What are the characteristics of children who have lived with their grandparents since childhood?

Now the development speed of society is really getting faster and faster, whether it is a man or a woman, the pressure on the body is getting heavier and heavier, so now young couples in order to give their children a relatively comfortable life, they choose to continue to postpone the age of childbirth, but even if the quality of life of the child has been guaranteed to a certain extent, but the child has no time to take care of it after birth has become a major problem for the couple. In addition, it is too expensive to hire a nanny to take care of the children, so the couple will choose to let the elderly in the family take care of the children. Although the personality of every child is different, and the personality of every elderly person with children is also different, most children who grow up with the elderly from an early age usually have the following two characteristics.

1.Feelings of estrangement from parents.

People are emotional creatures, so whoever the child grows up with from an early age, the child will be closer to whom. Today's parents want not to let their children lose at the starting line from an early age.

To give the child the best kindergarten, primary school, etc., will be very desperate to work to make money, although this is also a manifestation of love for children, but only see the child once a week, or even half a month to see one, how can the child be close to you. I believe that many people have seen children crying when they were hugged by their parents, and they stopped crying when they were hugged by the elderly, which is also the reason why children have lived with the elderly since childhood. So I advise parents, no matter how busy you are, don't forget to spend time with your children every day.

If parents become the strangest relatives of their children, then you will really feel very sad.

2.Rather squeamish.

I can't say that all the children brought out by the old people will be more squeamish, but after all, they are intergenerational relatives.

Therefore, most elderly people will feel more sorry for their children than their parents when they are taking care of their children. If the elderly do not pay attention to the way in the process of taking care of children, and we, as parents, do not pay attention to properly guiding children, then it is very likely that children will develop too much self-fault. The old man's love for the child is really warm and loving, so parents must not criticize the child too harshly in front of the elderly, which not only can not lead the child well, anyway, it will make the old man more distressed and even doting on the child, and will hurt the heart of the elderly.

A child's growth really only comes once, and if parents miss it, they really don't have the opportunity to start over. If you don't want your child to have these two characteristics, then no matter how busy you are, you must take time to spend time with your child and care about your child's growth. In this way, even if you give the child to the elderly, you can communicate with the elderly in time to avoid the elderly from spoiling the child unintentionally.

Finally, I hope that all children can spend their childhood happily and healthily.

First, it will be more filial. Because since childhood, when they see the hardships of their grandparents, they will know how to start to be filial to their grandparents. Second, they will be more able to endure hardships.

Children who live with their grandparents often do not have very good living conditions. Third, grandparents may sometimes not be able to take care of their children, so children tend to be more independent.

Generally speaking, they care about the elderly very much, and listen to the elderly, and their parents are not very close, and their personalities are generally not very cheerful, after all, most of the children who have lived with their grandparents since childhood are left-behind children, lacking the care of their parents.

Some of the children who grew up with their grandparents always love to be cheap, because they were spoiled by their grandparents since they were children, so there are some children who have a temper.

The first is to be more filial, the second is to have a strong sense of responsibility, and the most important thing is to understand the hardships and difficulties of life.

Children who have been brought up by their grandparents since childhood are more timid and cowardly, and they have no autonomy for anything.

Because grandparents are more doting on their children, they will try their best to satisfy them with whatever they want, so this kind of children are generally more selfish. And I don't know how to care about others, I just want to get love from others.

I have to say that due to the difference in living environment and education level, some children who have been brought up by their parents since childhood and children who were brought up by their grandparents will have a more obvious gap when they grow up, and this gap is also embarrassing.

Verbal communication skills. Parents bring up children by themselves, because parents will communicate and interact with their children in the process of raising children, children's communication skills will be enhanced, and they will become more confident and dare to express their ideas.

Children who are taken by grandparents, grandparents pay attention to the child's well-behaved and not noisy, let the child play by himself, and there is a lack of communication between the child, thereforeChildren who are brought up by their grandparents will have poor language communication skills.

Self-care skills. In most families, there will be cases where grandparents dote on their grandchildren. Therefore, in the process of being brought by grandparents, children will not be able to exercise their self-care ability due to the doting of grandparents, and their ability to live independently will be relatively poor when they grow up.

The benefits of children being taken by parents. Bringing parents and children closer. Children are brought by their parents from an early age, and their parents will become the most familiar people to their children.

Children will tell their parents about everything they encounter in life, and share what they are happy about, so that the relationship between parents and children will become intimate and the parent-child relationship will be closer.

Formation of a good character. In the process of growing up, parents will pay attention to the formation and correction of their child's personality. AlsoChildren will be taken to participate in various practical activities, so that children can increase their knowledge in activities and guide children to form a good character.

Therefore, children who are brought up by their parents generally form a better character.

The benefits of children being brought by grandparents. Relieve parental stress. The child is handed over to the grandparents to bring.

Parents have time to go out to find a job to help earn money and increase the family's economic income, and the financial pressure faced by both parents will be relatively reduced.

