What are the characteristics of the personality of children who live with the elderly when they grow

Children who grow up with the elderly are more introverted, not independent, prone to low self-esteem, withdrawn, sensitive, and so on。Some parents will choose to leave their children to be taken care of by the elderly for various reasons and go out to work by themselves, although it is a forced move, but it has a great impact on the child's personality. You must know that children who live with the elderly will have many flaws in their personalities.

The first is that it is not independent, and it is necessary to know the educational philosophy of the elderly.

Completely different from young people, they are always separated by generations, spoiling their grandchildren to the extreme, letting them do it, arranging everything properly, and not letting the children do it. As a result, the child is already very old, but still unable to be independent. It's hard to get along with others after entering society, but they all want to rely on their families, or they look forward to pie in the sky.

It is very detrimental to future development.

The second is to be more withdrawn and sensitive, knowing that the company of parents can bring a sense of security to children.

Although the old man is very good to his children, there is always a gap in the middle, not to mention that no relationship can replace father's love and mother's love. In the case of insecurity, the child's personality will become withdrawn and sensitive, they have low self-esteem, do not want to contact others, and do not know how to express problems when they have problems, and this character defect may affect the child's life.

Finally, they are more introverted, the elderly themselves are not good at education, and they do not know how to communicate with others. When parents take care of their children, they usually let them have more contact with children of the same age and can learn more knowledge. For example, it has been reported before that the elderly take their children to play mahjong or go to square dancing.

In this way, over time, the child will become very introverted if he does not make friends. Therefore, although it is important to make money, the cultivation of children is even more important, and parents should still take their children with them as much as possible to take care of them personally. You must know that for them, it doesn't matter if they suffer some hardships with their parents, as long as they can be with their parents.

Extremely clingy, not independent, grandparents with children is intergenerational education, the average elderly are extremely spoiled for children, and it can even be said that they are resigned. And the elderly generally arrange everything and do not let the children do it. Therefore, children who sleep with the elderly are generally extremely clingy in terms of personality and are not independent at all.

Children will be very selfish, disobedient, easily rebellious, very temperamental, and will not think from the perspective of others.

When you grow up, you will become very willful, very selfish, no matter what you do, you only think of yourself, and you are not filial to your parents, and you are still more extreme in doing things, but if you encounter some big things, you will be more inferior.

Nowadays, most children have grown up in the arms of their parents, and it can be said that they are very happy. But there are still some children in the world who live alone from an early age due to various reasons, whether their parents go out to work, or they have no parents. The family environment has a great impact on a person's growth.

Children who have lived alone for a long time will be different from other children in many ways when they grow up.

One: I am very lonely inside. Two:

The character is very strong. Three: Relatively inferior.

It is said that parents are the enlightenment teachers of their children, so parents have a great influence on their children, and all parents should give their children a happy childhood.

Living alone for a long time will generally be more withdrawn, introverted, insecure, and not easy to approach; Ordinary children, on the other hand, have been cared for by their parents and played with their peers since they were young, and their general personalities are more cheerful.

If a person lives alone for a long time, his personality will be more withdrawn, he does not know how to communicate with others, and it is difficult to integrate into the group. But the ability to be self-reliant will be stronger than others.

The difference between such children and ordinary children when they grow up is that such children will be more independent, but at the same time, they will be more introverted.

If a child lives alone, then his personality is particularly withdrawn. Then he will not be very kind to others, then he will not have too many friends.

Compared with ordinary children, he lacks the love of his parents, and he will be very withdrawn when he lives alone for a long time, with an extreme personality and a short temper.

Children may be more independent when living alone for a long time, but they will also have low self-esteem and feel insecure, unlike ordinary children who are sunny and cheerful.

First, the child will be fatter.

Today's young parents pay more attention to scientific feeding, and they will also control their children's food consumption more strictly. As long as the child can eat, not eat indiscriminately, it will not prevent the child from eating, if the child eats more and moves less, then the child will most likely become chubby, unless the child has poor digestion and absorption function, how to eat is not obvious.

