The singles in the rural areas are becoming more and more intense, and experts suggest restrictin

The "singles" in the rural areas are becoming more and more intense, and experts suggest "restricting" the bride price, why don't the peasants applaud? Fundamental problems that are difficult to solve. The fundamental problem is that there are more men and fewer women.

No matter how much you limit the bride price, there will always be people who can't find a wife, and tens of millions of people must be single. Maybe women have more choices, so do men have choices? The reality of the difficulty of rural boys in marrying wives remains elusive.

Engagement gifts are a burden on farmers.

We all know that there are more men than women, and girls are still running to the city, so there are fewer men than women. Not to mention that there are almost no marriages, but the chances of meeting a girl are slim, and no one can be found on a blind date. Now, the bride price is not as simple as the custom of marriage.

It is the only weight in the hands of farmers, and it is also the only starting point for competing with outstanding talents and urban people. Otherwise, why did the girl and her family choose you? Relying on a blind date and getting along for less than a month?

Or is it charisma?

I don't think so. The level of bride price is the most intuitive. Affordability of a house and a car has become a prerequisite for marriage.

This society has led to a greater focus on the immediate interests that have already been identified. If you cancel the bride price, it means that the last weight is gone. As a rural boy, how do you compete with others?

However, in rural areas, where there are "singles" in the countryside, it is difficult for families to find wives. A large number of "single villages" are gradually taking shape. The reasons can be said to be complex.

In the opinion of experts, there are three main reasons.

First, changes in marriage customs.

The bride price is one of the traditional marriage customs. Since ancient times, men have given dowries, and women have given dowries. However, in recent years, this kind of marriage custom has changed, sky-high bride prices have emerged in an endless stream, and child marriages and old child loans abound.

As a result, various comparisons are made between marriage and love. Your family's bride price is 188,000, and mine's is 238,000. It's always taller than you.

Wedding receptions are also a big deal. The wedding house should be bought in the city, and the car should be bought at the high-end. In short, everything needs money to settle.

Second, there are more men than women.

It is a foregone conclusion that there are more men than women. According to statistics, there are 40 million more men than women in China, and at least tens of millions of men of working age are "single" for life. These people are concentrated in rural areas, which makes it more difficult to find wives in rural areas.

Thirdly, the transformation of the status of women.

In a civilized society, all people are equal. Women have the same rights to study, work and employment as men, and many of them have more rights than men. These women have independent personalities and self-character, which can hardly be confined to rural areas.

Most rural girls move into the city from an early age and want to leave the countryside, which makes it more difficult for rural men to get married. In order to solve the problem of rural men finding a wife, many experts put forward suggestions. Even more irritating is Professor Huang's proposal for "polygamy", that is, a woman can legally have multiple husbands to settle marital problems; At the same time, some say that it can be resolved through cross-border marriage.

According to statistics, there are 40 million more men than women in China, and at least tens of millions of marriageable men are "singles" for a lifetime, and these people are concentrated in rural areas, making it more difficult to marry wives in rural areas. Men and women are the fundamental problem, no matter how you limit the bride price, there will always be people who can't marry wives, there are always tens of millions of people who have to fight singles, maybe women have more choices, so do men have a choice? It is still difficult to solve the practical problem of rural boys' difficulty in marrying wives.

Mainly because the farmers are well aware that these experts are only paying lip service to the limits, and they will not really contribute.

Mainly because he has been talking about restrictions, he never puts it into action, and people have long been unconvinced.

Cancel the sky-high bride price, but rural singles are unwilling to take this "shortcut" to marrying a wife, for fear that people will look down on them? This shortcut is to go to the woman's house to be the son-in-law, and the countryside is referred to as the inverted door. Nowadays, there are many singles in the countryside who have no money to marry a daughter-in-law because of family reasons, but they are not willing to take this shortcut because they are afraid of being laughed at.

