What is the impact of children who have lived with their grandparents since childhood?

Children who have lived with their grandparents since childhood rarely see their parents, so they will have some inferiority complex in their hearts, have no impression of their parents, and become reticent, which will have an adverse impact on the child's psychology.

Without the company of the child's parents, children who have lived with their grandparents since childhood are generally overly doted by grandparents. And excessive spoiling will lead to children being very pampered and arrogant. This has a very bad effect on the child.

Due to the absence of parents and the excessive doting of grandparents, these children are usually very psychologically unsound, and will become very arrogant and do not take anyone seriously.

When the child is young, whoever takes more will kiss him, because he will depend on the person who takes him. When the child grows up, there will be a rebellious period, at this time he has a sense of independence and does not want to be dependent on anyone. If you treat him like he did when he was a child at this time, hoping that as long as he loves him, loves him, cares for him, and is good for him, he will be closer to him than anyone else, which is actually unrealistic.

On the one hand, he has a little bit of independent ability and does not need to be taken care of by others, and if you treat him like this, he may also think that this is a constraint. On the other hand, he needs more spiritual communication and wants someone to guide him. Therefore, when he was a child, his grandmother was kind to him, and he may forget it, and even if he doesn't forget, it is difficult to rely on his grandmother as before.

The child's mother may be able to communicate with the child easily, and the child will be closer to the mother mentally.

The child is influenced by the environment around him.

When I was in school, there was a new classmate in the class, and his grandmother came to bring him food every day, but no one had ever met or heard this classmate mention his parents. At that time, some classmates secretly speculated in private whether he would have no parents and that he was abandoned. In addition, there are other rumors, such as that his parents have divorced.

If a child does not have a father or mother, he or she may suffer a lot of criticism from an early age. And in the eyes of many, a child without a mother is more pitiful than a child without a grandmother. For example, if the child is carried by a grandmother, many people will ask "what about the child's mother", and if the child is taken by the mother, few people will ask "what about the child's grandmother".

The child will be influenced by the people around him, and he will psychologically identify with himself and need his mother more.

Children who grow up with their grandmothers are usually doted on, and they will have some small tempers, and some will be insecure when they grow up because they are not by their parents' side, so their personalities are different.

Hello dear, children who grow up with grandma will be less secure than children brought by their parents, and children who grow up with grandma always feel that grandma is the best, and the degree of intimacy with grandma is higher than that of mother. It is very normal for children to have the above psychology, children are very insecure in the process of growing up, grandma accompanies the child for a long time, there will be a sense of dependence on the child's psychology, and the mother accompanies the child for less time, so that the mother's dependence on the grandmother will be transferred to the grandmother, so there will be a feeling that the baby is close to the grandmother and not close to the mother. The child's growth process needs to be accompanied, the mother's position in the child's heart can not be replaced, after all, the blood relationship can not be separated, and when the child grows up and knows how to express feelings, he will deal with the relationship between his grandmother and his mother very well, and there is no need to be overly anxious.

Hope my answer is helpful to you!

Introduction: If a child always lives with his grandparents, it will also have an impact on the child.

Grandparents are more doting on their children, and they always live with their grandparents, which will also make children develop some bad habits, and parents have no way to know in time. The companionship of parents to children is the most important, if you have been putting your children by the side of grandparents, not only will it have an impact on children, but children have no way to be very close to you, you must know that children's growth is actually the most important. Many elderly people are very spoiled with children, so at this time you have to make appropriate adjustments, be sure to let yourself take your own children, so that the children will also develop a good character, and you must let the children stay with their parents more.

Children are often spoiled by the elderly, at this time you should adjust the child's situation appropriately, and you must learn to help the child at ordinary times, so as not to let the child appear this phenomenon. Older people will have some bad personalities, so you have to adjust them.

If the elderly often spoil their children, not only will the children develop some bad habits, but the children will also be very dependent on the elderly, mothers and fathers must hold their children in their arms, and they must let the children stay with themselves more. The elderly will let the children develop some bad habits, the family must be timely to stop, if they are usually very busy with work, they must take time to accompany their children, for the children is actually very good, parents must learn to protect the children, must let the children can be adjusted appropriately. Don't let your child stay with the elderly often, it will also make your child develop a bad character, you must let your child stay with your parents more, parents have no time to spend with their children, and they must also take time.

Parents should not always put their children with the elderly, it will also have a certain impact on their children.

1. Children are prone to lack of security, parents are often not around, living with grandparents for a long time, and grandparents are overly doting on children, which will make children overly dependent, and when grandparents are suddenly not around, it will make children anxious and easily insecure. 2. The physique becomes weaker, affecting the normal development of the body, the sleep time of the elderly is very short, and the child will develop the same routine as the old man for a long time, and it is difficult to ensure that the child has sufficient sleep time, and over time, it will affect the healthy development of the child.

In this way, it is very harmful to the child's growth, the child will become very inferior, the child will be very insecure, and the academic performance is not good, there is no good learning ability, and he does not want to study.

It will make the child very selfish, the child's heart does not have too much love, the child can not understand the care of the parents, the child's personality is very withdrawn, and the child does not get along with others very well.

It will lead to the child's extreme personality, so that the child cannot feel the love of his parents, so that the child is not unhappy, and the grandparents will indulge the child and let the child go on the wrong path.

Bring it back, no matter how hard it is.

Nowadays, the pace of life is accelerating, and every family has to face a huge cost of living, whether it is buying a house, a car or whatever, everyone has to pay a lot of money. In order to make better money, young couples will also go to first-tier cities to work hard, and hand over their children to their grandparents to teach, so that they can devote themselves to hard work.

