Someone please tell me? Parents forced marriage! Why do parents force marriage?

What are you afraid of? I'm telling you, I'm 27 years old, and I'm not worried, because I quarrel with my dad every day. The trump card is the economic blockade, the poverty has nothing to suffer, and the quiet life is just enough.

The reason why I don't get married is because I have a girl I like very much, and I can't get together for various reasons, I hope at least I don't have to live up to my true feelings, my parents don't care. Lovers often say that they love you for a lifetime, and when the quality of this sentence is really tested, most people run away. I think that putting aside the emotional factor, parents raising their children is just a hidden pension investment, there are many strange things in the world, can it be considered sick if you don't get married?

I don't know if you are in a hurry to get married or your parents are anxious to get married, at least when you reach the age, it is unscientific to ignore the practice of tying the knot, and finding the right one is naturally a wealth in the future, but it is not suitable? I think the value of life is not all about getting married, you should live your own life, not live for others.

Have a good talk with your mom and dad!

First of all, who wants to take a divorced woman?

There is also the fact that marriage is a lifelong thing, and it is not good to do anything for someone you don't like, let alone live a lifetime?

You tell your parents that don't force you to do such things, you're stressed.

Let them know that you don't have a wife, and you feel very uncomfortable, not only them.

Your parents actually want to hold their grandchildren early, and they can't be blamed.

It's hard to talk about love. If this girl is not bad, let's try to date, hanging here is not a solution.

26 years old, many people in big cities are not married. Also normal.

The elders have ** with us, and many people in their era have marriage first and then love. They don't understand.

It's a pity that if you were a woman, I could marry you, but it's a pity that you are a man.

Resist. Marriage can't be casual.

Well, in fact, there is no big problem, talk to your parents first, don't care too much about other people's opinions, it's your own business, and it's not that they have lived with others...

Be cautious, stick to your own ideas, and don't let go of those who look at the right eye.

If you want to, take the initiative, it's okay to fail once or twice once in a while, life is better and happier like this!!

I wish you a happy day and a happy soon!!

Children, as a person who has come over, listen to the advice: in today's society, we must take the realistic route;

Find a similar one, good for you, two people cultivate a relationship and get married, don't delay too long, delaying too long is not good for you and both parties.

Note: After accepting the reality, you will feel that you are tied up, sometimes you want to cry and want to run to a place where no one is crying, very depressed, very helpless, to tell you that this phenomenon is normal.

Wishing a happy ......

Hello, friend.

As he gets older, he is urged to marry by his family. And people who get married in a hurry, some days are very good, and some days are very unpleasant.

Being urged to marry by their parents has become the main topic of communication between single men and women in modern cities and their parents.

One urges marriage, the other fears marriage, every time the two parties meet and call, it is a vicious battle.

I remember when my cousin wasn't married yet, and when she didn't have a partner, every time she went home, she would be talked to by a bunch of elders in turn, discussing the topic of marriage. The elders always have a bunch of reasons to tell you to get married early: get married early and have children early, which is good for your health and children, or get married and have children while you are young, your mother is still young and can still bring grandchildren, or if you don't find a partner now, who wants you when you are in your thirties.

Some people really don't want to get married and are very resistant to blind dates, and some people are also constantly going on blind dates, just meeting the right one.

However, even if they are constantly going on blind dates, the elders will still say: I've seen so much, why haven't I seen one of them? Don't be too demanding, who is not a partner to live, just look pleasing to the eye! Well, after all, they are elders, and the thoughts of the older generation are not always on the same channel as us.

Some single young people who are not determined, especially young women, may be affected by their age, and they will decide on their marriage partners in blind dates one after another.

Even though they're getting married, they're really not familiar with each other.

Therefore, there will be a very interesting scene: in the process of buying a wedding, the two people behaved very politely and unfamiliarly. There are few marriages that are based on the expectations of the elders, and there are few who can be truly happy.

Either he married a sleepy giant baby, did nothing after marriage, and waited for someone to serve him at home. Either he married an ancestor, he only knew that he didn't make money by spending money, and he thought that men were incapable.

This is a problem that has been circulating for many years. And socks and true. Parents are anxious about their children getting married, and some parents hope to hold their grandchildren as soon as possible, and there will be forced marriage.

This phenomenon does exist, but it is not very common in towns. This is not a good phenomenon, and this problem should be solved by the parents and their children in a calm and peaceful communication such as meditation and communication.

It's true, my mom said that if I don't get married, I'm forcing her to die. It's sad.

Really, at a certain age.

It's a misnomer, just to say that your parents are anxious about your love for you.

There aren't too many of these cases, so let's go as it sees.

In fact, being forced to marry by parents has always been a problem that young people want to escape, but what should come will always come.

Since it is inevitable to avoid it, then bravely face it.

Nowadays, there are a lot of older young people, and some of them even exceed the age of marriage and have no partner, and their parents must be in a hurry.

Parents are also forced to marry their children when they are forced to do so, and children will be very irritable in the face of their parents' forced marriage.

Some children will find it very annoying if they can't understand their parents, and even quarrel with their parents, and they don't want to go home and listen to their parents' nagging.