Now it is difficult to get married in rural areas, it has become a status quo, and the bride price has become a norm for the woman's arrogance, in some places in addition to the bride price, there are many kinds of accessory conditions, such as the most common house purchase, car purchase, three gold, etc., these are the norm of marriage conditions, the rise of the bride price, so that many ordinary rural families are miserable, and some people bluntly say: This is not a married daughter, this is clearly a girl.

Sky-high bride price abounds, this is also the last straw that breaks many young men, some of the family is average, really can't get the bride price and other conditions, waiting for them can only be single, now some rural areas also have zero bride price, but these zero bride price is for a reason, and for the man's family is different.

In fact, some zero bride price, there are a lot of preconditions, some are the local township rules and regulations, everyone does not obey no, such a precedent has been carried out in many places, the effect is still good, in fact, the bride price to more, is also equal to a vicious circle, especially some families with children and daughters, when their daughters marry more, it is enough to marry a daughter-in-law for their sons, and the cycle begins to form a dead knot, everyone does not want a bride price, or within a reasonable range, is the long-term way.

There are also those who have a good family background, and they don't want a bride price, and some are really because the man is outstanding, what kind of bride price do you need for potential stocks? In the later stage, it is bullish, and there are additional conditions that the man settles in the woman's house, commonly known as: the old girl, the inverted door, which is also a lot, but in the later stage, there are many unspeakable problems such as the man's psychological endurance and family status.

The bride price is more or less common sense, and it is difficult to say that a penny is not spent in the past, and it will also cause a superior psychology of the man, thinking that there is no bride price, and there will be a different situation in terms of treating people and things, although the problem of the bride price for rural marriage, although it is a reason for hindering marriage, but in the final analysis, the difficulty of marriage is caused by the situation of more men and fewer women, and now the momentum of young women in rural areas is getting higher and higher, and young women in rural areas are a two-way choice in marriage, and they can choose to marry in the city. You can also choose to return to the countryside, and this loss of personnel has made it even more difficult for young men in rural areas to get married.

Many people will eventually have a conflict on the issue of marriage because of the bride price, and in the end the two people have no fate, in the end, my last girlfriend and I are like this, I think it is also because the two people have different regional customs, so they have different views on the issue of bride price, in our hometown where there is a bride price, but how much money the man gives the womanThe woman also needs to give the man a lot of dowry, and this money is used for the life of the young couple, not the money given by the man's parents to the woman's parents.

In rural areas, the most worrying thing about children is "marriage problems", because everyone thinks that it is related to the happiness of children in the second half of their lives. For the man's family, the point of anxiety lies in the fact that in today's rural areas, the phenomenon of "difficulty in marrying a wife" does objectively exist. For the woman's family, even if there are many choices to choose from, they are more or less inevitably compared with each other, which is also the consideration of parents for the second half of their daughter's life.

Therefore, because of the existence of this situation, the act of giving a bride price has always been a standard of consideration, and as rural life has become gradually richer, the saying of "sky-high bride price" has been derived. This is also an obstacle for many rural singles, because for them, the sky-high bride price is out of reach. I have to admit that some young people in rural areas, due to various reasons, do not have the ability to earn a lot of money in a short period of time, but this does not mean that they are not self-motivated.

On the bright side, "zero dowry". Even when you get married, in front of everyone, you don't have to give a bride price or anything, but after everyone is gone, you can't miss anything behind closed doors, should be given or given, so it may also be based on these reasons, many singles are actually still not happy. In fact, parents are also thinking about their children, after all, many things are indeed based on material foundations.

Of course, there are also many women who say that the bride price is not for money, but also for an attitude, etc. But is it true? Isn't it possible to be happy in a marriage without a bride price?

If the bride price is too much, the man's family is not enough to pay the bride price, and he needs to borrow money, and after marriage, he still needs two people to repay the loan, and the pressure on life will be great. Not to mention the current climate problem in many places, the bride price is no longer a custom, but a comparison, which has caused a very bad impact.