Parents, as the first teachers of their children, should take care of them in their childhood, so that they can grow up and live better, so that children are confident, cheerful, energetic, and able to unite and love their classmates in school.

However, there are many families whose children grew up with their grandparents, and they are almost the same personality under the education of the next generation: irritable, willful and timid! The reason why this is the case is also that the grandparents do not educate their grandchildren in the right way and do not have scientific upbringing thinking.

The upbringing of children is divided into two aspects: physical and mental, and most of the intergenerational education only satisfies the physical upbringing, but there are some deficiencies in the spirit.

In general, if it is because the grandmother is old, the ideology is relatively old, and there is not much energy to take care of the child, then the child will have the following psychology when he grows up:

Insecure, timid, afraid to resist, prone to low self-esteem. Because parents have not been around since childhood, lack of love, and even some will be ridiculed by their classmates for not having parents, which causes children to have an inferiority complex and fear of being abandoned.

Love to escape, no ability to empathize. Because the age difference with my grandmother is too big, when I encountered some problems when I was a child or adolescence, I could only carry it by myself, resulting in indifference and lack of empathy.

But this is not absolute, some grandmothers love their children so much, they are afraid of melting in their mouths, and they love them very much, and the children who grow up in this environment are still very happy and cheerful.

Grandmother. No matter what, when we have the ability, we should treat grandma well.

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First of all, what they lack is the love of their parents, and in any case, there is a generation between grandparents and parents, and children are separated by two generations. Especially in this era of rapid development of science and technology, grandparents will be slower to keep up with the times, and now school education is getting better and better, and many times the grandparents of children's problems are unable to do so. It is true that left-behind children will be cared for or pampered by their grandparents when they follow their grandparents, but children who do not have their parents by their side will encounter many problems at school but cannot find anyone to help them, and their hearts are insecure.

And it is easy to have feelings of inferiority. I think that since we have decided to have this child, and this child has lived in this world, we have an obligation to accompany them to grow up, although we don't have to give them good material conditions, but we can give them a lot of spiritual strength. I have seen many families of left-behind children, and their grandparents can't control their madness at all, because they were really active when they were young, but their grandparents can't do anything about it, and they can't control them at all, and slowly their temperament will be very wild.

Then in order to get your attention, they will become more and more rebellious, and may even make some mistakes, because they do not understand the consequences of these things, and in the end, it is easy to cause family tragedy. I think you can ask this question to prove that you also care about your children, so I think why we should let this situation exist. There are a lot of things that money can't bring.

Of course, these are my personal opinions.

Lacking a sense of security and love, it is easy to suffer from gains and losses, but it is also independent and strong. Expressive but a little inferior. I feel different from the children around me.

The main thing is some regrets. There is no living with parents, there is no kind of family being together, unrestrained laughter and scolding, there is no sense of security around parents, and there is no coquettishness. I don't have many playmates, so I've always been very envious of other people's happy families, and envy people who have grown up and played with big partners.

It's self-violence. I love to talk to others about everything, even if it's for my own amusement. This is probably due to the lack of communication with people in the past, and the extreme desire in my heart. I guess.

Some people probably say I'm a bit withdrawn, but I think it's okay myself.

A few days ago, when I went downstairs, I saw my neighbor Aunt Zhang playing in the park with her little grandson. I went up to say hello, and saw that the child was very close to Aunt Zhang, screaming one by one, and letting the grandmother eat first.

Seeing this scene, I praised again and again: Your grandson is really not raised in vain, and his relationship with his grandmother is so close. Unexpectedly, Aunt Zhang sighed and said:

What's the use of being close now, when I grow up in a few years, I'll still be closer to someone's mother, isn't my eldest grandson, my parents will pick him up when he grows up, and now it's not closer to his mother than to me?

Aunt Zhang's words made me fall into contemplation, now many families are old people helping to take care of the baby, working hard to bring up the child, and then being picked up by the parents, and gradually becoming close to the parents, but the relatives of the next generation who raised themselves gradually became unfamiliar.

Especially like Aunt Zhang, the grandson raised by his grandmother is still closer to his mother when he grows up, and many people still feel deeply unfair and unfair because of this, in fact, this situation is not an exception, but there is a reason.

When children are young, they have a strong sense of dependence on the people who often accompany them, and grandma has become the closest person to children when they are young.

In fact, from a psychological point of view, children should be close to their parents first, and then grandparents and grandparents.

From the very beginning, whether it is physical or psychological, children need their mothers more, and this need will also make children's feelings for their mothers not too bad.

The child's closeness to his mother is the love that is integrated into the blood.

If the closeness of the child to the mother is judged by the usual time together, then the left-behind children in the mountainous areas almost do not see their mother several times a year.

But this does not affect their longing and longing for their mother in the slightest, and this longing and longing is creeping into their subconscious.

In fact, children are naturally close to their mothers, because there is a blood relationship, there is an early experience of taking care of children in infancy, and mothers naturally have an emotional foundation in the minds of children.

Even if you need to be busy with work in the later stage, as long as you can take enough time to accompany and care for your child after work, weekends and holidays, then the child will naturally feel the care of her mother, feel the love of her parents, and the child will also return her love to her parents.

Many grandmothers will always have such worries after raising their children, thinking that their hard work is in vain and raising children for others.

In fact, even if the child is brought up by the grandmother, it is still the closest to the mother when he grows up, but it does not mean that in the child's heart, he does not miss the grandmother's good, but the child is closer to the mother. Those children who grew up with their grandmothers and received a lot of love from their grandmothers are not bad in their closeness to their grandmothers.