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The high bride price is one reason, and I think the fundamental reason is that they have a lot of problems of their own, such as hot tempers, smoking and drinking, and no one wants to marry them.

Personally, I think so, the bride price that girls want nowadays is very high, and the bride price of about 200,000 yuan for a car or a house is simply not affordable by ordinary families.

Suppose that if there is a personal condition in front of you, the family has built a house in the countryside, the parents work, the man works, and the family has no major illness in recent years.

You will not have any doubts, your family has not bought a house, everyone works to earn money, and no one has a major illness and suddenly returns to poverty. But the family doesn't have a 100,000 family, and can't borrow money? Do you think it's not worth the money to get a wife?

Or do your family members have bad habits and spend more than they earn? No one in your family is willing to lend you money?

The reason why there are so many singles in rural areas is because these people are not motivated, have no job, are particularly lazy, and have no ability to earn money, so how can they have daughters-in-law.

Cancel the sky-high bride price, but rural singles are unwilling to take this "shortcut" to marrying a wife, for fear that people will look down on them? This shortcut is to go to the woman's house to be the son-in-law, and the countryside is referred to as the inverted door. Nowadays, there are many singles in the countryside who have no money to marry a daughter-in-law because of family reasons, but they are not willing to take this shortcut because they are afraid of being laughed at.

Now it is difficult to get married in rural areas, it has become a status quo, and the bride price has become a norm for the woman's arrogance, in some places in addition to the bride price, there are many kinds of accessory conditions, such as the most common house purchase, car purchase, three gold, etc., these are the norm of marriage conditions, the rise of the bride price, so that many ordinary rural families are miserable, and some people bluntly say: This is not a married daughter, this is clearly a girl.

Sky-high bride price abounds, this is also the last straw that breaks many young men, some of the family is average, really can't get the bride price and other conditions, waiting for them can only be single, now some rural areas also have zero bride price, but these zero bride price is for a reason, and for the man's family is different.

In fact, some zero bride price, there are a lot of preconditions, some are the local township rules and regulations, everyone does not obey no, such a precedent has been carried out in many places, the effect is still good, in fact, the bride price to more, is also equal to a vicious circle, especially some families with children and daughters, when their daughters marry more, it is enough to marry a daughter-in-law for their sons, and the cycle begins to form a dead knot, everyone does not want a bride price, or within a reasonable range, is the long-term way.

There are also those who have a good family background, and they don't want a bride price, and some are really because the man is outstanding, what kind of bride price do you need for potential stocks? In the later stage, it is bullish, and there are additional conditions that the man settles in the woman's house, commonly known as: the old girl, the inverted door, which is also a lot, but in the later stage, there are many unspeakable problems such as the man's psychological endurance and family status.

The bride price is more or less common sense, and it is difficult to say that a penny is not spent in the past, and it will also cause a superior psychology of the man, thinking that there is no bride price, and there will be a different situation in terms of treating people and things, although the problem of the bride price for rural marriage, although it is a reason for hindering marriage, but in the final analysis, the difficulty of marriage is caused by the situation of more men and fewer women, and now the momentum of young women in rural areas is getting higher and higher, and young women in rural areas are a two-way choice in marriage, and they can choose to marry in the city. You can also choose to return to the countryside, and this loss of personnel has made it even more difficult for young men in rural areas to get married.

Many people will eventually have a conflict on the issue of marriage because of the bride price, and in the end the two people have no fate, in the end, my last girlfriend and I are like this, I think it is also because the two people have different regional customs, so they have different views on the issue of bride price, in our hometown where there is a bride price, but how much money the man gives the womanThe woman also needs to give the man a lot of dowry, and this money is used for the life of the young couple, not the money given by the man's parents to the woman's parents.

In rural areas, the most worrying thing about children is "marriage problems", because everyone thinks that it is related to the happiness of children in the second half of their lives. For the man's family, the point of anxiety lies in the fact that in today's rural areas, the phenomenon of "difficulty in marrying a wife" does objectively exist. For the woman's family, even if there are many choices to choose from, they are more or less inevitably compared with each other, which is also the consideration of parents for the second half of their daughter's life.