Children have a greater sense of responsibility. When children live with their grandparents, due to the age of their grandparents, their hands and feet will inevitably be inconvenient, and children will also develop the habit of helping to do some housework to reduce the burden of grandparents, so as to gradually form a strong sense of responsibility.

In contrast, children who grew up with their grandparents will be more old-fashioned in dressing up, and some behaviors will be very pampered, and they will also have different personalitiesChildren who grow up with their parents are generally optimistic and cheerful and have good interpersonal relationships, but children who grow up with grandparents are more introverted and do not like to communicate with others.

Different personalities, different psychological endurance, different literacy, different independence, different educational concepts, relatively speaking, it is better for babies who grow up with their parents.

If you grow up with your grandparents since childhood, your child's thinking will be more traditional for the elderly, which is very detrimental to their personal independent growth, and the elderly taking care of your children is likely to cause the phenomenon of doting on your children, but growing up with your parents will be of great help to your children's healthy growth.

First, the child will be fatter.

Today's young parents pay more attention to scientific feeding, and they will also control their children's food consumption more strictly. As long as the child can eat, not eat indiscriminately, it will not prevent the child from eating, if the child eats more and moves less, then the child will most likely become chubby, unless the child has poor digestion and absorption function, how to eat is not obvious.

Second, the child's dress is relatively old-fashioned.

Many mothers lament that after a few months of taking their children to the elderly, they can't even recognize their children, at least from the perspective of clothing, it feels like they are back in the seventies and eighties. It is true that many old people have little sense of aesthetics, as long as the child is not frozen, not hot, no matter what the child wears, the old man feels that this is his good grandson, good granddaughter, no matter how you look good. But for the aesthetic conflict between the two generations, there is no need to be too careful, I haven't seen a child who dressed old-fashioned when he was a child, and he is also old-fashioned when he grows up, right?

But it is more intuitive to use this method to determine whether the old man brought it up or the mother brought it up.

3. Children's self-control is relatively weak and likes to solve problems by crying.

It is not uncommon to see elderly people compromising with crying children on the street, either by holding them up and not crying, or by buying toys and not crying. Although the elderly are more "deductive" to themselves financially, they are also responsive to the demands of their grandchildren and granddaughters. Seeing the heart-rending cry of the child, can the old man's heart not soften.

But over time, children will also learn routines, as long as it is what they want, cry first and then say, if crying has no effect, roll on the ground, in front of grandparents, this trick has been tried and tested. But if you play like this in front of your parents, you may have to suffer from flesh and skin.

Fourth, children are often not too fine.

It is also easy to tell from the child's personality whether it was brought up by the elderly. As a simple example, if a 5-year-old child stays with a child of the same age for a long time, and a 5-year-old child stays with a 60-year-old for a long time, then there is a clear difference in the child's activity and responsiveness. If the old man is compared to a portrait in the memory of a child, then the child must have a slow image of grandparents in his mind, so under the influence of the elderly, the child often does not show the kind of "essence" brought out by his parents.

Because she is afraid of her grandmother's scolding, she doesn't like to talk since she was a child, sensitive, cautious, for fear of not conforming to her grandmother's wishes, over time, such a character grows up with her, and she can't lose it, she has no sense of security, cares about what others think of herself, sometimes compares herself with others, has low self-esteem, and always envies the innate arrogance of children raised by their parents, and is not good at expressing their true thoughts, often, duplicity.

But compared to children who grow up with their parents, the only thing is that they are stronger and more independent.

Like a small family, I was also a left-behind child since I was a child, growing up with my grandmother, and clearly understood that in fact, the character shaping of childhood will affect people's lives, a few years ago, I often told my father that I did not have a happy and complete childhood, so I was extremely lacking in love and security, I like to listen to other people's praise, I don't like to listen to others' criticism, my father also expressed his sorry for me, and then I didn't mention it anymore, after all, now the family is good, and there is love. But I know in my heart that I will not let my children be like this in the future, no matter how much love the elderly have, it will not be as complete and full as the love given by their parents.

1.The child is even more rebellious.

This is mainly caused by grandpa and grandma too doting on children, the general grandparents will be very pampered their grandchildren, what grandchildren want to eat, what grandchildren want to play, so that after growing up, the child's personality will be more rebellious, feeling that the people around him revolve around him, he will do whatever he says, and he doesn't want to listen to other people's words.

2.Children who are brought up by grandpas and grandmothers are also lazier.

This is because children like to imitate and learn, and grandparents are older and weaker after all, so they don't like to move around. Children are exposed to such an environment, and they are becoming more and more lazy, and it is difficult for them to have sports hobbies when they grow up, so this is a bad character trait.

3.Children who are brought up by their grandfathers and grandmothers will be more independent.

Grandpa and grandma will be more tolerant of children, and they will not be so restrained about children, so children have more freedom to grow. For example, in learning, if the child's academic performance is not good, parents should immediately discipline the child, but grandpa and grandma are more tolerant, they allow the child to have different interests and hobbies, so that the child will grow up to be more independent and more creative. Such a child will have a greater probability of success in the future, which is also a good character trait.