In the face of children brought up by grandparents, how should parents take over?

In the face of children brought up by grandparents, parents should take over the method: parents should talk to their children more in their daily lives and communicate with their children, and they can take their children to the playground when they are resting.

You can also take your child to do something that children like to do, so that they can especially like their parents. The concept will not be the same as adults, the child will simply feel that his parents leave him, or paranoid parents leave her, which will lead to black shadows and damage to the child's young heart, causing the child's character to be not good at words, so parents must pay attention to the content of the information is so convenient now, no matter how far away, must contact the child on time, inform him that leaving is for his happy life, and let the child understand the difficulty of his parents. Even if one of the parents is likely to be away on a long-term business trip due to homework, the other party will accompany the child to grow up well.

Therefore, as long as our parents are also involved in the whole process of children's growth, please give the baby enough care in it, and believe that the child will not only recognize the grandparents, but "ignore" the existence of parents. If you want children to figure out the educational philosophy of mom and dad.

It is important that parents work hard so that children can understand what is in your education. Sometimes parents will not think about leaving their children to their grandparents, even if sometimes going home is even more unprincipled compromise and pampering for children. to make up for the guilt of not being with the child for a year, the child simply grasps what is in the education of his parents.

If you want to change this situation, you can take the baby to your side, touch it for a long time, live together, and have enough time to educate your child after work, and influence your child with your own consciousness. When a child has a problem, give early attention and use a reasonable way for the child to change. This is a subtle kinetic energy, and it is also the effect of time accumulation, and only such children can accept your educational philosophy.

This kind of thing is actually about the problem of keeping children, which is a two-way difficulty, the first is the difficulty of parents' cultural education of their children, and the key is to teach by word and deed; In addition, it is difficult for children to understand, obedient children can figure it out, and disobedient children are not easy to say.

Parents should tell their children to correct some previous misconceptions, not to blindly protect their children, and to criticize them for doing wrong things.

Parents let their children adapt to the environment of staying with them, and then communicate well with their children to give them enough love and security.

Under normal circumstances, children brought up by grandparents are particularly easy to rebel, and it is more difficult to educate them again, so it is recommended that moms and dads should take care of their children by themselves if time permits.

1.Mom and Dad have the right to education

First of all, parents need to get their attitudes right. Because of busy work, it can trouble the elderly to help take care of children, but no matter how tired they are, they also need to take time to pay attention to and educate children, and they must grasp the right to educate and raise children in their own hands, and cannot fully hand over to their grandparents, and have the courage to take on the obligation of raising children. To clarify the first person responsible for the child, the role is generally played by the father and mother.

When they have problems and need education, the ancestors try to avoid it as much as possible, do not have to come out to intervene, and do their best to maintain the authority of the child's parents, ensure the effectiveness of cultural education and encourage the child to learn to respect his parents.

2.Strengthen communication and unify understanding

Education experts have shown that parents and grandparents should communicate more on the issue of educating their children, learn from each other, and complement each other's strengths. It is normal for two generations to have differences, and active communication can better resolve the contradictions. Express gratitude and understanding to your child's grandparents.

Grandparents want to help us with the children to relieve their stress. Even if they don't do it right, they have good intentions, and everyone needs to be grateful to them. There are some elderly people who spoil their children without knowing it, and they are in it, and they do not know that it will lead to such a big adverse effect, so parents should seriously explain the reasons to him, and can give small examples of children's lives to show him the adverse effects of doing so, and can also cite some serious events in society to let them know the serious consequences of spoiling children.

The natural ancestors' thinking has been solid for a long time, and it will be a bit difficult to change it for a while, so it is necessary to have more patience and perseverance. Discuss educational methods with each other to determine standards, and then follow them as closely as possible when educating children.

3 Grandparents should strengthen their learning and acquire new knowledge

With the progress of the times and the rapid upgrading of social development, the position of the ancestors is inevitably outdated, and the experience accumulated in the past is no longer suitable. Grandparents are very easy to spoil children, and it is precisely because they have few good opportunities to touch new educational concepts, so the parents of children suggest that they take the elderly to study and train, participate in some educational lectures, rely on authoritative application moderately, experience more and contact more, so as to develop grandparents' sights and improve new knowledge.

In the process of taking over, we should communicate more with the child, and we should also follow the child, and we should also communicate with the child more in ordinary life, and take care of the child's life, for some wrong behaviors, let the child realize the impact of the mistake, so that the child will actively correct, in the education should respect the child's mental health, and we should also pay attention to their own educational behavior and way of speaking.

Parents should take their children back, be sure to understand the child's inner thoughts, understand the child's strengths and weaknesses; When educating children, we must understand the children's inner thoughts, we must respect the children, do not force the children to do things they don't like, and we must teach the children the concept of right and wrong.

Parents must pay attention not to put too much pressure on them when educating them, and guide and educate their children slowly; In the process of education, he should know and reason, and let them feel the love of his parents for him.

Companionship is the most affectionate confession, and this sentence is not only suitable for the expression of lovers, but also for the love of children. Therefore, it is a good parent-child time to spend more time with children, and more time with children can increase communication with children, so as to get into the parent-child relationship between parents and children, and then cultivate feelings. Parents who make correct evaluations of their children's words and actions and praise them often help to build a positive relationship between parents and children, bring them closer to each other, and create a sense of trust.

Your child's motivation will also increase. Therefore, to a certain extent, praise shows the respect and love of important people in the child's life, and appropriate praise can produce a variety of educational effects, which is conducive to the healthy and happy growth of the child.