Therefore, because of the existence of this situation, the act of giving a bride price has always been a standard of consideration, and as rural life has become gradually richer, the saying of "sky-high bride price" has been derived. This is also an obstacle for many rural singles, because for them, the sky-high bride price is out of reach. I have to admit that some young people in rural areas, due to various reasons, do not have the ability to earn a lot of money in a short period of time, but this does not mean that they are not self-motivated.

On the bright side, "zero dowry". Even when you get married, in front of everyone, you don't have to give a bride price or anything, but after everyone is gone, you can't miss anything behind closed doors, should be given or given, so it may also be based on these reasons, many singles are actually still not happy. In fact, parents are also thinking about their children, after all, many things are indeed based on material foundations.

Of course, there are also many women who say that the bride price is not for money, but also for an attitude, etc. But is it true? Isn't it possible to be happy in a marriage without a bride price?

If the bride price is too much, the man's family is not enough to pay the bride price, and he needs to borrow money, and after marriage, he still needs two people to repay the loan, and the pressure on life will be great. Not to mention the current climate problem in many places, the bride price is no longer a custom, but a comparison, which has caused a very bad impact.

If a boy's family is very poor, if you give a bride price, the other party will also consider how the following two people's married life should go on. Therefore, we should find the reason from the essence of the matter, and we should improve the standard of living, so that we can better get the recognition of the other party. Don't think that girls are too materialistic, often loyal love also needs to be built on a material basis, because firewood, rice, oil and salt will eventually defeat that pure love.

The sky-high bride price has not actually disappeared, but has appeared in another way, so of course these singles are not happy, I think the bride price has always been a pain in everyone's hearts.

Because there is no bride price money, no one will be willing to marry into the countryside at all, so the bachelor can only fight the bachelor for the rest of his life, and he will definitely not be happy.

Because this is a competition for the personal charm of those singles, and the singles who marry wives and men are often average-looking, do not know how to hurt people, are still old, and have no advantage in the marriage market.

In fact, there are many singles in the countryside and the bride price, it has nothing to do with the bride price, or they are not good enough, not only do they earn less and the family is poor, but they can't talk, and then they are lazy to do it, waiting for their daughter-in-law to raise him, and they can't recognize themselves, they feel that they are very good, and they deserve a better daughter-in-law, so it's strange to find a daughter-in-law. The man on our side is a little poorer, and the people who earn less are not very good, at least they can recognize themselves, and they will find girls with worse conditions, but there are not so many singles.

There are not many families who can't get 100,200,000 bride price, it may be that someone in the family is not healthy and sick, someone has an accident, or when they were young, they did not study hard and lacked culture, and a small number may be lazy and unwilling to endure hardships, not diligent and thrifty and other reasons. If you can't afford the bride price, how can you lead the whole family to live a happy life? The state can only support a part of the poor households and the low-income households and the five-guarantee households, and it is impossible to manage them all, so it is better to work hard and be self-reliant and self-reliant.

The difficulty of marrying wives in rural areas is a problem left over from history, and excessive preference for sons over women has led to an uneven ratio of births between men and women in rural China, and the gap is gradually widening. A large part of the only girls went out of their hometowns to study and work, and they saw the beautiful world outside, and they looked down on the boys in the village who basked in the sun and played poker, and were reluctant to come back to marry. People go to high places, water flows to low places, and they can only follow the law of survival of the fittest.

This phenomenon is very prominent in the north, scarcity is expensive, those parents who had abortions for boys and girls were retributed, although this retribution is unfair for the boy to bear, I am a southerner, if the child in my hometown is found out to be a girl, it will be born and reborn, and then there are many sisters in the family, and the last one is a boy's family, so most of the bride price in the south is not sky-high, and marriage is not too particular about this, and then there is more than how much the bride price, and the dowry is doubled back, This sky-high price only exceeds the income of peasant families, and there are hundreds of thousands of bride prices in Zhejiang, but they do not exceed family income.

The bride price is too high in increasing the burden on the man's family at the same time means increasing the family burden of the young couple, think about it from another angle, you marry you will owe tens of thousands of debts, it is estimated that you will not survive, divorced, this debt is to be divided into half to the woman, the marriage law has provisions, the bride price is similar to the dowry that causes one party to live in difficulty, the other party needs to repay.

