How much love has to do with parents, parents view of love

I also think your parents care too much about you, but on the other hand, are you acting too careless in front of them??? Sometimes if you make a call to your boyfriend in front of your parents and let them hear and see, then they will also ask you why you don't go out on dates for three days??? In fact, there are small things that can let them know that you are living a happy life!!

There are no parents in the world who are not, even if they are annoying, their starting point is also for your good, sometimes think about it like this, in fact, it is not so annoying in my heart!!

If you just want to care about your daughter, but in exchange for her impatience, do you think you will feel better? It's good to be tolerant of everything, now we are young and impulsive, so it's not good to think of anything that doesn't go well, and we should slowly mature and steady!!

That, of course, is your parents' problem.

Parental care is necessary.

But your parents are just too much.

I suggest you have a good chat with your parents. There is no way to solve this problem without staining.

I believe that your parents also care about you, and they are also reasonable people.

As for your question.

I guess it's different for everyone.

But I think. To be in love is to give two people the right space.

Lovers are just as important as parents. There can never be a comparison.

1) The love of the daughter in the eyes of the parents.

In the eyes of traditional conservative parents, falling in love = getting married. They are against your early love and only want you to study well. They are the kind of people who are said to forbid love when you are studying, and will urge you to get married after you come out to work.

If you fall in love during your studies, they will tell you a lot of big reasons to persuade you to break up. If you don't listen, they'll talk to you about very realistic topics. For example, what is the other party's family background, whether the other party's parents are young and healthy, whether they have a regular job, and how is the other party's character ......

I think that maybe the thinking of my parents' generation and our current generation is completely different. Although it is understandable what they think, they are from the past and definitely hope that we can live well, but our generation will not necessarily get married if they fall in love, and they will not get married if they don't talk about love for three or five years. And how good the parents ask each other is, but the parents of others you ask for the same thing.

As peers, it's impossible for us to expect the other person to have a car and a house now, or to be much better than us, which is unrealistic.

In fact, when we are young, we don't need to pay so much attention to each other's family conditions, but more importantly, we should pay attention to the boy's character and self-motivation.

When we are young, we can still struggle together and fight for the future together. Therefore, boys have a sense of responsibility for future planning and responsibility.

is very important.

My best friend talked about her boyfriend, just because her parents didn't agree, they thought that the boy was not good, that was not good, and now it is unpleasant. Her parents even asked me to help persuade her. I was also helpless, although I knew what my uncle and aunt were worried about, but I said that there was really a generation gap between our younger generation and them.

I don't know how to persuade Orange Town, so I can only do it on both sides.

2) The love of the daughter in the eyes of the parents.

Since there are conservative and traditional parents, of course, there are also enlightened parents. I have parents around me who encourage their children to fall in love, but also teach them how to protect themselves. They feel that children should fall in love when they are young, know what kind of person they want to live with, and in the process children continue to grow up, know how to take care of people, and take care of other people's emotions.

They feel that it is okay to suffer a little injury and suffer a little loss now, otherwise it will be too late to find out the problems of the previous grind when they get married in the future, and they will regret the pain and pain of being wronged. They are not against children falling in love, but they should also let children know that love is not the whole of life, love can make your life a little more colorful, but you should not indulge in love, let alone die for love. Let your child know how to protect himself in love.

3) I don't know what kind of parental view of love.

Well, I just want to say that the child has her own mind, you can give her advice, but don't force her to make decisions.

Boys and girls can fall in love at will, but if you plan to get married, be sure to let your parents decide. Because this time is different from the past, in today's era, many of us young people can no longer distinguish between true love and hypocrisy.

Maybe I said let the parents call the shots, and there will definitely be a group of people who will spray me, saying that the parents' concept of marriage and love has long been backward, and it is no longer suitable for our contemporary concept of marriage and love.

Don't be in a hurry, control your emotions, and I'll analyze it with you.

Why do you think that your parents' concept of love is not suitable for you, because you think that they got married in the first place just to make do with their lives, they got married first and then fell in love, so you think that they lack the early love process, even if they are married, the two people have no feelings, only to support their families day after day.

That's right, parents came over like this in the first place, but have you ever thought about it, they are gone for a lifetime, even if they don't have the same interests and personalities, but for the responsibility of supporting their families, they tolerate each other and understand each other, I don't envy and dare to guarantee that they will not love later, but I am sure they are used to each other.

Let's take a look at today's young people, let's not talk about marriage first, just fall in love, how many times have you talked about it, what did the romance and mood you pursue, and what did the result bring to you? Some people say that we are in love experience, everything is to meet the right person, and now it's just that fate has not arrived.

Don't lie to yourselves, face yourselves, I know that you have been deceived again and again, and you have been injured again and again, so why bother to force a smile.

In fact, it's not terrible, what is terrible is that after you have experienced a lot of love process, you are still deceived, but you are still immersed in the ocean of happiness, and you think that this time you should meet the right person.

Then after taking each other to see their parents, the parents are not satisfied, the parents feel that this future daughter-in-law or son-in-law is unreliable and not suitable for life, and then want to prevent you from getting married, and at this moment you are self-filial piety and have been carried away by love, do not listen to your parents, and insist on marrying your current object.