Second, the child's dress is relatively old-fashioned.

Many mothers lament that after a few months of taking their children to the elderly, they can't even recognize their children, at least from the perspective of clothing, it feels like they are back in the seventies and eighties. It is true that many old people have little sense of aesthetics, as long as the child is not frozen, not hot, no matter what the child wears, the old man feels that this is his good grandson, good granddaughter, no matter how you look good. But for the aesthetic conflict between the two generations, there is no need to be too careful, I haven't seen a child who dressed old-fashioned when he was a child, and he is also old-fashioned when he grows up, right?

But it is more intuitive to use this method to determine whether the old man brought it up or the mother brought it up.

3. Children's self-control is relatively weak and likes to solve problems by crying.

It is not uncommon to see elderly people compromising with crying children on the street, either by holding them up and not crying, or by buying toys and not crying. Although the elderly are more "deductive" to themselves financially, they are also responsive to the demands of their grandchildren and granddaughters. Seeing the heart-rending cry of the child, can the old man's heart not soften.

But over time, children will also learn routines, as long as it is what they want, cry first and then say, if crying has no effect, roll on the ground, in front of grandparents, this trick has been tried and tested. But if you play like this in front of your parents, you may have to suffer from flesh and skin.

Fourth, children are often not too fine.

It is also easy to tell from the child's personality whether it was brought up by the elderly. As a simple example, if a 5-year-old child stays with a child of the same age for a long time, and a 5-year-old child stays with a 60-year-old for a long time, then there is a clear difference in the child's activity and responsiveness. If the old man is compared to a portrait in the memory of a child, then the child must have a slow image of grandparents in his mind, so under the influence of the elderly, the child often does not show the kind of "essence" brought out by his parents.

Because she is afraid of her grandmother's scolding, she doesn't like to talk since she was a child, sensitive, cautious, for fear of not conforming to her grandmother's wishes, over time, such a character grows up with her, and she can't lose it, she has no sense of security, cares about what others think of herself, sometimes compares herself with others, has low self-esteem, and always envies the innate arrogance of children raised by their parents, and is not good at expressing their true thoughts, often, duplicity.

But compared to children who grow up with their parents, the only thing is that they are stronger and more independent.

Like a small family, I was also a left-behind child since I was a child, growing up with my grandmother, and clearly understood that in fact, the character shaping of childhood will affect people's lives, a few years ago, I often told my father that I did not have a happy and complete childhood, so I was extremely lacking in love and security, I like to listen to other people's praise, I don't like to listen to others' criticism, my father also expressed his sorry for me, and then I didn't mention it anymore, after all, now the family is good, and there is love. But I know in my heart that I will not let my children be like this in the future, no matter how much love the elderly have, it will not be as complete and full as the love given by their parents.

1.The child is even more rebellious.

This is mainly caused by grandpa and grandma too doting on children, the general grandparents will be very pampered their grandchildren, what grandchildren want to eat, what grandchildren want to play, so that after growing up, the child's personality will be more rebellious, feeling that the people around him revolve around him, he will do whatever he says, and he doesn't want to listen to other people's words.

2.Children who are brought up by grandpas and grandmothers are also lazier.

This is because children like to imitate and learn, and grandparents are older and weaker after all, so they don't like to move around. Children are exposed to such an environment, and they are becoming more and more lazy, and it is difficult for them to have sports hobbies when they grow up, so this is a bad character trait.

3.Children who are brought up by their grandfathers and grandmothers will be more independent.

Grandpa and grandma will be more tolerant of children, and they will not be so restrained about children, so children have more freedom to grow. For example, in learning, if the child's academic performance is not good, parents should immediately discipline the child, but grandpa and grandma are more tolerant, they allow the child to have different interests and hobbies, so that the child will grow up to be more independent and more creative. Such a child will have a greater probability of success in the future, which is also a good character trait.