The child is very sensitive, he can feel that whoever spends the most time with him and takes care of him the most, he is the closest to him. The best way is to let the grandparents live with you for a period of time, through slow contact and play, so that the child does not resist you, you have to be more patient with the child to chat, reading, telling stories, playing games, so as to divert the child's attention, two months can pull the child's eyes from the grandmother to you, the premise must be patient and loving, do not lose your temper, otherwise the child will be more reluctant to get close to you.

Mothers should have a compensatory mentality to better accompany the baby, rather than competing for favor to snatch the child's attention. As long as the mother is willing to make up her mind, accompany the baby with her heart, be with the baby more, whether it is to tell stories to the child, or play with the child, she can devote herself to the baby to improve the mother-child relationship little by little. The child is very sensitive, who is good to him, he can really understand very deeply.

The nature between mother and child cannot be cut off by anyone, and the child will understand it when he is older, but I think you should be eager to establish an intimate connection with the child now, so start with what the child is interested in, spend more time with him, and take him to do what he likes. Let him know that his mother loves him no less than his grandparents.

Parents can play more with their children, communicate more with their children, take their children to the zoo and botanical garden museum during the break, or take their children to travel, be sure to appear in time when the child needs it, and be sure to sleep with the child at night.

You can stay with your children, you can take your children to the amusement park on weekends, you should play with your children more often, and you can sing nursery rhymes with your children. Multi-touch.

I think that in ordinary life, it is necessary to educate when it is time to educate, otherwise, it will be very irresponsible for their future life.

Introduction: Some people think that grandparents should help with the children, but it seems that there is nothing that should not be done. The child is your own, not the grandparents', and it is the duty of the elderly to help take care of it, and it is the duty not to help take care of it.

Don't always impose one of your own wishes on the head of the elderly.

In fact, as the elderly, they should enjoy a free life in their old age, not in old age to help their children to take care of children, and their educational concepts and young people's educational concepts are not quite the same, sometimes there will be estrangement, which will lead to the distance between them and children is getting farther and farther, don't always think that grandparents help take care of children is due, they also have their own things, they should live more comfortable and easier, Instead of worrying about these trivial things at an age when it should be relaxed, to take care of such a young child, I hope that all young people can correctly look at the help and care of parents, do not take it for granted, and have a grateful heart.

I don't think it's a matter of course for the elderly to help take care of the children, what they have to do is to take care of themselves, just live well, and take care of the children as much as possible if they have the ability in the future, as their parents or lovers' parents, they are actually very hard, after all, raising a child is also a very tiring thing, there is no need to continue to watch the child after they are old, and then know that watching a child is really very hard, and it is not good to sleep at night, and it is very noisy during the day, But in order to give the children a better rest environment, they take the children to eat, drink and lazar every day, and also cook for the young people, in general, I hope that everyone can take a correct view of the elderly to take care of the children, don't think that is the duty, they have no obligation to help you take care of it.

I don't think it should be. When the elderly reach a certain age, they should enjoy their old age, and since they are their own children, they should take care of themselves.

I don't think so, it's not good for the children if the grandparents help with the children, and they are not obligated.

I don't think so, grandparents don't have the obligation to help people take care of children, and grandparents will bring out children with very bad personalities.

I don't think it's supposed to be at all. Grandparents should not take their children, and we should not throw them if they don't want to.

There are a lot of young parents who are thereWhen the child is young, is to entrust the child to the grandparents to bring, but this may lead to certain problems in the child's education, although the parents they do not have time, but the child is completely handed over to the grandparents,Certainly not a good approach either, not grandparents getting along with children.

So this means that when the child is young, parents should:Spend more time with themDo your best to take care of the child, and spend time on the child, don't blindly take the childThrow it to grandparents to bring。What will be the problem with the child's education if it is handed over to the grandparents when the child is young?

First of all, the biggest problem is nothing more than thatThere will be a disconnect in education, that is to say, grandparents and parentsEducational philosophyIt may be different, but when the child is young, with the grandparents,After staying for a long time, they will get used to the grandparents' education model, and if they return to their parents in the future, they may not adapt to it, and they will also have a rebellious mentality. In fact, this is also a relatively common problem, and I believe that many parents, if they take their childrenAfter taking it to my grandparents for a whileand take them to your sideYou'll find out that kind of problem, and in the TV series Tiger Mom and Cat Dad, there are also such problems.

Even in this TV series, he is also talking about a lot of our education issuesIt's all shownWhen the children are young, many people will give them to their grandparents to take them, and then they will find themPampered by grandparentsBecause we all know that grandparents have more time, and at the same time they will alsoI love children very muchEven some unreasonable demands, they willBlindly agreed, just to make the child happy.

But for childrenIt's not a good way to educateIf we want our children to become better people, then in the education of children, we should not agree to any of their requests, because of theseSome of the requirements are good and some are bad, so we also have to learn to judge, but for grandparents, they are just forJust make the child happy

But in this case, when the children grow up, their personality will beI became more arrogant and proudand parents may also have a hard time disciplining their children because of themAccustomed to the way grandparents are educatedWhen children are separated from the education of their grandparents, it is actually very difficult for parents to discipline them. In fact, this is also because for children, they will think that their parents are thereWhen I was young, I didn't discipline myself, then wait until they grow upWhat reason is there to take care of yourself, which also leads to parents and childrenThe relationship is more distant