If a boy's family is very poor, if you give a bride price, the other party will also consider how the following two people's married life should go on. Therefore, we should find the reason from the essence of the matter, and we should improve the standard of living, so that we can better get the recognition of the other party. Don't think that girls are too materialistic, often loyal love also needs to be built on a material basis, because firewood, rice, oil and salt will eventually defeat that pure love.

The sky-high bride price has not actually disappeared, but has appeared in another way, so of course these singles are not happy, I think the bride price has always been a pain in everyone's hearts.

Because there is no bride price money, no one will be willing to marry into the countryside at all, so the bachelor can only fight the bachelor for the rest of his life, and he will definitely not be happy.

Because this is a competition for the personal charm of those singles, and the singles who marry wives and men are often average-looking, do not know how to hurt people, are still old, and have no advantage in the marriage market.

In fact, there are many singles in the countryside and the bride price, it has nothing to do with the bride price, or they are not good enough, not only do they earn less and the family is poor, but they can't talk, and then they are lazy to do it, waiting for their daughter-in-law to raise him, and they can't recognize themselves, they feel that they are very good, and they deserve a better daughter-in-law, so it's strange to find a daughter-in-law. The man on our side is a little poorer, and the people who earn less are not very good, at least they can recognize themselves, and they will find girls with worse conditions, but there are not so many singles.

There are not many families who can't get 100,200,000 bride price, it may be that someone in the family is not healthy and sick, someone has an accident, or when they were young, they did not study hard and lacked culture, and a small number may be lazy and unwilling to endure hardships, not diligent and thrifty and other reasons. If you can't afford the bride price, how can you lead the whole family to live a happy life? The state can only support a part of the poor households and the low-income households and the five-guarantee households, and it is impossible to manage them all, so it is better to work hard and be self-reliant and self-reliant.

The difficulty of marrying wives in rural areas is a problem left over from history, and excessive preference for sons over women has led to an uneven ratio of births between men and women in rural China, and the gap is gradually widening. A large part of the only girls went out of their hometowns to study and work, and they saw the beautiful world outside, and they looked down on the boys in the village who basked in the sun and played poker, and were reluctant to come back to marry. People go to high places, water flows to low places, and they can only follow the law of survival of the fittest.

It's easier for some people, but it doesn't work much in general. The reason why rural people beat singles is not because they have no money, but because they have a certain relationship with their own personalities. The adjustment of the bride price will only be effective for those who are diligent and willing to work honestly.

There are also a group of people in the countryside who eat their old books, have little ability themselves, and are unwilling to work, which is the main reason for beating singles.

1. What will be the impact of the "reduction" of the bride price?

The "downward adjustment" of the bride price is indeed a very good thing, and it is very advantageous for some young people who face the best bride price. This group of young people has their own jobs and is willing to work hard for love, but they don't have much money right now, so they can only choose to play singles. When the bride price is properly adjusted and their families can afford it, they will definitely choose to get married.

It can avoid many events that lead to the destruction of love because of the bride price, and at the same time, it can also fulfill a lot of love, which still has many benefits for young people today. However, this group of people is relatively small, and they do not account for much of the rural singles.

2. Why the "downward adjustment" of the bride price does not play a big role

Most rural people are single because of their own reasons, after all, no one wants their children to suffer after marriage. Some people are lazy by nature, they just want to survive and don't want to work harder for life. This kind of person basically won't have his own love, and the matchmaker doesn't want to be a matchmaker for this kind of person, so she can only be a single.

People get married for the sake of their future lives, and no one wants to live a miserable life after marriage, and women can only try to stay away from this kind of person. Such people make up the majority of singles, so the level of the bride price has no effect on them.

In addition, there are some young people, they all have their own ideas, and now many people want to be "unmarried", which is also a helpless thing. After all, it's too difficult to find the right partner, and no one wants to settle for life.