise they will be looked down upon and have a strong sense of vanity.

Before getting married, the lion opened her mouth, and the bride price in the city was 5-100,000 yuan, and she asked for 20-300,000 yuan. When getting married, only their relatives and friends come to the city, and some of the less important ones don't even know how to call, and the number of people is decent, while the rural women call the men, women and children of a village to come to the banquet, and their faces are quite ugly. Some rural families still compare, thinking that they can't have fewer people than the man, otherwise it will seem that there is no one in their mother's house, which is really embarrassing.

After getting married, rural girls often ask you for money, either for her parents or for her younger brother. When you really can't come up with the money, she may divorce you and find a home, even if she already has children. Rural girls generally only look at money, for example, you are optimistic and positive, have a wide range of hobbies, be polite, and have patience, this kind of soft power, she doesn't look at it.

As long as she sees that a certain man earns two or three thousand more than you a month, she thinks that you are incapable, belittles you in various ways, and finally ruins the family.

1. The importance of being a good family member for marriage.

1. Although the marriage of the right family is not necessarily happy, there must be hidden dangers in the marriage of the wrong family, which is not necessarily directly related to the husband and wife, but the pressure of the two families on the new family, and the pressure will inevitably erupt under the long-term effect.

2. The door has to look down on the corresponding derogatory words, look down, despise, dislike, disdain, etc., once this attitude is bred, the marriage will be shaken and even broken.

3. The door-to-door pair is not only to say that the strength of the two families is equal in terms of money and power, this type of door-to-door pair, which has been considered by people all over the world since ancient times, is also a very important indicator. But until now, we still have to pay attention to the spiritual level, which is far more important than money status. Two people who are similar in culture, knowledge, vision, living habits, behavior, etc., are able to come to the door from the spiritual level, and such marriages can often be happy for a long time.

2. The consequences of marriage that are not in the right place.

1. One party is too dependent on the other. For people who are not in the right household, after marriage, the lower party will rely too much on the other party, not only on the spiritual level, but also on the material level, and this situation can cause disharmony in getting along over time.

2. The spiritual world is not harmonious. Two people who are not in the right household are highly different in the spiritual world, so their topics and interests are inconsistent, so conflicts are often indispensable in married life.

3. Parents think differently. The parents of two people who are not in the right household do not communicate smoothly, and the disharmony between the in-laws can make it difficult for both husband and wife to move forward.

Third, the disadvantages of blindly pursuing the right door.

Although we must find a partner on the premise of "suitability", it seems that true love can ignore family, age and even national borders. Coupled with the fact that many young people are now uprooted from their hometowns and working in other places, the pressure and conflicts from the family seem to have decreased a lot.

Blindly pursuing the right person may make you miss the person you love the most in your life, even if you meet a "right person" object later, then you may live in a kind of unspeakable shadow of suffering for the rest of your life, if you can't let go of this obsession, then your life may become very painful.

Fourth, what kind of love can ignore the "right match"?

If you and your other half are very independent people, and your living habits and lifestyles have formed a good tacit understanding after a long time of dating, and the other party is completely loyal to your love, then you might as well stick to your true love, true love can ignore the shackles of the world.

In the life after marriage, both parties take respect as the premise, the better party faces the worse party with a normal attitude, and both parties encourage and support each other, such a marriage can also be very happy!