I think I feel quite touched by this question, so let's take myself as an example.

I'll talk about my situation first, I was brought up by my grandmother, although my parents came home from work every day, but they were too busy, and most of the time they were with my grandmother.

Anyway, my grandmother is a strong woman in my mind, she has five children, so as a senior mother, she has experienced a lot of twists and turns in her life. Before I was born, my grandfather passed away. That's why she's strong. Alright, let's get down to business.

From elementary school to junior high school, I was raised by my grandmother, who stayed with me longer than my parents. In my heart, I always have the feeling that she is always kinder and more affectionate than my mother. Now that we are separated, I miss her more than my mother, yes.

Having told my story, I would like to make a few points.

If the child lives with the elderly when he is older, his personality will not change much. Because character is formed from a young age, it is not so easy to change.

If a child is taken by his parents for a period of time, and then brought by his grandparents, I think his personality will change. Because people are always learning animals, especially children, they have a strong ability to imitate when they are young, and if they live with their grandparents or grandparents, they will imitate their words and deeds and behaviors, and their personalities will slowly change.

Again, I don't know if it's off topic. I still recommend that parents bring their children with them from an early age, one is because of emotional problems, and the other is because of personality problems.

When I was a child, I would, but when I grew up, I wouldn't. Perhaps, when you are around the old man, when you leave the old man, this influence will gradually disappear.

Listen to me.

Children live with the elderly, most commonly left-behind children. Actually, I used to be a left-behind child, but now I'm an adult. I've seen a lot of left-behind children, so I feel like I have a say in this issue.

Take some friends I have met as an example, I think the following effects of the elderly on children, the following aspects are worth noting:

１.A frugal lifestyle

I don't think children who have lived with the elderly tend to have a lifestyle that is too extravagant. Except, of course, in exceptional cases. Why?

Because children will not only be influenced by the concept of frugal life, but will also be forced to be frugal. The concept of the elderly is relatively solid, when the child wastes things, the old man often looks unpleasant, and then scolds, and then a lot of ideological and moral education. Over time, children develop the habit of frugality.

Of course, when children grow up, as their interactions with their peers deepen, they will not be so frugal in eating and drinking.

２.Slightly conservative ideology

I don't think I need to say more about this. Do people who live with the elderly still go to nightclubs every day? It's not just about being conservative in interpersonal interactions, it's about lifestyle, morality, and so on.

Of course, as children grow older and enter society, they will be influenced by this ever-changing society and gradually open up.

To sum up, the environment does affect people, and the extent of the impact depends on each person's thinking habits.

If you have any objections, please feel free to raise them

Fair to say.

I went back to my hometown with my grandparents for six months, and although my parents would bring my sister back to my hometown every week to see me, I still felt that they were strangers at that time, and even called my mother aunt.

Maybe it's because of this that I have been insecure since I was a child, and I have always been inclose to my parents.

Because the environment in which I grew up was different, my sister's personality and I are also very different.

I was very stubborn and stubborn, and when my mother told me that when I first lived with them, for example, when my father scolded me, I would skip eating, run to the house and lock the door to avoid sulking. Another point is that I am a little cautious, and I can't think about it when I encounter something.

These characters of mine should be following my grandfather, although he is the best in my eyes and super spoils me, but in the eyes of others, he is an out-and-out old stubborn.

In fact, it is not only the personality of children who live with the elderly will change, but also the personality of children living with any different people.

Because children's personalities are malleable, they will involuntarily imitate the people around them, which is why we emphasize that we should always pay attention to our words and deeds in front of children.

Here I want to say a point, since parents choose to let their children live with the elderly, they must do a good job that the children will be close to the elderly, and their personalities will change with the elderly.

As a parent, don't ask your child why he doesn't kiss you.

Because in a child's world, the criteria for judging things are simple:

Whoever is good to me is a good person, and someone who treats me badly is a bad person.

If you grow up with me, I will kiss you; If you don't accompany me, I won't kiss you.