Dear friends in love, do you know why your parents are against it? Because they know what the essence of marriage is, they know how difficult marriage is, and it is even more difficult for two people to go through a lifetime, they may not understand love, but they can see if your partner is the right person to live.

When I'm in love, I don't go to my parents to talk to me.

One, my parents' view of love is practical.

You should have a judgment about my own parents' view of love. For example, the things they are talking about are not practical for the current situation. For your love, is there a help?

If it helps, then we can listen, and we should listen. If it doesn't help, then naturally you can't listen.

Love is slippery.

Second, my parents' ideology did not keep pace with the times.

The parents' view of love will definitely carry something from their time. And times are changing, so there are many things that are not useful in the new era. Therefore, if your parents' ideological concepts cannot be kept up with the times.

Well, the advice they give is often not desirable.

Being intervened by parents when they are in love is really a common phenomenon for wives. There are many people who are sad after obeying their parents' arrangements for many years, and there are many people who regret not listening to the old man after getting married for many years. Of course, there are very few male guests like "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" are so tough.

When asked by the female guest how to deal with the relationship between the spouse and the parents, how to deal with the opinions and participation of the parents when choosing a mate. The male guest made something unexpected, he bluntly said that he would not consider his parents' opinions, and even Grandpa Meng expressed his amazement. After in-depth understanding, I found that the male guest's hardness was not without reason, but because the original family itself was very tolerant, supporting him "I am the master of my life", and giving the male guest enough space to choose.

But the truth is that not everyone's family of origin will be so tolerant. Some people say, "A marriage that has not been approved by parents is a marriage of courage." "It takes a lot of courage because you have to face more difficulties and obstacles, so it is best to have the support and approval of your parents for love and marriage.

And when facing the interference of parents, what we have to do must not be to worsen the existing situation, but the following three points: respect when there is a difference of opinion, first of all, we must respect, not only respect the parents, their opinions are for your own good, but the important thing is your own mind, you must know what kind of person you are suitable for and need, after you are determined, you need to respect your own ideas, so that you can grow into a truly independent person. Communication is followed by communication with parents, no matter what kind of result you want to achieve, effective communication is always essential!

Communication is crucial in how to convince parents to handle a good relationship. Attention needs to be paid to the tone of communication, attitude and logic, and it is necessary to communicate rather than arguing. You can first ask them about the reasons for their objections, and then make targeted breakthroughs, combining theory and examples, and finally introduce your partner to your parents and achieve communication between them.

Balance Finally, for parents interfering in love, we must remember "harmony" and "balance", in the face of parents' intervention in their feelings, we must stay sober, do not be carried away by emotions, no matter whether the situation is difficult or not, it is very important to maintain the harmony of parents, ourselves, and lovers, and it is also a long-term consideration. Sister Fei still hopes that everyone's love can be blessed by their parents, and they can be properly handled in the face of family interference, because love and family affection are very important.

First, parents are people who have experienced it, so they know how to carry more and can also see a lot of experience. When two people first fall in love, they will always be blinded by love, and at this time parents can give good guidance.

Second, children are the treasures of their parents, and parents' involvement may be due to the fear that their children will be harmed and miss their lives.

Third, parents can also see each other's strengths and weaknesses when they are involved in the process.

Parents are involved in guiding you, and those who have come over have experience, you can participate, otherwise it will be too late to wait until you are fooled.

Falling in love won't be at first, and most of them are kept secret, for fear that others will know. However, at a certain point, especially if you are ready to develop further, you will talk to your parents before meeting with them, and your parents will naturally put forward their own suggestions. It is necessary to find a parent counselor when you fall in love.

Parents have a lot of experience and knowledge. Parents are qualified and capable to guide their children's love marriage, and children tend to be counselors to their parents, which cannot be understood as their lack of assertiveness and strong dependence. Their parents have experienced first-hand the pain of "kicking their parents out of love" and are able to recognize the necessity and importance of guiding their children in a love marriage.

Parents guide their children's love marriage, can avoid children from falling into emotional traps, ** and other misguides, often can **, scoundrels, lazy people and other misconduct, bad habits, poor family conditions, low ability to reject the door, if there is no one who does not like parents to be their children's marriage and love advisers, of course it is easy to be deceived.

In fact, parents choose a wife and son-in-law more about character, whether they have bad habits, and whether they have a future for development, which is a more rational behavior that can prevent their children from being deceived. Children are usually not deeply involved in the world, and when choosing a partner, they mainly rely on good feelings, or they are moved by the other party, and touching is the trap and enemy of love and happiness. It is necessary for "children to choose, parents to check".

When parents fall in love, they can't interfere with their own decisions, and their love ultimately depends on their own decisions. In particular, some parents excessively ask their children to find a partner according to their own wishes, regardless of their children's feelings, which is also wrong. Parents should not be allowed to get too involved in their love life, and when they are in a relationship, they should pay attention to communication.

Strive for parental approval and support.

When you reach the age of falling in love, your parents will know about it and pretend that nothing happened!