In the face of forced marriage by parents, young people must learn to deal with it reasonably, so that they can reassure their parents instead of breaking their hearts for you.

So what should we do? Let me give you a few suggestions!

Clause. 1. Learn to understand your parents.

After all, parents love their children, and no matter what they say or do, it is for the good of their children.

Therefore, as a child, you must not quarrel with your parents or ignore them because they are forced to marry.

The right thing to do is to put yourself in their shoes to understand them and learn to communicate with them well.

You have to tell them that the consequences of forced marriage are serious, and if you find someone to marry casually, and the family is unhappy in the future, then the rest of your life will be over.

It is best to be able to understand reason, move with emotion, and be able to convince parents best.

Clause. 2. Make your position clear.

Although some people have reached the age of marriage, they may not be married.

When fate arrives, it is naturally easy to find a suitable other half, and you need to wait patiently before fate arrives.

You can talk to your parents about how you feel about your relationship and whether you have the financial means to get married now.

How do you plan for the future, what are your plans for getting married, etc.

You want to reassure your parents and let them know that when you meet someone you like, you will definitely get married.

Because your parents are old, they are afraid that you will not find a partner, and parents have this mentality

The urging of marriage in the mouth of many parents is not just as simple as urging marriage, there are follow-ups behind the urging of marriage, such as "giving birth".

Those who compromise with marriage urging will be born after marriage. When the time comes, you will know that it is powerful: if you don't compromise with the marriage urge, others will only gossip about yourself; But if you don't compromise with the birth after marriage and don't hurry up to have children, others will gossip about you and your other half, and label you as "infertile".

This kind of thing seems very simple to say, but when you actually experience it, you will find how painful it is. It's like a friend said:

When I wasn't married, my parents kept urging me to get married, instilling in me all kinds of concepts that I had to get married, talking about all kinds of moral kidnapping, and even Sakura Haru said that my marriage was their heart disease, and if I didn't get married, they would die blindly.

My psychological defense line was gradually broken, and the reason why I compromised with the marriage urging was because I was kind to my parents. At that time, I wanted to get married first, and after getting married, I was not busy having children, but I didn't know until I was really married: in the eyes of my parents, I had to have children immediately after getting married.

The words spoken by the parents when they gave birth were already hard to hear, and the words of other idle people around them were even more difficult to hear. Originally, my wife and I didn't want to rush to have a child because of the limited conditions. However, our parents not only gave birth, but also suspected that we had a physical problem, ordered us to go to the hospital for a check-up, and relayed other people's gossip to us at every turn.

My wife couldn't stand the criticism of the defendant and couldn't stand the rush to have a child, so she divorced me in a fit of anger. I don't blame her, because I also want to get a divorce, otherwise I will be kidnapped by morality all the time, I will be very tired of living, and I don't want anyone to disrupt the rhythm of my life. 」

In reality, there are not a few couples who divorce for the above reasons, and there are many who have not divorced, but because of the blind compromises to their parents, they have hastily given birth to children without any conditions and preparations, resulting in a more and more difficult life.

In addition to the problems mentioned above, the tragedy caused by marriage urging is that the husband and wife themselves got married in a hurry, had no emotional foundation, did not understand each other, and found that it was completely inappropriate after marriage, so they had to end in divorce.

Many parents don't forget to add a sentence when urging marriage, "Whoever is as old as you is married, but you are not married", and they don't know that what they shout is that there are many people who compromise with marriage urging, but there are more people who cause tragedy because of compromising with marriage urging.

Communicate more with your parents, marriage is a lifelong affair, and you can't be hasty.

1. Be kind to them You must have a very good attitude towards your parents, keeping in mind that they may be angry with you, anxious, or even slap the table and shed tears at you, you need to be fully prepared and maintain a good attitude. 2. Recognize their views first Just like "playing ball", you have to let them "play" first, and then you "play" back, you can't always "attack". So the first thing you have to do is to recognize and understand their love for you and their concern for you

Mom, if I were you, I would be very worried if my children didn't get married. I understand you very well, you must be under a lot of pressure. "Mom will feel warm.

3. Analyze the needs The biggest reason why parents urge marriage is that you didn't solve this matter at the right time. Your need is that I want to find someone I like to marry. In fact, the biggest disagreement between us and our parents is at the point in time.

4. Think about what you want to say and the reasons why you haven't gotten married yet, or even some topics about "life". You have to let your parents understand that you have a plan and consideration for your life, and that you are treating your life with an adult and mature attitude. If you live like a child, you have to ask your parents for advice on what friends you make and what clothes you wear, and they will never listen to you when you discuss marriage with your parents.

You need to be very well prepared, both verbally and behaviorally. The behavioral preparation is that you have to be very mature in everything from now on, and not only in the matter of communicating with them about whether to get married, but suddenly mature, which your parents can't accept. We live in a different era than theirs, which has become very fast, so we are facing a lot of uncertainty, so we are moving much slower.

You see who and who, and who and who, they have been married for a year and then divorced. You don't want me to divorce in the future, you want me to be happy. If you want me to be happy, let me find my happiness slowly, and I believe I can find the happiness I want.

In fact, in the eyes of parents, their children are very good, so they will trust you. )