Actually, it's very important to meet an enlightened father-in-law, the parents of a high school classmate are teachers, and the high school classmate and her boyfriend are also teachers, because this father-in-law and mother-in-law are very open-minded, although the man's family conditions are not good, he worked hard for three or five years to pay a down payment, this classmate's parents did not think that the boy was poor or anything, considering the mortgage pressure later, the classmate's father-in-law and mother-in-law bought his daughter a car of more than 200,000 yuan, by the way, this classmate also has a younger brother, through this example, it is not difficult to see, In fact, the open-mindedness of the woman's parents is a very important factor, and the woman's parents are rich is also related, of course, the premise of others marrying their daughter to you is that you are self-motivated and care about his daughter, when it comes to self-motivation, you have to self-criticize, my girlfriend has said that I sometimes lack self-motivation, this is not a good thing, you have to change it quickly.

This is very bad and unfair to these people, and certain measures should be taken.

It is necessary to prohibit the "sky-high bride price" in rural areas, publicize civilized marriage customs in daily life, criticize and persuade the discovered sky-high bride price, and establish a correct view of marriage and love.

In recent years, many young people have been faced with the dilemma of not being able to afford to marry a wife because of the sky-high bride price. Will it be easier for a poor guy to marry a wife? Personally, it's still a bit difficult.

First of all, there is the "problem of the imbalance in the ratio of men and women"; in today's rural areas, there are many young people who are single, and there are also many leftover men and women in urban areas, both of whom dislike each other, and it is very difficult to get together. It is not easy to marry a wife.

In addition, there is the "issue of the conditions attached to marriage"; although it is necessary to rectify the "sky-high bride price" at the source, this kind of thing is all your love and my wishes, and it is very difficult to formulate a reasonable standard, and you can't say it explicitly, but there are also some people who will discuss the amount privately, and if the sky-high bride price is abolished, then when talking about marriage, buying a car and a house will also make the rural people bare. The poor man was faced with a new challenge, so after a few years, the bride price was curbed, and it was argued that there were some young people from poor families who were facing the singles crisis with their relatives.

Finally, there are "some problems of the bachelor himself", if you look closely, there are still some young people with poor family conditions who have found a daughter-in-law, and those who beat the bachelor are often because they have some problems themselves, such as liking gambling, being too honest, being lazy to eat, etc., if they do not change themselves, they will still face difficulties in marrying a wife. Therefore, it is also difficult to reduce the number of singles.

It was somewhat useful, but it did not have much effect, and the experts did not understand the main contradiction at all.

As for the sky-high bride price in some rural areas, I think it is normal for a woman to ask a man for a bride price when she gets married. However, as a woman, when asking for a bride price from a man, she must understand what the man's family conditions are. If the man's family conditions are not particularly good, and the other party can't pay the money when he asks the other party for a sky-high bride price, there is no way for the two of them to enter married life.

Moreover, in many rural areas, some women's parents will compare their daughter's bride price, thinking that the bride price for their daughter is relatively high, which will make them feel very face-saving. <>

Rural areas mainly exist in the psychology of comparison, and they will want to sell their daughters, but marriage is definitely not a buying and selling relationship. When discussing the price of the bride price, we should not only discuss with each other, but also not make the relationship too contradictory. After all, when most young people think about marriage and talk about the bride price, they say that the relationship between the two families is already very familiar, and the woman's parents want to make their daughter happier.

Young people's ideas should be respected, and daughters can be supported if they are not willing to ask for a bride price. <>

Many young people talk about the bride price, and their parents think that marriage is the life of two people. If all the parents are mixed together, this will only affect the couple's life as a young person, and some parents just want to go through a process when they ask for a bride price. But most of the bride price after the return belongs to their daughters, and they will not remain in the hands of the woman's parents at all, as the woman's parents, there is no need to do anything that hurts the harmony of the two families.

And for the man's family, it should be known that every girl will want to see what the man's attitude is when she gets married. Even if the man's family has no money, he will want to smash the pot and sell iron to meet the woman's requirements, and for such a family is worthy of a woman's marriage. If the boy always cares about the amount of the bride price, then when the two people are married, it will be easy to cause the man's dissatisfaction, which will seriously affect the relationship between the two people. ，